#we're not gods but we're not people you can hurl insults at either

[cassiopeia-mori]

how to: talk to artists

before i get into this, if you've said any of these, then im not mad. it makes sense you wouldnt understand how it feels to be on the other end of stuff like this. but please listen.

its been a universal constant that artists are usually well respected. cool! however some of the ways artists are complimented/spoken to are...really iffy, at best, and outright hurtful at worst. i'll be compiling all the ones i remember. artists, reblogs are appreciated.

DON'T: "wow, how did you do this in an hour? this would take me a whole day!"

this one isnt that bad but it can still be taken poorly. simply put, its kinda just stomping on the skill that an artist has built up to work quicker or not. some artists take a while, others don't, it shouldn't matter unless it becomes an issue.

DON'T: "your art is way better than mine!"

this one is pretty bad. the artist may feel as though they've been put on a pedestal, and can become uncomfortable due to that. even worse is if this person isnt saying it in a compliment way, but in a "i hate my own art" way and get upset. while i can understand not being confident in your own works, and i empathize with you as i used to be like that, PLEASE don't take it out on artists. we dont want to make you upset, so if posting art near you makes you upset over the quality and effort put into it, we may not want to post these works around you again.

DON'T: "can you draw me?"

no. just don't. please don't beg artists to draw you, your characters, or anything else unless they specifically ask for requests. it can make us feel pressured because we dont want to hurt feelings, even if we don't want to. i promise you there are people with art requests open. ask there!

DON'T: "did you draw that?"

yes, i did. unless you think someone is stealing art, to which there tend to be obvious signs, assume in good faith the artist is the artist.

DON'T: "your character reminds me of.."

most artists hate their characters being compared to others. ocs are often very closely cherished by the creator, so unless they wear their inspirations on their sleeve, please don't compare. feeling like nothing we make is original is already natural enough, and saying this kind of thing makes it worse.

DON'T: "this looks bad/i hate this/(character) wouldn't do this/etc, etc."

unwarranted criticism, even constructive, isn't fun. some artists specifically seek constructive criticism, some don't. respect that. saying shit like 'this is bad' is not constructive and does nothing to help the artist either way. saying a character is OOC doesn't really matter, people can do what they want. of course, if, say, an artist got something major wrong, like a hand being backwards, most (but not all) would likely appreciate that being (GENTLY.) pointed out to them.

thank you for reading such a long ass post lol, feel free to add on your own experiences.

[timextoxhajima]

RESONANCE BEACH: Fly Away With Me

RESONANCE BEACH masterlist [to be linked]

member: best friend! jaehyun x reader

genre: fluff and angst

wc: 1.3k

warnings: swearing

synopsis: our hearts are trapped in the same dream

"do you feel better?"

"mm, i think it depends on what we're talking about."

jaehyun chuckles, not bothering to look up from his feet sinking into the sand as he walks. his eyes are slightly squinted from the sun, but only because he's blocking you and using his shadow to keep you out of the sunlight.

"regardless, i hope this isn't a wasted trip. didn't drag you across the country for a road trip only for you to not feel any better."

"uh huh," you snicker and hold your palm over your eyes to look up at him. "i mean, i do. it's just... it's gonna take a while."

he nods, looking up on the other side when he hears a dog bark.

it feels like a million years since you first met jaehyun. he grew up well, as attested by the number of girls on his tail in school. yeah, you know it's cliche. the boy best friend who glowed the hell up and suddenly became the famous, popular jock friend.

but it's not like you hung out with him in school that much - or at least enough for the girls to pick on you.

they know you are friends and a good number of them have done enough homework to know that jaehyun's been your best friend for more than a decade but he hangs out with his big ol' boy gang in school.

leaves you out of the spotlight.

that is - until jaehyun self-elected himself as your personal therapist, bodyguard and chauffeur when your boyfriend decides to dump you on graduation night.

whilst it was fun watching jaehyun being held back by johnny and taeyong from bashing the boy's face in, it really wasn't funny having his words play over and over and over again in your head like a broken record.

