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doodle-dog-diary · 2 months ago

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Ran into an "everything was better in my day" old guy today who was genuinely shocked to learn that he was in his teen years before his mother was allowed a bank account without a man's permission

#this #this is the thing that eats me up all the time #the way society influences the way people are #those stupid chinese historical novels like #'hmm my mother in law is such a stingy penny pinching bitch i wonder why that is it must be because shes inherently a bad person'#no NO you idiot she hasnt had a day of financial freedom in her life there was never a day where she wasnt living under a mans thumb the #only money she could call hers was her dowry and if times were tight her husband could just take it from her to 'help out the family' and if #you were poor you wouldnt have shit for a dowry at alllll #and if your husband fell out of love wifh you youd have nothing left #do you #do you understand #and it still STILL echos and reverberates into today #why else would the novels be written like that #the way the constant thread across all these wish fulfillment transmigration novels is 'i want a man who trusts me with the finances'#'i want my family to support me' 'i want to be acknowledged for my achievements' 'when my idiot brother fucks up i want my parents to be #just and not blindly side with him' 'i want to be seen' 'i want to be loved' 'I WANT TO BE LOVED'#im crying bc THESE SHOULD BE BASIC THINGS you should have these without even asking or YEARNING #i will never get over the way the one child policy and parents preferring sons over daughters created a whole entire generation of shittymen #and dealing with This Kind of men as coworkers brothers partners shaped chinese women to be the way they Are #its so shit ITS SO SHIT i know we literally just had a conversation about this but this just got me thinking about it again and if i have to #stew over this alone i will SCREAM #hiding this in the tags like how chinese romance authors unknowingly hide the most hard hitting heartbreaking realities of navigating #society as a women in the subtext #ITS SUPPOSED TO BE BRAINLESS FLUFF WHY AM I CRYING MY HEART OUT FUCK YOU

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