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me: chat what do we think

the angel and devil on my shoulders: can you not call us that please

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the true girlhood experience (fighting the urge to fall to your knees in the middle of a grocery shopping aisle because of a sudden wave of grief that hit you out of nowhere)

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How to Stop Procrastinating by Managing Your Emotions

Procrastination happens when we delay doing things, and it's often connected to our emotions. Feelings like being afraid to fail, feeling worried or stressed, getting bored, or lacking motivation can all contribute to procrastination. To stop procrastinating and get more things done, it's important to learn how to handle our emotions better.

Boredom:

Break the task into smaller, more engaging sub-tasks.

Find ways to make the task more interesting or challenging.

Set a timer and work on the task for a specific amount of time, followed by a short break doing something enjoyable.

Feeling Overwhelmed:

Prioritize tasks and focus on one thing at a time.

Break the task into smaller, more manageable steps.

Delegate some parts of the task if possible or seek help from others.

Use tools like to-do lists or task management apps to stay organized.

Anxiety:

Practice deep breathing or mindfulness techniques to calm yourself.

Challenge negative thoughts and replace them with more positive and realistic ones.

Start with the easier or less intimidating aspects of the task to build momentum.

Set realistic expectations and remind yourself that it's okay to make mistakes.

Self-Doubt:

Focus on past accomplishments and successes to boost your confidence.

Seek support or feedback from others to gain reassurance.

Remind yourself of your skills and capabilities to tackle the task.

Use positive affirmations to counteract negative self-talk.

Perfectionism:

Embrace the concept of "good enough" rather than seeking perfection.

Set realistic and achievable goals for each task.

Recognize that mistakes and imperfections are part of the learning process and growth.

Indecisiveness:

Break decisions into smaller steps and make one small decision at a time.

Set a time limit for making decisions to avoid overthinking.

Trust your instincts and make the best decision you can with the information available.

Apathy or Lack of Interest:

Find aspects of the task that align with your values or long-term goals.

Break the task into smaller, more manageable parts and focus on completing one at a time.

Reward yourself for completing the task to make it more appealing.

Stress or Burnout:

Practice stress-reduction techniques such as meditation, exercise, or spending time in nature.

Break tasks into smaller steps to reduce the feeling of overwhelm.

Prioritize self-care and take breaks to avoid burnout.

Feeling Uninspired or Creatively Blocked:

Engage in activities that stimulate creativity, such as brainstorming, mind mapping, or seeking inspiration from others' work.

Start with a simple and basic version of the task to get the creative juices flowing.

Collaborate with others or seek feedback to gain new perspectives.

Fear of Success:

Identify and challenge the negative beliefs or fears that may be holding you back.

Visualize the positive outcomes of completing the task successfully.

Focus on the benefits and personal growth that come with success.

Impatience:

Break long-term goals into smaller milestones to track progress.

Practice mindfulness to stay present and patient throughout the process.

Remind yourself that progress takes time and effort.

Lack of Confidence:

Celebrate your past accomplishments to boost your confidence.

Seek support and encouragement from friends, family, or mentors.

Focus on building specific skills related to the task to increase confidence.

Avoiding Discomfort:

Acknowledge that discomfort is a natural part of growth and improvement.

Break tasks into smaller steps and tackle the more challenging aspects gradually.

Remind yourself of the long-term benefits of facing discomfort.

Overestimating Future Motivation:

Practice discipline and commit to starting tasks even when motivation is low.

Set specific deadlines for tasks to create a sense of urgency.

Establish a routine that includes regular work on the task to build consistency.

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"came back wrong" but it's food that you heated up in the microwave

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“I don’t believe the cure for loneliness is meeting someone, not necessarily. I think it’s about two things: learning how to befriend yourself and understanding that many of the things that seem to afflict us as individuals are in fact a result of larger forces of stigma and exclusion, which can and should be resisted. Loneliness is personal, and it is also political. Loneliness is collective; it is a city. As to how to inhabit it, there are no rules and nor is there any need to feel shame, only to remember that the pursuit of individual happiness does not trump or excuse our obligations to each another. We are in this together, this accumulation of scars, this world of objects, this physical and temporary heaven that so often takes on the countenance of hell. What matters is kindness; what matters is solidarity. What matters is staying alert, staying open, because if we know anything from what has gone before us, it is that the time for feeling will not last.”

— The lonely city, Olivia Laing

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¿Life?

