#your bust doesn't define your gender

[selfshipseaside]

☆ Reminder to any self-shippers with a big bust/chest, your f/os love you!

No matter your gender or how you present, they love you and your chest the way it is, and they also support anything you want to do with it! They understand the plights of it. Whether it's having a hard time feeling like shirts fit nicely on you, or if it even makes you feel dysphoric, no matter what problems you might have with them, they'll be there to listen and help as much as they can. They don't think your bust is too big or that you look bad because of it!

If you ever wanted a reduction, they'd be your biggest supporter!

Top surgery? They'd cheer you on the entire way through and help you through recovery!

And if you wanted to bind your chest for any reason at all, they'd assist you no problem!

Just wanted to find some properly sized clothes and help with the intense back pain? They got your back, literally!

If anyone is ever making you feel objectified because of your bust, your f/o would make sure to help you sort through those feelings and to try to put a stop to the source. You deserve to exist with your body and not feel objectified by just being there!

So, no matter what you might think or want to do with your bust, your f/o loves you for it and supports you all the same!

[sam-glade]

9. Are there cultural or lore specific aspects to their identity? If applicable, does their species affect it?

Give me an infodump >:3

15. Do any of your ocs use neopronouns? Which ones?

Thank you, Feather 💜 Answering in reverse order, since the info dump will get lengthy ;)

(For the Pride ask game)

15. Do any of your ocs use neopronouns? Which ones?

None at the moment, unless you count the Sun King using He/Him as opposed to he/him (or They/Them, depending on the time period), analogously to the Judeo-Christian God ;).

9. Are there cultural or lore specific aspects to their identity? If applicable, does their species affect it?

Tl;dr: the Sunblessed Realm has always, throughout its history, been a queer-normative society, so the idea of a 'queer' identity doesn't exist in the same way as in the real world - i.e. defined in opposition to the allocishet norm.

Sexual orientation:

The assumption in the setting is that you're pansexual/bisexual unless otherwise specified (and that's a fair assumption for my characters. Being attracted to a particular gender is pretty comparable to simply having a strong type, so letting someone down by saying 'sorry, I'm not into men' is polite enough, though of course people can still get salty and disappointed ;)

On a personal preference note, I like to define my characters as having a preference (strong or weak or none at all) for masculinity/femininity, so a character who in our world would consider himself a gay man isn't going to have second thoughts about having some fun with a drag king or a very masc woman. He may decide he's not 100% into that, but hey, it was worth a try.

And yes, there are no gender restrictions on marriage or on adoption. We also have at least one example of a polycule on page from a recurring character (Renna of the Sixth Tree), though I didn't need to figure out how the wedding ceremony works then. Yet (eyeing The Truth Teller warily)

Relatedly, given the in theory indefinite lifespan, averaging around 270-300 years, during the period from reaching adulthood at 35 to the cusp of their first century people are free to experiment and decide what they want out of life. Family? Adventure? Are they more of free spirits and don't want to settle anywhere? This also covers what sort of relationships they want.

Gender identity:

I'm using the baseline of 3% of people being genderqueer - it's really hard to find reliable statistics, since it's impossible to tell if the respondents are being honest. That still means that if you live even in a small rural community of 70-100 people, you will probably know a couple of genderqueer folks, so while it's rarer than being cis, it's still fairly common knowledge. It certainly helps that Anthea, a head of state, is trans and that's public knowledge.

Children (up until the age of 35) are considered genderless. Only when they reach adulthood, they choose a name for themselves, which tends to be gendered, thus declaring 'hey, I'm a man/woman/something else/both/neither'. As a rule of thumb, feminine names end in -a or -is, masculine in -m or -n, though it's just a custom, not a requirement, and people from other regions (e.g. Nikols) won't follow it. More on the coming of age ceremony here.

