#you being misunderstood as a masculine woman does NOT mean youre butch

[hotsugarbyglassanimals]

you guys are pissing me the fuck off as a femme for literally equating butches to men when we say lesbian =/= men (cis or trans) . i am fucking astonished. “If you say lesbians dont date men wait till a butch dyke walks into a bar irl and-“ you are beyond a fucking dumbass if you think the words butch or dyke somehow encompasses men

[chaos-coming]

I just spent an unreasonable amount of time on a vent post then tumblr just decided to eat it. But im so irritated that im typing it out again.

My roommate is a White Enby(tm) and besides their atrocious eating habits (they eat almost nothing and exercise all the time like hello ed?) i'm not sure whether im experiencing ethnic or gender microaggressions, or if given the way White People view gender as inherently based in whiteness, is there even a meaningful distinction there for me.

Like i'm getting strong 'women and people we see as women' vibes from them and they dont seem too happy about the fact that as a trans man i'm not just some hairless androdgynous twink. I'm getting the distinct feeling that they have misunderstood the concept of masculinity and what it means to be a masculine person, and dont actually want to live with someone who isnt just Butch Woman Lite (tm).

But also with microaggressions theyre often subconcsious and its possible my roommate is just having a harder time living with someone from another culture than they through they would. Like they let me put the nazar above the doorway, but laugh at my poor german and make no effort even though theyre the monoglot and i speak 4 other languages and am a certified english teacher. They think my food tastes great but complain that it smells too strong (dude wth food is going to smell like food when its cooking, open a window afterwards you dont gotta teach me like im a child, its not my fault you never cook with flavor and also decided to make the living room your bedroom so you practically live inside the kitchen with its smells and noise).

But mostly i've been really hairy my whole life, even before transitioning, and i'm getting a little tired of hearing almost daily complaints about the hair 'problem' like i clean the shower drain every time and wash the sink when i shave, but being told that i need to wash the shower floor after every shower because there are 3 hairs left that i missed feels a bit microaggressive. So does being told that my shit stinks like a man (seriously!! This person literally thinks their shit dont stink. Is your afab body inherently cleaner than mine because youre not on hrt? Or is it because youre a hairless blonde and blue eyed german with a buzzcut who eats nothing but bread and veggie hotdogs)

Am i too nonwestern for you? Did i not fulfill your White Liberal Diversity Fantasy in the correct way? Is my masculinity too masculine for you to pretend im not a man? It really feels like theyre unable to reconcile their self image as Woke(tm) with the reality of their tiny comfort zone. This person wants to live in a diverse communal household but apparently that means living exclusively with other white, western european, afab enbies/lesbians (aka women and people they see as Woman Lite) who are exactly like them but wear a slightly different undercut.