#what the FUCK happens in Hetalia that a screenshot of it (I think?) got a nightcore of Boney M's Rasputin taken down for hate speech?

[amplexadversary]

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[betanyagito]

3 hours left of this decade here and I promised I’d write a sappy post so [ABBA voice] let’s go gays

Oh man. Oh boy. Was this a time. An entire 10 years spent on the internet. I’ve met people, got into new things, forgot old dreams and made new ones. How old was I when I first started here? 12? 13? It doesn’t feel real honestly. So much has happened that I still think about to this day, and as embarrassed as I am of my roots, I wouldn’t be who I am without them, and I likely wouldn’t have met the people I did if it weren’t for the early day join.mes and art streams from Deviantart and Minecraft askblogs on tumblr dot kom

I am thankful I got to know Minecraft, I got to know Hetalia, I got to know Homestuck. I am thankful these things allowed me to meet people who I couldn’t possibly imagine my life without right now. And that’s honestly the part I want to focus on. My friends

Old friends who I don’t talk to anymore, old friends who I don’t even know if are still around, old friends who still message me again and again sometime (honestly knowing that I’m still on their minds after all these years is the single most heartwarming thing ever), friends who I don’t talk with as frequently but still keep in my mind and get happy whenever we do end up meeting, and friends who are still here every day and support me endlessly.

If I were to talk about each and every one of them I would be sitting here all throughout January so I’ll try to talk about everyone in groups because I do want to take a moment to appreciate everyone. Everyone I’ve met shaped me into the person I am today, and while I am not perfect, I am happy. I am happy that I have the friends I do now

I remember the first big group of friends I’ve had when I first felt like I belonged. Kat, Wesley, Meni, Britain - those Whirled Days. I remember spending hours doing sprite edits and staying up late into the night to make sure I stayed caught up with rp and was present for the trials and murders lmao. I know it all ended on a sour note, but I will always treasure the moments we had together, and I’m so glad that after over six years I am still in touch with some of you. You were my first true out of the country friends, and you all helped me open my horizons and realize that the world is much much bigger than I had thought, and I can find friends anywhere who will love me

DR had stayed with me ever since, and I got to meet Mina, Chinch, Erika and Damien. Oh my god you guys. All my admiration for you four for being able to handle the edgefest that my writing and I was. I can’t believe we’ve lived through the peak days of DR tumblr rp. What a fucking Time that was. I would’ve never discovered my love for writing and betas without you all. You stuck with me through my worst years and always supported my dumb ideas. I remember the skypechats, the craigslist edits, the quiche, the zombie apocalypse, the adoption. I know I said I don’t want to address anyone one-on-one but Mina. Mina. If there’s anyone then you deserve a one-on-one. It’s been six (?) years. We’ve known each other for six (?!) years and we’ve seen each other go through so much. I know I tend to be really bad at communication and often fall short at replies but there’s not a day when I’m not thankful that I’ve met you and I still have you in my life. Your influence on me has been nothing but positive, you’ve taught me so much, how to love life, love my creations, how to be excited about anything. If I was half a good influence on you, I would already call that a success. I hope we will remain friends for a long time. At this point, I couldn’t imagine my life without having you in it. I just love you so much I almost teared up writing this ngl

And this one goes out to those Nanbaka SLUTS who also turned me into a slut who can never step foot into another church ever again. I can’t even recall how exactly I ended up in the discord group, but I know that you all were another milestone for me. Nick, Mew, Kristi, without you guys I would’ve never opened up towards people. I was scared back into my bubble where I just didn’t want to interact with fandoms ever again, but I you guys were one of the most accepting group of people I’ve ever met and probably ever will meet. You welcomed me with warmth and excitement and I still keep so many screenshots of the old discord chat that I read back whenever I need a good hearted laugh. Even now when our interests had changed, I’m so happy that we can still find a common note and have fun with each other. I wish nothing but the best for all of you

This brings us to the current era. All these muppet lovers......all these muppet lovers and I find so many friends.....Stella, Michael, Maple, Daco, Kris, Clover, Katie, Nette, Lili, Dani it was all Your Fault that this obsession started. I had such a fun time with all of you that now my brain cannot stop producing serotonin whenever I see a goddamn potato man. But even besides just having a common interest, you are all such wonderful people. You all helped me out of a rut and helped me shape myself, to be confident in my own opinions, to be able to stand up for myself and to have fun without worrying about what other people think. I am so grateful for every conversation we’ve had, every joke we shared, every idea we came up with together. I had no idea that a gag anime could ever get me such amazing friends, but it happened! And even if I don’t talk with some of you as often anymore, or at all, I will never forget any of you