Fashion is also different between genders, in that it tends to highlight the physical appearance and characteristics people tend to find appealing about the given gender. Hence, women's gowns will be slightly cinched at the waist, emphasising the hips, while men's will make their shoulders look a little broader. This also means that trans women can easily add rolls around hips and pad their bodices to have more of an hourglass silhouette, while trans mascs... 🥲 *Cries over a bust too big for a binder*

Ehm, anyway. Gender non-conformity is also considered not scandalous, so we've got e.g. Erya, who's by our standards a butch, never wearing jewellery, and if you tell her to put on a skirt you run a serious risk of ending up with a knife in your gut.

Other than that, the current (as of Days of Dusk) fashion is that men are clean shaven. Hair length is correlated to digital status more than gender, not none of these are hard and fast rules.

Aromanticism and asexuality

Again, it's hard to tell how common these identities are irl, but I wager that more than 9 in 10 people enjoys romance, and so we've got some courting rituals as you might expect. It's not impolite to try flirting with someone and be told 'no' without an explanation (not into you? not into this sort of relationship at all? just not looking for anyone right now?), but it would be rude to press the advances further.

As for anyone ace, there are at least two notable figures who haven't entered into a long-term romantic relationship even once over their millennia-long lives (the Prince of the West and Claren the Nightingale, Ianim's tutor), so that hopefully sends enough of a message that you don't need to pair up with someone to have a fulfilling life. Also, given the long lifespan, I imagine a lot of people (e.g. parents who want grandkids) accepting that there's no need to rush to get married and have children. Maybe their child will change their mind later in life. Maybe they'll form other bonds and e.g. become the glue that keeps a community together.

It's also worth mentioning that sex work is legal and regulated by a guild, much like any other trade, so if anyone is wondering 'do I like sex at all' can easily go to a brothel to find out. Similarly, aromantic allosexuals (*cough* Gullin *cough*) may be frequent clients.

[medusasbush]

read in march 2023

articles (ones behind a paywall are linked through webpage archive):

articles

Reverse boundaries How good are we at respecting when someone else says 'no'?

"Slow Pleasure" in a Fast World

Should People Be Allowed to Like Things? Are we discoursing ourselves to death?

The Divine Delusion of Gender: On "Energy" and the TikTokification of Spirituality

Spiritual misogyny is flourishing on TikTok

How ‘Poker Face’s’ Stop-Motion Animation Episode Was Brought to Life

Are there too many sex scenes in movies?

Man Says BetterHelp Referred Him to Conversion Therapy Supporter

Who's Afraid of Mark Rothko?

When Everything Becomes an Event

Meet the Lipsdick: A Dick Shaped Lipstick

How Do We Define the Female Gaze in 2018?

Do Words Mean Anything Anymore?

It’s Been Over Two Decades Since We’ve Had a Non-White Best Actress Winner. Will That Change in 2023?

I'm Coming Clean about Friend Envy & You Should Too

A Friend Doesn't Have to be "Toxic" to be Bad for You

Does Anyone Mend Clothes Anymore?

The Moral Case Against Equity Language

Inspiration Is Everywhere. Literally: The "We're Not Really Strangers"-ification of social media.

Men Are Lonely. But Women Are Being Attacked: Male Loneliness is Not Women's Problem to Solve

Romance isn't Just for Dating

What is Romantic Friendship?

The Case of the Missing Perpetrator: On Mysterious Pregnancies, the Passive Voice, and Disappearing Men

Dingus of the Week: Women’s History Month

Friends and mentees remember Judy Heumann, mother of the disability rights movement

The Language of Place

One of Walgreens biggest stockholders commissioned Fearless Girl

Fine I'll admit it. I Like Titanic.

A Plan Forms in Mexico: Help Americans Get Abortions

Can Nostalgia Be Sinister?

The Stay-At-Home Girlfriend Phenomenon

A Conversation With Stay-At-Home Girlfriend & Content Creator Kendel Kay

The Soft Boy Brigade: Was He “Written By a Woman” or Is He Just Wearing Nail Polish?

The Scientific Reason You Love Watching Reruns

Take Some Pills for Your Hysteria, Lady: America's Long History of Drugging Women Up

Everybody’s a Critic. So Stop Hating Critics.

