#womenandsex

[thecoochiecoach]

Get it right, tight and ready to go for the summer solstice that is on the horizon. I know you may not want to speak about it, but you damn sure can benefit when you read about it. My goal is to lead all about it! #womenempowerwomen #healthysex #coochiecare #womenandsex https://www.instagram.com/p/Bx-Wbu1BV-T/?igshid=1wzfuzyg6fd7v

[rlynnpierce]

A Page a Day: Page 7 (the End): “Lulu’s Dance” - In the tradition of Sci-Fi, this play toys with time, fear and illusion. Lulu has waited for “John” in a 1940s War-torn bar for centuries - it seems. Tired and weary, she longs to return home, but cannot on her own. When he finally arrives, as they dance a slow jig, Lulu waits for the sign that “John” is the one because the only way home is through the dance. Published in my short plays collection, “On the Cusp of Humanity” (link is in my bio). #apageaday #plays #theatre #playwright #womenandsex #womensupportingwomen #amreading #sciencefiction #feminism #instagram #writingofinstagram #creativewritingofinstagram #shortplayscripts #playsbywomen #lulusdance https://www.instagram.com/p/Bp0aFAXngp6/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=2mv89inx4jg

[i-davidhauser]

Jessica and David Talk about "The Most Valuable Currency"

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[alionandrose]

Women and Sex

I really hate that if your a woman and  you like sex your automatically a hoe or insecure and you don’t respect yourself I swear the way society has taken women and sex and warped it ao much its ridiculous

The fact girls have to think about how they will be perceived before having sex its just ridiculous

[alwaysquestionallyousee-blog]

The Cycle of Rape Culture

            Just like thousands of other teenagers across the world, I decided to check my facebook timeline to see what my friends were up to on a school night. I then saw a massive amount of disrespectful comments about two women on the six train in New York City. It was publicized that two women had performed oral sex on two men at the same time, the video was then released on facebook and youtube for the world to see. It did not surprise me when I saw a plethora of my peers label these women such degrading names such as “Slut” or “Hoe”, this phenomenon of slut-shaming, where people degrade women because of the clothes she is wearing, is sexually active, has multiple sex partners, participates in sex a lot or is rumored to participate in sex with multiple sex partners, occurs every day within our society.

            Without fathoming it, we oppress each other on a daily basis. There are many elements within the topic of rape culture, many assumptions, factors, myths, and situations we overlook. What we don’t realize as a society is that there is a cycle that is occurring and that we ourselves may be contributing to rape culture as well. This cycle of rape culture occurs every day and without realizing it, we contribute to this culture. Rubin and multiple articles will help to show us that society’s standards oppress both men and women, regardless of race, when it comes to the topic of rape. Rape culture is a cycle that continuously occurs to constantly oppress everyone regardless of gender or race.

 Slut-shaming contributes to our rape culture as it is used as justification for those who commit the violent act of rape against women. These events lead me to a couple of questions: What would have happened if this event had not gone public? Would they still be labeled sluts? What is the difference between performing oral sex in public and private? It surprised me the most when women who themselves have been slut-shamed started degrading these women in the video as well. Classmates who gave birth at the age of sixteen, who knew what the pain of slut-shaming felt like, were also following such a violent trend. The publicity of consensual sex among women has allowed them to be targeted for such violence, therefore contributing to our rape culture.

 “Virtually all erotic behavior is considered bad unless a specific reason to exempt it has been established. The most acceptable excuses are marriage, reproduction, and love” (Rubin, Pg. 278). Rubin makes the argument that the link between sexual reproduction and the fact that sex is seen as procreative creates a sexual stigma towards those who fall outside of the hierarchical structure, or what is considered “bad” sex. We as a society have an ideal thought of when it is okay to have sex and when it is not okay to have sex. Once it is known that there are sexual relations that are inexcusable, stigmatization occurs.

Bussel mentions in her article that Lilit Macus, editor of Crushable.com, was stigmatized for announcing that she did not desire to give birth to children of her own. “In the past, most of the comments directed at me had been about selfishness or not doing my ‘duty’ as a woman by having kids…the responses to the Post article claimed I was a looses woman or that my desire not to have kids meant that I was sleeping around” (Bussel, Pg.1) Those that fall below the sexual structure Rubin mentions are stigmatized, more specifically, women who do not follow this sexual hierarchy are slut-shamed for not following their gendered expectations.