Standing on more stable feet I was able to reach out to other parts of the fandom and start my own big project in the form of an askblog, and even if it’s stagnant now, it was one of the best decisions of my life, as I got to meet the most wonderful group of people. Nat, Athro, Buns, Turo, Jasp, JM, Lulu, Tris, Holly, Eden, Dairy, Ruri, Timey, Zako, Vivi, Ruah - you’re all just amazing. You accepted me into your group and I honestly feel like we’ve grown into a family. I’ve grown both as an artist and as a person thanks to you all, and I’ve never had such a tight knit group of friends before who’ve supported each other quite like you do. I feel loved and I know my voice is heard whenever I speak. I know that even on my worst days, you all will  be here. I know that you will hear even my most outlandish ideas, you will listen to me ramble about media you’ve never heard of and I more than gladly do the same for all of you too. I’ve never been more confident in my content and especially in my OCs. We’ve created something incredible together, and I am just so incredibly proud that I can say that I belong to MVA, that I can say that “hey thats my friend!!” whenever any of you come up, and I am so happy that I could meet all of you. I truly feel like I’ve become a much better person since meeting all of you. I sincerely hope from the bottom of my heart that we’ll be able to spend many more years together, and watch each other succeed in many more things

Despite what I intended this turned into a pretty lengthy post nevertheless whOOPS. I’m sorry if I left in any typos or anything of the sort. The bottom line of everything is- I’ve had some terrible times this decade. Really, awful times when I thought that theres no way, no way I would be able to continue on. But all these strangers online, who I’ve never even seen in person, you all were and are always there to extend a hand and help me back on my feet. There are many ways in which this decade sucked, there were many terrible news and terrible times, but, it was all worth it. If not for anything else, then for the fact that I’ve got to meet so many amazing and talented people. Thank you all for loving me and calling me a friend. I hope the next decade will treat all of us, but especially you well. You all deserve nothing but the best in your lives and I love all of you so so much

[antlered-dragon]

Speaking of sufin.  It was because of sufin.  I was going home in a week or half a week (can’t remember this was back in 2018) from my second year of collage.  I was on pintrest, I am sure I was looking at Yuri on Ice stuff and then looking at the recommend stuff and came across some sufin fanart.  And saw that it mentioned hetalia.  I actually kind of knew about hetalia but not at all really.

Let me explain so several years back, if you know about there little characters that you click on you can grow them.  I don’t know what they are called but they are self made things hosted on sites.  There was one of canada and I thought he was really cute with his bear (funny enough I thought it was a stuffed bear not a real one for some reason).  And (the next day I think?  I have horrible memory) on my way to school I got curious so I looked up screenshots (also another thing thought the show style was chibi, honestly don’t know I just think I saw a lot of chibi art).  But didn’t really do much other then that.

Now cut back to my last week or week in a half before I leave for back home and I see it.  And was like “oh hetalia I think I remember that name” and after that I got really hyperfixated on the ship.  I don’t know what it is about these two but I fuckin loved it.  I looked at so much fanart and a whole and I mean a whole bunch of fanfics before I decided to watch the show.  I decided to watch it when I was going to get driven back home, which I did.  So yeah those two fucks got me into it.  And I think why the ship means so much to me because I have never had something like this happen.  Maybe something similar to this with shipping making me want to watch a show but not even near of the same level sufin has me.  So the ship means a lot to me.

How did you get into Hetalia?

That's a honest question. For me, I was tricked by Dub version and thought Sufin was Canon.

[groundramon]

Statement

I didnt want to write this but I’m too fucking tired to respond to anymore people who go into my ask box. I’ve already gotten 4. Leave me alone. Also I apologize for not censoring @ ‘s.  Obviously, do not send hate to anyone.  Because I, unlike Peri, do not endorse that.  Your white knighting will not hurt Peri and it will not help me - it will just help Peri feel more justified.  So seriously, to any of my friends/mutuals/followers reading this - do not.

DISCLAIMER: I knew peri back when he still used they/them pronouns. If I ever accidentally refer to him with those pronouns, please don’t hone in on that, but please DO tell me about my mistake so I can go and fix that. This is not an excuse, its still wrong of me to do and i apologize if I accidentally do it anywhere in this post - it is an explanation and an invitation to hold me accountable without using it to destroy the whole point of my post.

DISCLAIMER #2: there is a lot of nuances to our relationship that I will never be able to describe in text. Such as the fact that as little kids, Peri and our other friends were the ones who “corrupted” my sense of humor (not in a problematic way, I was just a really naive little kid). We always made jokes about me being the least mature out of the group despite being the oldest.

DISCLAIMER #3: Yes, I made mistakes. No, I did not put out a callout about Peri “just to start shit”.  I have apologized for my mistakes and learned better, and would be happy to write another apology genuinely outlining what I did wrong if Peri didn’t lie about me at every given opportunity.

