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Travel Anxiety: Symptoms and Coping Strategies

Traveling is often an incredibly enriching experience, but it also can be very difficult for a few people. repeatedly, we are aware that we feel anxious or jittery about some aspect of our journey, but might not fully realize what’s happening. Could you be experiencing travel anxiety?

For many reasons, it’s common for people to undertake to require to cover our affected by those around us. It’s also true that anxiety can manifest in many various ways. Whether it’s a fear of flying or a requirement to triple-check the locks in your bedroom, whatever you're feeling is valid. There’s nothing to be ashamed about. Acknowledging and understanding what’s happening is that the initiative towards reclaiming your power and learning to manage your symptoms.

Pre-Travel Anxiety

As the name suggests, this sort of worrying occurs before a visit has begun and it can manifest in many various ways. most of the people will probably say that they’ve felt a touch of this, but when it’s so overwhelming that it threatens to derail your trip, it must be addressed.

People experiencing pre-travel anxiety could also be excessively concerned about:

Trip plans falling through.

Whether disrupting travel.

Missing their flight/oversleeping.

aged a plane.

Checking into the hotel.

Driving a rental car.

Navigating an unfamiliar city.

Trying new foods.

Getting sick while traveling.

Missing out on a landmark or experience.

Leaving their family reception.

Whether you or someone around you is experiencing anxiety before travel, don’t downplay the validity of the fears. It doesn’t get to add up — the source of travel anxiety doesn't need to be logical. It is, however, very real and will never be dismissed or downplayed. repeatedly, these feelings are beyond our control, but we will learn coping strategies to form traveling a touch easier.

Fear of Flying

About 40% of the population experiences some fear of flying, yet we aren’t normally ready to pick them out of a crowd. Why is that? We become excellent at hiding what’s happening inside us to avoid “making a scene” or being judged by others. the truth is that, if we opened and talked about this stuff more often, we wouldn’t feel so isolated and alone in our anxiety.

Here are a number of the items that would be associated with a fear of flying:

General anxiety about being in an airport.

browsing security

Being during a confined space.

Turbulence.

Fear of plane crashing or accident.

kinetosis.

Unsavory seatmate (sick, rude, unsanitary, etc…).

Using the restroom.

Becoming ill while onboard.

Being out of contact with loved ones.

Unexpected travel delays/missed connections.

If you’re nervous about aged a plane, don’t ever desire you're alone. many of us need to run through feelings of hysteria while on a flight. one of the items that help me is to use essential oils (apply them before the flight so that the scent isn’t too strong for fellow passengers). We also believe deep breathing techniques for anxiety to feel more grounded.

Checking In to the Hotel

Some won't even give this a reconsideration, but the whole process of checking in to a hotel is often terrifying for others. If I’m honest, this isn’t my favorite either. I’m always scared of my MasterCard being declined or the space being disgusting. this is often very true if they’re feeling anxious about being distant from home.

People with travel anxiety might worry about:

The hotel booking is lost.

Their MasterCard being rejected.

Being stranded during a foreign country.

Hidden or excessive fees.

Theft.

The cleanliness of the hotel.

Bedbugs.

The list goes on and on. Your hotel is your home far away from home when you’re traveling, so it’s not surprising that this will be a source of travel anxiety for a few. It’s hard not knowing what to expect from a hotel until you arrive. you would like to be comfortable and safe, and after hearing numerous horror stories about hotels, it’s not surprising that folks might worry.

Getting Sick While Traveling

No one wants to return down with something while traveling. Who wants to spend their vacation with the sniffles or a stomach ache, right? for a few people, though, this is often an enormous worry. it's going to not even matter what sort of sickness, either. Still, if the enormous flu or measles outbreak is happening just days before travel, it’s easy to ascertain why someone might feel anxious. Here are some fears people may need about getting sick while traveling:

Concerns about the standard of local medical aid.