A League of Their Own Is The First Great Gay Movie-to-TV Reboot

The Bear: At Last, A Chicago Show For People Who Are Not From Chicago And Have Never Stepped Foot There

the science of giving pain

i bet she has a nice scream: in praise of X, the new novel by Davey Davis

the persistent desire: on erotic identification

leatherdyke gender technology

‘The Last of Us’ Finale: First-Person Shooter

The ‘Last of Us’ Finale Is Just as Ambiguous and Agonizing as the Game’s Indelible Ending

What Exactly Is the Point of ‘The Last of Us’?

Do We Need Another ‘Love Letter to Cinema’?

Everyone needs to grow up: Whether it’s people who mention their Hogwarts house on their Hinge profile or literal white supremacists, culture is awash with adult babies

Instagram Store Core: A Manifesto Against Avant-Basic Home Design

Who Gets Care and Who Gets to Die?

Shoppers say secondhand stores like Goodwill are getting too expensive as Gen Z makes thrifting cool

Where Does Discarded Clothing Go?

How ‘travel aesthetics’ are ruining travel for everyone

Why is everyone so obsessed with frontal lobe development?

the sinking pleasure of a bath

Love, Sex, and Disabled Women: we want to be sexy too.

“Nope” Perfectly Encapsulates My Disappointment with the Biden Administration

What really killed Jane Austen?

On (Not) Discovering Disability in the World of Jane Austen: Disabled characters are present in Austen’s novels, but largely invisible in her cinematic remakes

Nathan Lane: Robin Williams ‘Protected Me’ From Coming Out as Gay on ‘Oprah’ in 1996 Because ‘He Was a Saint’

'The Last of Us’ finale isn’t controversial, it’s correct

The Oscars are beyond repair. Let’s make something better.

The House That Mr. Mayer Built: Inside the Union-Busting Birth of the Academy Awards

‘A League of Their Own’ is based on the 1992 movie, but has an identity all its own

Black Southern food isn’t killing us:The ‘plate’ is not the real problem

In the history of hip-hop fashion, there’s no ignoring Lil’ Kim

The next first ladies of rap

books:

Wear, Repair, Repurpose: A Maker's Guide to Mending & Upcycling Clothes by Lily Fulop

[electric-rabbits]

There's something about singing karaoke with your friend, and you're a bi woman, and he's a gay man, and you sing a song with the phrase "I am your man and you're my woman", and look into each other's eyes knowing you both mean he's the woman and you're the man, and suddenly gender and sexuality are so abstract that they might as well not exist. You're here, and you're together, and they couldn't define you if they tried.

There's also something about singing a deeply religious song at this same karaoke, a song about family, a song you used to sing at church back when you were religious and ashamed to be who you are, but now you're singing it with a butch lesbian and another gay friend, and when they sing about husbands and wives and family duties you all look at each other and laugh like it's an inside joke, and their laughter is more of a religious experience than Sunday mass could ever be.

And about seeing your shy friend grab a mic and sing in public for the first time because everybody is being so kind, and so patient, that suddenly opening yourself up for embarrassment doesn't feel like a threat. And about trying to sing a song with a friend but you both only know the chorus, and suddenly the waitress grabs a mic and sings with you because she loves the song and you were having so much fun she wants to be a part of it. And about busting out your vocal chords while trying to sing along to a Janis Joplin song and not regretting it for a second. And about losing at pool and still cheering for those who won. And about being alive, and knowing why.

