#with that being said. my dad is fair game bc he stole our car and has been trying to get us evicted and homeless for 4ish years

[defsiarte]

Forgot to say thank you to everyone for the kind words and tags on the Mom Post. I won’t lie that I’m a bit stressed at the moment and it’s put a huge strain on my relationship with her bc like??? this type of behavior is very out of character for her. Like it’s been a hard year and all and it’s been difficult watching her mental decline and shit and that doesn’t at all justify it but like… trying to navigate this situation is difficult because I’m both financially dependent on her and trying to get her to seek counseling.

With that being said, the reason she had access to my bank account in the first place was because it was made when I was underage and I legally couldn’t make an account in my own name. When I turned 18 I didn’t really think to change that bc besides the world pandemic going on, she and I were in an ongoing legal battle with my abusive father after he tried to kill me.

I guess this sort of thing is hard for me to stomach, why I’ve kind of been avoiding that post, because like for me I’ve really only recently been able to understand what’s defined as abusive. I won’t go into detail on the type of shit my dad subjected us to because it’s highly triggering but like… it’s hard to stomach that the same person who instantly flew into action and left his ass when I told her he was abusing me can also do harmful shit like this. In the past she really only added money to the account, or at least didn’t fucking leave the country. Take my money. Then buy souvenirs with it that nobody asked for.

Idk if any of this even makes sense dude. I guess thank you again for sharing, next time I’m able to go home (also costs money to do 🥴) I’ll get my birth certificate and social security card then like start the process of separating my assets 🧍🏿

[loplainlointhemorning]

and what’s worse is she sent me this text

and my brother was like “yeah well you could do some of that stuff” and I’m like yeah what. like you went to Atlanta and got to party and do cool things with our uncle and yeah you worked but you were paid 200 dollars a day and it added up to 2,000 dollars bc you’re his nephew. like. Mom and dad offered me a position that they wanted to design for me bc they need a staff manager and I agreed to it & they never figured out what they wanted. I offered to do data entry for the business and even tho there wasn’t much I still said I would do it, it was never given to me to do or explained to me. I said I would be willing to work in town if they would drive me, nobody would. I didn’t get a permit this summer PARTIALLY bc yeah, more school after the hardest semester of my life just sounded unbearable, but also bc everybody assured me I wouldn’t need a car in the city & my dad said that even if I got a license he would not allow me to drive in Richmond with only 4 months behind the wheel. so it was just like lowkey impractical & a lot of effort to just not learn anything or even be allowed to have a vehicle after the end of august.

so I don’t really have personal funds and everybody knows that. i Also have 0 access to my own financial information, like I couldn’t have a banking app until I stole my own SSN bc I kept asking my mom what it was and she said she didn’t know and that it was in a filing cabinet so I just took it. i can’t make deposits, pay apps, pay for lessons etc bc I’m only 22, I have been severely limited in terms of maturity, i haven’t been able to get a job or even work for my parents, and while I may have had some play in avoiding those things out of anxiety or fear ultimately I didn’t really have control over a lot of those circumstances.

in terms of cooking my own food, i don’t cook often besides basic things & when I Do cook I’m yelled at for “only feeding” myself, like if I’m caught making ramen on the wrong day I will be accused of being a selfish asshole. so I mainly subside off of leftovers or frozen/pre-made food that’s fair game, I will admit that I’m a dick abt doing dishes tho but nobody else does their dishes beyond rinsing them and in the past I have been screamed at for not loading the dw “properly” or mocked for not understanding sth so it’s just like idk if she feels so strongly abt it she can do it herself fr. in terms of applications I have done as much as possible by myself and done everything I could do legally on my own, AND I CAN scan documents???? I had to scan a signature for my HS diploma, ik how to do that and could have done it for you had you provided the documents but they were in another location with a different printer so it made sense that you do it. idk man. like it really hurt me that Mason’s like “yeah but ur not desperate enough to get a job like you COULD do some of these things” & im like broski we live in rural VA and I can’t drive bc I only got over my phobia of vehicles like 2 years ago if the fam stopped feeding me I would die bc any form of work available is 20 mins away by car bare minimum. it’s not that I’m not “desperate” it’s that even if I were, where would I go. like even if could be this perfect self sufficient person after a lifetime of my Mom not wanting that for me or me being unable to pursue it due to OCD, she would not want that. she doesn’t want me to leave bc I will become self sufficient. like why are you acting like she’s put upon or like I’m a deadbeat you’re such a dick sometimes