#we had a couple of the teas from there that we'd bought before it closed down for a bit

[kavennnn]

eggs: omelet??? idk, everytime i make eggs i just end up making myself an omelet bcos if im gonna go through the trouble of getting the eggs out then i may as well go all the way and make some rlly good food

steak: medium rare

milk: cow?? but ill only have it in cereal

alcohol: idk, im a minor so i dont rlly know the names of these things, usually just get jack and coke so i guess like that??

hot drink: i normally make raspberry tea w/ 8-10 scoops of sugar but my favorite teas were from a tea shop that was nearby that closed down, so im kinda trying to find a new favorite tea, but nothing will ever be as good

@ anyone who wants to join in

[am-i-the-asshole-official]

Am I the asshole for bringing my friend to stay for the weekend?

Didn't think I'd ever make this, but here we are. So, I recently moved in with a roommate for this year of college. We never met before and we live in different parts of the country (not USA, it's a country in Europe).

Anyway, things were going great. Then I came to her one night like my friend and I wanted to go see a movie on Saturday in cinema and we'd come here afterwards to watch a show on TV since she doesn't have one in her dorm and she will likely sleep over since it's on the other side of the town and I don't want her to have to go by bus and if she wanted, she could also come with us. She said ok, but she won't join us. She will be in her room with earphones.

So, just as an fyi, the appartment has 2 separate bedrooms, huge ones, a huge bathroom (don't take this lightly, it is fit for a couple with two children and has a bathtub), the living room and dinning room are connected but there is literally space for 6 at the table and the couch can fit 4 people plus there is an armchair, the is also a spacious kitchen and a long hall and small office. When we moved, her idea was that since she has a work table she can bring, she'll take a room close to the door and put it there and I can take the room next to the office and take the office for myself. We split the bills and rent in half and our landlord told us we don't have to pay anything aside from rent the first month as a welcome gift (not unusual here).

So, Saturday, my friend asked me to help move from one dorm from one part of the town to the one in another, since it was the end of the month and everyone is coming back to college and now the one she got opened again. We went there and the lady at the desk told her she couldn't move in without a doctor's note telling them she is alright, essentially meaning she would have no place to stay untill Monday since the doctors that give those notes don't do weekends and she would have to wait. I told her that since she already is staying at my place for Saturday, she can also stay for Sunday since she had nowhere to go. We weren't paying anything except rent that month, so my roommate couldn't argue that she shouldn't pay something she didn't spend or anything. Here, it would be considered rude to say that, but people are colder to others to where she is from, so I wouldn't put it above her.

Anyway, we came to the appartment and put all of her stuff (a suitcase and a few bags) into the office only I use and I told my roommate like sorry, but there was a slight change in plans, we didn't anticipate this happening, we won't bother you etc. She said okay. I, like any well raised person here, offered my friend a drink (we had water, tea and coffee, she picked tea, I bought that, no alcohol or anything similar involved) and we went to the movies afterward.

The movie was shorter than we thought so we came back earlier and we decided to watch other stuff on TV to pass time and I made some coffee (it is custom to drink coffee in the afternoon here). Meanwhile, my roommate was showering. After she came out of the bathroom she came to me and said we needed to talk. I was like ok, confused as to what. She came to us, we were sitting on the living room floor since the couch was too far away from the coffee table and she told me that in the future that I need to tell her when my friend is coming since she has stuff to do outside of college (still unclear as to what), that this ruined her plans and that I need to tell our landlord my friend is staying over. I was like, I told you, I remeber that, and I told you she would sleep over, you were fine with it, the plus one night wasn't planned, but I can't let my friend sleep on the street and our contract says nothing about me or her for that matter letting a friend sleep over. She was like, yeah, I understand that you didn't plan that, but I didn't see what you said about her coming here on Saturday as that, and I was like what, I couldn't be clearer and then she just left to go back into her room.

Soon after, my friend and I went for a walk to discuss the situation and to see if it was just me. We came back, watched the show we planned and when to sleep in my room. We got up the next morning and steered clear of the appartment for the day as to not disturb my roommate. We came after she went to bed and went to sleep ourselves.

In the morning, Monday, I got up to get milk and breakfast for me and my friend since my roommate has her own diet because she has a sensitive stomach so I didn't get anything for her, considering that. We said hi and she went to her room. My friend came out of my room and we sat down to eat and when my roommate came out of her room she said hello, but my roommate ignored, picked her breakfast and went back to the room, which is odd considering she usually eats it at the table and that table is fit for six people, maybe more and her spot was still free, on the other side of us. She left without saying goodbye and she didn't say a single word to me after that first good morning.

I wanted to talk to her about the situation this afternoon after we both come back from the classes. I would have done so earlier, but I didn't want to have an audience aka my friend since this is a problem between my roommate and me.