"i didn't want to break up with you before graduation because i didn't want to be the reason why you failed your exams."

"i didn't wanna wake you up but we're almost there," jaehyun mumbles under his breath, obviously tired from the driving as well. the car slows to a stop at a red light, and he taps on his phone mounted to the dashboard to stop the GPS tracking.

you shuffle and sniffle lightly, pushing yourself up on the passenger's seat and looking out the window. it's a pretty row of shophouses, and the cafes and restaurants along the road were probably more aesthetic than their menus were.

the restaurant - chosen by jaehyun simply hitting a digital bottle on his phone and picking the one the mouth landed on - was something more like a jazz bar with classy ribs and al funghi linguines.

he didn't really care that you weren't hungry, not when he was.

the strawberry milkshake slurps loudly as he inhales, his hands tightly gripping onto the glass as the both of you watch haechan and mark bicker in the group chat.

you wouldn't describe your friendship with jaehyun as stellar; role model-like. it's not.

you've had your fair share of fights with him- yelling at each other, physical fighting (and by physical fighting, you truly do mean pulling his hair and sometimes he shoves you too).

of course, you'd only allow it because you've given him so many 'gender-equality' speeches, and on top of that, the 15-year friendship? not going to stop him from picking a physical fight with you.

but jaehyun knows when to stop. he knows if he's gone too far or how many more words he can hurl at you before you crack under pressure.

he knows how far he can go before you need to be held in his arms, crying into his shirt and letting you hit him and shove him away - yeah, i know what you're thinking.

sounds like a boyfriend. sounds like that universally known best friends-who-are-probably-in-love-with-each-other trope. it does.

and it is.

the thing is - we already knew.

kind of.

it's in the sweets and snacks he used to give you before and after school if you weren't dating anybody. he was careful not to when you had a boyfriend, but otherwise... you'd lost count of how many people would ask if you two were dating.

you were pretty sure jaehyun had lied and told people you were dating, but it never got out far enough for word to spread. especially not when you were the uglier, quieter best friend of the duo.

"you should ask them to pack the truffle fries, we're not gonna be able to finish it."

jaehyun looks up from his phone and squints at you. "try me."

"you're gonna puke later when you realise you've eaten more than you can digest."

"when have i ever had so much that i can't digest it?"

gently rolling your eyes, you sigh and sink back into the sofa seat. the fries crunch as he jabs the pieces with his fork, shoving them into his mouth like he hadn't had a plate of pasta and some chicken nuggets.

it does get boring with jaehyun sometimes because he's so mellow with his friends he doesn't get into as much shit as the younger ones do; he's never the source of drama.

but he's comforting when you're back at the beach (only because the holiday house was a 5-minute walk from it), and he's holding your shoes because you're too busy screaming about your skirt getting wet.

it's not uncommon for people to question your friendship with him, because you were either too similar or too much of an opposite from each other. most people think he's sweet and caring - which he is - but not with you.

he's brutal and has a strange sense of tough love - because he knows that's the kind you need.

"scream any more and you'll just about wake the rest of the neighbourhood up," he groans, knowing when to step back when the waves crash into your calves.

"why are they so fucking irregular-" you stumble and step clumsily all over the sand, the water and grains getting stuck to your legs and all over your skirt. finally, you give in and strut away from shore, leaving footprints in the sand as you walk towards him.

"think you just lack a sense of rhythm and pacing," he sniggers, yawning as he turns to face the holiday house.

you snort, used to his mockery. reaching out to get your shoes, jaehyun simply turns and walks off with them in his hands.

you'll never deny loving jaehyun - in whatever ways anybody else can imagine or experience, you probably have that with him.

platonic. romantic. hate.

what do people really mean when they say soulmates?

is it the way they complete each other or the way they complement one another?

is it the way they bicker but make up in hot kisses or lovingly press their foreheads together and wish till death does them apart?

god, actually - anything but those.

the thought tickles a funny bone in you, and jaehyun hears your giggle when he comes out of the bathroom with damp hair and his water-spotted shirt.

