thelittlefoxwhocould - Tumblr blog

[thelittlefoxwhocould]

[thelittlefoxwhocould]

undefined

Underwater Motion of Seagrass and Kelp

[thelittlefoxwhocould]

[thelittlefoxwhocould]

medusozoa

twitter / instagram

[thelittlefoxwhocould]

[thelittlefoxwhocould]

*cancels plans* sorry i can’t come i’m ugly

[thelittlefoxwhocould]

[thelittlefoxwhocould]

This footage of Elmo after messing up a take on Sesame Street is peak relatable

[thelittlefoxwhocould]

보고 싶다 ♡

[thelittlefoxwhocould]

Takoyaki 

[thelittlefoxwhocould]

Your mixed feelings about your parents are valid.

Shout out to people like me who have parents who are loving but are black holes of emotional labor… It took me a long time to realize that it’s okay to have mixed feelings about your parents, about your relationship with them.

Sometimes parents can love you but be somewhat toxic to you and your growth, and that’s a very hard realization to come to if you, like me, grew up extremely close to them.

Sometimes parents can love you genuinely but lack emotional maturity, forcing you to perform disproportionate amounts of emotional labor. Some parents manifest symptoms of their mental illness in ways that are toxic to your mental illness.

Some parents, like mine, try so hard to be good parents but fall back on habits of emotional manipulation because they haven’t processed their own traumas and are modeling behavior they grew up with. That doesn’t make their behavior acceptable, and it’s okay to feel exhausted and hurt when they betray you. You don’t have to forgive every mistake.

I want you to know that it’s okay to protect yourself, to need some space apart from them. The love you have for your parents is still valid, and you are making the right decision.

Placing a safe emotional distance between myself and my parents has been one of the most difficult, heartbreaking processes I’ve ever gone through… it hurts to try to curb the strength of your own natural empathy around people you love. It feels disingenuous to your heart’s natural state.

But I promise you, you are not hard-hearted or ungrateful, and you are not abandoning them. You are making a decision about your own emotional, mental, and spiritual health.

I know what it’s like in that confusing grey area of love mixed with guilt and anxiety, of exhaustion and quasi-manipulation and unreciprocated emotional labor, and I promise you, you are not alone.

Your mixed feelings about your parents are valid.

[thelittlefoxwhocould]

‘swan lake, suite, op. 20a - waltz’ by tchaikovsky but you’re hiding in the gardens outside of a masquerade ball thrown in your honor, hoping they don’t find you and wed you off to some wealthy aristocrat’s heir because you know the whole affair was secretly intended for finding you an upstanding match for marriage. (youtube)

[thelittlefoxwhocould]

My crops are flourishing, my skin is clear, my depression and anxiety are cured and I am hydrated to the max

[thelittlefoxwhocould]

I LOVE ONE GOLD COVERED BITCH NAMED LORENZO

[thelittlefoxwhocould]

Friends take notes

[thelittlefoxwhocould]

lucio’s two objectives in his route:

get laid

get a body so he can get more laid

[thelittlefoxwhocould]

my contribution