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I think it's time for me to start blogging my experiences again. I have learned so much! Still have yet to meet my best friend, the pursuit must continue.

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Hey, i hope everyone's doing okay tonight. We need some attention here in puerto rico if y'all have a minute. We could really use your help.

Many of you may not know this but the United States government recently implemented, with the signed permission of President Obama, a totalitarian fiscal control board on the island of Puerto Rico. The increase in police presence as well as many hostile interactions between police and protesters have gone largely unnoticed, globally. There is a camp set up called #CampamentoContraLaJunta (camp against the control board) similar to the demonstration that occurred in Homan/Freedom Square, Chicago, IL. 

Below is a picture of the camp at night. The police and workers at the federal building shine search lights directly at the camp every night “for camp safety” but really it’s to make it harder for demonstrators to sleep in an already packed and loud environment.

Dozens of people have been camped out in front of the main office of operations of this human and civil rights violation (one of the many the USA has perpetrated against the people of Puerto Rico) for MONTHS. Today I received this message from one of the camp leaders:

En las últimas dos semanas en el #CampamentoContraLaJunta hemos experimentado un patrón de acosos de parte de agentes federales, encabezados por el teniente Benjamin Martell. Hoy abrieron uno de los portones vehiculares que lleva meses (desde mucho antes de que empezara el campa) cerrado. Corre la voz para que personas y organizaciones solidarias lleguen al espacio y compartan el post de la página #CampamentoContraLaJunta. Gracias.

the basic translation is this: For the past two weeks, demonstrators have been subject to a variety of assaults perpetrated by federal agents led by a man named Benjamin Martell. Today they disrupted one of our longest standing camp fixtures. We need more voices. We need people to see us. Thanks

this is their facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/CampamentoContraLaJunta/

We in Puerto Rico desperately need people to see us right now. Regardless of who wins the election, we are going to be subject to a series of horrid, conservative, capitalist driven changes which will further destroy any possibility of rehabilitation if we can ever manage our independence. We need our independence. We need people to stop perpetuating the myth that Puerto Rico is in debt to the USA.. We are not. We are one of the largest remaining sources of revenue for the USA. If they lose us, they will no longer be able to steal from our island or use us to perpetuate the financial corruption in Amerikkka which is the only reason this is all happening to begin with. White men trying to protect their assets… Please, help me bring attention to this issue.

some refs:

The Entire F*cking Control Board Bill (in English): https://www.congress.gov/114/bills/hr4900/BILLS-114hr4900ih.pdf

One of the big ways the US steals from PR is something called the Foraker Act. One of the amendments most useful in aiding the US in their imperialism is something called the Merchant Marine/Jones Act aka La Ley de Cabotaje which prevents Puerto Rico from developing any sort of sustainable import/export system.I dont have the patience or heart rate to start about this now so here’s the law and the breakdown of how the US abuses this to prevent Puerto Rico from developing an economy and maintain Borinken under its imperialist rule:

the full Foraker Act (in Spanish): http://www.lexjuris.com/lexlex/lexotras/lexleyforaker.htm

breakdown of how the US is using the Foraker act to abuse PR for its own gain (in English): http://www.lexjuris.com/revistaponce/volumenes/1997Vol36-2y3/Cabotage%20laws%20a%20colonial%20anachronism.pdf

Ley de Cabotaje (english + spanish):  http://www.enciclopediapr.org/ing/article.cfm?ref=13071118

Please don’t let the USA keep doing this to us. Please let people know that we are trying to organize. We are trying to make our voices heard. White men will stop at nothing to keep their money or their power tho. please excuse any typos. I had to write this in a rush with everything going on.

#NOaLaJuntaDeControl #Campamentocontralajunta #boost #LIBERTAD

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How to Find your Purpose

1. Take time to ponder the questions “What really matters in life; what do I want to have achieved when I look back over my life?”

2. Make time for solitude and silence. Filling every minute makes it hard to listen to our intuition, or that inner guiding voice.

3. Seek out people who inspire you – and then learn from them. There are many people who live inspiring lives. We can learn from their experience, and what they have to share.

4. Consciously monitor your progress. It is easy to slip back into unproductive habits. Hence, we need to be committed to sticking to our plan.

5. Accept that struggles and setbacks will be part of your experience. There will be times when you are tempted to give up and stop trying … but choosing to keep going will lead you to your dreams.

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choose a partner who is good for you. not good for your parents. not good for your image. not good for your bank account. choose someone who’s going to make your life emotionally fulfilling.

