theelvishcowgirl

[theelvishcowgirl]

..... It's the exact same thing???

rearranging the words doesn't make a difference...You're saying the same thing, geez!

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was handed a new style guide at work and now we gotta use "person-first" language meaning you can't say "lgbt person" you gotta say "a person who is lgbt" and it's very fun and whimsical for me to imagine a world in which this helps anyone

[theelvishcowgirl]

I never actually saw this side of things, I'm from the US, and yeah, there's a bigger shitshow here, such as men claiming to be trans so they can be locked up with the women. I dunno if there's something similar going on in the UK, though I feel an easy solution to that is to start giving them Estrogen and just give them the surgeries... See how fast they "identify" as men again.

I'm not against trans, but I do hate the loopholes it's been giving assholes to rape, abuse, and assault women and basically get away with it.

But I don't want to be on this planet anymore to begin with...

This is just a rant about people supporting Rishi Sunak and his attack on trans people (and refugees and LGBT and free speech etc)

[theelvishcowgirl]

Oh yeah.... I forgot they finished the second Season, My brother and I were watching that and it was awesome!!

The Only Murders in the Building song has a GRIP on my SOUL.

Very silly video because I’m stressed as fuck.

[theelvishcowgirl]

Hold it.... Mad house made BOTH DeathNote AND HunterXHunter??? I had no idea!!! Also, I love Black Clover, and I want someone to erase my memories of it so I can watch it new, same with Violet Evergarden...

Top 9 anime studios 😍❤️

❤️ To the animators :

As a dedicated anime fan, I want to take a moment to express my sincere gratitude for all the work and efforts you have put into creating the amazing anime that we all love and enjoy. Your creativity, passion, and dedication to your craft are truly inspiring, and your work has brought joy and happiness to millions of people around the world.

Thank you for sharing your incredible talent and creativity with us, and for bringing to life some of the most exciting and emotional stories that we have ever seen.

[theelvishcowgirl]

What movie was this too??? There are so many movies that could probably fit that bill!!

One of these things is not like the others

[theelvishcowgirl]

I am not offended at being called an ableist, I'm annoyed that it was used out of context.

But I will take your point, that was NOT how I was reading it. And i will own the fact that I misunderstood the context of OP's post.

Although... I would like to ask, where are you guys reading Whumpers with disorders?? (other than sadism and psychopathy)

I want to see more demonised illnesses given to the whumpees and caretakers in stories.

I wanna see narcissistic whumpees and caretakers. I wanna see borderline whumpees and caretakers. I wanna see histrionic and anti-social whumpees and caretakers. I wanna see them with DID/OSDD. I want to see them with SZPD. I wanna see them with bipolar.

Please be more diverse. Prove that they do not determine whether a character is good or not by giving them to the good ones as well.

[theelvishcowgirl]

So you are trying to say that having a villain with a disorder is NOT going to be terrifying??

Because I would find that terrifying.

Or do you just not have any real idea how victims would feel?

I want to see more demonised illnesses given to the whumpees and caretakers in stories.

I wanna see narcissistic whumpees and caretakers. I wanna see borderline whumpees and caretakers. I wanna see histrionic and anti-social whumpees and caretakers. I wanna see them with DID/OSDD. I want to see them with SZPD. I wanna see them with bipolar.

Please be more diverse. Prove that they do not determine whether a character is good or not by giving them to the good ones as well.

[theelvishcowgirl]

And obviously I need to explain myself...

For starters, why don't you actually look up the word Ableism or Ableist.

I am NOT ableist, you provided an idea, and I added to it. If having a whimper with some disorder is so... evil, then why are we talking about making whumpee or caretaker have the disorder? By definition, THAT is more ableist than saying it would be cool to see the whumper with some disorders too.

I highly suggest using the Cambridge Dictionary, they're a pretty good source when it comes to definitions.

One last thing, as someone decided to message me and tell me I was being rather prejudiced, if I was, this would mean I'd be prejudiced against myself as well, as I struggle with my own issues.

I am fully aware of how much of a struggle it'd be to have bipolar as it was suggested I might be due to the symptoms I had. I do not, but I did a fuck ton of research to learn about it.

I am NOT an ableist, but if we really want to be honest, why suggest whumpees as being the ones to have a disorder? (yes, in addition to caretakers)

I want to see more demonised illnesses given to the whumpees and caretakers in stories.

I wanna see narcissistic whumpees and caretakers. I wanna see borderline whumpees and caretakers. I wanna see histrionic and anti-social whumpees and caretakers. I wanna see them with DID/OSDD. I want to see them with SZPD. I wanna see them with bipolar.

Please be more diverse. Prove that they do not determine whether a character is good or not by giving them to the good ones as well.

[theelvishcowgirl]

Okay, but I fucking love to howl... I used to howl with my grandparent's dogs, As they live in the middle of nowhere, but I don't now cause I live in a suburb... I hate it.

I want to go into an empty field most nights, better during a full moon, and just HOWL

Fucking howl

bro we are wolves.... howl with me bro ..... aiuuuuu

[theelvishcowgirl]

Oh God... I think a Bipolar Whumper would be absolutely terrifying...

Imagine as a Whumpee, trying to survive by basing your reaction off the Whumper's mood... But he's fucking unstable??

That would be so terrifying...

I want to see more demonised illnesses given to the whumpees and caretakers in stories.