Idk man, karaoke night on my birthday was fucking great

[suppuration]

so... on vesility and fumbling to articulate the interstices of my kintype, gender, sex, disability, and abandon knows what else

tl;dr housekin jokes were not jokes

i do have to wonder how commonplace it is to have "inanimate object" as part of one's kin definition

over the years, i've resonated with statuesᵗᵃˡᵏᶦⁿᵍ ʰᵉᵃᵈˢ, structuresᵐᵉᵗʳᵒ ⁿᵒᶦˢᵉˢ, and houseplantsᵈᶦᵈⁿ'ᵗ ʷᵃⁿᵗ ᵗᵒ ʰᵘʳᵗ ᵗʰᵉᵐ. i often feel more like a placeⁿᵒ ᵉˢᵗᵉᵉᵐᵉᵈ ᵈᵉᵉᵈ ᶦˢ ᶜᵒᵐᵐᵉᵐᵒʳᵃᵗᵉᵈ ʰᵉʳᵉ than a person

i keep returning to thoughts most would consider object fetishism, i suppose is the best term for it. not quite object TF where the subject becomes an object, but rather a mundane fetishism of identifying as an object. (mundane, in the sense that it's everyday, that it's nonsexual, that it's not uniquely isolated to fantasies/daydreaming, etc.) i do have some degree of interest in the concept sexually, of things like object TF and furniture bondage, but they feel like distinctly different notions than what i'm trying to articulate through my kin/gen(der)/venn vesility

§ my current kintype is something of an eldritch, opalescent glass statue. capable of fluidity, but favoring inertia... and, where applicable, momentum. волосы еленыᶜᵒʳᶦᵘᵐ comes to mind. a psychologist recently described me as having a "stubborn gear shift [i.e. manual stick transmission]"... and, yeah. yeah. strong overlap between my disability, neurodivergence, and alterhumanity there.

§ i've experienced a wide array of phantom limb sensations since my teens, both the presence of extra-body limbs and the absence of those which are technically still attached to me. i can't quite define every single limb i think this body doesn't account for, but inversely, i resonate with the idea that i sometimes lose awareness/recognition of part or all of some limbs because i am at that moment mounted to (or even clipped into) a surface, and that surface cropped me. i felt the latter thing for a long time prior to ever seeing the illustration for it, but i feel like this magic card's art explains things quite well.ˣ in the painting, the merging was done for vengeance, but i typically view this aspect of myself as neutral

i just... frequently feel like i lack parts of myself altogether, and it's not like they've gone missing. it's simply that they were never there to begin with, or weren't supposed to be there at all?

§ this isn't to owe myself to any deprecation or pejorative, in referring to myself by it/its. i'm an object like your favorite shirt. a concept like a sunset witnessed from a parking lot. a place like comfort.

(i aspire to be, anyway.)

§ i consider some of my features similar to those typical of depictions of biblically accurate angels. however, i neither define my aspect as divine in any earthly sense, nor necessarily associated with any particular holiness. i've had people describe me in hagiographical conceit in the past, but i'm more of a relic or reliquaryᵇᵒʳⁿ ᵃᵍᵃᶦⁿ ʰᵉʳᵉ

§ i resonate strongly with many aspects of the conceit of baphomet. multiple kintypes and fursonas over the years have had caprinid features, and the goat is probably the animal i identify with most closely... (that, and rabbits. and jackalopes.) i only just tonight encountered the terms salmacian/aphrodisian, and it describes my sentiments quite succinctly, in that my transition goals are a blending of sex characteristics

my ideal bottom surgery doesn't look anything like a phallus, and most closely approximates nullo or negation. now that my facial hair has started to come in and my voice has deepened, my biggest source of anatomical dysphoria comes from having what i consider a small chest. i've extensively researched all my possible options for augmenting my breast size. i'm at a loss how to discuss this dysphoria with medical providers, in a way they'll understand that it's gender affirmative care.

unpleasant, then, for my most common repose to be comprised of little more than a bust

...bust. my gender is bust, isn't it

i lost my plot. i'm just... gonna hit send post and hope i'm entertaining

___________

occlupanids as included here:

talking heads: yeah i know just about every turn of this ergodic mess is steeped in fallout occultism. you're welcome to leave if you can

metro noises: i tonight encountered the term aldernic, which defines having or aspiring to have a form which deviates from societal norms. the coincidence sticks out to me strongly that 1. i resonate with fallout's metro sculptures, 2. this term aldernic as a means to describe my gender, 3. the fact i call the metromen in my fallout mall the aldermen.

didn't want to hurt them: vesica urentis

no esteemed deed is commemorated here: the atomic priesthood

corium: elephant-chan's upper biological shield

born again here: no longer just a false memory now

x art by tyler jacobson

[talesofsonicasura]

Josuke Higashikata with a Grunt s/o: Getting Into Nexus City

The next part for you folks! Like the title says, our duo will be heading over to Nexus City. In Madness Project Nexus, there are actually two campaigns connected to the plot with Grunt Reader being the main character for one. Doesn't mean they aren't getting involved with the other half. This can be read gender neutral or preferred gender. Enjoy.