Not having access to familiar over-the-counter medication.

Being bedridden rather than enjoying the trip.

Dying while traveling.

One of the simplest things someone with travel anxiety can do is purchase travel insurance that has medical coverage. Carefully review the policy and/or discuss specific needs with the travel insurance firm to form sure you’re getting the coverage you would like. It can help provide peace of mind. We also pack our favorite natural products for healthy travel. getting to visit a topic park? Take a glance at our five tips for avoiding germs at amusement parks!

Trying New Foods With Travel Anxiety

One of the foremost daunting things for a few travelers has to trust that they’ll be ready to find food they will eat get through from home. Some might even stick with well-known chains like McDonald’s just to stay with something familiar. Okay, to be fair, McDonald’s in Japan may be a whole new experience, but I digress…

There are many reasons why trying new foods while traveling are often daunting, including:

Limited experience with a good array of foods.

Extreme food preferences.

Food allergies.

Dietary restrictions (gluten-free, low sodium, etc…).

Unsanitary food handling practices.

Trying local fare is exciting for several travelers, but not everyone feels an equivalent — and that’s okay. It’s important, however, that this is often discussed with travel companions to avoid preventable stress and confusion when choosing restaurants.

I’ll be completely honest here. one of my favorite things to try to do is try local food when I’m traveling. I’ve got two barriers to beat — germaphobia and food allergies. As such, I tend to settle on destinations which will make my life easier. So far, I’ve avoided Paris, for instance, because I’ve heard that they handle money then food without washing their hands. One day, I’ll get there and determine if this is often true for myself. Meanwhile, the Japanese way of doing things has decreased my anxiety on vacation!

Is There a Cure For Travel Anxiety?

First things first — don't be embarrassed by your travel anxiety! once we hide things, they need more power over us. Instead, be open with the people around you about your feelings. allow them to know where you'll need patience and support while traveling. Having it out there'll be a weight off your shoulders, and you’ll be better ready to coordinate travel if most are on an equivalent page. That’s the primary thing you'll do to require your power back.

You might be wondering if we’ve found some secret cure for travel anxiety. the solution is not any. Even in my work as a psychology professor, I can tell you that the majority of people will feel anxiety at some point in their lives. It serves a purpose and protects us in potentially harmful situations. We can’t eliminate it, but we will work towards training our minds and bodies to raised understand when it’s needed.

We encourage you to continue researching travel anxiety, and if needed, seek support from a trained professional. There’s no shame in that! Most folks need help with life from time to time. We’ve also discovered that each time we take a visit, our coping gets better. So, if your first trip was rough, keep going. Practice makes perfect!

When things get tough while you’re traveling, remember that you simply aren't alone. If you’ve experienced any of the above (and more!), rest assured that other travelers have felt an equivalent way. You’re amazing for fighting through your travel anxiety and each journey will cause you to stronger. Keep going!

[philalie]

I just wanna rant (TW ABUSE/DRUGS)

I feel like i wanna start just venting on tumblr bc it seems like everyone else does it and i just wanna vent to random people right now about my childhood and about my mother, bc i bring it upon people in my personal life too often and in inappropriate ways, except there just never is an appropriate way to do it. I just don’t wanna be a killjoy anymore. its really just therapeutic to me to write it out.