I wanna see narcissistic whumpees and caretakers. I wanna see borderline whumpees and caretakers. I wanna see histrionic and anti-social whumpees and caretakers. I wanna see them with DID/OSDD. I want to see them with SZPD. I wanna see them with bipolar.

Please be more diverse. Prove that they do not determine whether a character is good or not by giving them to the good ones as well.

[theelvishcowgirl]

kill the shift manager in your brain

[theelvishcowgirl]

The fuck did I just read???

Read this. Even if you hate eggs and perky diet blogs. Read through Wednesday at the very least. My bet is if you get to Wednesday, you’ll want to read the rest. 

[theelvishcowgirl]

I went to a dance class show and shit Y'all... One girl was so fucking amazing... She actually did better than this one. I dunno if I can find the video though... I took a ton of videos, or tried to, and my phone was almost out of space...

But FUCK, she was so smooth!

[theelvishcowgirl]

Y'ALL!!!!! LOOK WHAT I FOUND POPPED IN MY YT DASH!!

[theelvishcowgirl]

Idea for an AU for Sanctuary:

Will wakes up one morning to find himself stuck in a Gothic castle, full of Gothic horrors and monstrosities. His only hope is that Dr. Magnus, or Henry, or even Kate, is stuck somewhere in the castle with him and can help him navigate a way home through this strange, horrifying new world.

But how can he find his way home when he doesn't even remember how he got there?

[theelvishcowgirl]

And Ariya, the stupid little bitch, broke her hand to get it out of a chain so she could rescue herself and Eragon from being eaten but passes out cause ya know, pain, blood loss and Eragon has to save her fucking butt and carry her to safety.

What's a movie/tv show/book/etc. you watched that had unexpected good whump?

First: you have an awesome screen name.

I'd have to say Eragon by Christopher Paolini. I read the series earlier this year (barring the book of short stories and the forthcoming book) and there's a part where Eragon rides a dragon for the first time, and the scales scraped his thighs so badly he bleeds, and I was like, AMAZING. Plus, I was like... fellas, new HTTYD whump idea just dropped. (Luckily my bud, @evilwriter37 wrote an awesome fic for that idea.)

[theelvishcowgirl]

And that's why I hate politics... They dance around the subject, sugarcoating shit.

I can come off as blunt, but try not to come off as rude, but in this day and age, it seems everyone gets offended by the dumbest thing.

I also have dyspraxia, so I have a hard time speaking in the first place, like remembering the right words... Fucking hate that.

But anyway, welcome to te club I guess??

yeah, nah, fuck it. im sharing this post and then i'm just gonna link to it whenever it becomes relevant.

every disagreement i have with yall always comes back to me phrasing things in a way that sounds mean. always, always. like duh, i dont try to sugarcoat how i see things, i have realized that, in fact i do it on purpose. why? well.

i come from a culture where it's often interpreted as deceitful and/or shallow to sandwich your point in with superficial courtesy. if you spend too much time packing your point in with whatever you think will make it easier to swallow, people will start to feel like you're infantalizing them, or straight up wasting their time. being direct and honest from the get-go is seen as a sign of respect - yes, even if what you're saying could easily be interpreted as rude. say what you think, say exactly how you feel, and we'll take it from there. that kinda thing.

when i say an opinion or criticise something on here, i am treating you, the reader, like someone who is smart enough to understand the gist of my argument without being bogged down by its delivery, mature enough to recognize the difference between criticism of your work (or general trends) and criticism of you as a person, and emotionally well-adjusted enough to not pin your self-worth on the negative opinions some random guy on the internet might have of something you do/create/like.

i am showing you respect by talking to you as if you are an adult who can deal with what i might have to say. if you're not, and you can't, i expect you to have the wherewithall to not engage with me. i could at the very least respect that. alternatively, you're also welcome to disagree with my points, obviously. i'm always up for a good discussion.

but you responding to criticism like mine with defensiveness, affront, or worse, the idea that you're now justified to go after the criticiser as a person, only comes across to me like immaturity, self-consciousness, self-importance, and in some cases - deliberate or not - obtusiveness. see how that cultural divide can go both ways?

we're probably not gonna find common ground here. i'm tired of being interpreted as aggressive all the time, but i have no intention of conforming to the american ideal of social courtesy, because it makes me feel shallow, disingenuous and fake. meanwhile, you're probably not gonna be able to hear me speak without shaking the knee-jerk feeling that i'm purposefully ignoring the sensitivity of others (because objectively, i am).

so do we chuck the whole thing up to different culturally determined approaches to communicating our ideas? can we keep a shred of respect and mutual understanding and leave it at that?

or are you gonna insist that i'm immoral/rude/aggressive/callous/antagonistic/attacking people/etc, for voicing my own opinions, in my own way, on my own blog - in which case i, in turn, will feel perfectly content to just consider you an inherently silly person?

as far as i can tell, it's one or the other.

(also please please recognize the difference between using culture as an excuse, and pointing out a very real cultural divide that influences both how i communicate and how you interpret how i communicate. my point is that we're gonna keep talking past each other unless we adress the fact that we approach communication with very different goals in mind, mine being effectiveness and honesty and yours being courtesy and social sensitivity. i am also not saying that either one of these is "the right way" to communicate. don't read shit into my takes that isn't there to begin with. thx)