#why do you keep trying to defend yourself no one is gonig to randomly say

[aetheriumwar]

My apology applies to my ignorance and the intersexism I inflicted, and for that I am truly sorry. But I'm not sorry for not changing my name - which I've been going by for several years - because some people incorrectly assumed it was the Japanese name. They're two different names with two different origins.

Lots of things I want to address here so followers, forgive the wall of text.

1. I have to wonder why you’re coming back into my inbox with this. No one’s made a post about you since it happened. I also have to wonder why you’re staying on anon which is extremely childish. We are both adults here so I really do not understand why you’re not messaging me; it’s easy enough to make a throwaway account. And honestly? It’d be much easier for me to not get irritated with you if we were talking one on one. But if you’re fine airing your dirty laundry, okay. Sure.

2. I am not the one to come to with this shit. I am so tired of coddling white people. When multiple people are uncomfortable with something, when people of color especially are uncomfortable with something, you listen. And honestly? If you disagree with the criticism, just shut up and move on. It’s a really bad look to keep defending yourself when no one is even talking about you anymore.

3. Just did a few interesting searches to see the popularity of the name in Norway. Interestingly enough I can’t find zilch. It was popular in the middle ages in Denmark, but it is still a very common Japanese name. Just because a Norwegian character uses the name doesn’t mean it’s not Japanese. White kids can be named Japanese names, and are all the time. It doesn’t mean the name isn’t Japanese. It is basically dead in languages other than Japanese. Correct, it does have a different Norwegian origin; that date back to the Middle Ages when the name was Tooke. Which is a surname. When it did develop it lost popularity and all but died. Not in Japan, though! Awesome. Glad we’ve got that covered.

4. I’m turning anon off because I am not going to entertain white people who can’t shut the fuck up but also can’t come off anon. If you want to defend your choices, don’t be a coward about it. Otherwise there’s no point in keeping up the conversation. I have not made one post about you since the incident went down and quite frankly we are all tired of coddling you like a child. You got enough of that. No one is explaining it to you again. I don’t care about your excuses, defenses or bullshit logic, especially when you can’t even come off anon.

And I find it funny how you still have not given a proper apology for the intersexism. Do not apologize to me. I am not the one who you were being fucking awful to. And when you follow up your “true” apology with “but I’m not sorry about this:” it just shows what a bullshit apology it is to begin with. There are tons of guides on the internet, and specifically on Tumblr, that show you how to apologize properly. Maybe you should try to look for those because this is not it. And I am not going to accept your apology and I don’t even want to acknowledge it beyond pointing out how fucking performative it is, because it’s not my apology to accept. If you want to be a uwu good ally and actually listen to the people who raise valid fucking concerns about your behavior then here it is. And if you want to be an adult and not act like a coward and go on anon when my inbox is open, and you know my discord, you know where to find me. Otherwise do not come to me and expect me to respond kindly and forgive you for your mistakes.

I don’t know what else to say to you beyond the fact that this is so ridiculous. You are beating a dead horse. Either accept you’re wrong and change accordingly and be a better person or just leave it alone. Or at the very least be an adult about it.

And by the way, just because I’m a person of color literally does not mean I can or will accept your apology because you’re racist. I know it’d make you feel good about yourself if a person of color let you off the hook but that’s not even my place. I think maybe you should talk to a Japanese person and when they don’t accept your bullshit defenses of how you’re definitely not racist, maybe you’ll finally get it through your head that it’s not okay to just go ahead and use a Japanese name because a white fictional character uses it and once it was popular in the middle ages for white people to use.