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androphagy · 1 month ago

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if you lean into or join in with misogynist jokes and threats as a trans man or transmasc because you pass as cisgender or are "man enough" to the person/people who are talking that way you are a traitor to the trans demographic as a whole. if you're scared of being outed and assaulted due to standing up for those affected by misogyny, sex or gender based, then don't say anything. keep your mouth shut. make it clear you're uncomfortable or glare at them or roll your eyes but if you can call it out, do it. do anything besides giving into misogynistic behavior under a misguided attempt at acceptance. if those men making the jokes and threats knew you were AFAB and/or you had any stereotypically "physically feminine" traits (long hair, breasts, makeup, etc) they would target you the same as they would anyone else they deemed acceptable.

there's nuance here, obviously, but the cis men making cruel and misogynistic threats and "jokes" will not see you as a man if you're outed. you are not allying yourself with people who will protect you. you are allying yourself with people who would hurt you if you were alone and they/he was fairly sure they/he could get away with it, and even then sometimes you don't need to be alone and it'll happen anyway. people will look the other way. the legal system protects rapists. law enforcement protects rapists. the other cis men will protect rapists. ask me how i know.

don't become someone who protects that behavior. believe that you're better than them, because you are, and put that treatment beneath you. is what they have to offer really worth whatever acceptance you may see in their eyes? why do you want their acceptance and approval at all?

#long post #long tags #obviously this isn't say ''all men'' jfc but if you actually have life experience cis men especially white #or cishet are extremely entitled and should be assumed to be a danger. don't be naive. it is not your fault but you must take steps to #protect yourself from men who are misogynistic and you must learn to recognize the signs #because they're not always overt. trust your gut #the ''cishet white man'' thing became a massive meme and joked about constantly but it comes from a genuine terror.#you don't want to be like them. no brief ''gender euphoria'' or feeling of masculinity is worth #furthering such an extremely pervasive and dangerous ideology. terfs aid and abet this and they're not all women.#to ''be a man'' in presentation is to stand up for yourself and others and use the privilege/authority/whatever you want to call it #you have for good and not to prop up would be rapists at best and real rapists and murderers at worst.#i know that sounds overwhelmingly doom and gloom but please read how many articles there are on #the rape murder impregnation and brutalization that misogyny affected people experience #trans women are abused and stats on their abuse are skewed because the legal system doesn't care about them.#i could go on for so much longer but these tags are already so long #transmisogyny cw #lgbt issues #transphobia #lgbt #assault cw #sa tw #ask to tag

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floret-botanica · 3 years ago

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Three songs asks! 2, 23, 30?

Partly stealing your formatting for this >:)

2. The last three songs you listened to:

Was just beginning my morning (at 10am oops) so it's a weird shuffle of songs from my 2021 Top Songs.

I Was An Island, Allison Weiss

Now THIS is an polyguild song. I honestly don't love the way that The Actual Music Is, but I know every beat of this as a theoretical animation.

Time Moves Slow, BADBADNOTGOOD, Samuel T. Herring

One of the many songs I found during my brief stint on TikTok. So chill and pleasant. I rarely skip this, which is saying a lot for me.

Messy, emily the band

Love love love this artist. My favourite song of theirs is Tokyo but I haven't listened to 2021 stuff yet (very excited). Just some sad soft queer vibes.

23. Three songs that never fail to get you pumped up:

Hmm, interesting. I don't usual listen to music to get "pumped up" in the traditional athletic sense, so these will be a little weird.

Kids, PUP

Honestly really anything by PUP, but this was the first one to come up. I move a lot when listening to all music, but I have to move when listening to PUP.

Люди, Дайте танк (!)

I do not speak Russian. This songs slaps. (Admittedly it's more dance-y than anything but, again, the moving must happen).

Do I Wanna Know?, Arctic Monkeys

It's the gender euphoria song. Masculinity is a slow pan up a man playing a bass guitar no I am NOT taking notes.

These got progressively further from the prompt but I'm not changing them lol.

30. Three songs you really want your followers to know (for reasons other than all those above):

This is going to be tough, but I've tried to cover a few of these with the previous questions.

No Fire, Sofya Wang

I assume this was written as a breakup song (the artist, as far as I know, is a lesbian) but I have to interpret this as an aromantic song. "Even though you're mine to hold / Even though you feel like home [...] If I just can't feel the heat / Is there something wrong with me?"

I'm mostly past that part of my journey now, but not too long ago this spoke to feelings that I couldn't even begin to recognise in myself.

A Complete List of Fears Ages 5-28 (Aprox), The Yellow Dress

I Love This Song. It really follows my passion for slightly unexpected, awkward or non-traditional love songs.

Aawake At Night, half•alive

It just sounds so good. No thoughts, only vibes.

#this took longer than I thought #long post #the last three listened songs has obviously completely changed now haha #messing around with asks

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