"what is it? thought of a new insult for me?"

"maybe," you rub your eyes and turn to look at him, giving him a tiny smile before turning back to the ocean stretched out beyond the balcony.

"guess I'm never gonna find that out then," he groans as he sits, pulling his feet in and hugging the arches. "i do hope this trip was a-"

"yeah, it was," you whisper, just loud enough for him to hear. "thanks."

"you're welcome."

you look down through the corners of your eyes and catch him staring at you, eyes glimmering like the stars you could see in the night sky.

"you're lucky we've known each other for like half our lives now, else i wouldn't hesitate to punch a tooth out from your mouth."

he chuckles, reaching over to press his knuckle into your thigh. "but you won't. you love me too much to do that."

a snort runs through your throat.

probably.

[thetaekookcloset]

I don't get why this happens in taekook community, if someone doesn't like Jimin people start judging and hating them, like Jimin has to be an angel for a taekooker. Infact a lot of taekookers shuts up people who points their dislike jimin. I don't think people are bound to like everyone. While jikookers openly hurl insults at Taehyung. God one day I saw a jikook video comment section, it's like a pattern, either hate taekook or Taehyung. Why this discrimination?

I'll be honest, this was one of the strangest things about this fandom, to me, when I first started to get involved with it -- the strangely dogmatic sense that everyone had to be OT7 first no matter what.  Maybe this is part of the kpop culture, but you're not wrong, anon: nobody has to like everyone.

None of us owe BTS anything.  They are a group of performers who make their money by entertaining people.  We're strangers to them just like they're strangers to us.  They can love ARMY without knowing each of their fans personally, and the same can be true of an individual fan loving BTS.  But just like each member of BTS wouldn't personally like every single fan they have if they were to get to know them better, each fan doesn't have to unconditionally love each member.  It's just weird to think so in my opinion.  Having said that, I personally think that being a fan of a group is going to be a lot more fun if you genuinely, you know, like the group, but that's just my opinion.

Obviously, though, there's a distinction between not particularly liking a member and being nasty and derogatory toward that member online.  The former is perfectly fine and fair and anyone who says differently is feeding into the whole cult accusation a little bit.  The latter has the potential to do real damage -- not just to the megastars on the receiving end who are millionaires and will likely never see the hateful comments, but to the other, regular people who see those comments and recognize themselves in them and internalize them.

Even if it weren't for that aspect, being hateful and intentionally hurtful is never really okay, no matter who your insults are hurling toward (unless someone did something genuinely problematic and you're calling out the behavior -- that's different), but I think we sometimes get so wrapped up in the BTS love fest that we forget the serious consequences that any kind of hateful speech can have on those who hear it (or in this case, read it).

In any case, I wouldn't call disliking a specific member discrimination (nor would I call the backlash against people disliking members discrimination either), but there are sometimes discriminatory things said when some people don't like a specific member -- that goes for Jimin and Taehyung, as I'm sure it does for other members too.

Why people feel the need to be this way, I don't know.  I've seen a lot of random people say a lot of truly disgusting things about at least the entire maknae line.  In particular there's this weird blend of sexualization mixed with queerphobia that is just downright yucky to me, and I see it all the time.

In reality, while I think it's probably more fun to like BTS if you genuinely like all of BTS (and we are supposed to be having fun, everyone -- the fun is the point!), no one is under any obligation to equally adore every member of the group, or even to like all of them.  As long as people don't say gross, generalizing, or dehumanizing things as a result of that dislike, everyone is free to not particularly care for Jimin, or Taehyung, or Jungkook, or anyone else, however they see fit.