#yall still have work to do! figure your shit out instead of copying our homework

[fite-club]

i think its hilarious when asexuals say shit like "weve ALWAYS been here!!!" here being The LGBT Community when we all know a cohesive asexual community pretty much didnt exist until AVEN in the 2000s and david jay himself describe(s/d) being unable to find any mentions of or fellow asexual people in LGBT communities at the time... so clearly they werent always here. early versions of asexuality dot org even say that most asexual ppl blend in well and are minimally affected by heterosexism lol.

people will get so aggressive and irate when you point out that the A in LGBTA did actually once stand for “ally”. everyone acts like it’s a malicious and ahistorical thing to point out but it’s true! the thing about being in your mid 20s is that a decade is actually a long time to have been on social media. when we say things like “the A didn’t always stand for ace/aro” or “aces started ‘no kink at pride’ discourse” it’s because we were actually there. obviously “trust me bro” isn’t a source but like, some of us actually lived through these discussions as they were happening instead of just reading about them afterwards. there isn’t some widespread conspiracy against the ace community, no one is making this stuff up. we saw it. i saw it.

i genuinely think the saddest thing about the online ace community is that their insistence on 1. inclusion above all else and 2. proving themselves to be oppressed and inherently queer has resulted in there being no real collective culture or history for the ace community. the number one thing (and frankly the only thing) the ace community has wanted is visibility— there are no rights being denied, no hate crimes. things like “my life as an amoeba” and david jay’s AVEN are undeniably foundational to the formation of asexual identity yet so frequently left out of conversations about ace history because those things contradict the modern ace-inclusionist worldview. because they state that asexuals don’t want sex or romantic partners, and that recognition and visibility is the ultimate goal. so how else can these people argue that the ace community was destroyed on tumblr by exclusionists? how else can these people argue that aces were at stonewall besides ignoring the notable figures who said otherwise?