Nexus City, one of the most important places found in this Icon of Sin called Nevada. For you and Josuke, it was where your main goal. Getting into the city had mixed difficulty when it came to where one's coming in.

Driving this A.A.H.W transport truck left you to go in the more questionable route. One controlled by a mercenary 'warlord' called the Sheriff and his group of men. Unknown to most but you, this particular Grunt had been against the misuse of Project Nexus.

Sheriff being part of a coup involving two rogue scientists who would later become dangerous mercenaries. For now, his turret guarded checkpoint is the issue at hand. Josuke had been given a large truck tarp to hide his body since he'll be playing 'MAG' pretend.

The checkpoint was heavily guarded like you imagined. Your truck not even reaching three ft before some Grunts ran an inspection. The crosses on your face kept neutral when the mercs saw Josuke and call for their boss.

For someone who had been killed by the infamous Hank J. Wimbleton, Sheriff didn't seem different except for the new hat. The grunt took a look at your human companion's cloaked form before turning his attention towards you.

"Quite a peculiar MAG ye have on you. What business are ya planning to run with 'em?"/ "I thought the city could bring more decent work conditions than the wasteland. Hard being a gun for hire without a proper establishment for both clients and staff."

The best lie will always have a truth to it since you used to be a mercenary. It definitely sated any suspicion from the Sheriff but none of you were outta the woods. "What does your MAG specialize in..."/"Restoration. Undoing any damage to inanimate objects."

The flaw of Josuke's MAG cover is that many like to 'see a test run' involving a unit like this. Your human companion gave you permission to share his 'restoration' abilities if push comes to shove. This being one of those times.

It definitely got the Sheriff's attention as the telltale sign of a job present itself. He would allow the two of you entry if you fixed the damage done to his facility. Apparently Status Quo had wreck the place to get into Nexus City.

Just great, the agency Hank works in has business there as well. You could only worry that Project Nexus might be a possible objective for the group. If so, then sabotaging them would be on the board. For now it's clean up time.

Apparently the group's explosive bust up had made an opening for Zeds to break in. You would have to cover Josuke's ass during his restoration parts. Good thing the Sheriff had a shotgun lying around.

It's always satisfying when a Zombie head's explode via buckshot. The sadistic part of you placed Hank's face over each Zed that crawled too close. He was going to be a huge pain in the ass. Something you drilled into Josuke's head on one conversation.

"What's this Hank guy even like? Is he really that dangerous?" An innocent question that would make anyone stiff or shocked. "A mercenary with a psychotic talent for killing. The A.A.H.W was made to fight him and he tears them apart like tissue paper. Blow up the motherfucker to smithereens? He'll only come back ready to kill."

Once the last area was restored did the two of you report back to Sheriff. The man was absolutely ecstatic seeing his facility now in one piece. In fact, he even gave you a little bonus: a special contact with someone.

Sheriff mentioned it would be best to call them once getting inside. They could help you and Josuke find a place to stay. A good thing cause Status Quo were about to have a shitty day.

Future confrontation with Hank? Definitely. It's a race to Project Nexus and sabotages are bound to happen. As for the zombies, you have to expect the undead slipping in if an opportunity presents itself.

Until next time folks, continue to thrive in the Madness and I'll see back in Nevada. Happy holidays!

[hellomynameisbisexual]

Defining Bisexuality

The term bisexual refers to people who experience feelings of romantic, emotional, and sexual attraction to people of more than one gender. It is not simply an attraction to both men and women - you can be attracted to women and non-binary folks, for example, and still consider yourself bisexual.

