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no yeah thanks for welcoming me to womanhood again but like yeah this man is in fact currently following me home can we maybe address that aspect

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“If I have one message to give to the secular American people, it’s that the world is not divided into countries. The world is not divided between East and West. You are American, I am Iranian, we don’t know each other, but we talk together and we understand each other perfectly. The difference between you and your government is much bigger than the difference between you and me. And the difference between me and my government is much bigger than the difference between me and you. And our governments are very much the same.”

― Marjane Satrapi, Iranian graphic novelist

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Something that I get chills about is the fact that the oldest story told made by the oldest civilization opens with "In those days, in those distant days, in those ancient nights."

This confirms that there is a civilization older than the Sumerians that we have yet to find

Some people get existential dread from this

Me? I think it's fucking awesome it shows just how much of this world we have yet to discover and that is just fascinating

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Happy pride month have some cardinals

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5 years ago, I was in Rehab.

10 years ago, I was watching my Potential and Opportunities dissolve and evaporate in an ocean of cheap gin and expensive whiskey.

But 5 years ago, I was in Rehab.

One of the exercises they had us perform was to imagine ourselves happy, 5 years in the future.

Many of us in that room had forgotten how to imagine nice things happening to them. A few snorted (well, I snorted), finding the notion that we’d even still be around in 5 years grimly humorous.

For about half of us, it was the last stop on the way down.

But I indulged the therapist. I was there, after all, because I did not want to die. So, I imagined myself, 5 years hence.

Happy.

It came to me all at once; an artistic remix on Norman Rockwell’s Freedom From Want, reframed with myself placing food at the table.

Sunday Dinner At My Place, I answered, when it came my turn to share my fantasy. I was asked what food I imagined eating.

It’s not the meal itself, I said, it’s the implications framed around it. Sunday Dinner At My Place means that I have a Place. It means that I have Family that will actually speak to me and friends who actually want to see me. It means money enough not just to feed myself but others too. It means having the time to spare to take the time preparing the meal.

A lot of nodding heads all around me. A struck chord. Many people with no Place, in that place. Nowhere that would lament their leaving.

5 years hence, as I lay down to sleep in my Home, with my Wife and my Son, surrounded by my Art and my Flowers, I reflect.

It was a long road. It was hard. We lost people. So many people. There were long days and long nights and hospital stays. Angry arguments with ghosts. I changed, in ways I never hoped for, or expected. Good ways, finally, for once. Slowly, against the backdrop of a world in chaos, I found my mind.

Sometimes, My Wife wondered aloud, what she did to deserve me. After some stumbling with my feelings, I eventually settled on an answer.

I’m a Rescue.

She gave me a Home.

And, so, I gave her a Family.

It seemed fair

This Sunday, my folks, which whom I have not had a shouting match in years, will come over for dinner. We will cook and eat together. My Friend became My Wife, and she took a piece of me and with it she made Our Son. There will be many hugs, and no violence. Good Things Happened.

I don’t know who needs to hear this, but you don’t know what the future holds.

don’t give up yet, ok?

It could get good, even.

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Like we have to always remember that a person with health anxiety can get ill, a person with paranoia and psychosis can be in serious danger, a person with social anxiety can get bullied, a person with RSD can get rejected, a person with BPD can get abandoned, a person with depression can have a serious reason to be upset and so on indefinitely. We cannot automatically treat every concern of a person who has been labeled as mentally ill and irrational as if it isn't worth taking seriously and investigating. Making that assumption puts people in real danger.

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Reading rahaeli's bsky feed is an education in itself. I did not realize it was so common for undercover agents to join even harmless social activism groups and try to encourage people to do things they could be arrested for. The song has about a dozen verses, all of them based on incidents that resulted in felony charges o.O

The whole thread is very worth reading, especially since the incoming administration has been been very clear that they want to criminalize being trans or supporting trans rights. (Among other things.)

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Reblogging this manually. Op doesn't want credit for fear of being terminated.

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Not to mention that like, most people actually can typically do basic maths and "fiscal responsibility" was never going to fix the problem. When rent is $2k and you have $1,200, not buying Starbucks that week isn't actually going to fix it. So a lot of people feel like they're better off with their tiny comforts that help them get through than posturing thriftiness just so they can still be judged anyway for having a phone from before they got fired or not selling everything but their most moth-eaten sweater.

And for the very few people for whom not having Starbucks or whatever actually woulda helped them... Man, you never fucked up math before? Let people make mistakes, goddamn.

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I don't think we should define bad representation fully by whether outsiders would laugh at the character. They laugh at real people all the time. I don't think there's a perfect version of any representation that won't be mocked or derided for their very existence. Every character you're thinking of that is an exception to this rule... Isn't. I promise you, people hate them. People mock them. People laugh at the mere fact that they are on screen.

Removing representation (esp that at least some people in said group actually like and identify with) is not really the answer to better representation. All you get is the people who hate that group using *your* argument to uphold cutting out any representation entirely. We've literally seen it again and again and again, but y'all still out here thinking you can win the respectability contest.

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I feel like 90% of "ancient curses" are probably adequately explained by the fact that the self-proclaimed adventurers who ostensibly fell victim to them were, as a class, a bunch of dipshits who engaged in frequent international travel in an era before antibiotics and vaccines. Like, the list of novel pathogens these guys were risking exposure to on a regular basis was effectively "all of them". That's gotta leave a mark.

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as a severely mentally ill 14 year old, I remember thinking “the medical system would treat me better if I was physically ill and not mentally ill” and then I coincidentally developed multiple chronic illnesses and found out that actually they dgaf even when you’re essentially bedridden

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Honestly? Do it.

I'm lucky enough to have not been where you are in addiction, but I've got a load of mental health problems, and celebrating every single victory at least a little bit is one of the things holding me together and one of the beautiful things I appreciate about my marriage.

"Didn't have a breakdown today when I definitely could have!" "Fuck yeah, high five!"

"I ate my food AND took my vitamin!" "YAY!!!"

"I washed three dishes, which doesn't sound like much, but I REALLY didn't fucking want to, so actually it's a lot." "Amazing! Do you wanna buy one thing from McDonald's?"

"I've been taking care of my plants instead of laying in bed the *entire* day, and they look pretty happy." "I'm going to take photos and show all our friends!"

Honestly, probably a lot of these would turn into having friends over if we didn't live so far from most of them.

If you feel remotely proud of yourself for literally anything OR feel like you *should* feel proud of yourself even if you're having a hard time connecting to that feeling, fucking celebrate it in whatever little way you can! It gets easier the more you do it 🥰

every time I mention how many days sober I am I appreciate people congratulating me and telling me to keep up the good work. it is nice. but I also wish that milestones in addiction recovery weren’t still so pinned to length of sobriety/abstinence

yeah yeah I’m 50 days sober who cares. how about the fact that, when I do drink, it tends to be nipped in the bud after two days nowadays instead of weeks or months? how about the fact that drinking has been condensed to a six pack because I’m at the end of my tether, instead of browning out every night? how about my friend who has decided to stop drinking alone, and is actually sticking to that? recovery doesn’t always look like sobriety and I wish it was more normal to talk about that. yknow. when addiction is normal to talk about at all

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Superman says fuck ICE. Be like Superman