I never put a callout on Peri until now.  Maybe once when this first happened, i told people to unfollow him...I genuinely cant remember.  I know I added him to my carrd as DNI, but he did it first, and I did it in response to that.  And I removed it long ago.  He also mocked me for calling him my abuser after one of his friends block evaded me to tell me to fuck off, and I found out said friend did that because Peri had been calling me “a danger to minors”, a racist (Peri is white and kept making Hetalia jokes up to a few months before we stopped being friends even though literally I never did) and a lesbophobe (ok peri is a lesbian), and more important, accusing me of stalking.  His definition of stalking was to check his twitter profile obsessively.  I know he did this to me, because he mentioned one of my discourse threads about SPOP and misrepresented my argument (he said I called Catra abusive - I called Catradora toxic and clarified that Catra is not an abuser).  I’m not here to debate the definition of stalking, but heres the thing - at that point, it had been...I think 3 months after we broke off?  And I hadnt checked his twitter since a week after we broke up.  Literally.  I’m sure I have no way of proving that now, OVER A YEAR LATER, but it’s true. I have proof about the hetalia joke.  It was literally just a joke about my piccrews looking like America.  But considering years ago, Peri (and our shared abuser who I dont plan on discussing very much publicly for obvious reasons) were the ones who got me into Hetalia, it hits a very sore spot with me to call me a racist right alongside our shared abuser who would go by japanese names for the ~aesthetic~.  And thats the thing throughout all of this - did I do wrong by Peri? Absolutely, and I’m not going to remember everything flawlessly either. I’m not a flawless person and we were friends for like 7 years.  But Peri is acting like he’s never done anything wrong in his life.

He also has a pattern of doing this - he accused me and his ex-friend Rainy (me and Rainy are friends) of making fun of our abuser’s art constantly and probably now making fun of Peri’s art constantly (we did make fun of the abuser’s art, but tbh it was gallows humor, and still not something I’m proud of.  I have literally never made fun of Peri’s art.  In fact, it makes me feel awful that I have a pit in my stomach whenever I see it, because I always enjoyed Peri’s unique art style up until the day we split.)  He’s hurt so, SO many other people too.  I can think of 13 just off the top of my head.  The person who block evaded me to yell at me about something I literally never did?  Literally went through the same shit me and Rainy did.  Most of these people are not going to like me, and yet I could probably ask for their testimony and it would match my experience very closely, except the key difference being Peri gave up on them already.

Peri talked about me THREE TIMES in the last week (I believe - I didnt check dates and i literally found peri’s account accidentally while going through chicken smoothie. yes, it was my choice to scroll down and look for my name, but i was like, the second post on his tumblr and i was just trying to see if the posts were recent or old bc i thought he was inactive on here.

Here are all of the posts in case he deletes them - sorry I dont have timestamps, he went private so I cant get evidence, obviously.

Admittedly, the last one is pretty understandable, I feel the same way going through my old shit and seeing Peri’s posts/art/etc. But two times after that? But no I’m the one for starting shit, even though I can disprove both of this posts.

For that first post:

1. I didn’t debate shit, I asked a question because I saw a bi woman bring up a good point about why bi women shouldn’t be allowed to use butch/femme.  Admittedly, asking your closest (not only! just closest) lesbian friend about all lesbian issues is kind of a dick move, but I was just trying to figure out how to argue against that point so I could support my lesbian friends.  Now I realize that it’s wrong of me to bother getting involved on either side and I should just support my lesbian friends and their voices instead of getting directly involved.  Yes, I was wrong, but i did not argue with a lesbian about whether or not butch/femme can be used by nonlesbians, I was ASKING A QUESTION.

2. I was trying to be a supportive friend. He was crushing on Rainy - who was identifying as a gay (trans) man at the time by the way, but I only ever see Peri use this as evidence for me being lesbophobic, not homophobic and transphobic.  Gee I wonder why?  Oh right, it’s because Peri hates Rainy and doesn’t care.  Anyways, yes, it was wrong of me.  At the time I didn’t understand a lot about comphet so I was just trying to be supportive.  I do think I expressed relief when Peri said he and Rainy had broken up and realized their feelings were platonic, as i was confused about the whole situation.  I was trying not to gatekeep Peri from his own damn community, because I’m not going to tell him his feelings are invalid when I’m not a lesbian.  You cant get mad at me for policing lesbian labels, and then not policing lesbian labels enough- what??  I don’t think I did anything wrong per say in this situation because I was telling white lies to be a good friend but I do know better now and try to emphasize that “and if you find out its comphet and you’re still a lesbian then thats totally valid!!!” and in fact I even think I did that at the time??

Both of these instances (I believe) are buried on an old server that I no longer have access to.  It’s possible they still exist.  But I didn’t think this thing with Peri would last well over a year later so I didn’t bother documenting any of it.  If peri has the screenshots, I would love to see it.  This is not sarcasm, I genuinely want to be informed what I did wrong.  I have a lot of great friends now and I would hate to hurt them by repeating mistakes I don’t even remember making.  I can’t learn if I’m not informed.  Once again, this is not sarcasm, irony, or passive aggressive.  This is genuine.  All I ever asked from Peri was to talk to me.

These are the last messages we exchanged before Peri’s goodbye message.  This is what our relationship was like.  And do NOT fucking tell me “Peri is clearly uncomfortable” - I’m autistic, Peri is neurodivergent, I do NOT read into subtext.  I have an anxiety disorder and will literally never be able to function if I read into everything as passive aggressive.  My autism does not excuse abusive behavior - but if you do not tell me about this behavior, which Peri never did, I can never get better.  I do not read that “im fine” as a silent plead for me to leave him alone when he literally was always talking about how annoyed he was by people overanalyzing his responses, seeing hostility where there was none, and he specifically said not to read into short replies as anything personal.  He said he had compassion fatigue.  Which is why I left him be until I had no choice.