My mom has put me through no physical pain, but emotional pain to the extent that it hurts physically. It started even when I was a baby. Even as a little toddler she treated me how she does now, literally talking to me as if I was her friend. I have never ever received verbal affection from her in my entire life. I get an “I love you” once a month and maybe a hug if I initiate it, but that’s it. She won’t even cook me dinner unless I ask, and I am still a minor living under what’s supposed to be her roof. But the situation at hand now where she doesn’t even try to come see me or support me in any way, basically starting life over with a brand new family isn’t even what hurts me the most. It hurts me the most the situations she put me into as a literal child that a child should never be put into. I almost hate her for it. I almost hate her for making me live in that grimey tattoo artist’s duplex whose carpet was nearly black from how many cigarettes he smoked in the house, and I almost hate her for letting him make fun of me and make me genuinely believe I was stupid when I was a little kid in Kindergarten. When I see kindergarteners, I can’t believe that as a mother, she allowed me to be hurt in such a way that I was scared in my own house and I would cry at night because I didn’t know where she was and people I didn’t know were doing drugs in my house and i fucking knew it. Kindergarteners shouldn’t even know what drugs or alcohol are. I almost hate her for marrying the father of my brother, but not quite because I love my sweet brother so much and if it weren’t for that, i wouldn’t have him in my life. His father had no regard for me or my other brother’s feelings. He sold my precious treasures that I loved because he knew it’d hurt me and he needed money for a fucking dime bag. He even tried to pawn off my childhood dog. Fuck that. He is the source of my anxiety today. Imagine having anxiety as a nine year old. Genuine, debilitating, shaky anxiety attacks in third grade. It hurt me so much that my mom watched me get hurt and insulted by her husband and never once defended me. He always called me irresponsible and bossy. After I finally convinced her to break up with him and found us an apartment to live in, I thought everything would be good. Not even one month later my mom had a new boyfriend living with us, this one the worst. He was violent, mean, and mentally ill. I can’t even describe to you how much this man terrifies me, and if I see someone who even a little bit resembles him in public I get really scared. He was addicted to a lot of hard drugs and he was also a severe alcoholic. He called me hardheaded and made fun of my body. He made everything miserable. He gave my little brothers and myself so much trauma he is the one person in this world I can regretlessly say that i hate. i hate him so much. Fuck you for ruining my life. Fuck you for hitting my brother. Fuck you for threatening to “smash his skull in” when he was FOUR YEARS OLD. I fucking hate you. You’re a pathetic excuse of a human being and i will never feel sorry for you. You’re the one person in this world that doesn’t deserve a second shot at life. You deserve to struggle with your addictions and receive no sympathy from anybody. You brought me shame. My friends laughed at me because of you. I had no friends because of you. You robbed me of my most essential teenage years. You brought disgusting fleas lice and bedbugs into my previously pristine house. Another thing my best friend and her family fucking shamed me for, which was so humiliating as a 14 year old. You destroyed every single piece of my life and I still havent healed even though I haven’t seen you since the June before freshman year. He stole all my art supplies from my room as punishment for telling my dad what was happening, then stole my moms car after he already totaled her last one, so yeah fuck you. And fuck you for eating up all of my moms money on coke heroin and vodka. I never ate breakfast lunch or hardly even dinner. imagine starving children and laying on your ass without getting a job. When i told my dad my mom got pissedand didn’t care how hungry i was. That day when you hit my brother you were blocking the door and wouldnt let me leave the house because i called my dad to pick us up. I pushed past you while my mom cried and cursed me out for ruining everything. Fuck you for that mom. Nothing was my fault. You are the one to blame for making me the way i am today. It’s all your fault. This is why i don’t even care that you dont give me affection because why would i want affection from someone like you. The entire way you didnt care AT ALL about your three children’s childhood fucking disgusts me and determines me to treat my future children with the utmost care. They will get all their emotional needs met. They will live in a clean home with quality clothes to wear, food to eat, and enrichment. They will know I care about their experience in life. they will know i love them. All of this is not thanks to you, its thanks to myself for making an effort to do better than you. Actually, thank you mom for inspiring me to live a much more fulfilling and beautiful life than you. Do better in ur next life.

Well now that that emotional rant is done, I just want to share that I’m reading a really enriching book right now called “Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents.” So much of it is reflected in my mother as well as her boyfriends. It’s helping me to clear my mind and draw conclusions and feel not so alone and not feel the need to seek attention from others for what im going through. Id highly recommend it to anyone who is the child of an emotionally immature parent.