#whenever anyone sends me asks especially about spn ESPECIALLY about girl au sam or dean that live in my head it is like my birthday

[sammygender]

in an au where only one sibling is a girl, who has the worse time? dean, being a more one-to-one replacement for mary and the parentification? or sam, being protected to the point of complete infantilization?

great question. to me this is like thinking about who in canon had it worst. impossible. both insanely awful in different ways. my instincts are telling me sammy just because i know the misogyny she’d experience would be insane. she’d have actively the worst time. whereas dean is already so parentified in canon in terms of damage to his psyche it probably wouldn’t be that much Worse, just different