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As someone who never really cared for either Sonia or Kazuichi in the main games, I didn't really pay attention to the arguing around people supposedly excusing or glossing over his actions or behavior towards her, but after being in the DRDT fandom for a bit and seeing how people talk about/treat J vs Arturo, I think I get it now
#danganronpa despair time#might delete later#yeah ik ppl hate on arturo#but fanfic writers cant write him not being pitiable and tragic if they tried#meanwhile j as a character exists to the fandom within the context of a ship#(when she is actually acknowledged ofc)#while any possibility that having a celebrity parent is an adverse childhood experience#just gets totally glossed over#i def wanna write some stuff exploring her as a character#but some of my own hcs for her includes some pretty heavy stuff... so..
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âi love you and i like youâ: passion and burnout in Haikyuu!!Â
tw: discussions of self harm, anxiety, burnout and breakdowns.Â
spoilers for the whole manga!!Â
okay this is probably gnna be jflkafjdklfj all over the place, but iâve been thinking a lot lately about the difference between loving and liking something, and how haikyuu emphasises the importance of both those feelings being present when pursuing a passion.Â
a quick look at google (and i KNOW my college professors are cringing away in horror victor frankenstein-style @ my use of google definitions but jflajfsdk bear with me!!) demonstrates how often the concepts of love and like are conflated, with love her being framed as a sort of deeper or more intense like: âto like or enjoy very muchâ to be specific. but personally iâve always thought thereâs something a bit misleading about that kind of definition, since its absolutely possible to love something or someone without necessarily liking them. to take a personal example: i love debate. i debated through middle and high school, made captain of the debate team, and was constantly travelling to and fro for different tournaments. even before i started to debate formally iâd jump at the chance to do mini-debates in class, argue with and rebut parents and friends over meals and causal conversation.... you get the idea. i loved debate, and still love it dearly, but i honestly donât think i particularly liked it much. tournaments would always fill me with the most INSANE kind of stress, iâd barely eat or sleep in the days leading up to a meet, and iâve had more muffled bathroom breakdowns in between rebuttals than i can count. after my final year of high school, i decided against joining the debate at university. i knew that if i were to retain ANY love for the activity going into the future, i had to force myself to take a break.Â
so what does this solipsistic tangent have to do with haikyuu, you ask? well i have no doubt that a vast majority of the players in the series love volleyball. theyâre dedicated and passionate about it. they hunger for the chance to be put on the court. but do they like to play?Â
1. oikawa: âi forgot that volleyball can be funâÂ
ofc i wouldnât be an oikawa stan worth my salt if i didnât start this off with the (grand) king himself!! imo one of the reasons why oikawa is such a popular and well-loved character is his constant determination to keep moving forward and playing, even in the face of seemingly insurmountable opponents and adversities (ânever forget my worthless prideâ, anyone?). inevitably, all the hard work and practise he put into his craft has left him with a very carefully constructed, put together playstyle-- heâs the kind of player who knows how to bring the best out of each and every teammate on the court because of the amount of time he spends observing them and playing with them. itâs an outlook and playstyle best encapsulated in his now iconic line during the second karasuno v seijoh match:Â
âTalent is something you make bloom, instinct is something you polish!âÂ
in my opinion the word âpolishâ it super significant here-- it explicitly singles out the years and years of hard work that set a foundation for his talent and instinct to shine.Â
but what happens when they donât shine? thereâs no denying that oikawa is an incredibly skilled and intuitive player (something that hinataâs acknowledgment of him as the âgreat kingâ to kageyamaâs âkingâ immediately sets out) but oikawa himself is acutely aware of the fact that he can never quite measure up to his long-time rival ushijima or his immensely talented protege kageyama. oikawaâs self described strategy to deal with opponents is to:Â
âHit it until it breaksâÂ
but what happens when hitting something again and again with your carefully honed, âpolishedâ skills yields no results? imo thereâs a very clear binary mentality drawn here-- either you hit it and it breaks, asserting your superiority; or you hit it and it doesnât break, enforcing your inferiority. with each perceived loss against ushijima and kageyama, oikawaâs internalized logic holds his own weakness up to his own face, shaking his faith in himself as a player. if youâll pardon the on-the-nose-metaphor: the whole âhitting it till it breaksâ strategy is a two-way street, and oikawa has been hitting himself, metaphorically speaking, for a very long time. i have no doubt that he loved volleyball, passionately, through middle and high school. but with his inferiority complex growing in the face of constantly refuted results, i think he slowly began to like it less and less.Â
