#yes i put my psd on a meme leave me alone

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What would prevent you from following someone?

I usually like to see some actual roleplay replies ( unless the blog has been offline for a little while or hiatus ) and I like to see neat posts. Not edited but I don’t like posts that get reblogged endlessly without cutting then down in size. I also am not a fan of asks that then get reblogged instead of starting them in a new post. Small things like that would possibly prevent me from following. I don’t care if you have wonderful graphics or look all fancy cool with editing — as long as you write and enjoy it. I just get slight ocd with the dash being clogged so yeah, that is mostly all that would prevent me. I do also have a slight fear of rejection so if I’m admiring a blog too much I might be hesitant about following in case they don’t follow back and I feel all insecure about it. Not something that happens too much. 

Are aesthetics important to you? If they are, why?

I’ll be honest (duh Ali, that’s the point of this meme!) but I have never really grasped the concept of aesthetics. I understand them but I never really post them or reblog the memes where I have think up some for a muse. That being said, I do love seeing people post them an occasionally I do reblog ones that are already set up for my muse. Are they important? Not really. 

What current rp trend do you hate?

I don’t really know many trends in the rp community. I’m not down with the kids enough to know any …. hmm I guess I’m not a fan of icons getting so small you can’t see who is in them. Also when the psd is very pretty but again, doesn’t make it very clear what the icon is. I don’t know if that is even a trend. 

How do you explain rp to someone in the real world?

I don’t. There are very few people in my real life who know that I do any writing online. I usually just say I write fan fiction. I did tell one new colleague about it and that led to her wanting to see my blog so she could read things … which she was very supportive of. She actually loved the threads I have. But yeah, my roleplaying life is mostly a secret thing that I find easier not to explain. 

Do you prefer interacting with male muses or female more? Why?

I honestly don’t have a preference. I love writing with all muses, no matter the gender. As long as we have a connection to work on, I’m happy to explore it. Not only do I ship my muses (pretty much all the time) with both genders, I also don’t just concentrate on shippy things so writing with either gender is important. It helps build well rounded relationships that only strengthen your own character development. 

Do you prefer writing male muses or female more? Why?

I pretty much only ever write female muses. I’d love to dabble with a male muse but I am very anxious of it. I was roleplaying many years ago and I did write a few males back then but got severely bullied over it. I was basically told that I could never really write a male when I’m a female, I was called sick and messed up … but this was a very long time ago, back in the days of myspace! Sometimes I want to grab a male muse just to see if it is any easier to find partners …. I know there can be a pull for many to write with males muses more than females. It’s sad but true and sometimes I think I should pick a male muse to test that out but … I never do it. Maybe I will one day. 

What’s your opinion on call out posts?

I think they can be more harmful than good. I do understand when someone is literally being toxic or cruel, that there needs to be moments of warning but almost all call outs that I have seen are just petty issues that could be dealt with in private. I think we need to stop this trend — ahhh a trend? but yeah, I think call outs are not great and should really be put to rest. Just like I think witch hunts when a call out happens need to be stopped. At the end of the day, we are all pretty much here to write muses we love. Why does that need to lead to any call outs or bullying? 

Name any three things about the rpc that bother you.

The elitists — now, I know a lot of people come across that way but they aren’t really elitist. I am talking about the few who KNOW they are the only person who should write a muse and project their own headcanons as being CANON even if that can lead others (who write the muse) to feel a little uneasy / anxious. I love headcanons and I love everyones take on a muse but nobody here has any more claim to a muse than anyone else. Anon hate culture — oh how I hate this! I’m old and I always tell myself that anons matter very little but sometimes it is too easy to let them get to you. We are all human at the end of the day so it isn’t always easy to switch off to them. I will never understand why people do it. Lastly, the fickle — idk if that’s the right way to word that. I basically don’t like the blogs that come along and are all over you for a quick minute before they move on the moment they have enough of a following. It makes me feel like a stepping stone and it has happened so much to me … which does make me question if it is me but then I don’t know what I have done to make it happen. 

What is your opinion on exclusivity? Do you practice it? Why / why not?

I don’t have much of an opinion of this. I think in the right situation it is nice to have an exclusive partner you can write things with. I do know it doesn’t always work out when it is a big fandom but I understand why people do it. I have never really had the chance to try it so that is the only reason I don’t. 

Have you ever had a bad experience with commissions? As either someone who makes them or as someone who buys them?

Yes, I paid someone up front for a commission as they were struggling with things financially and then they never actually completed my commissions. I didn’t do anything or call out …as I don’t like that, I just passed it off as being a mistake I’d learn from. 

What do you know now about rp that you wish you knew when you first started?

That is better to find like minded writers rather than trying to get in with the more popular blogs (the ones that seem to have all the love and threads) I have made some wonderful friends here with some of the most exceptional writers ( this Leta being one of them), I just know that some blogs are here to be popular and they hoard partners ....and being a number is not great. Write how you want, with anyone you want to and enjoy being here. Popularity is not important. 

Have you been involved in drama? Do you regret it?

I have had drama in the past, sure. When you have been roleplaying as long as I have, you are expected to run into drama. I do regret being a part of any drama but it was unavoidable. I do try to stay clear of it as much as I can now … though I will always check in with someone who is suffering. I hate to see someone going through something alone. 

Have you ever thought about leaving rp? What caused it? What changed your mind?

That’s a funny one considering I started to delete my blogs just yesterday. It was some of that lovely anon hate … which I know is very silly to get upset over, especially to delete over. I was in a bad place for IRL reasons and the anons didn’t help matters. Talking to people who actually care was the only reason why my Queenie is still here today. I realized that letting an anon bully me away from a thing I love is just unhealthy — especially when you can switch the anon off and be very happy here. On that note, I’d like to thank all who talked to me yesterday. It was so heart warming to have people show me compassion and understanding. 

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