#which absolutely doesnt do anything to destroy the social bonds between people who feel their experiences are reflected

[pinkcadillaccas]

I'm just feeling so struck by the infinite variation of gender. Obviously, trans and queer spaces are always talking about how there is no single unifying physical trait or internal experience of gender, cis or trans, but that's ALSO true for the purely social aspect. It entirely depends on your culture and how society views you, and how you view society! Autistic, black, trans, Christian and poor women (just to name a few) are all going to have vastly different experiences of womanhood and interpret their socialisation differently. Yes there are general uniting factors, as a rule of thumb we can say women are socialised to defer decision making to others and men are socialised to speak up over others, but I can guarantee you will find thousands of people for whom this was either never the case or their specific personality and upbringing just never allowed those traits to be embedded. Bioessentialists are not just clowning because they refuse to acknowledge the infinite variety in the biological world but ALSO in the social world. They say trans women are men because they grew up with a penis and trans women are dangerous because society makes men dangerous and these are all given as fact. None of this is true. You will never be able to fit everyone identifying or assigned at birth as one gender into any one physical or social trait and attempting to do so will only do harm. There is no such thing as a strictly binary gendered world even in places where that binary is massively socially enforced. The infinite variety of the human condition simply won't allow it to happen.