#witcher succubi are not dubcon!! they’re not!! they like having sex and they’re good at doing it and that is IT

[laurelnose]

kink cw

god not to immediately get involved in wank in the new year but i’ve been thinking about a dreamwidth post i read ages ago and now can’t find (i think by a kink-bingo mod, but again, i can’t find it) about how non-kinky people will often declare their boundaries to be “no hard kink,” with no explication of what the fuck “hard kink” means, or a brief explanation that leaves a significant amount to the imagination, with the implicit assumption that everyone has the same boundaries and ideas about kinkiness that they do, in a way that ends up making absolutely no fucking sense and kind of indicates that the person saying it has not, actually, thought very hard about kink and what their actual boundaries are.

anyways, eskelbigbang declared this:

Here's the list of hard kinks that we came up with: watersports, scat, vore, gore, noncon, dubcon, fireplay, ageplay. In addition, dead dove topics like underage, bestiality, necrophilia, etc. are not allowed.

and i just think it’s funny, is all. playing with fire (a thing which, in the context of Eskel and his sign control, is usually barely more intense in fic than regular temperature play) is Banned, but knifeplay or flogging would be totally fine? 24/7 power exchange or master/slave would be fine? choking and breathplay would be fine? fuck, they said everyone should be enthusiastically consenting, so would CNC/rape roleplay be fine? ageplay and incest are banned, but is daddy kink okay? actually, is any kind of incest roleplay okay, lmfao? what’s the stance on consensual humiliation and degradation? does consensual mind control and Axii fall under dubcon? basically, this list is VERY short, and i’ve seen some people using that as a defense for it, like “oh, not that many things are banned!” but to me it just screams “these people did not actually think very hard about any of this at all.” the backpedaling they had to do about drunk sex, in my mind, supports this. not even any acknowledgement that soft vore, hard vore, and cannibalism are different kinks, jesus christ.

“this event still has room for darkfic” is technically true, but with a set of mods who have clearly not fully thought out the limits here, what darkfic writer is going to be interested in investing their time only to run up against an unspoken boundary halfway through? because i don’t see clear boundaries and content limits set up here, I see a fucking minefield of unstated assumptions. and for an event that is not advertising themselves as all-ages and/or fluff-focused but just as a regular old character event, this is... not great. and yeah, writing clear and explicit content limits and enforcing them is fucking HARD, but if you want to have them, you gotta be ready to grapple with that! and no, “ask us if you think you’re crossing a line” is not a comprehensive policy. (kink aside, it’s a little odd they have nothing to say about abusive relationships. are these allowed or are they supposed to fall somewhere under noncon or something? are there limits on the portrayal of such, like the depiction of domestic violence? these content limits are weird as fuck, guys.)

also ofc scat and watersports always make the top of banned lists, that’s something the dreamwidth post talked about too, even tho those are pretty rare kinks which i have never run into in a big bang event in like, my entire life. kinkmemes, yeah, occasionally—big bang events, fucking never, lmfao. they just get picked as safe outliers because most people aren’t into them or are ashamed to say they are. just funny!