#which i understand allosexual people making that assumption is a cruel stereotype (ive gotten it plenty) | Explore Tumblr posts and blogs

dirt-grub · 3 years ago

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also you ever wanna come up with a new label for yourself but don’t want misguided 14 year old “exclusionists” telling you to kill yourself in your inbox for baring your soul? yah

#connor talks #i've gone on about the debate over my asexuality before but i really like.#its something that i cant and do not wish to label without the context of my childhood trauma #plenty of people who are csa survivors do not identify with any kind of asexual label despite sex repulsion #which is 100% their right but i dont feel the same #and obv sex repulsion doesnt equal asexuality but for many people like me its impossible to distinguish sometimes #like. its considered problematic when a victim says their trauma has to do with asexuality #which i understand allosexual people making that assumption is a cruel stereotype (ive gotten it plenty)#but like. what about my feelings as a victim.#like asexuality does not equal trauma. but for me my trauma is a key part of it and thats okay #thats why i wanna come up with some separate label for myself yknow?#bc asexuality by itself is not a trauma response and shouldnt be considered as such #and my trauma response isnt 100% of my sexuality. its a grey area that mixes all together #idk i dont know enough latin root words to make my own word and its not worth the trouble for people who hate things like that #bc its a sensitive subject and i personally want a word for it for my own comfort not for boxing people in #like it would break my heart if something i came up with to make myself feel comfortable was used in a accusatory way #i got that SO much as a kid and even now. people who think they know better than me will be like youre not that youre this #and my skin crawls at the thought of some kid trying desperately to figure themselves out and pick up the pieces after abuse #to have people be like actually youre this thing #whatever idk exclusionists and people who put people in boxes wouldnt think im valid anyway bc what the hell is cocsa thats not real #csa mention #suicide mention #like. you guys do realize youre not winning at being the lgbt community right. youre like. hurting people #same with anything on earth. cut the trauma olympics and no true scotsman shit

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