She came back late, but she didn't even try to say a word to me at all since that morning and I don't want to leave this unresolved, but it's late and I have classes so I was thinking about leaving her a letter to read, but I also feel like I did something wrong, I just don't know what.

So, am I the asshole?

What are these acronyms?

[postwarlevi]

Wooow over a month since the last self ship?!

Since I'm not really writing (my bad) let's get back to this for now!

It's spring date time! Back to regular questions eventually.

Just put how the date would go with your self ship :)

Some of these might be self indulgent. You're very welcome to send me ideas for future shipping!

Who are you self shipping?

1 Farmers market

2 Picnic

3 Outdoor play/movie in the park

4 Paintball

5 Bike riding/tandem bikes

6 Scenic walk/hike

7 Strawberry/fruit picking

8 Dessert/ice cream parlor

9 Stargazing

10 Road trip

Bonus question: Were do you go on your road trip?

Other self ships on my masterlist!

tagging: @levisbrat25 @hauntedhousecat @levi-supreme @theferricfox @thesimpsstuff @antoxsmith @ackersbride @ack3rlady @smol-stone @sckerman @starryenigma @happybird16 @holy-guacamoly @jayteacups @levmada @levis-hazelnut @cookiefics @nelapanela94 @m-jelly @lucysarah-c

Tagging who I think will like this, no pressure! Anyone can join!!

I wrote a novel I'm so sorry LOL!

Who are you self shipping?

Levi

1 Farmers market

One of our favorite things to do when it's not too hot! We dress casual and he always likes my sun dresses. Come home with way more produce then we could possibly use and wind up freezing fruit and making dishes with lots of left overs. We finally bought a folding grocery cart because it gets to heavy to carry everything! Levi always gets some fresh flowers for me, and we look at the plants for our garden. Stop and get the local honey and eggs, among other things. Usually stop for more soaps and tea. Always take a nap once we get home. Levi I insist. "Can't you go half a day without sleeping?" But I whine and pull him along, not that he's putting up a fight.

2 Picnic

This one is special for us and happens usually a couple times a month. It's always a very nice time and we pack up some treats in an old fashion picnic basket, grab a blanket and head out. Find a spot under some shade and sit close while snacking and talking softly. Levi usually winds up laying down with his head in my lap when we finish eating and lets me play with his hair. Almost falls asleep because of how peaceful it is. Once I got him to sleep and gently put flowers all over him and when he sat up was very confused when they all fell off. He was only out for ten minutes but swore he had a dream that he was a flower seller on the streets, like Eliza Doolittle from My Fair Lady.

3 Outdoor play/movie in the park

We'd probably do this as long as it's not going to be too crowded. We bring folding chairs and a small tote of snacks and things to clean up with. We eat a meal beforehand because Levi is not eating from the food trucks. Also brings bug spray, sanitizer and a flashlight for the walk back to the car, just to be safe. Glares at families with kids running around disturbing others even though we tried to stay away from everyone.

4 Paintball

Levi does this because I ask 100 times. He's not happy. We don't use the shooter but just throw them. Levi barely tries to hit me because he knows it could hurt. It's not my favorite thing, however the looks on Levis face when he's hit with pinks, blues and yellows is hysterical. He threatens to make me pay for it later, but I don't know what he means since he only actually hits me twice. :) We don't do this again lol. "We're showering the second we get home." "We?" He doesn't answer.

5 Bike riding/tandem bikes

Tandem biking goes okay, he sits in front and does a lot of the work and asks if I'm doing okay a lot. I can't always hear him since he's in front and usually just give a positive response. He realizes what is going on when he asks if I want a break or to just keep going and I just say yes. On regular bikes he goes slow and makes sure I'm in the inside if we're near a street. We go in the morning before it gets too warm.

6 Scenic walk/hike

We try hiking and each bring a bag and snacks and water but turns out I'm not great at going uphill. Paths are a different story and we hold hands and stop a lot to admire running water or interesting looking trees. Levi makes sure I stay hydrated if we're on the trail for a long time but that just means I have to use the bathroom, so more stops. He never complains though.

7 Strawberry/fruit picking

Levi doesn't even try to stop me anymore when I go on a fruit picking frenzy, he just wiling holds the bag/bucket. "We have enough now, right?" "No, no, just a few more rows!" Really he doesn't mind, whether it's berries or, his favorite, apples, because we're going to make some yummy stuff with them.

8 Dessert/ice cream parlor

We come here on discount night to bring some home, but also eat a cone while we're here. Levi has to stop me from overloading with toppings. While we sit and eat I forget to actually eat since we're talking and Levi rolls his eyes at me, but it's done so fondly. "Can't bring you anywhere without making a mess." He holds my cone so I can wipe up the drips on my hand, and won't give it back without a kiss. "Yum, chocolate." He'll say with a smile, while I get a taste of vanilla.