The last vent I mentioned said “Shitty friends, shitty friends” on his private twitter.  I was worried it was about me and Rainy, because I figured if it wasnt, he would’ve told us who it was about.  And he never did.  So I’m pretty sure it was about us.  After disappearing for the day and making me and Rainy worried that he was suicidal, he sent us this goodbye message in our mutual server (which the only reason i have this is because i sent it to another friend because i didnt know how to feel and needed guidance)

This goodbye letter, despite seeming nice on the surface, blamed the trauma that me and Rainy faced as well as our particular interests for Peri leaving us.  One of my boundaries in our friendship was to tell me if anything was wrong so I could improve it and be a better person, and Peri broke that trust.  He was absolutely a shitty friend in that regard.  But just this goodbye letter I would’ve bought despite being disappointed...if he hadn’t called us shitty before.

By the way, at the time, the only thing I could think this would be about was not trusting Peri’s gut about some randos.  Rainy and I wanted to give those people a fair shot, and Peri accused us of not trusting him because of it.  You do not get to dictate who your friends do and dont hang out with, and you dont get to guilt trip them for hanging out with someone who has literally done nothing to you except act a little bit too much like our shared abuser Moony, wtf?

Peri also accused me of saying he and Moony were the same, when I did no such thing.  Rainy did!  And I immediately chastized Rainy for it, clarifying that I thought they were two different beasts entirely.

I forgot what I was talking about uhhh.  Oh yeah!

I’m not the one still talking about you over a year later.  I’ve moved on.  Remove me from your DNFI.  I didn’t remove you from mine because I realized I was the abuser and you were the victim - I removed you because I’m fucking done with this situation.  I only brought it up with your friend because you LITERALLY BLAMED MY INTERESTS AT THE TIME IN YOUR FAKE-ASS APOLOGY.  And what were me and Rainy talking about a bunch at the time?  Digimon!!  Aka the person who I talked to’s special interest!  I told them I would fuck off if they asked and I encouraged them to talk to you about it and have a genuine conversation.  Because I, unlike you, am a good person who lets people come to their own conclusions.

Also, you were 2 weeks away from being 16, and I was a few months into being 18.  Here are some of our conversations about becoming QPPs!

Should I have entered a QPR with my 7+ year friend who literally shaped me into who I am today when they were almost 16 and I was already several months into being 18?  Probably not!  But adulthood isn’t just some switch that goes off, and I was a dumbass.  Peri’s current GF is apparently being accused of being a predator, or something, according to one of Peri’s other posts?  I dont know whats happening because im not! a fucking! stalker! but Peri of all people should know what it’s like to have a small age gap blown into something bigger than it is.  Peri and I’s relationship didn’t change a whole lot after becoming QPPs - we were still close friends.  But after literally growing up with Peri, I didn’t realize that I needed to enact healthy boundaries with someone so young when they were the one who used to “troll” me when we were kids (AKA pretend to be mad at me or pretend to be someone else and then say “haha just kidding!” just to cause problems).

Peri has clearly built me up to be some kind of villain in his head.  And that’s fine, I really don’t care.  I go months without thinking of Peri, and he’s just a bad memory whenever I do think of him - well until I found out he’s calling me a pedophile and accusing me of making callouts that I never did and generally has been a pot calling the white marble countertop grey for the past year or so.  But I dont care.  I DONT CARE.

But if you want me to stop warning people about you, its simple.  Stop spreading lies about me.  Take my name out of your public vocabulary.  Take me and Rainy off your DNFI.  I do not think about you, I do not talk to people about you very often, most of my current friends didn’t know the things you did until today because I had no reason to tell them.

For anyone uninitiated - all you need to know is that this person’s tumblr title is “an aphobic [reclaimable slur]” and so by admission they like to harass other minorities for fun.  Seriously, you don’t have to be an ace inclusionist or even believe aphobia is real to just be a nice person, what the fuck?  This post in particular is extremely telling.

Also they retweeted a post from someone with the username “panphobe” so.

Just a few notes.  Hope the asexual who stans a literal stated aphobe gets tired of licking that boot soon.  And Peri too.  Your obsession with me is more unhealthy to you than it is to me.  Just...drop it.  I will only add to this if more accusations are thrown my way.   I am done with you.  You have a repeated behavior of this shit, and I want to add more things but they’re heresay from other people so I don’t feel comfortable adding them.  But yeah.  Stop hurting people.  Stop bullying people and being angry and aggressive for fun.  You’re not as cute as you think you are.  There’s a reason this shit keeps happening to you.  Get better soon.