so how does oikawa get his groove back? to answer that, weâll have to turn to the post-timeskip chapters, particularly the two chapters that deal with oikawa and hinataâs unexpected meeting in Rio (372 and 373 for anyone curious!). while reminiscing with hinata over dinner, oikawa finally reveals the event that made him want to play volleyball (as a setter, to be exact)-- as a child, he watched veteran setter jose blanco step into a game and
â... inconspicuously help[ed] the ace get his bearings again... and then simply left the court.âÂ
oikawaâs reaction to blancoâs playstyle might just be one of my favourite panels in the chapter for how it conveys so much with such little space:Â
the stammer of âi-i--â, which suggests a sense of resolve and determination forming in real time, finally coalesces into the determined declaration of âi wanna be a setter too!â what i took from this is that oikawaâs admiration for-- and liking of-- blanco expresses itself in the agency with which he makes his choice, in this case, actively deciding to be a setter so that he can support players on the court like blanco did. the liking that oikawa has here is therefore inherently linked to the agency and freedom he feels here-- freedom to choose his position, and how he wants his volleyball career to develop.Â
this recollection of his childhood memories, and the subsequent game of beach volleyball that oikawa and hinata play afterwards, essentially push oikawa back into the mental and physical space of a child or beginner, as the manga demonstrates with panels of oikawa being forced to ditch his usual carefully developed, polished playstyle to learn the ropes of beach volleyball:Â
ultimately concluding with the beautiful panel transition of oikawa, as a child AND adult, celebrating after a successful play:Â
âIt reminds me that-- I forgot that-- volleyball is fun.â
in a different country, playing a familiar game by slightly different rules and led back into the mentality and freedom of a novice after years of careful development, oikawa rediscovers his liking for the game.Â
2. kageyama: âwhen you get strong, someone stronger will rise to meet youâÂ
moving on to the king of the court himself!! iâd argue that kageyamaâs childhood memories and experiences of volleyball function almost oppositely to oikawaâs-- while oikawa has to re-access the sensation of being a beginner again to like the game along with loving it, kageyamaâs process of coming to like and love volleyball come from moving away from his early experiences and into a new phase of playing-- specifically, his partnership with hinata.Â
one of kageyamaâs defining features is his individualism-- heâs both skilled and solitary enough to prefer to, as he puts it, âplay every single position on the courtâ. notably, he wants to become a setter because:Â
â[itâs] the one that touches the ball the most.â
in fact, iâd argue that kageyamaâs âking of the courtâ attitude that he was known for in middle school is an extension of this individualistic mindset: he holds himself to extremely high standards, and expects his team-mates (as extensions of himself) to meet those very same standards. the similarities between his internal monologue and his commands to kindaichi in these two panels, for example, are strikingly, visibly similar:Â
thereâs that near-identical intonation of âmove faster, jump higher!â that implies that the way he treats his teammates is just an extension of how he treats himself-- a deeply self-critical, miserable way, as it turns out. itâs telling that for the first few chapters of a manga in which charactersâ eyes literally light up when theyâre happy, passionate or excited, kageyamaâs eyes are drawn as pitch black, even while heâs playing.Â
imo the reason why hinataâs appearance, and their later partnership, is so significant for kageyamaâs personal development is because he canât treat hinata like an extension of himself. hinata challenges him and his preconcieved notions of the sport at every turn: first with his lightning-fast reflexes and raw intuition, and then with his determination to hit kageyamaâs toss no matter what. in fact, the first time that kageyamaâs eyes light up in the manga is, you guessed it, when he and hinata first pull off a successful âfreak quickâ:Â
during the post-timeskip chapters weâre introduced to kageyamaâs backstory in much greater detail: the way in which his grandfather fostered his passion for volleyball and the timing with which his grandfatherâs illness and later death left kageyama increasingly alienated, thus further enforcing his individualist mentality. but what the chapter also gave us was an explicit confirmation of a theme that had been built up from the very beginning of the story, when kageyamaâs grandfather tells him:Â
âwhen you get really strong, i promise someone stronger will rise to meet youâ
iâve seen translations of the line that use both âmeetâ and âchallengeâ, and personally iâd have to say that i prefer âchallengeâ for what it implies-- even before hinata got strong enough to actually meet kageyama halfway he challenged him to move away from his pre-established mindset of doing everything himself, and into one where he actually comes to enjoy-- and like-- volleyball.Â
