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[thetranssurvivors]

Hi there, I just got top surgery about a week ago. I’m wondering if it’s normal to feel like the space between belly and chest is too tight? I feel like there isn’t enough skin and if I stand up straight, something might tear. Do you have any insight or tips?

I hate to ask this but are you ftm or mtf? I do apologise for taking so long to answer back

[thetranssurvivors]

A post my friend made. He is a vet. Please read.

RACISM IS THE BIGGEST ENEMY THIS COUNTRY HAS. EVERY VETERAN HAS A DUTY TO HIS COUNTRY TO PROTECT IT FROM THAT ENEMY. WE TOOK AN OATH TO DEFEND THIS COUNTRY FROM ALL ENEMIES FOREIGN AND DOMESTIC AND RACISM IS NOTHING MORE THAN DOMESTIC TERRORISM. AND AS FAR AS I KNOW, NOBODY UN-TOOK THAT OATH. IF THE WHITE HOUSE IS GOING TO DO NOTHING, IT THE PRESIDENT OF THIS COUNTRY IS GOING TO DEFEND THE ACTIONS OF TERRORISTS, WE AS VETERANS HAVE NO CHOICE BUT TO REMOVE THE THREAT AS PER OUR OATH.

[thetranssurvivors]

ATTENTION ALL AUSTRALIANS

As we all know, we face an upcoming postal vote on marriage equality. Due to the sheer anger and frustration of this unecessary beauracracy, many have urged those voting Yes to send their vote back packaged with glitter bombs or rainbow confetti in protest.

DO NOT DO THIS!!

Your vote will likely be destroyed and therefore not counted. And arguing that “glitter isnt dangerous” doesnt mean shit to people who just see a foreign substance detected and immeadiately assume the worst (Anthrax anyone??)

If you won’t take my word, at least take MP Claire O'Neil’s, who was asked:

PLEASE, do not fuck up this crutial vote for everyone by being stupid and getting your voice dismissed like this. Put stickers on the envelope, draw rainbows on it, if you must protest in this way be smart about it.

Even if you’re not Australian, you’d be doing us a solid to spread the word, since unfortunately a lot of younger voters still think this is a good idea when its literally the opposite.

[thetranssurvivors]

Malala really is a class act for standing up against the horrors many women and girls face around the world. She needs to be protected at all costs, bc the world needs more people like her.

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bitch ass nazis

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ICONIC MOMENT FOR #LGBTQ

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Here’s What Trans Veterans Are Saying About Trump’s Trans Military Ban

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[thetranssurvivors]

"Is it transphobic to not want to date a trans person?"

In response to Chase Ross’ video.

No, it is not transphobic to not want to date me for being trans. I get it, I don’t have the right parts and it would make you uncomfortable, as it would me. I wouldn’t be able to have sex with anyone due to dysphoria, nor would I want to be in a relationship where the other person is uncomfortable or cannot have sex because of my body. I would rather they find someone right for them.

I wouldn’t date another trans guy if he had female parts, I just wouldn’t be physically attracted to him because I’m gay, meaning I’m a man attracted to other men, and men commonly have male sex characteristics. In a relationship, sex is usually an important factor for people and so wanting to know what they have down below will be important to them.

I don’t think people should make an assumption about all trans people having characteristics of their birth sex though, because not all trans men and women are alike but still. Stop guilting people into not wanting to be with you. Trans biology is complicated, we are not common. There are plenty of people who will like you for you, and not what is between yours legs. Really, I know it hurts and sucks because you are more than your body. You are and you will meet someone who will like you for you. There are those people out there.

Are the people who priortise what’s inbetween yours legs wrong? No, it is just what they like, it’s part of their sexuality and they have every right to not want to date a trans person or not. It is their choice. Are they transphobic if they liked me before and then realised I was trans? No, because again, our biology is complicated and I completely understand if they don’t want to be with me. I have female parts and that is what stops them from wanting to be with me. If I liked a guy and then found out he was trans, as another trans guy I would be open minded and give it a go because I’m outwardly attracted to him, but I couldn’t have sex with him and so the relationship likely wouldn’t work. Sex is important in a relationship to some people.

[thetranssurvivors]

switch your mentality from “i’m broken and helpless” to “i’m growing and healing” and watch how fast your life changes, for the better.