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the education system wont really be teaching you important shit like this..

so let me be the one to do it…

places that give student discounts

discounts your student id can get you

how to survive college on a budget

how to save money

earn money by simply doing polls

scholarships masterpost

really helpful student loan debt article

college investor website

7 money tips for college students

student loan calculator

what to buy each month of the year

coupon tips

can’t pay your bills?

is your cell phone bill too high?

dont know how to do taxes?

pay off student loans efficiently

budget monitoring website

save your money on cords

how to balance a checkbook

the ultimate guide to saving for retirement

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FYI

I DON'T CARE WHAT YOU'RE DOING STOP AND READ THIS

Ok Dr. Phil’s wife, Robin, (yes groan, but listen up) has this new app out (iPhone and Android) that’s for people in abusive relationships. It’s called Aspire News and it’s disguised as a regular news app, but when you go to the “Help” section of the app, it leads you to domestic violence resources and also has a “Go Button” that when you press it, if you’re in a compromising situation, alerts local authorities as well as local shelters and starts recording everything that is going on.

Now, if you’re looking up resources on the app and your abuser is near, simply press the X button and it brings you to a random news page. Same goes for the actual foundation site.

ITS COMPLETELY FREE Site

Apps

SPREAD THIS, DONT JUST “LIKE IT”

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Sooooooo me!

Zodiac Virgo Facts | See much more at TheZodiacCity.com

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Civil War was full of melanin too!

It is still unclear who Jordan will play, but rumor has it he could be a villain.

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Below are six of the most common tendencies in relationships that many couples think are healthy and normal, but are actually toxic and destroying everything you hold dear. Get the tissues ready.

1. The Relationship Scorecard

What It Is: The “keeping score” phenomenon is when someone you’re dating continues to blame you for past mistakes you made in the relationship. If both people in the relationship do this it devolves into what I call “the relationship scorecard,” where it becomes a battle to see who has screwed up the most over the months or years, and therefore who owes the other one more.

You were an asshole at Cynthia’s 28th birthday party back in 2010 and it has proceeded to ruin your life ever since. Why? Because there’s not a week that goes by that you’re not reminded of it. But that’s OK, because that time you caught her sending flirtatious text messages to her co-worker immediately removes her right to get jealous, so it’s kind of even, right?

Wrong.

Why It’s Toxic: The relationship scorecard develops over time because one or both people in a relationship use past wrongdoings in order to try and justify current righteousness. This is a double-whammy of suckage. Not only are you deflecting the current issue itself, but you’re ginning up guilt and bitterness from the past to manipulate your partner into feeling wrong in the present.

If this goes on long enough, both partners eventually spend most of their energy trying to prove that they’re less culpable than the other rather than solving the current problem. People spend all of their time trying to be less wrong for each other instead of being more right for each other.

What You Should Do Instead: Deal with issues individually unless they are legitimately connected. If someone habitually cheats, then that’s obviously a recurring problem. But the fact that she embarrassed you in 2010 and now she got sad and ignored you today in 2013 have nothing to do with each other, so don’t bring it up.

You must recognize that by choosing to be with your significant other, you are choosing to be with all of their prior actions and behaviors. If you don’t accept those, then ultimately, you are not accepting them. If something bothered you that much a year ago, you should have dealt with it a year ago.

2. Dropping “Hints” and Other Passive-Aggression

What It Is: Instead of stating a desire or thought overtly, your partner tries to nudge you in the right direction of figuring it out yourself. Instead of saying what’s actually upsetting you, you find small and petty ways to piss your partner off so you’ll then feel justified in complaining to them.

Why It’s Toxic: Because it shows that you two are not comfortable communicating openly and clearly with one another. A person has no reason to be passive-aggressive if they feel safe expressing any anger or insecurity within the relationship. A person will never feel a need to drop “hints” if they feel like they won’t be judged or criticized for it.

What You Should Do Instead: State your feelings and desires openly. And make it clear that the other person is not necessarily responsible or obligated to them but that you’d love to have their support. If they love you, they’ll almost always be able to give it.

3. Holding the Relationship Hostage

What It Is: When one person has a simple criticism or complaint and blackmails the other person by threatening the commitment of the relationship as a whole. For instance, if someone feels like you’ve been cold to them, instead of saying, “I feel like you’re being cold sometimes,” they will say, “I can’t date someone who is cold to me all of the time.”

Why It’s Toxic: It’s emotional blackmail and it creates tons of unnecessary drama. Every minor hiccup in the flow of the relationship results in a perceived commitment crisis. It’s crucial for both people in a relationship to know that negative thoughts and feelings can be communicated safely to one another without it threatening the relationship itself. Otherwise people will suppress their true thoughts and feelings which leads to an environment of distrust and manipulation.

