#when like. 99% of the time the guy is none of those things!!! and sexier because of it! he literally does not Look Like That

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And re: last post I think this is the reason so many people talk so strangely and observably incorrectly (and even draw or write etc) about their blorbo of choice—posting like “omg his abs” or “his jawline” or calling observably flat asses “caked up” or talking about a person being particularly muscular or fit when they are observably not—a weird sort of frame-reversal where people are so trained to associate attractiveness with a standard set of characteristics that they start to project those expected characteristics on somebody they find attractive because they struggle to conceptualize being attracted to somebody outside that framework. i.e. if I find this particular actor attractive, it must be because he “Looks Like An Attractive Person” (abs, muscular build, whatever biases are at hand for the speaker) and not because the person is attractive because of their own set and relation of features. This is maybe partially how we get people talking about nonexistent abs or jawlines or pert asses or whatever—that is how they are conditioned to express or recognize “sexiness,” which overlays the actual element/object of attraction. In other words it’s easier to frame “I am attracted to this actor because he is Attractive*” *artifically constructed set of traits culturally absorbed as the Most Desirable rather than challenging that idea of objective attractiveness and focusing on bodily actuality