Life sometimes gives you the hardest times, and you don’t know the cause behind it. It leaves you wondering about it even more, and the more you question your existence. Choices? Perhaps, we can blame this crisis on our life choices. How we decide, where to live, why to live, what to do, when to do, how to do, all these questions make us insane and yet, somehow we always manage to figure everything out. But here is the catch, it’s not just about how well you manage your lifestyle, it’s also about the content or quality of that lifestyle. One thing everyone says and sounds super clichéd is about how hard life can be and how you have to go through every obstacle. But here is what I say, life will always be hard, and there is no way you can overcome this. I mean you can make your life a little easier by focusing on your selections and decisions, but honestly speaking, your surroundings are the main reason why life seems to be so much more complicated than it already is. Here’s a suggestion: Instead of getting all worked up about your choices, take a step back from life for a moment. Sounds perplexing? Allow me to clarify, so when you think about your life and existence and all this bullshit driving you insane, just take a break, forget life, stop thinking about it, and focus on being blank. It is okay to go all numb for a few minutes and give yourself, give your goddamn life a short break. Pause yourself, refresh your mind, and gather your sanity. Just collect your broken pieces of the unfinished puzzle of life. And trust me, you won’t ever be able to complete this brainteaser. You’ll always be left hanging, which piece would fit the best, but this is life, not an actual puzzle, that you can keep on thinking about forever until you find the last piece. ¡NO! 

Well isn’t this a little self-contradictory? I just told you to collect your pieces, yet again I’m telling you that you can’t finish this puzzle. Well, I never said solve it. Let’s get to the point. By collecting the pieces of the puzzle, you now know that you have a life, which is long and full of hurdles. But when you do acknowledge the fact that you indeed have a life, a little ray of hope comes along. This is the hope that keeps you going. You don’t know how to complete the puzzle, but you do know that at some point in your life, you will finish it; this is what hope does to us, encourages us to keep the pieces with us even if we do not know how to solve it. So, back to the main point, don’t get busy trying to finish the puzzle right after you collected all the pieces, you’ll lose yourself. Give yourself time, cause no matter how hard life is, it has its own way of healing and dealing with suffering. Life finds its own way. The only irony is that life is dependent on an individual. And the individuals are scared to live life, which makes life so much more complex, even though it’s not. ¡Take a break, people!

The paradox of life is hella confusing. Some people say it’s hard, while I say it is but not quite literally. It’s us for heaven’s sake, who has to make everything complicated. We can go so easy, but we do not; because well, we are the individuals that life depends on, and somehow we take it as a burden, exactly why it seems so difficult. In addition, our toxic environment full of other soulless people, is like cherry on top. More than how we live life, the concerns are about the elements we live life with. It’s not easy to leave everything and go on by yourself to live life in this ruthless world. So what should we do exactly? Well, that’s something I’ve been googling myself too, hoping to find some sort of answer. But I never found one. I sigh on that too, but you can never finish a puzzle without thinking about it for a long time. Put aside all of your distractions, and try to find the aim of your existence. If you can’t you might as well just try to give up, but don’t. Talking helps. Trust me again, when you open up about something, it feels like a big roach fleeing out of your room; a big relief. Maybe you do not trust any individual, try talking to your pets! You haven’t got one? There are plenty of ‘em on the streets. If you find it illogical, try it out on a piece of paper, or your digital notes. It’s like giving your opinion on something. You’re sharing something valuable. You are getting the attention and care you need. This works like therapy. Having to know that someone will get inspired by hearing or reading your experience out, will make you float in the clouds. That’s exactly what you sweeties need. We want a way to escape from life without actually escaping. We just have to find our way out of the negativity. The stress and pressure build up from all the expectations others and we have for ourselves. The pessimism arises from holding onto unrealistic expectations. The best way I keep myself away from life, yet be included in life, is by not beholding life. We will go towards the future impacted by this cruel world. To survive the crash, cherish the present to the fullest and don’t let the future distance you from your true self. Be the wall between your life and the soul-sucking world. 

My words may seem tangled, but you can unravel them by exploring and discovering things for yourself. You’ll find better ways yourself to deal with life.

Image: 'Interior with Woman Reading' by Poul Friis Nybo (Danish, 1869-1929).

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My presence sweet and my aura bright

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you approach life in a practical way, i approach life in a whimsical and joyous way that holds undertones of dread and fear. we are not the same

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something so intimate about handmade stuff, handmade bread, handmade presents, or handwritten letters, in general intimacy and tenderness are stored in hands, in holding hands and playing with each other's fingers, warming each other's hands...

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“It is easy to love people in memory; the hard thing is to love them when they are there in front of you.”

— John Updike, My Father’s Tears and Other Stories

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“When I was young, I used to admire intelligent people; as I grow older, I admire kind people.”

— Abraham Joshua Heschel

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a father is needed at literally so many levels in life

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if you're bored today might i suggest developing a little crush on me?

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idk when we decided that explaining yourself shouldn't be part of an apology but like. if someone was a dick to me and apologizes but I still don't understand why they did it I'm not gonna feel any better

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This is what I like about photographs- they're proof that once, even if just for a heartbeat, everything was perfect.

— Jodi Picoult