As for me, I think I’ll spend the next three months going back to forgetting you exist.  I liked it there.  But you can keep thinking I’m stalking you if you’d like.  I have all the proof and evidence I need that you’re a fucking liar right here.  And most of your tweets accusing me of shit are deleted too.  Now leave me the fuck alone.

PS, even if aroaces arent oppressed, sending them hate messages based on something they cant control is really shitty :) its not like we’re still a minority group or anything!  I’m also literally trans, so you’re proving the fact that the bad exclusionists always target other LGBTs who happen to be aspec for their harassment :) but keep it going keep it going, every spiteful message sent to me specifically because im aspec and part of the LGBT community just fuels my agenda.

[frukheaven]

Rant of the day: I can’t FUCKING BELIEVE that there is a FUCKING ANTI on the hetalia fandom making a WHOLE FUCKING BLOG to list “bad blogs”

Before starting: in absolute NO CIRCUNSTANCE this is a motive to go there and harass them in ANY WAY. If you harass someone, no matter the reason, you are a terrible human being and I’m disgusted by you.

*very deep and tired sigh*

I am TIRED.

SO FUCKING TIRED of dealing with antis bullshit on the Voltron fandom. I am tired of seeing they harass people, I am tired of seing their shit on the tags I like, but, mostly: I AM TIRED OF SEEING THEIR INCORRECT AND FAILED LOGIC ALL OVER THE PLACE.

They keep claiming over and over again that incest ships (even self-cest), pedophilia ships and abusive/toxic ships means that whoever ship those are inherently endorsing those things in real life and that those shippers are inherently bad people. They say “fiction afects reality” and think that they are the paladins of truth and justice and protectors of children/minors. 

*very deep and annoyed sigh*

First of all, bitch, YES, MOTHERFUCKER, WE KNOW THAT FICTION AFFECT REALITY. That is why people demand representation in media and that is why people demand better media.

HOWEVER, FICTION DOESN’T AFFECT REALITY IN A “MONKEY SEE, MONKEY DO” WAY!!!!!!!

They keep claiming “oh, children will see incest/pedophilia/abuse/rape in fandom and they will think that it is ok in real life”

BITCH, NO!

I don’t know how these naive people were raised, but most MOST PARENTS THAT I KNOW, MOST PARENTS OF OTHER SHIPPERS HAD ALREADY TAUGHT THEM THAT THOSE ARE WRONG BEFORE WE GET INTO THE INTERNET. Dear antis, If YOUR PARENTS failed to educate you that incest/pedophilia/abuse/rape is wrong, that is, honestly, YOUR FUCKING PROBLEM! This is the internet and I ain’t your mama. I’m not here to shelter people against all and every heavy content. 

I’m on the internet and on fandom since I was 11/12 (I don’t remember when).  I basically raised myself in fandom and I learned about sex and sexuality in fandom firstly. And even there I WASN’T STUPID ENOUGH TO THINK THAT INCEST/PEDOPHILIA/ABUSE WAS COOL AND OK IN REAL LIFE! My first mlm ship was between a 15 yo and a 30 yo. I shipped it, I liked it AND I, WITH 12/13 YEARS OLD KNEW, WITHOUT A SHITTY ANTI TELLING ME THAT, THAT THAT WASN’T OK IN REAL LIFE!

Antis treat people, especially minors, as if they were stupid.  They treat fiction as if it was a case of “monkey see, monkey do” when that is hardly the case.

People who were socialized correctly WILL NOT EVER THINK THAT THAT IS OK IN REAL LIFE!

Antis treat people as if it was sinful and heinous to like heavy or more problematic stuff/ships.

BITCH, NO!

PSYCHOLOGISTS ALL OVER THE GLOBE HAD ALREADY PROVEN THAT IT IS PART OF THE HUMAN NATURE TO BE ATTRACTED TO EDGE THEMES!

Meaning that it is ok to like reading/seeing about those kind of things. IT IS NORMAL! (also, before someone asks: yes, it is also ok not to like it. Both are part of the human nature, and one is not more right or wrong than the other. They are just part of humanity. They just are. Period).

IF ALL THE PROFESSIONALS SAYS THAT IT IS OK, WHY DO YOU THINK YOUR SORRY ASS KNOW MORE ABOUT THE SUBJECT THAN THEY DO? YOU ARE NOT GOD, MOTHERFUCKER!

Of course, that there is a huge “but” on that.

It is ok to like those kind of stuff, BUT PEOPLE HAVE TO TAG THAT CORRECTLY. PEOPLE HAVE TO PUT ALL THE WARNINGS SO PEOPLE CAN EITHER EXPLORE THEIR HEAVY SUBJECT OF INTEREST OR THEY CAN AVOID/BLACKLIST IT. 