[thetranssurvivors]

As someone who has been living with severe suicidal ideation my entire life I wanna tell you all something, you don’t have to stay alive for yourself. People will say it’s a bad idea to live for external things because they’re temporary, and it’s true living for yourself is ideal but if you’re not to that point yet that’s ok too. 

I’ve lived for my dog for the past 4 years, before that I lived for my snakes, before that I lived for my cat. You can live for whatever needs you and whatever matters to you. Live for your best friend, live for your plants, live for your pets, live for your animal crossing town. Live for whatever keeps you alive and the day will come when you can live for yourself.

[thetranssurvivors]

I WOULD DIE FOR YOU

[thetranssurvivors]

Urgent!! my mom doesn't believe adult and elder trans people exist so she says she'll never understand and accept me, do you have any resources of older trans people stories?

Ryn says: 

Okay so here’s some links on trans folks throughout the ages–

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Transgender_history

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Billy_Tipton

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kim_Coco_Iwamoto

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Albert_Cashier

http://www.lavernecox.com/

http://janetmock.com/

http://www.chazbono.org/

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_transgender_people

http://www.ranker.com/list/transgender-people-in-history/devon-ashby?utm_expid=16418821-321.JB5yr2hCTp2WeaBHXzLclg.0&utm_referrer=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.google.com%2F

https://transgenderteensurvivalguide.tumblr.com/post/163583651825/sorry-to-bother-ive-recently-discovered-that-i

Content warning for cissexist language, and for some unconfirmed reports. 

In general, the first names that jump to mind are Laverne Cox, Janet Mock, Julia Serano, Chaz Bono, Marsha P. Johnson, and Sylvia Rivera. I hope this helps! Janet Mock and Julia Serano both have books out detailing their transitions and their childhoods. Janet Mock has Redefining Realness and just released Surpassing Certainty and Julia Serano has Whipping Girl. Warning on that one is it was published in 2007 and has some outdated language and such but is not a bad place to start. 

[thetranssurvivors]

Heya! I just recently had a close friend transition from FTM and I was wondering what I could do to support/help him? :)

Lee says:

Our ally resources page (https://transgenderteensurvivalguide.tumblr.com/allyresources) has more info, but the most important thing to do is ask him how you can support him, and then listen to what he says. 

Suggestions:

Use his pronouns and practice them!

Use his prefered name

Ask if he wants you to accompany him for moral support when he goes shopping in the men’s section

Make sure you know who he’s out to, and don’t tell other people that he’s trans without his permission

Don’t refer to him as a girl or use she/her pronouns when you talk about him in the past before he came out

Make sure he knows you support him!

Again, ask him how you can support him, and then listen to what he says. 

Followers, anybody have anything else to add?

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The head on UNAIDS Indonesia confirmed it has been harder than ever to access at risk groups in recent months.

‘Yes the recent change has made it more challenging than ever to create an enabling environment within which HIV and AIDS program efforts can thrive and move in accelerated pace,’ Krittayawan Tina Boonto told Gay Star News.

Indonesia’s LGBTI community has faced unprecedented levels of discrimination and attacks in the past two years. Targeting gay parties and trans facilities and parties have become more common recently. The police in West Java even admitted to starting a taskforce to ‘monitor’ LGBTI people, simply because of their sexual and/or gender identity.

A consequence of the persecution has been a difficulty in accessing at risk communities to provide HIV testing and treatment. The at risk groups include, men who have sex with men (MSM), sex workers and injecting drug users.

CLICK THE HEADER LINK TO READ THE FULL ARTICLE.

[thetranssurvivors]

Shoutout to those who struggle to accept their own sexuality and/or gender.

Shoutout to those who force themselves into hyper masculinity or femininity to be safe and feel accepted.

Shoutout to those who laugh along with jokes and slurs that inherently hurt and degrade them.

Shoutout to those who force themselves to look a certain way to feel accepted and attractive.

Shoutout to those who force themselves to be someone they are not.

Shoutout to those who even after accepting themselves, still struggle with expressing themselves.

One day you will be able to love yourself for who you are. You are not a bad person, you are not wrong or less desirable. You are beautiful the way you are. There are other people who will see and love you for who you are.