What You Should Do Instead: It’s fine to get upset at your partner or to not like something about them. That’s called being a normal human being. But understand that committing to a person and always liking a person are not the same thing. One can be committed to someone and not like everything about them. One can be eternally devoted to someone yet actually be annoyed or angered by their partner at times. On the contrary, two partners who are capable of communicating feedback and criticism towards one another only without judgment or blackmail will strengthen their commitment to one another in the long-run.

4. Blaming Your Partner For Your Own Emotions

What It Is: Let’s say you’re having a crappy day and your partner isn’t exactly being super sympathetic or supportive at the moment. They’ve been on the phone all day with some people from work. They got distracted when you hugged them. You want to lay around at home together and just watch a movie tonight, but they have plans to go out and see their friends.

So you lash out at them for being so insensitive and callous toward you. You’ve been having a shitty day and they have done nothing about it. Sure, you never asked, but they should just know to make you feel better. They should have gotten off the phone and ditched their plans based on your lousy emotional state.

Why It’s Toxic: Blaming our partners for our emotions is a subtle form of selfishness, and a classic example of the poor maintenance of personal boundaries. When you set a precedent that your partner is responsible for how you feel at all times (and vice-versa), then will develop codependent tendencies. Suddenly, they’re not allowed to plan activities without checking with you first. All activities at home — even the mundane such as reading books or watching TV — must be negotiated and compromised. When someone begins to get upset, all personal desires go out the window because it is now your responsibility to make one another feel better.

The biggest problem of developing these codependent tendencies is that they breed resentment. Sure, if my girlfriend gets mad at me once because she’s had a shitty day and is frustrated and needs attention, that’s understandable. But if it becomes an expectation that my life revolves around her emotional well-being at all times, then I’m soon going to become very bitter and even manipulative towards her feelings and desires.

What You Should Do Instead: Take responsibility for your own emotions and expect your partner to be responsible for theirs. There’s a subtle yet important difference between being supportive of your partner and being obligated to your partner. Any sacrifices should be made as an autonomous choice and not seen as an expectation. As soon as both people in a relationship become culpable for each other’s moods and downswings, it gives them both incentives to hide their true feelings and manipulate one another.

5. Displays of “Loving” Jealousy

What It Is: Getting pissed off when your partner talks, flirts, touches, calls, texts, hangs out, or sneezes in the general vicinity of another person and then you proceed to take that anger out on your partner and attempt to control their behavior. This often leads to insano behaviors such as hacking into your partner’s email account, looking through their text messages while they’re in the shower or even following them around town and showing up unannounced when they’re not expecting you.

Why It’s Toxic: It surprises me that some people describe this as some sort of display of affection. They figure that if their partner wasn’t jealous then that would somehow mean that they weren’t loved by them.

This is absolutely clownshit crazy to me. It’s controlling and manipulative. It creates unnecessary drama and fighting. It transmits a message of a lack of trust in the other person. And to be honest, it’s demeaning. If my girlfriend cannot trust me to be around other attractive women by myself, then it implies that she believes that I’m either a) a liar, or b) incapable of controlling my impulses. In either case, that’s a woman I do not want to be dating.

What You Should Do Instead: Trust your partner. It’s a radical idea, I know. Some jealousy is natural. But excessive jealousy and controlling behaviors towards your partner are signs of your own feelings of unworthiness and you should learn to deal with them and not force them onto those close to you. Because otherwise you are only going to eventually push that person away.

6. Buying the Solutions to Relationship Problems

What It Is: Any time a major conflict or issue comes up in the relationship, instead of solving it, one covers it up with the excitement and good feelings that come with buying something nice or going on a trip somewhere.

My parents were experts at this one. And it got them real far: a big fat divorce and 15 years of hardly speaking to each other since. They have both since independently told me that this was the primary problem in their marriage: continuously covering up their real issues with superficial pleasures.

Why It’s Toxic: Not only does it brush the real problem under the rug (where it will always re-emerge from even worse the next time), but it sets an unhealthy precedent within the relationship. This is not a gender-specific problem, but I will use the traditional gendered situation as an example. Let’s imagine that whenever a woman gets angry at her boyfriend/husband, the man “solves” the issue by buying the woman something nice, or taking her to a nice restaurant or something. Not only does this give the woman unconscious incentive to find more reasons to be upset with the man, but it also gives the man absolutely no incentive to actually be accountable for the problems in the relationship. So what do you end up with? A checked-out husband who feels like an ATM, and an incessantly bitter woman who feels unheard.