Am I Pansexual Or Bisexual?

Many people get confused between bisexuality and pansexuality - and understandably so! The terms are somewhat interchangeable, and many people who consider themselves "bisexual" may also consider themselves "pansexual", or vice-versa.

Traditionally, bisexuality used to mean attraction to both men and women. However, now that our understanding of gender identity has come to embrace gender non-conforming and non-binary folks, the label doesn't exclude attraction to any of these.

On the other hand, pansexuality is often defined as attraction to all genders or attraction regardless of gender. This is in contrast to bisexuality, where you may have preferences or not feel attraction to certain genders. In fact, some people identify with the term "bisexual" rather than "pansexual" specifically because gender plays a role in who they are attracted to - for example, being much more attracted to women than men.

So, which term best describes you? That's easy! Whichever one you're most comfortable identifying with.

How Do I Know If I Am Bisexual?

If you aren't sure where you fall on the LGBTQ+ spectrum, here are a few signs that you might be bisexual.

You're Attracted To Multiple Genders

If you've been daydreaming about a hot guy and girl on your way to school or work, you could bisexual! Your attraction to different genders doesn't necessarily have to be equal - for example, you may be primarily attracted to men, but every now and then, a woman or non-binary person will get you hot under the collar. Bisexuality comes in many shapes and sizes and it's all equally valid!

You've Been Taking Online Tests

While an internet quiz isn't the best way to define your sexual orientation, it can give you insight into what you might be feeling. If you've taken an "Am I Bisexual" quiz and all signs point to yes, this can prompt an even deeper examination of your bisexual identity.

You Relate To Bisexual People

While only you can decide your identity, spending more time within queer spaces can help you come to terms with your orientation. Do you feel at home within the bisexual community and feel like they're "your people"? This could be a sign that you are bisexual, too!

Myths About Being Bisexual

Exploring your sexual orientation can be challenging due to widespread myths and misinformation. Below we'll bust a few common myths that you might've heard about bisexuality.

It's Just A Phase

The most common myth you'll hear about bisexuality is that you are just confused and will eventually come out as gay or lesbian. "Am I bisexual or gay" or "Am I bisexual or lesbian" are actually some of the most common questions you might ask yourself while figuring things out!

In some cases, bisexuality is a stepping stone for people who are still discovering who they are. Sexuality is also fluid, which means that someone who identifies as bisexual now may identify as something else later on. However, for many bisexuals, it's not a phase - it's a lifelong identity.

You Are Half-Gay, Half-Straight

You are not "partially" gay or straight - bisexuality is its own identity, with its own unique experiences and challenges. You don't have to feel attracted to guys and girls equally!

You're Only Bi If You've Had Experience With Men & Women

Many people falsely assume that you are only bisexual if you are dating or have dated someone of the same sex. The truth is that no person is defined by who they are in a relationship with. In fact, you don't even have to be dating anyone!

Bisexual People Are More Likely To Cheat

Being bisexual does not mean you're greedy, or selfish, or promiscious. It also doesn't mean you are more likely to cheat on your partner because you have a "wider set of options." Ultimately, your sexual identity - whether straight, bisexual, or queer - has nothing to do with how likely you are to cheat.

Bisexual Men Are Gay In Denial/Bisexual Women Are Straight In Denial

There are two things that these myths have in common:

It's important to believe bisexuals when they self-identify as such. It's also possible that someone may identify as bisexual now and something else later. This doesn't mean they were in denial before - sexuality is fluid!

All Bisexual People Are Into Threesomes

Sorry to burst your bubble, but the answer to "Why am I bisexual?" is rarely "threesomes". While there are plenty of bisexual people who enjoy the occasional menage-a-trois, there are plenty who don't. Similarly, engaging in group sex with people of different genders does not automatically mean that you're bisexual.

Where To Get Support

Sometimes, it can be hard to come to terms with your sexuality, especially if you don't receive the support you deserve from friends and family. The good news is, there are many available resources that can help you better understand your journey.