3. hirugami: âmaybe youâve just had your fillâ
hirugamiâs case is kind of a strange one-- unlike oikawa and kageyama heâs not a major character, and his relationship with volleyball only gets a single backstory chapter as opposed to a series-long arc. but i personally ADORE his mini-arc for the things it has to say about burnout, passion and moving on.Â
hirugami is introduced as the youngest member of a volleyball family-- his parents, older brother and older sister all play the sport. when explaining how he began to play himself, hirugami says:Â
â... naturally, i started to play too. because i was good at it, and it was fun.âÂ
imo there are a lot of really interesting things to pick apart with this phrasing: the ânaturallyâ implies a foregone conclusion but also a degree of passivity, like he himself recognises that he was swept up in his familyâs influence. the âit was funâ coming AFTER âbecause i was good for itâ also implies a degree of correlation, as though if he didnât have the aptitude, he wouldnât enjoy the game (a mindset markedly different to both oikawa and kageyama). as hirugami gets older, this correlation of being good ----> having fun ----> being able to play begins to reverse, and therefore manifest in increasingly self destructive ways:Â
the main impetus for hirugami has now become not wanting to lose, which therefore requires a degree of heightened practise and self discipline in order to achieve. notably, having fun has been reduced to an afterthought, a state that might be achieved if he wins.Â
the correlation of âwinningâ and âbeing goodâ is a slipperly slope to go down, though, something that becomes especially apparent after hirugamiâs team lose a game. the frustration of being unable to reach his goal of winning manifests itself as not being âgood enoughâ-- acting on this, hirugami seeks to punish himself for âmessing upâ:Â
the close up panel of hirugamiâs âconfessionâ after hoshiumi confronts him hits particularly hard because it taps into a feeling that iâm sure almost all of us have felt at one point or another-- the realisation that something you once both loved AND liked is now only bringing you misery:Â
ironically, itâs actually this acknowledgement of ânot really liking volleyball that muchâ that acts as a catalyst for hirugamiâs recovery from burnout. hoshiumiâs acknowledgement of, and reply to, hirugamiâs state is seemingly simple but deeply freeing:Â
and honestly, why not just quit? thereâs nothing tethering hirugami to volleyball, certainly nothing as serious as life or death. personally my favourite part of this panel is hoshiumiâs description of volleyball as food from which hoshiumi has âeaten his fillâ-- a lovely metaphor that re-contextualizes what could be seen as âtime wastedâ into something productive and indeed nourishing.Â
when we check up on hirugami post time-skip, we find out that he has indeed quit playing volleyball in favour of going to veterinary school, but heâs seen watching the game between the jackals and adlers on his phone with an eager, fond smile on his face, implying that it was the act of moving away from the table (so to speak) after eating his fill that let him still hold on to a love and passion for the game, even though he is now interacting with it as a spectator instead of a player. and indeed that might just be why i love hirugamiâs arc so much-- with it, haikyuu tells us that sometimes passionâs donât need to be re-ignited in the same way. while oikawa and kageyama rediscover their love for, and liking of, the game through a return to childhood and the arrival of a new partner respectively, hirugamiâs journey away from burnout comes from recognizing that he can step away from the volleyball court, and that the love and like will still remain.Â
#ari.txt#meta#hq!! meta#haikyuu meta#hq!!#haikyuu#haikyuu!!#oikawa tooru#kageyama tobio#hirugami sachirou#me pointing @ myself: it's her officer! she's the one using her english lit degree to write 3k word long metas on sports anime!!#anyways jflafjsdlk this was an absolute blast to write!! and i'd LOVE to know what you guys think about it: do you agree? disagree?#please do let me know!! :>#long post
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All the asks.
Aaaaah tysm!!!!!
Sunrise or sunset?
Sunset. I prefer the colours and also not being awake so early!
Are you mentally ill?
Yeah I have depression but whatevs
Are you physically ill?
Chronically my dude. I have IBS and EDS type 3
What is the most expensive thing you have bought?
A plane ticket for nearly ÂŁ1000 lmao! It took me working 3 jobs for over a year but it was worth it.
Do you have a job?
Not atm but Iâll get one in a few months.Â
Are you in school?
Noooooo!! I finally finished sixth form in June. Iâm finally free!! (Iâm so happy I wonât have to see half those people again ngl)
Are you a dropout?
Nah
Are you in college?
Assuming this means uni, then no, but I will be in october.
Introvert or extrovert?
I have?? No idea?? Iâm shy af and really quiet but I do like meeting new people.
What do you think when you look at your body?
I donât really think much at all anymore, which is an improvement tbh. I just sort of see it but donât process it.