The reactions towards the publicity of consensual sex of women who are unmarried are continuously scrutinized because they fall outside of the sexual hierarchy. These reactions contribute to rape culture in our society, “The United States has been described as a rape culture where the act of rape is normative, meaning it is essentially a condoned behavior.” (Rozee). Being sexually active, unmarried and having multiple partners all fall out of the gendered expectations, with the public being aware of this it causes women to become susceptible to a plethora of scrutiny. These hate crimes against women because they are acting “out of place” is what we call sexual terrorism, “…the threat of rape and sexual assault that controls a woman’s life whether or not she is actually physically or sexually violated” (Shaw&Lee, Pg.75). “Such terrorism limits women’s activities and keeps us in line by the threat of potential sexual assault” (Shaw&Lee, Pg. 568). Hate crimes against women were meant to keep them in tune with how females are supposed to act. With these hate crimes developing, social myths about rape also develop.

One very popular social myth about rape says “Women are at least partly responsible for their victimization in terms of their appearance and behavior” (Shaw and Lee, Pg. 568). This social myth specifically pertains to a woman’s clothing and her appearance. To say that a woman is at fault of her rape because of what she wears presupposes a standard of dressing that women must follow so that women can be safe from victimization. This leads to a false sense of security and constrains a woman’s choice of clothing because of the fear of rape or violence, sexual terrorism is highly prevalent in this specific area. Other myths include: “Men are not totally responsible for their actions. If a woman comes on to a man sexually, it is impossible for him to stop”, “Rape happens less frequently in our society than women believe”. A woman is vulnerable to these myths once her sex life is publicized, “These myths not only support masculine privilege concerning sexuality and access to woman and therefore support some men’s tendency to sexually abuse women, but are also important means for controlling women’s lives” (Shaw and Lee, Pg. 568). These social myths reinforce gender roles. Slut-shaming and social myths are what contribute to our rape culture and create this unfortunate cycle of hate crimes against women.

Through time, we see that women become objectified and seen as useful for the sole purpose of sex. All these hate crimes, bullying, violence, and slut-shaming unfortunately start at a very young age. “I think we’re seeing the ‘pornification’ of British culture. Too many young girls are absorbing from the popular culture around them that they only have value as sex objects” (Rickman). Women have been objectified for many years; Rubin shows us the link between women, sex and procreation as being the “Good” kind of sex for our society. This link between women and procreation has objectified women and created social roles within our society. It will become impossible to rid our society of the oppression of women when women are constantly objectified. Objectification of women start at a young age. “Young girls and women are subject to ‘slut shaming’ and sexual bullying in schools…We found quite a lot of sexual bullying, touching up on girls, and pushing them down” (Rickman). The article by Rickman also explains how objectification is translated from ideas to actions. When females are seen as objects and there is a continual pattern to think of women as such, these thoughts eventually become actions and create hate crimes and violence against women. With the double bind in effect, there is no chance for women to escape such a predicament.

Young youtuber by the name of astorice speaks out against slut-shaming as she admits it is something that occurs at her school as well. She mentions how easily it is for girls her age to throw around the word “slut” without fathoming how they are contributing to rape culture. "I'm noticing a lot of girls my age starting to say it, and it just shocks me every time. How could they use such offensive language in such a casual manner? It's like they don't even know the meaning of their words, and that's the thing -- they don't know". Women themselves are taught to victimize each other due to the constant hate crimes and social myths. Women have been taught to follow such social myths that they slut-shame each other without even realizing it, and it starts at a very young age.

On one hand, if a female is sexually active and this has been publicized, she is vulnerable to snide and embarrassing remarks. On the other hand, if she refrains from sexual activity she is scrutinized for being a lesbian. “If she is heterosexually active, a woman is open to censure and punishment for being loose, unprincipled or a whore…if she refrains from heterosexual activity, she is fairly constantly harassed by men who try to persuade her into it and pressure her to ‘relax’”. (Frye, Pg.85). This situation is what we call a double bind, in which options are reduced to a very few and all of them expose one to penalty, censure or deprivation (Frye). With this double bind in place, it leaves a woman in the predicament where she has no choice but to be a victim of hate crimes that contribute to our rape culture.