What You Should Do Instead: Actually, you know, deal with the problem. Trust was broken? Talk about what it will take to rebuild it. Someone feels ignored or unappreciated? Talk about ways to restore those feelings of appreciation. Communicate!

There’s nothing wrong with doing nice things for a significant other after a fight to show solidarity and to reaffirm commitment. But one should never use gifts or fancy things to replace dealing with the underlying emotional issues. Gifts and trips are called luxuries for a reason, you only get to appreciate them when everything else is already good. If you use them to cover up your problems, then you will find yourself with a much bigger problem down the line.

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I can do that!

It's May 07, 2016 at 09:02AM, promise to do what you can today to end white supremacy and destroy white privilege. Every bit helps.

Hire Black

Do not acquiesce to whiteness

Start a business and hire at least one Black person

Do not deny your Blackness

Unlearn white historical lies

Mentor Black youth

Protect black children

Vote for Black interests

Preach #BlackLivesMatter

Do not engage in colorism

Learn the truth about World history

Support Black people who support Black people

Buy Black

Go to a HBCU

Respect the Black woman

Fight against white internal dominance

Protect Black womanhood

Read Black authors

DO NOT support feminism. SUPPORT WOMANISM/BLACK FEMINISM

Learn the truth about American history

Increase Black knowledge

Protect Blackness

Don’t worry about being polite, call out racism when it happens

All of it matters because all of it helps.

#endwhitepower #whitesupremacy #whiteracism #blackpower #wecandoit

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SLAY!

I guess you could say I slayed my senior prom last night. 😈

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This article makes me want to be more aware of the racist treatment I actually endure. Based on her experience it may not be the best thing to do.

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I have found love. Has love found me?

#my life #off the dome #tdp

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Atlanta, feeling myself

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Adding to re-read from the beginning

Born on this day…

April 4, 1928

Marguerite Annie Johnson (Maya Angelou): Author, Poet, Activist

Books (Autobiographies of Maya Angelou):

I Know Why the Caged Bird Sings 

captures the longing of lonely children, the brute insult of bigotry, and the wonder of words that can make the world right. Maya Angelou’s debut memoir is a modern American classic beloved worldwide.

Gather Together in My Name 

continues Maya Angelou’s personal story, begun so unforgettably in I Know Why the Caged Bird Sings…Maya Angelou, still in her teens, has given birth to a son. But the next few years are difficult ones as she tries to find a place in the world for herself and her child. 

Singin’ and Swingin’ and Gettin’ Merry Like Christmas 

in this third self-contained volume of her autobiography…Maya Angelou moves into the adult world. Maya struggles to support herself and her son through a series of odd jobs and weathers a failed marriage to a white man before landing a gig singing in one of the most popular nightclubs on the San Francisco coast.

The Heart of a Woman 

in The Heart of a Woman, Maya Angelou leaves California with her son, Guy, to move to New York. There she enters the society and world of black artists and writers, reads her work at the Harlem Writers Guild, and begins to take part in the struggle of black Americans for their rightful place in the world

All God’s Children Need Traveling Shoes

in 1962 the poet, musician, and performer Maya Angelou claimed another piece of her identity by moving to Ghana, joining a community of “Revolutionist Returnees” inspired by the promise of pan-Africanism…lyrical and acutely perceptive exploration of what it means to be an African American on the mother continent, where color no longer matters but where American-ness keeps asserting itself in ways both puzzling and heartbreaking.

 A Song Flung Up to Heaven 

opens as Maya Angelou returns from Africa to the United States to work with Malcolm X. But first she has to journey to California to be reunited with her mother and brother. No sooner does she arrive there than she learns that Malcolm X has been assassinated.

Mom & Me & Mom 

at last, the legendary author shares the deepest personal story of her life: her relationship with her mother.

Quote:

There is no greater agony than bearing an untold story inside you.

Additional Quick Read:

Angelou’s Memoirs Place Her in Literary History 

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Smart People Are Happier With Fewer Friends

If you’re highly intelligent you might want to consider having less friends. This is one finding from a new study conducted by evolutionary psychologists Satoshi Kanazawa of the London School of Economics and Norman Li of Singapore Management University, reports The Washington Post.

The research concludes that the more time intelligent people spent socializing with their friends, the less satisfied they were with life overall. But why would this be? Brookings Institution researcher Carol Graham attributes it to the fact that most highly intelligent people are focused on some type of long-term goal. “Those with more intelligence and the capacity to use it … are less likely to spend so much time socializing because they are focused on some other longer term objective,” she says.

Read more on why intelligent people are happier in big cities compared to the average person