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Tips for baby systems (forbidden/evil/weirdly specific edition):

You are allowed to, and in fact should, "romanticise" plurality as much as you desire.

Wallowing in your trauma is one of the worst ways to deal with having it. Stay away from online DID spaces oriented towards "trauma recovery"-- these spaces tend to be the most toxic, and ironically "anti-recovery", DID-oriented spaces on the internet.

You can cuddle with your sysmate using a pillow (or a stuffed animal, if you're not a coward). Imagine the pillow is that sysmate. You're welcome.

Some plurals want to become more plural. There's nothing wrong with this desire.

Let your child sysmates swear.

Unless they insist otherwise/you know they wouldn't like it, consider not calling your sysmates "parts" for a little while and see how you and your sysmates feel. Person-based language is great for a lot of systems. Don't knock it until you try it.

If you don't have a headspace, learn to lucid dream with your sysmates. It won't fulfill all the purposes of a headspace, but it is a very fun bonding activity.

If you can hear your sysmates as voices, and you ever doubt you're plural, mentally scream something really stupid-- e.g. "WHAT'S 9 PLUS 10??". You may hear a distant "You know that '21' joke died 10 years ago, right?" Boom. You're plural. Confidence restored.

If you hear your sysmates as voices in your head, it is possible you will never be able to meditate in the traditional way. You can, however, have one sysmate guide you through one, and have them talk so much that there's not enough RAM in your brain to be distracted by the ADHD I know you have.

Leave every single plural-oriented Discord server you are in, and do not join any others. Additionally, delete your Twitter, TikTok, and Instagram accounts, and never reinstate them.

If you are a kid, do not tell your peers that you are plural, unless you are thick-skinned. Especially do not tell your family members until you are no longer dependent on them.

If you're having trouble getting one of your sysmates to pilot, there is a ~45% chance that they will only learn to do so in reaction to the silliest, dumbest, most random event on earth.

Don't say "I'm 100 rats in a trenchcoat." Say "My name is Legion, for we are many" and refuse to elaborate. Plural jokes are funniest when you play them with a totally straight face.

Your system name doesn't have to carry 14 layers of deep personal meaning. Assuming you picked something not totally goofy, it will gain meaning to you over time.

I mean this with utmost kindness, but please stop making posts like "is it possible / valid if my system does [X]?" Yes. Case closed.

Being posted to a cringe subreddit is a rite of passage. Be proud.

Most of the people around you are never going to clock you as plural. Even if you're the world's most overt, obvious system, 80% of people will just think you're weird. This is a good thing. Embrace other peoples' "weirdness censor" and unmask a little.

The words "quoigenic" and "praesigenic" (a.k.a. "my system origin is none of your business") are your friends. Use these as your public system origin for at least a year after realising you're plural.

In your public bio, no-one needs to know about whether you're officially diagnosed with a dissociative disorder or not, and the people who you want to be around do not care.

Plurality is crazy shit. Accept that you are "crazy" by societal standards, and that there is nothing wrong with being crazy. Be cringe. Be weird. Be mad. Be a freak. Be unpalatable. Cause chaos. It's awesome.

Date your sysmates. Kiss your sysmates. Fuck your sysmates. The world is your oyster.

No matter what, do not forget to love your sysmates.

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Leftism capped entirely in the current era by its inability to productively nagivate conflict

So this is our focal point. Working together, talking together, resolving together.

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You don't need to know why you're a system. You don't need to know your origin. You're still worthy of acceptance without knowing

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"OK" SO IT SEEMS AS THOUGH MY GENETICALLY MODIFIED KILLER BEETLES HAVE ESCAPED. HAS ANYONE SEEN MY FUCKI🪲🪲🪲🪲🪲🪲🪲🪲🪲🪲🪲🪲🪲🪲🪲OH G🪲OD🪲🪲🪲🪲🪲🪲🪲🪲 SHI🪲🪲T🪲🪲🪲🪲🪲🧪AAAHHHHHHHHOOOHhh Hey. That One Learned thge basics of Chemistry . #Proud

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reblog if you're a sick individual who's attracted to women over 30

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Alright. I'm probably gonna lose moots and followers for this. But I've kept quiet about it since I became host and I don't feel right not saying it for multiple reasons.

I, and this system and blog, support systems of all origins, including non traumagenic. We consider ourselves mixed origin, for multiple reasons. I know some (a lot) of you don't agree with or are uncomfortable with this stance, so if you need to unfollow for your own comfort, that's fine. But do not announce your departure unless you want us to unfollow as well.

I feel like by hiding this, I've been lying to all of you and hindering our own ability to talk about our experiences. Overall, I cannot in good conscious keep it quiet.

This is not an invitation for debate. I hate syscourse and always will, especially with our previous hosts involvement.

If this is where we part ways, then farewell and I wish you the best. And I'm sorry I couldn't be honest sooner.

Plurals of all origins, you are safe with The Brightside Brigade

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kind of obsessed with this comment from the aoteaora nz subreddit….

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How can you be so blind and ignorant to the causes of antizionism and simultaneously call everything antisemitism?

Your blog is full of anti zionist talking points that are inherently false e.g. the colonial lie about Israel, and yet claim to care about antisemitism? Are you just a troll at this point? What's the point?

This ask is full of so much nonsense that I don't even know where to begin

Colonial Lie??? The UN, HRW, Amnesty, and the ICJ beg to differ

Hell even Theodore Herzl begs to differ when he called Zionism a colonial project. Do you even know what you're fucking yapping on about?

You sound extremely stupid right now.

I love when Zionists are like "Zionism isnt a colonial project" and then I just point them to where the FOUNDER of political Zionism just says it is lol

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A lot of orange 🍊 meows .. sound on 🔊

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I could watch this for hours 🐈🐈