Support Groups

Some people refrain from attending support groups because they consider it a "bad thing" or associate it with "needing to get better." However, support groups are an excellent way to have a conversation with like-minded people in an environment that doesn't judge or shame. You can easily find a support group through the Bi Resource Center.

Therapy

A person who is coming to terms with their sexuality might sometimes become depressed or experience anxiety. If you are developing negative thoughts, experiencing suicide ideation, or even if you're just confused about how to identify, you can always talk it out with a queer-inclusive therapist. These professionals are equipped to handle queer-specific problems and can even provide medical advice.

Online Resources

Exploring your sexuality doesn't always feel good. As a matter of fact, it can sometimes be a stressful experience, especially if you lack the resources to understand what you are going through. Fortunately, many online resources can help you come to terms with your sexuality.

The Bi Resource Center is the biggest online community for individuals who want to connect, exchange information, and donate to LGBTQ causes. Other groups include the student-run Genders and Sexualities Alliance Network (GSA) and The Trevor Project for crisis intervention.

The Bottom Line

If discovering your bisexuality has made you feel isolated and alone, don't worry - many people feel the same way. With the right resources and support, your self-discovery journey can be enriching and exciting. Remember, there is no wrong way to identify!

[nonbinaryresource]

Hi! I'm fairly new to all of this, so I'm feeling a bit overwhelmed. I just want to ask, is it normal to experience gender dysphoria when you're nonbinary? I'm AFAB, but I often get dysphoric in regards of my bust size, however sometimes I'm completely cool with that. Also, I sometimes feel 'too masculine' if I bind, but again, sometimes it doesn't bother me. Am I nb? Is there a term to describe this? Is this normal? Is there a way of reaching 'neutrality'? Thanks in advance!

Yes, anybody can experience gender dysphoria, whether you are cis, binary trans, nonbinary, a culturally-specific gender, or anything else.

Dysphoria or lack thereof does not define your gender. It just defines an aspect of how you feel about gender. Dysphoria can be felt at different intensities at different times regarding different things and be triggered by different things. There’s no one way to experience dysphoria.

The word for experiencing dysphoria is “dysphoric”. The word for being nonbinary is “nonbinary”.

I cannot tell you if you’re nonbinary because I am not you, and you are the only one who can define your gender. From our FAQ:

Q: I feel __. What gender does that make me?

A: The only person who can really tell you what your gender is, is you. Take a look at this list of gender identities (or this one or this one) and see if one jumps out at you. This is not a comprehensive list but it is a good start. It is also completely fine to go by a general/umbrella term if you are unable to pin down your specific gender/gender feelings, don’t want to specifically define your gender, no more specific genders seem/feel right to you, or any other reason.

If you want to try out calling yourself nonbinary, then do it! You don’t need anybody’s permission to label yourself or explore your identity.

I am not sure what you mean by neutrality, but this is also in our FAQ:

Q: How can I cope with dysphoria?

A: Please take a look at our coping tag and look into “adaptive” vs “maladaptive” coping. There are short-term methods of coping (distraction, self-soothing, reassuring yourself, having a friend reassure you, etc.) and long-term methods of coping (utilizing therapy, CBT techniques, meditation, mindfulness, etc.). While we fully support using short-term methods as needed, we will always suggest you begin practicing and utilizing long-term, adaptive methods of coping because that will be more helpful to you in the long-term, and you deserve to live a happier, more comfortable life.

I’ve cultivated a small 101 tag which you may find useful/interesting. @transgenderteensurvivalguide​ also has an extensive network of resources, such as their What Am I?,  NB Resources, and NB Flowchart pages. Please feel free to come back and ask us more questions whenever you need.

~Pluto

[wolfstar-ask]

*screams and busts back into your lives* Remus NO your body doesn't define your gender and neither does what other people call you. I'm so sorry this is happening to you but you don't have to give up on being who you are! ~Hufflepuff M

I-I’m sorry I-I didn’t mean to upset you sorry -Remi