As I said, I’m in fandom since I was 11/12. I’ve seen/read a lot of shit during those 14/13 years that I’m in this internet life. A lot of shit. A LOT OF SHIT. A LOT OF SHIT! And every single fucking time I seen/read some shit, I WAS THE ONE WHO ACTIVELLY CLICKED ON IT.I CHOOSE TO DO THAT. I’ll never forget about the time when I was starting on the hetalia fandom and I used to read UsUk stuff (yeah, a long time ago, in a galaxy far away...) that I read some heavy fanfics from the same author, about rape, torture and brainwashing (until this day, I’ll never forget that author’s name and I’ll pronounce it just like Timmy Turner’s dad (from Fairy Godparents) pronounce “Dinkleberg”). That stuff REALLY messed up with my head for a few weeks. HOWEVER, The author PUT ALL THE WARNINGS.  I had ALREADY read some of their stuff (and I was grossed out about it) AND I STILL CHOSE TO CLICK ON IT!

You see, that is how the internet works: ONE CHOOSES TO SEE OR NOT!

SO THERE IS NO REASON TO TRY TO POLICE PEOPLE WHO DOES THAT! IT IS NOT WRONG AND PEOPLE CAN DO WHATEVER THEY WANT!!! (with proper tags and proper warnings, of course)

One last fallacy that the antis LOVE to say is that “adults can use pedo/abuse/incest shipt to groom young children and abuse them uwu”

BITCH, NO!

DO YOU REALLY THINK THAT CSA STARTED TO HAPPEN ONLY AFTER THE TELEVISION AND THE INTERNET WAS INVENTED?

DON’T BE STUPID, STUPID!

Predators had existed since the beginning of humanity. In Rome, for example, there were parties where the guests were offered little children (5 to 12 yo) FOR THEM TO RAPE. 

ARE YOU SERIOUSLY GOING TO BLAME THAT ON THE INTERNET?

Again: if antis parents failed to show them that incest/pedophilia/abuse/rape is wrong, it is hardly my or anyone in the internet job to teach that to antis. 

Normal minors, children that already know (because their mamas raised no fools) that incest/pedophilia/abuse/rape is wrong, will see problematic content and either avoid it (and learn how to manage their own internet experience) or will explore it (again: there is nothing wrong in liking heavy content, and people start developing their sexuality and their interests during puberty, between 11 to 19 yo. And NO, SEEING/READING ABOUT PEDOPHILIC SHIPS WON’T MAKE PEOPLE PEDOPHILES. THIS IS NOT “MONKEY SEE MONKEY DO”!!!! THAT JUST MEANS THAT THOSE PEOPLE WILL LIKE THAT KIND OF CONTENT)

Normal people (most of the people except antis) don’t need antis to tell them what is right and what is wrong. 

Normal minors WON’T BE GROOMED WITH PEDO/ABUSE/INCEST CONTENT!!!!

You know with what kind of media the predators groom children?  With SFW work!!!! With PG works!!!!! WITH STUFF THAT ARE CUTESY AND SWEET AND NOT PROBLEMATIC AT ALL!

For fucks sake: Predators WANT CHILDREN/MINORS TO THINK THEY ARE THE GOOD GUYS! THEY ARE NOT GOING TO SHOW THEM PEDO/ABUSE/INCEST STUFF!!!!

Of course, to all rule there is a counter example. Yes, I’ve already read about cases of people who were in fact groomed and that their abuser used pedo/abuse/incest ships to try to justify it.  Yes, I’ve already read about “the lolita effect” in Japan about predators using that kind of ships to justify their actions. HOWEVER: 1) That is not the rule (Japan has a little more problems with this part, but it is not my place, as a westerner, to lecture them without more information on the topic and on their culture) 2) That is bad usage of media and it could happen with ANY MEDIA. Again, another anedoct of my life: I’ve met a girl a few years ago (I was 18 and she was 19) who had been groomed when she was 12 with pokemon. Yes, POKEMON. ARE ANTIS GOING TO BLAME POKEMON FOR SHE BEING GROOMED? ARE THEY? I don’t think so. (She was all right, by the way. She told her mom who called the cops. I think they arrested the guy. Yikes. At least she got more careful on the internet after that).

ANY MEDIA CAN BE USED TO GROOM CHILDREN/MINORS IN ANY WAY!!!! PROBLEMATIC SHIPS BEING USED FOR THIS IS THE EXCEPTION, NOT THE RULE!

Do I like pedo ships? Hell No! Do I like incest ships? Hell No! DO I like rape ship? ...well, I had to be guilty of something, I guess... Do I like abuse ships? Hell No! BUT THAT DOESN’T MAKE ME HAVE THE RIGHT TO CENSOR OTHER PEOPLE FOR FUCK’S SAKE!

AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH *screaming to the void with anger*

Righ, ok. 

If the fandom is so worried about predators and all, what can we effectively do?

I’m glad you asked!

