#were going thru the same thing rn n hnstly its more like— knowin it will b better soon logiclly

[ogeeitsme]

Hey, do you have any advice on consoling freaking out alters? Specifically trama/memory holders. We have a goth (fictive) that's currently freaking out and reliving trauma n we dont know really what to do other than comfort him. Our little is also really uncomfy too. I feel super bad for them, and I want to help but I don't know how. Do you got tips? Anything would be helpful. Thanks. -Felix (host from the Chaos System)

Hi! So unfrtntly I wldnt kno what advice we wld giv- Bc Even now we just got Chara out of static mode n I think the bggst “advice” we feel confdnt 2 giv based on our exprncs as a sys is 2 just giv them time,,,

Singlt life is not the same b it’s like if som1 outspace was hurting the same way n also going they major trauma/flashback town- it’s case by case bc what we may do mite not b effective- or 4 others they may actlly need 2 do something n not w8 4 it 2 pass

Bsclly, if u can talk 2 them, I think 1 of the best things u can do in genrl is ask if there’s something they want or need- like if they want 2 b left alone, keep the lights on, or listen 2 calm music

N sometimes if there’s 2 many options I can giv them simple options like asking yes or no questions like “wld u like a hug?” So it’s easier 2 answ back

If u rmmbr, u can mayb talk inwards while ur fronting? If u kno smths triggering them, even f ur not there-there u can like, just always reassure them that it’s ok,,,

Bsclly create safe environmnts, n remind them that while it’s ok 2 feel hurt or scared, (if they wnt 2 feel it in the mmnt) that they’re not there anymr, it’s safe here- n how they feel is real- n whatevr it is, they never deserved 2 have 2 go thru such bad things, let alone b so hurt by it in the end,,

U also mentioned fictives— so my suggestion 4 that is avoiding source if it may trigger memories

N it’s ok 2 look @ source!! B if ur not feelin ok, u gtta listen 2 ur brain, bc when u feel ok again maybe u can look @ source again

But speaking of avoiding source- mayb there’s smth from source that calms them or makes them feel safe or grounded? Not he same b Chara wears a green sweatr we bought them irl when they don’t feel gr8, it’s bc the sweater reminds them of the good things of source n makes hem feel safe

I’m the end- it mite b hard- 2 like, talk 2 them if they’re 2 stuck in time, b it’s rlly good 2 work 2gether (or have them work w som1 they trust @ least) on what makes them feel comfy

It can b from small things like not touching them or having affection like hugs and pats, 2 clothes or music- or even just talking abt it

OH anthr thing- hnstly most of my advice rn is general- b if they want 2 journal- that’s ttlly a thing they can do! They can draw, etc- n keep it or rip it apart in a shredder or wnur hands

U guys can get thru this- I’m jst srry I cant give precise advice jssndjenn

Again it’s rlly case by case n depends on what that prsn needs- so hopefully u can talk it out!! 4 now, space is rlly good as a basic strt b @ the same time reminding them they have the sys 2 lean on n trust, they’re safe n ok, the bad memories won’t happen again, it was real- b it won’t repeat here