With popular culture creating female sexual predators as a fantasy, we do not realize men are also being oppressed as well. The social roles being enforced force men to stay silent of their rape or sexual abuse. ”Female sexual predators are often depicted as objects of teenage fantasy in popular culture, but this ignores the fact that men can be victims of rape by women” (Huffpost). Former U.S. Marine James Landrith shares his story of Huffington Post on his experience of being raped by a woman on duty. He describes his experience as a “lose-lose situation” in seeing that the woman was pregnant and she would claim that he is trying to hurt the baby if he tried to fight back. Slut-shaming usually refers to a woman, which carries the general assumption that men will always be the perpetrators. “… for many men, the subject is so discomfiting that it is rarely discussed — virtually taboo, experts say, because of societal notions about masculinity and the idea that men are invulnerable and can take care of themselves” (Rabin). There is a chance; experts say that far more men than woman could have been raped because so many male rape cases go unreported. We often at times overlook how rape can happen to both genders because of the assumption that males will always be the predators. With the assumption of males always being the predators, males themselves are oppressed as they cannot speak out on their accounts of rape.

Even those who hold high positions in office still believe in the traditional thinking of how women contribute to their own victimization. Because of the power men hold and because of the access they have to office, it reinforces and influences others to think alike. The SlutWalk movement that occurred in 2011, and will be occurring again each year, began because someone of a high position tried to reinforce the victimization of a woman, slut-shamed, reinforced a standard of dressing and most importantly, scrutinized someone for acting out of their gendered expectation. “The movement, which has held protests in Boston, Denver, San Francisco and New Dehli, India, originated earlier this year in response to a Toronto police constable who provokhed outrage by saying women should avoid "dressing like sluts" in order to avoid being sexually assaulted” (Huffingtonpost). With men attaining power, they have the power to influence others and the way they think. This influence can spread and lead to constant victimization of women.

Rubin discusses what society believes as “Good sex” and “Bad sex”. Anyone who falls under the category of bad sex will be heavily stigmatized and scrutinized. This high level of scrutiny is called slut-shaming, it contributes to our rape culture because it supports masculine privilege concerning sexuality, and it also reinforces the social roles women must presume in society. When they do not follow the gendered expectations, sexual terrorism and social myths try to keep women in line. These myths start at a very young age, create a false sense of security and limits women in their choices, such as how they dress, where they travel, what time they go out etc. With the social myths also presupposing that men will constantly be the predator, male rape is overlooked and oppresses men themselves. What we cease to realize is that by believing in these social myths, we are recreating violence against each other. Until we look through these social myths and fathom that rape is a deeply complex issue, we will continue to oppress each other and live life constantly against one another.

[rlynnpierce]

A Page a Day: Page 2: “Lulu’s Dance” - In the tradition of Sci-Fi, this play toys with time, fear and illusion. Lulu has waited for “John” in a 1940s War-torn bar for centuries - it seems. Tired and weary, she longs to return home, but cannot on her own. When he finally arrives, as they dance a slow jig, Lulu waits for the sign that “John” is the one because the only way home is through the dance. Published in my short plays collection, “On the Cusp of Humanity” (link is in my bio). #apageaday #plays #theatre #playwright #womenandsex #womensupportingwomen #amreading #sciencefiction #feminism #instagram #writingofinstagram #creativewritingofinstagram #shortplayscripts #playsbywomen #lulusdance https://www.instagram.com/p/Bpnd0QRlKC2/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=h8hzest2o685

[rlynnpierce]

A Page a Day: Page 1: “Lulu’s Dance” - In the tradition of Sci-Fi, this play toys with time, fear and illusion. Lulu has waited for “John” in a 1940s War-torn bar for centuries - it seems. Tired and weary, she longs to return home, but cannot on her own. When he finally arrives, as they dance a slow jig, Lulu waits for the sign that “John” is the one because the only way home is through the dance. Published in my short plays collection, “On the Cusp of Humanity” (link is in my bio). #apageaday #plays #theatre #playwright #womenandsex #womensupportingwomen #amreading #sciencefiction #feminism #instagram #writingofinstagram #creativewritingofinstagram #shortplayscripts #playsbywomen #lulusdance https://www.instagram.com/p/BpkpWwOHjas/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=zkrzigurtik9

[rlynnpierce]

A Page a Day: Page 11: From the short play, “That Woman’s Child.” Tracy, a hat designer, is the love child of a secret affair between her mother and a married man in a small town called Coral Cove. When she returns home years later to reopen her mother’s closed hat shop in the hopes of starting over, she discovers that the people of Coral Cove refuse to forget or forgive. Published in my short plays collection, “On the Cusp of Humanity” (link is in my bio). #apageaday #plays #theatre #playwright #womenandsex #womensupportingwomen #amreading #habidashery #feminism #instagram #writingofinstagram #creativewritingofinstagram #shortplayscripts #playsbywomen #thatwomanschild https://www.instagram.com/p/BpaicAfn0jh/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=19axkrcdrn6hb