What have others said when they look at your body?
Iâve had a lot of not-so-supportive comments about my body from a lot of people. Most people tell me Iâm too thin, that Iâm unattractive, that I should get surgery for one reason or another. Idk. I donât expect much more tbh.
Do you have a particular song that you feel deeply?
Hoo boi I have a whole playlist of songs that mean something to me.
Talk about a time in your life where you have felt most alive?
It was 2, maybe 3 weeks ago now XD I was roadtripping around America with my best friend @only-slightly-dangerous and it was the happiest Iâve ever been. We were care free and the world was beautiful and there were so many new things to see and do. I wish I was back there.
Are you confident wearing a bikini?
Not at all, Iâll avoid it at all costs.
Can you look people in the eyes while talking?
See, I donât have a conscious issue with it. I donât mind eye contact that much. But I usually subconsciously end up looking away, especially if Iâm thinking deeply about something/trying to remember something.
Has anything terrible happened to you?
Depends on your definition of terrible. But yeah, a couple of things have really fucked me up.
Has anything wonderful happened to you?
I met the best person in my life at the worst time in my life. The chances of it happening were ridiculously slim; I still canât get my head around it.
Favorite part of your personality?
I donât know. My patience or my sense of humor?
Least favorite part of your personality?
How easily I become jealous of others. Or maybe my need to be in control. Iâm working on both of them though.
Favorite part of your body?
....my legs? Iâm told theyre p good?
Least favorite part of your body?
Maybe my face? Maybe my chest. Idk, I donât critique it often.
Favorite quote?
âThe sun will rise and we will try againâ. There are others I like, but thatâs the first that comes to mind.
Do you have friendships with all genders?
I have a crippling fear of men so most my close friends are with girls. Though again, Iâm working on it.
Do you have a good relationship with your father?
I didnât used to so much, but I think itâs improved a lot over the past few years.
Do you have a good relationship with your mother?
Itâs complicated. I donât really wanna go into it rn
Do you have a good relationship with your siblings?
I donât have any sibs, kinda wish I did though
Have you ever been hurt physically or mentally by a family member?
Yuuup
Have you ever had a near death experience?
Nope
Do you know anyone who has taken their own life?
Yeah. I used to talk to a girl on here and for months we held a pact of staying alive for each other. But she gave up (I kind of understood though). That was rough.
Have you ever tried to take your own life?
...whatever I answer this with feels like a lie
Biggest lie you have told?
I canny remember lmao
Do you follow any conspiracies?
I havenât read much into many conspiracies, ngl. But there was something strange about how those twin towers fell down...
Do you believe in a New World Order?
Never heard of it. Gonna google it though.
Do you respect your government and the way your country is run?
Not at all. The tories can kiss my butt. Theyâre barely human.
Is there currently any strife in your country?
Meh, nothing too bad.
Have you ever been displaced within your country?
Nope, thankfully.
Are your friendships healthy?
The ones I have left are lmao! Iâve been doing a lot of cutting off in the past year, but it seems to have worked out pretty well.
Are you currently fighting with a friend?
No
Are you jealous of a friend? Why?
No. Their achievements donât diminish my own. I want them all to succeed.
Do you believe in the Illuminati?
As much as Iâm here for the meme, I donât actually know much about it.
Do you think any celebrities are associated with the Illuminati? Who?
See previous.
How can people tell you are nervous?
Um, I donât know. I try not to let on. Depending on the situation I might ask a lot of questions about it or just be very talkative in general. Also not being able to sit still.
How can people tell you are sad?
I donât tend to talk as much or with as much enthusiasm. I also tend to âzone outâ a lot if Iâm feeling really down. Sometimes Iâll just give up on conversations all together and refuse to make any more effort than the other person is doing.
Do you ever express your true feelings?
I...think so. Yeah. I sometimes dilute them when I express them, but I rarely keep a feeling contained completely. That destroys me.
Regrets in your life?
Not standing up for myself more.
Achievements in your life?
I won a couple of things when I was younger (basketball tournaments, painting competitions) also I do well in school ig?
What did people say about you in school?
I mean, Iâm sure I never heard all of it. The general consensus seemed to be everyone hated me for being âstuck upâ and for doing okay at tests. Idk.Â
What did you say about people in school?
Depended on the person lmao! I wasnât a big fan of many people in my year, but I didnât really hate any of them as much as they thought.
Is there something you have never told anyone?
yh
Have you committed an illegal act?
I mean, piracy, thatâs it.
If you had two days to spend one million dollars how would you spend it?