1) TALK We have to talk about our inner problems (like some fetization of mlm ships that fandons in general still have) AND we have to discuss these subjects between ourselve. Again, anedocte of my life: I was 15 and I still shipped that 15/30 yo ship (the same ship). I met online other people who shipped it, including a new shipper, younger than us (ages between 16 to 12, the 12 was the new shipper). We talked with the new shipper about how we loved our ship, of course, but how that would be gross in real life. The new shipper was a little dazzled with the fantasie of an older man liking them (just like I had been when I was 12/13) like it happened on the ship. So we the older shippers talked with them about how that doens’t happen in real life like that and how if an older man showed interests on her that would be really messed up. She got a little annoyed with us in the beginning (since she already knew that), but in the end she knew a little bit more about how to spot a predator (since we were talking about what we knew on the subject). That is just one example of my life, but I think many other people out in the internet have other nice examples. That is, in my opinion, the most powerful weapon against abuse and predators: information and support. Instead of censoring a “bad ship” and cocooning the new shipper in a bubble of ignorance, we talked about it with her and she learn something important for her life. That is what anyone can do.

2) REPORT REAL RAPIST/PEDOPHILES If you can, do it.  If you can call the cops, even better. That is how we can help. That is what antis don’t do. Recently on the Voltron fandom, someone showed screenshots of an anti discord chat where it was posted a link to a rapist blog on tumblr with the caption “PLEASE REPORT THIS FUCKER”.  The antis mocked that.  They did nothing. Then, when the conversation leaked, they acused the person that sent the link of exposing them to troubling content (as if the person had sent the link just to rile them up and not to get help reporting the motherfucker). aNTIS aRE uSELESS. i rEST mY cASE

3) DONATE TO INSTITUTIONS THAT HELP CSA VICTIMS/SURVIVORS If you have the money, of course. Since I am broke 99% of the time, I can only reblog stuff and pray for the best, but if you have some money and you want to help that is a good oportunity. There are also other ways to the fandom to help too! A good example on the Voltron fandom was the Sheith Zine, that donated all the profits to one of those institutions (I can’t remember which now)

TL,DR: FICTION DOESN’T AFFECT REALITY IN A “MONKEY SEE, MONKEY DO” WAY, PEOPLE WHO WERE SOCIALIZED CORRECTLY WILL NEVER THINK THAT THOSE KIND OF SHIPS ARE OK IN REAL LIFE, THERE IS NO REASON TO POLICE WHAT PEOPLE SHIP BECAUSE IT IS ALL FINE (IF THEY USE THE PROPER TAGS AND WARNINGS, OF COURSE), ANY MEDIA (ESPECIALLY NON-PROBLEMATIC) CAN BE USED TO GROOM CHILDREN/MINORS (PEDO SHIPS BEING USED TO THAT IS THE EXCEPTION), ANTIS ARE A DISGRACE WHO DO NOTHING EFFECTIVE TO HELP PEOPLE AND THERE ARE WAYS TO HELP PEOPLE AGAINST ABUSE THAT ARE __NOT__ CENSORING SHIPS

AND NO, DEBORAH, I’M NOT GOING TO PUT THIS ALL UNDER A “READ MORE” THIS TIME AND I’M NOT GOING TO STOP SCREAMING I’M PISSED

Last note: if you want to talk about it, I’m really more civil than this in one-one conversations. As long as you keep the respect (and sarcasm is still considered a disrespect in this blog), I’ll keep the respect and won’t scream (maybe put stuff in bold for emphasis, but that is it)

[strawberryopossum]

1-64!!!!!!!

....... You certainly want to know a lot... Here we go

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1. Do you ever doubt the existence of others than you?Sometimes, more like I doubt they have lives of their own, and it makes me anxious when I realize they do

2. On a scale of 1-5, how afraid of the dark are you?On a scale of 1-5? 7

3. The person you would never want to meet?I don’t know... The president?

4. What is your favorite word?Favorite word: DefenestrationFavorite word that I actually use daily: Fuck

5. If you were a type of tree, what would you be?The older tree that has shriveled and died from Don’t Hug Me I’m Scared 2

6. When you looked in the mirror this morning what was the first thing you thought?Y’all don’t wanna know that, the second thing I thought, though, was that I should probably brush my hair

7. What shirt are you wearing?An anarchy tank top I got from Hot Topic YEARS ago

8. What do you label yourself as?Labels are for soup cans I don’t know... If it’s asking for style wise, I dress like a goth video game character, if it’s asking about gender/sexuality, I’m a pan transdude

9. Bright room or dark room?Is this about lights or furniture/windows?? Cause I like lights on... But I like dark furniture, and windows freak me out, so they have to be covered... So... Dark room with a light on?

10. What were you doing at midnight last night?Writing out the last set of questions y’all wanted, I think

11. Favorite age you’ve been so far?I liked it when I wasn’t bornLess stress

12. Who told you they loved you last?My girlfriend

13. Your worst enemy?I dunno... My rival from Pokemon? Fucking Gary...

14. What is your current desktop picture?A FFXV promo pic, wallpaper thing

15. Do you like someone?Yaaaaaaaa ~

16. The last song you listened to?Heaven Knows by The Pretty Reckless

17. You can press a button that will make any one person explode. Who would you blow up?See my answer to question #3

18. Who would you really like to just punch in the face?Richard Spencer

19. If anyone could be your slave for a day, who would it be and what would they have to do?I don’t know... I’ve never thought about it, and I can’t think of anyone? 

