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Approaching 3 women, a metaphor about Raindrop  Anxiety and trust fall.

Brief Intro of writer

Just to introduce myself briefly before I begin my thoughts on life, I am Andres. I live in Canada, however I was born in Venezuela and raised there until I was 9 years old, then I lived there until I was 18 years old when I moved to Toronto. I am the mixture of an introvert and an extrovert. You’ll find me writing songs or thoughts in my big black note book on a bus, jamming with my band, lost finding stuff in Toronto and feeding a feral cat that lives close to my apartment called Survivor. I find it easy to talk to people but I dwell on deep subjects a lot. This is the reason I started this blog, in order to express and let these thoughts out of my mind. ANYWAYS lets get to the point. I’m not usually this serious I’m pretty silly a person (I’ll try to keep these light so I can make you smile a bit)

Story “Approaching three women with JJ”

The subject came to me as I went out with my friend that we will call “JJ” to a live music, hall, bar, place thing. JJ is a handsome, smart, tall dark and handsome friend of mine that gets a good bit of anxiety when it comes to talking to women. Look I get it dude they are pretty and look like they could be having a lot of fun without us interrupting them. However I am very adventurous by nature and so I like to push people and myself out of the comfort zone. So we approached a three cute girls around our age 24ish— let’s leave this story line hanging for a bit and take you back to his moment of doubt on this whole let’s approach women thing. We were in the second story of the place looking down at the crowd of people that were all dancing and enjoying themselves planing to make our move to approach. However as I look over to JJ he looked like someone that was contemplating switching careers (worrisome and in deep thought) and he tells me something along the lines of “Look at all these people, all having fun, all doing what they have been doing for thousands of years: mingling, drinking, dancing and the whole thing. Yet this is so hard for me…Why?. I gave him some pep talk that will lead me to the point of this blog. So we went downstairs (Story-line continues) and there they are the three cute girls. So I go to approach them and he stays behind. I start talking to them and call him over and he gets over it and begins to join the conversation — reality note: This guy is way better built than me, taller and way more well kept,  not that I am a mess, I’m just more unorthodox. Anyways long story short he begins talking to them and making THEM laugh, telling stories and having a good time. We get contact info and we left. Over all good.

Philosophical Metaphor “Raindrop Metaphor“

The image of his worrisome face as he looked at the people and his thoughts on what the outcome might be, reminded me of the image of a rain drop as it drops from a cloud. Let’s call society “The Clouds” and us as the “The individual Drops” that make up those clouds. When I say that a drop falls the metaphor is that the person decides to follow their instincts and follow their “good human nature or path”. I get that society before was really weird in that people got married or followed one career path over the other for wrong reasons more than good and they didn’t over think stuff as my generation does. However my generation (At least the ones in this side of culture) has the advantage that we can make decisions based on our heart, love and most importantly intent. Here’s the metaphor: When raindrops are about to fall, are they worried about how hard they will hit earth? Where they will land? and what will happen after they dry up and evaporate? The answer is NO they don’t. This is why like rain drops we have to learn to let go and fall when our instincts call on us to act. Weather it be to say something we think, talk to a girl or dude we find attractive, follow a business idea, call someone we love to say thanks and catch up with them etc (all the emotional shit you usually hear). Because no matter what we will get through, rain drops will fall ANYWHERE and will ALWAYS evaporate and start over again. The only difference is that some drops will worry from start to finish while others wont waste that energy and will trust in the fall (Look up the Trust Fall by Incubus https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xZoaY4sStVw  one of my favorite songs right now).

Learn to Trust Fall into your path, don’t worry we all evaporate in the end.

:)

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To celebrate this blog turning 2, here’s a cover of my favorite Arcade fire song. ENFP STYLE!!

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whimsiclenessomefulnatoushousness - Devendra Banhart

I think 2012 has been that year for me. I think in studying Directing, acting and so on I realize that people are at their best when they are not afraid of following their whims. One of my current obsessions is Devendra Banhart. 1. Because when he expresses himself through music or dialogue its just an explosion of whimness. Whimness is the truth hidden in all of us when we want to be passionate or funny or spontaneous. When Devendra is himself it literally gives me a sense of it's okay to be me - silly, weird, not funny, passionate. 2 because his music is so weirdly whimsomeful in that it is very genuine in his nuances in lyricism, expression and so on. I think that gives him a formidable edge (I don't know exactly what that word means but the sound fits). 3. I think one of the hardest things to achieve is to sound genuine in 2 languages --- As I am bilingual --- Specially in music. This guy somehow has found a whim connection between how he expresses his lyricism regardless of the language he is singing in. 2 perfect examples are (if your bilingual you might understand better) for Spanish Carmensita and for English Baby. I think that the world has a lot to learn from Devendra Banhart - Specially actors, improvisers, introverts, directors, musicians -- the list goes on -- Important fact I am a musician myself and I think one of my biggest road blocks in my music sounding really great is my lack of whimsiclenessomefulnatoushousness because I think as lyricists we are lead to believe that our voices have to sound like* Backstreet Boys, Bruno Mars and so on. When really what we should try to accomplish the most is finding our own voice and mixing it with music. I honestly think that your speaking voice should be the start of your singing voice and from there build but not from backstreet boys. Okay so this was a kool blog you learnt a couple of non-existing words that using your imagination could be propenderous. So I thank you and Think about it... Think-think About it!