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Motherhood has made me question e v e r y t h i n g.

It’s started a revolution in my heart and mind.

I am not going back to my old ways. I am fighting for me and how I parent.

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You think motherhood is a sisterhood.

But it’s isolating.

You can’t relate with friends who aren’t moms.

You don’t feel connected to friends who are moms.

And then you’re there at 3am with your crying baby feeling completely alone.

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It’s hard being a first time mom.

It’s hard being a mom.

It’s extra hard when there’s no recognition.

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You’d think there was a book of unwritten and unsaid expectations.

If there was, I’d burn it.

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Sometimes the hardest thing to do is ask for what you need.

You are worthy and deserving.

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Becoming a mother has caused an unraveling I never knew was possible. The rebirth is transformational.

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I often wonder what we would talk about if we didn’t judge others or complain. I want to commit to having meaningful conversations.

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Test ideas by experiment and observation. Build on those ideas that pass the test. Reject the ones that fail. Follow the evidence wherever it leads. And question everything, including authority. Do these things and the cosmos is yours.

Ann Druyan

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The way someone else perceives what you do is a result of their own experiences (which you can’t control), their own preferences (which you can’t predict), and their own expectations (which you don’t set). If your choices don’t match their expectations that is their concern, not yours.

James Clear

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Values & Purpose

Living my life and making decisions based on my values and purpose is something I strive to do.

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The greatest purpose that jealousy serves is letting you know that you aren’t loving and accepting yourself enough. Emotional maturity is seeing the success of another and feeling inspired instead of feeling jealous.

Yung Pueblo

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The Paradox of Focus: Make the most of one opportunity and more opportunities will come your way. Moving boldly in one direction causes more paths to unfold before you. To get more, focus on less.

James Clear

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Prompt: What do you need more of in your life?

Me: I initially wanted to say money. Then I wanted to say time. But I have a great job that allows me to pay my loans with extra payments and I love what I do. When I thought time I thought ‘I want time to do things I want to do’. But then I realized it was a scarcity mindset. For so long nothing was ever enough - me, money, time, my relationship.

But over the past year I’ve realized I am enough. I have enough money. I have enough time. And my relationship is more than I could have ever dreamed of. I am enough and I can want to get off my phone to do other things. I have enough money and I want to find ways to make more so I can pay off my debt faster. My relationship is enough and I can want us to continue being present and grow together.

So I guess I need more self-compassion. More silliness. More time dreaming with my partner. More time for creativity. More time alone. More time in nature. More time slowing down. More time filling my cup.

I am happy where I am and I look forward to where I’m going.

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My heart is at ease knowing that what was meant for me will never miss me, and what misses me was never meant for me.

Imam Al-Shafi’i

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“I don’t know where we should take this company, but I do know that if I start with the right people, ask them the right questions, and engage them in vigorous debate, we will find a way to make this company great”.

Jim Collins, Good to Great

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“Wells Fargo approach was simple: You get the best people, you build them into the best managers in the industry, and you accept the fact that some of them will be recruited to become CEOs of other companies”.

Jim Collins, Good to Great

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How do you really want to FEEL?