20. What is your best physical attribute? (showing said attribute is optional)My eyes, they’re the only thing I got going for me, right now

21. If you were the opposite sex for one day, what would you look like and what would you do?Well, I would have a flat chest, which would really be niceProbably the same thing I do everyday, try to take over the world sit in my room on my laptop, or go to the bookstore

22. Do you have a secret talent? If yes, what is it?I’m not really good at anything, so I don’t think so

23. What is one unique thing you’re afraid of?Hm... I have an issue with really large glass windows

24. You can only have one kind of sandwich. Every sandwich ingredient known to humankind is at your disposal....... A grilled cheese with bacon? I’m a fairly boring person

25. You just found $100! How are you going to spend it?Probably get as many nights in a hotel as I could and get away from here for a couple days

26. You just got a free plane ticket to anywhere in the world, but you have to leave immediately. Where are you going to go?London

27. An angel appears out of Heaven and offers you a lifetime supply of the alcoholic beverage of your choice. “Be brand-specific” it says. Man! What are you gonna say about that? Even if you don’t drink booze there’s something you can figure out… so what’s it gonna be?A restaurant over here called Medieval Times has really good frozen strawberry daiquiris  

28. You discover a beautiful island upon which you may build your own society. You make the rules. What is the first rule you put into place?No running in my lobby

29. What is your favorite expletive?Fuck and all variations of it

30. Your house is on fire, holy shit! You have just enough time to run in there and grab ONE inanimate object. Don’t worry, your loved ones and pets have already made it out safely. So what’s the one thing you’re going to save from that blazing inferno?If my phone was in my pocket, then my laptop... If not, then my phone

31. You can erase any horrible experience from your past. What will it be?Being born

32. You got kicked out of the country for being a time-traveling heathen who sleeps with celebrities and has super-powers. But check out this cool shit… you can move to anywhere else in the world!Uhh... Probably still London

33. The Celestial Gates Of Beyond have opened, much to your surprise because you didn’t think such a thing existed. Death appears. As it turns out, Death is actually a pretty cool entity, and happens to be in a fantastic mood. Death offers to return the friend/family-member/person/etc. of your choice to the living world. Who will you bring back?Carrie Fisher

34. What was your last dream about?I wrote about it earlier, there was wedding ring dropping, a rattlesnake, a giant bed, and the Aoba cake

35. Are you a good….[insert anything you’d like here]???? You didn’t tell me what you’re asking, so I’m skipping this for now

36. Have you ever been admitted to the hospital?Yes, several times

37. Have you ever built a snowman?Yeah, it wasn’t a very good one, but he had a hat

38. What is the color of your socks?I’m not wearing socks

39. What type of music do you like?I don’t have one particular type... I go from anything like Vocaloid, to various musicals, to The Pretty Reckless, to the soundtrack to Lazy Town

40. Do you prefer sunrises or sunsets?Sunsets, because I prefer night time

41. What is your favorite milkshake flavor?Fudge

42. What football team do you support? (I will answer in terms of American football as well as soccer)I have no interest in the sportsball

43. Do you have any scars?Several

44. What do you want to be when you graduate?I’m going into video game design... Or at least, trying to

45. If you could change one thing about yourself, what would it be?My body

46. Are you reliable?I like to think so

47. If you could ask your future self one question, what would it be?Am I happy?

48. Do you hold grudges?I’m a very bitter and petty person... So, yes

49. If you could breed two animals together to defy the laws of nature, what new animal would you create?I will live out my childhood dream of having CatDog

50. What is the most unusual conversation you’ve ever had?I dunno... Probably something with Kristina... There’s screenshots all over my blog

51. Are you a good liar?Yes

52. How long could you go without talking?As long as I felt like it, a lot of the time, I don’t have the energy to speak, anyway

53. What has been you worst haircut/style?I had an asymmetric bob onetime, only it wasn’t supposed to be an asymmetric bob... The lady cutting my hair was determined to make it look feminine, so my friend shaved it when I got back to my boyfriends house

54. Have you ever baked your own cake?I bake all the time

55. Can you do any accents other than your own?I used to could do a Russian accent... I was big on doing accents when I was super big into Hetalia

56. What do you like on your toast?If I have eggs, I’ll put them on my toast... But if not, I used to like grape jelly on my toast...

57. What is the last thing you drew a picture of?I haven’t drawn anything in so long.... I started a zen tangle a year or so ago.... So, probably that

58. What would be you dream car?A convertible, 4-door, black Audi r8 The Regalia

59. Do you sing in the shower? Or do anything unusual in the shower? Explain.I sit in the shower, it’s warm, and I have a bathtub, so it’s nice

60. Do you believe in aliens?Yes

61. Do you often read your horoscope?I used to, but now I’m too lazy to check it every day

62. What is your favorite letter of the alphabet?X *X-Files theme plays*

63. Which is cooler: dinosaurs or dragons?Dragons, definitely

64. What do you think about babies?Good in theory, good for some people, but being pregnant terrifies me, and I don’t want to be responsible for another human