[rlynnpierce]

A Page a Day: Page 10: From the short play, “That Woman’s Child.” Tracy, a hat designer, is the love child of a secret affair between her mother and a married man in a small town called Coral Cove. When she returns home years later to reopen her mother’s closed hat shop in the hopes of starting over, she discovers that the people of Coral Cove refuse to forget or forgive. Published in my short plays collection, “On the Cusp of Humanity” (link is in my bio). #apageaday #plays #theatre #playwright #womenandsex #womensupportingwomen #amreading #habidashery #feminism #instagram #writingofinstagram #creativewritingofinstagram #shortplayscripts #playsbywomen #thatwomanschild https://www.instagram.com/p/BpX-aWInNGk/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=1vazzn0o42qlk

[rlynnpierce]

A Page a Day: Page 9: From the short play, “That Woman’s Child.” Tracy, a hat designer, is the love child of a secret affair between her mother and a married man in a small town called Coral Cove. When she returns home years later to reopen her mother’s closed hat shop in the hopes of starting over, she discovers that the people of Coral Cove refuse to forget or forgive. Published in my short plays collection, “On the Cusp of Humanity” (link is in my bio). #apageaday #plays #theatre #playwright #womenandsex #womensupportingwomen #amreading #habidashery #feminism #instagram #writingofinstagram #creativewritingofinstagram #shortplayscripts #playsbywomen #thatwomanschild https://www.instagram.com/p/BpVW-6nHOCb/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=1ej5n8idezebn

[rlynnpierce]

A Page a Day: Page 8: From the short play, “That Woman’s Child.” Tracy, a hat designer, is the love child of a secret affair between her mother and a married man in a small town called Coral Cove. When she returns home years later to reopen her mother’s closed hat shop in the hopes of starting over, she discovers that the people of Coral Cove refuse to forget or forgive. Published in my short plays collection, On the Cusp of Humanity (link is in my bio). #apageaday #plays #theatre #playwright #womenandsex #womensupportingwomen #amreading #habidashery #feminism #instagram #writingofinstagram #creativewritingofinstagram #shortplayscripts #playsbywomen #thatwomanschild https://www.instagram.com/p/BpS3SVbnUXe/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=7ex52b7pt0bs

[rlynnpierce]

A Page a Day: Page 7: From the short play, “That Woman’s Child.” Tracy, a hat designer, is the love child of a secret affair between her mother and a married man in a small town called Coral Cove. When she returns home years later to reopen her mother’s closed hat shop in the hopes of starting over, she discovers that the people of Coral Cove refuse to forget or forgive. Published in my short plays collection (link is in my bio). #apageaday #plays #theatre #playwright #womenandsex #womensupportingwomen #amreading #habidashery #feminism #instagram #writingofinstagram #creativewritingofinstagram #shortplayscripts #playsbywomen #thatwomanschild https://www.instagram.com/p/BpP4TTmH9lS/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=sewd0sy4ljss

[rlynnpierce]

A Page a Day: Page 6: From the short play, “That Woman’s Child.” Tracy, a hat designer, is the love child of a secret affair between her mother and a married man in a small town called Coral Cove. When she returns home years later to reopen her mother’s closed hat shop in the hopes of starting over, she discovers that the people of Coral Cove refuse to forget or forgive. Published in my short plays collection (link is in my bio). #apageaday #plays #theatre #playwright #womenandsex #womensupportingwomen #amreading #habidashery #feminism #instagram #writingofinstagram #creativewritingofinstagram #shortplayscripts https://www.instagram.com/p/BpNx0acHsQU/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=1nhv37jvvj5hb

[rlynnpierce]

A Page a Day: Page 5: From the short play, “That Woman’s Child.” Tracy, a hat designer, is the love child of a secret affair between her mother and a married man in a small town called Coral Cove. When she returns home years later to reopen her mother’s closed hat shop in the hopes of starting over, she discovers that the people of Coral Cove refuse to forget or forgive. Published in my short plays collection (link is in my bio). #apageaday #plays #theatre #playwright #womenandsex #womensupportingwomen #amreading #habidashery #feminism #sassysaturday https://www.instagram.com/p/BpLC6TbHKtN/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=9paxgr9cdzm0

[i-davidhauser]

have fun, be happy and always tell your mom and dad you love them!