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How to treat your husband.

Okay, now it’s time to let all the ladies out there know how we should be treated as men. Men are simple creatures and don’t need much to be happy. All we need is someone supportive and understanding, who is there for us when we are in need, and lastly, who doesn’t complain a lot.

Men like to be groomed once in a while, and it wouldn't hurt to pick up some scissors and cut your husband's hair. This will help him look good, and it will increase the bond between husband and wife, or even a facial once in a while wouldn't hurt.

Whenever my wife does my hair or gives me a facial, my brother-in-law would notice, and one day he said to his wife, “Why don’t you do my hair and give me facials” so, as men, we like these things.

Men want time for themselves just as much as women need time for yourselves. We don't want to be in each other's faces 24/7. So give each additional space from time to time, and let each other breathe. We need time to go to the gym, watch certain things we enjoy, and contact our friends once a while, maybe once a month, just to catch up or every two months.

Be optimistic about things and avoid turning every conversation into a negative one. Please listen to what we have to say as men and process it before commenting. It’s funny because my wife usually criticizes me when I say something to her and then finds out that what I am saying makes sense. I’m not saying we are constantly correct as men, but listen and think, then you can critique things after fully processing the information.

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Don’t treat your husband as if he is some child. Make sure you tell him you’re happy to have him, and he’s the most fantastic man in the world. Make him feel good with positive words.

Men love it when a wife says yes to some of their requests. Of course, I’m not saying yes to whatever your husband says because some things he demands might be unrealistic or morally incorrect. But if they are general requests and you can do it, then why not.

Speak highly of your husband, and don’t say negative things about him to your family or friends. If you say negative things about him to your family or friends, this could create a negative impression. In addition, if you later have problems, your friends and family might advise you based on the negative perceptions about your husband. Know that no one is perfect, but you should solve your issues with one another and not spread them all over.

If your husband has a task that he has to do for work and you can help him, then you should try to help him as much as possible. If he finishes the task quickly with your help, this will give you more time together later in the day or during the day or night.

I do this with my wife; whenever she needs help with a task, I help her as much as possible, and she does the same for me. This also helps create a sense of being a team.

Don’t do things that irritate your husband; if you know he doesn’t like to talk about certain things, then don’t talk about them. Likewise, if you know he doesn’t like certain things that you do, then avoid doing them and vice versa.

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Men, believe it or not, also love submissive women. I remember reading an article in the Mirror, which is a British newspaper, an article was entitled ‘Tradwife’ who believes women should be submissive to their husbands and spoil them like it’s 1959’ The article talks about a woman by the name of Alena Kate Pettitt and how she spends her day making sure that everything is perfect for her husband and her son. She gave up her job to be a housewife, and many people think this makes women weaker, but it’s the opposite. You could argue that in modern-day society, TV shows are making women feel that they have to work and be ‘empowered’ but who is to say that being at home doesn’t empower women?

Please don’t push your husband or be too curious when he is facing a tough time or when he is unemployed and looking for a job. Put trust in your husband and encourage him, but don’t constantly ask questions like, “How many jobs did you apply for today.” “Why don’t you speak to so and so today.”

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Marry someone who is similar to you.

Uh oh, you’re probably thinking, what is this guy saying? But think about it. Imagine marrying somebody similar to you. Identical in terms of personality, the things you like/ dislike, life story, education, work ethic, religious devotion, and financial outlook.

If you marry someone similar to you in these things, then you will have no disagreements regarding the things you want to do, the things you don't like your spouse doing, and how you should manage the finances. How one approaches their work and their attitude towards work. If you don't have someone similar, you have to adapt to one another. Imagine having to change all these things to satisfy your partner. Then, in the end, when you can't adjust, they will say, "STOP trying to change me; you married me this way, so accept me for who I am". This is an uh oh moment. So avoid the headache in the future and think about this advice.

Don’t marry until you have some financial stability. Don’t be one who says, “We love each other, and we can get through anything.” Ok, now back to reality. You’re not going to be so understanding when your partner cannot provide you with your basic needs. And things are even worse in the time we live in where we have social media. Just open up Instagram and see so-called couples who live in giant apartments with the latest cars and a load of money in their bank accounts. Then your partner will say, “Babe, why don’t we have a big apartment like so and so.”, “Babe, why can’t you be like so and so.”

A survey by the Institute for Divorce Financial Analysts (CDFA) revealed some of the leading causes of divorce. According to a recent study of 191 CDFA professionals from

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across North America, the three leading of divorce are “Basic incompatibility” (43%) “, Infidelity” (28%), and “Money issues” (22%).

Now that I’ve given you some stat, you’re probably thinking what I’m saying has some basis. Money will always be an essential part of being married, and I know many people who say I will marry and then work my way up and get a good job. So why not do that first, then marry, unless your desires are so strong and you can’t control yourself, then marry and stick to the plan of working your way up whilst married.

Notice how fundamental incompatibility scored 43%. Although it's complicated to know whether someone is compatible unless you have lived with them (not suggesting that you should), you can always ask the right questions and others about that person. You may think it is extreme, but you should also get a background check if you're approached by someone unknown to you or your family. I know a man, who approached a family wanting to marry their daughter, and they didn't know much about him or his family, and one day he came with his family to propose to the girl. After the marriage, the girl discovered he was an alcoholic, had spent five years in prison, and was an abusive man. There's no harm in conducting checks, and in this case, when the family asked about the man, his family hid the fact that he had been to prison and was not a good man.

Don’t rush to get married just for the sake of getting married. Don’t get married because all of your friends are getting married. Or maybe your family is pressuring you to tie the not. Instead, get married when you have found the right person, you’re financially somewhat secure or stable.

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