Iâd buy a house somewhere nice, a plane ticket and a holiday. Then Iâd give a decent amount to everyone I know. The rest Iâd give to charity.
What were your aspirations at age 5, 10, 15, 18?
I cant even remember what my aspirations were yesterday?? Iâve pretty much always wanted to do something to do with science, though itâs varied which parts of it.
Describe your first kiss? Was it how you imagined?
It aint happened.
Growing up were you in a wealthy, average, or low income household?
Low to average Iâd say? My mums a single parent but we do okay.
Are you from a broken marriage?
My parents are divorced yah
Have you been raised by a solo parent?
Sort of? Officially speaking yeah.
Do you know both your parents?
Yup
What colour eyes, hair and skin do you have?
Brown eyes, blonde hair and white skin.
Have you abused drugs or alcohol?
No. Iâve drunk when I probably should have just talked about my feelings though.
What languages can you speak?
I speak english and a reasonable level of spanish. Iâm also learning danish atm.
Do you conform to your societies standards?
Idk, I guess not.
Do you cry often?
Lmao, a lot more often than most people yeah. Iâve a very emotional person.
Do you tell people what you think of them?
Only the good parts.
Are you comfortable accepting compliments?
Not at all, it always feels like a lie.
Are you comfortable giving compliments?
Oh yeah! If Iâm thinking something good about someone Iâll let them know!
Is any mental illness hindering your life?
Depression. Itâs a bugger.
Is any physical illness hindering your life?
To a normal person it might seem it, but Iâve just kind of adapted to my illnesses so I can live life as normally as possible now.
Do you keep up with current events?
I try to I suppose. I havenât so much recently though ngl.
Whatâs the latest news in the world you have heard/read?
This feels like a test....idk
What have you done today?
Slept, eaten, watched netflix, scrolled through tumblr.
Do you sleep well?
Sometimes
Do you sleep badly?
Sometimes
Have you ever hurt anyone because you were hurting?
Who on earth remembers their past with such clarity?? I mean, itâs possible yeah. But I couldnât tell you who or when and itâs not something Iâm proud of.
Has anyone ever hurt you because they were hurting?
Search me. That isnât usually the first thing I ask someone when they hurt me.
Have you ever had to end a friendship/relationship? Why?
Yeah, a couple. Especially friendships if people have been more trouble than theyâre worth and theyâve become someone who regularly hurts me.
Have you ever stopped someone from hurting themselves?
Iâve talked a few people down from suicide, but I donât know how many of them are doing rn unfortunately.
Has anyone ever stopped you from hurting yourself?
My best friend.
Do you like your laugh?
I donât hate it, but I do worry it annoys other people.
Are you preparing for an apocalypse? And what kind?
Lmfao no Iâm not prepared for anything!!Â
Do you have any funny family stories?
Not really, not that I can remember.Â
Are you religious?
Nah
Do you like to watch true crime shows or movies?
Yeah lmao, ngl I love a good true crime show
Are you interested in cults?
...I guess I wouldnât be adverse to finding out more about them
Would you like to raise a family in your country?
I mean, it wouldnât be the worst place in the world to do it, but I plan on moving to another country before I consider doing that.
List some things you wanted in your childhood but never got?
I donât know?? I was just grateful for the things I did have.
Is there a large age gap between you and a sibling?
Lmfao yeah 18 years and counting
Are you from a blended family?
Yup
Do you believe in marriage? Why/Why not?
Yeah I once saw a married person with my own two eyes.
What is the nicest thing anyone has said to you?
âYou are my favourite person.â
Do you keep a journal?
In a way? I have a blog that acts as a journal and also a scrapbook
Would anyone be hurt by reading it?
Probably. I think about that a lot.
Do you have children?
Nope
Have you been pregnant?
Nopety nope
List your favorite movies?
In no particular order:
-Deadpool  -My Sisters Keeper  -Mamma Mia   -Hot Fuzz  -The Life of Brian  -The Lovely Bones   -Pitch Perfect 2
List your favorite people?
They know who they are.
Talk about the birthmarks and scars on your body?
Umm, I have a birthmark on my neck which I always think would be cool if it showed how I died in a previous life.Â
Do you look after yourself?
Most of the time yeah
Do you put yourself or others first?
I put others first almost all the time. I couldnât bare not to.
Are you happy today?
I mean,,, I was cut open and zipped back up 2 days ago so Iâve felt better lmao!Â
Are you loved?
Contrary to what my anxiety wants me to believe, I think I actually might be by a few people.
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