#you absolutely dont have to like the music rhett is putting out. thats personal taste. but to shit on him as a person because of it...

[stuffandwonder]

It makes me sad that I have seen over the course of the last week or so people getting mad or upset with Rhett for having a solo project and essentially saying he's a horrible person for going off and doing something without Link

Hes his own person, he's allowed his own hobbies and interests, they both are, and it's perfectly normal and healthy to do things for yourself that aren't always WITH someone, be that a friend or romantic partner or whatever.

I even saw someone accusing him of 'scheming' behind Links back and saying he's a horrible person for keeping it secret .. like 5 mins in to this week's eb Rhett says this isn't something he's been thinking or scheming about strategically, it's just an organic thing that happened and progressed. He says multiple times he wasn't sitting there writing with the thought of this being a business decision or for a specific creative purpose, they just.... came out of him.

Hearing him talk about how writing the songs allowed him to process emotional, relational stuff like deconstructing from a faith your parents gave you and still have, or dedicating your children to God, when they were born, and then no longer believing in that God but still wanting the best for them, it seems so cynical to think he went into this from the first thinking he wanted to create a seperate thing from Mythical and Link. He admits he's performance minded and he started to be aware of and feel like he was making something. But he specifically started thinking of how it would be relatable and helpful for people coming from a similar deconstruction experience. That's not selfish, that's... kinda the opposite of selfish.

And it clearly wasn't a secret from Link?! Link says he knew the producer, Derek, would do something great with it, which means he at least knew from that point, which is the first point it really seriously became a thing anyway. And Link mentions Rhett talking about the plans for the EP. Like did those people complaining Rhett kept it a secret even listen to eb before they threw that accusation around?!

Okay sure, they didn't have a big in-depth conversation about it, and maybe Link would of preferred that, but conversely Rhett had reasons for not wanting a big involved convo early on, and not talking about something as much as you could or maybe even should have, depending on how you feel, is absolutely not the same as 'going behind someone's back' or purposefully keeping something a secret. Wildly different degrees of problem there.

Lot of respect for Link being honest and saying he had some initial concerns about Rhett doing some solo stuff but also realising some of that is due to his personality and how he thinks.

And thats probably why they didn't have that big conversation, because Rhett doesn't think like that. And its great if all this and the other things Link mentions like the podcast with his dad make him feel like he can hive himself more permission to go chase his own passions/projects! Ultimately that just felt like it became a really healthy thought process for Link and what with that and Link saying he loves the single and that if he heard it as a random song he would send it to Rhett to be like 'listen to this!' (so friggin cute!!) how can you listen to this and come away from it with the sense Link feels wronged in someway? And as long as he doesn't feel wronged... what's the problem?

Okay. Rant over. Just had to get that out having listened to eb and seeing some of that talk before hand

*****

Some other fave non-rant related bits:

"Me and you singing together is a very specific, great and beautiful thing" awwwww ❤❤

"I am going to have some James and the Shame merch" "nipple clamps? G-strings?" Lolol what. Link.... why were THOSE your first suggestions? 👀 Huh?!