9 Stargazing

We'll go for a late night drive away from the city lights and lay back on the hood of the car to get a better view. While I'm busy trying to make pictures from the stars, Levi is getting really scientific with star facts. I have no idea where he's got all this from (Hange) and he doesn't even realize I'm looking at him with a smile. Once he does he'll stop mid sentence and blush and look away. I tell him it's okay, even if I don't really understand everything, and tell him to help me find Orion. Which he does in under a minute.

10 Road trip

Sometimes we take the highway, sometimes the backroads when we're not in a hurry. Usually he has two hands on the wheel but sometimes Levi take one hand off to hold mine or put his on my leg. Classic rock and roll and sometimes country music get played a lot. We play a few rounds of Never Have I Ever and Would You Rather and he comes up with the most ridiculous questions, usually about hygiene. "Would you rather never wash your hair again or never wear deodorant again?" He keeps telling me this is not a test. After we stop to eat I insist on a new game.

Bonus question: Were do you go on your road trip?

A quiet mountain destination away from everyone.

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Who are you self shipping? Jean (doing both!)

1 Farmers market

We love this one! We do get produce, he insists on an entire flat of strawberries every time (the way he eats them they barely last the week) also lots of bakery items and dried pastas. Depending on what time we go will sometimes get breakfast or pizza from a food truck. We also like looking for hand crafted gifts for friends. One of us is always looking for a new hat, and once in a while we bring our dog. He gets so excited to see the vendors with the peanut butter dog treats! We grab food to go when we're ready to leave and start eating on the drive home.

2 Picnic

This is rare but the spontaneity of it makes me love him even more. It can be during the day but sunset by the water is more likely. Jeans just made an amazing meal and brings a fancy blanket and dishes and glasses like we're at a fine dining restaurant. Very romantic until this fool gets into his playful side and starts throwing cherry tomatoes at me. "You're ruining dinner!" He doesn't care. "It's MY dinner" The next thing you know food is flying and dishes are being knocked over and I can't even be mad cause we're laughing so hard. We bring dessert back and save it for after we've cleaned up and gotten the blanket in the wash.

3 Outdoor play/movie in the park We'll bring both chairs and a blanket and pillows so we can be comfortable and go back and forth between the two. Others might be annoyed at how much space we take up, but they should have gotten here sooner! Might grab food from nearby first but will bring our own snacks and drinks in plastic bags that can be used for trash. We bring a card game to play while waiting for it to get dark.

4 Paintball

I have to be honest, I don't know if I want to play paint ball with this guy. I feel like he'd really try to get at me while I shriek and run away because I don't want it to hurt since we're using the shooters. I basically cry after the second hit and Jean stands there and let's me get in a freebie and it makes me feel slightly better. We wind up teaming up against another couple and Jean shields me from most of their hits. We take a bath together later.

5 Bike riding/tandem bikes

We try tandem biking with me in front to steer and Jean in back to help peddle but turns out that's wrong, and we end up in tiny arguments most of the way since I get distracted. IDK what the heck he's yelling about, I only went off course four times. Anyway, he's worse at regular biking because I swear he forgets I can't go as fast as him and while I'm trying to catch up he's having a conversation with no one. "Babe, when did you get all the way back there?" This fool *rolls eyes*

6 Scenic walk/hike

Same as before, Jean is fit, I am not. But he continues to try to get me to hike and is always encouraging, and puts me on his back if it gets to much. "Come on, I got you, you're done for now." Scenic walks are extremely comfortable and we have conversations about the future usually. There's lots of hand squeezes and stops for hugs and kisses.

7 Strawberry/fruit picking

We love strawberry picking. I still say strawberries are his favorite fruit. We spend a couple hours in the field, each with our own bucket. We make it a competition on who can gather the best ones in a certain amount of time. Honestly we both win because we come away with 11 pounds of fruit and spend the weekend looking up recipes and baking together.

8 Dessert/ice cream parlor

We come here on make your own sundae night and make each other a sundae at the bar. We know what the other likes and usually end up eating out of both our bowls. Chocolate and strawberry go very well together. Sometimes for fun we'll dress up fancy and act proper. The staff engages and calls us sir and madam. We give a nice tip.

9 Stargazing

This is our favorite, because it's how we got together. Meteor showers laying on the blanket are the best and we lose count of how many we've seen because we can't stop telling each other that we ARE each others wishes and share lots of kisses "Oh, there's one! Kiss!" "Jean, there wasn't-" "Yes there was." and now we're kissing again and miss yet another one...yeah we can get really gushy sometimes. It's sickening LOL!

10 Road trip

Yes, let's go! We're blasting rock music from Bob Segar to Queen and head bang our way down the highway. Jean accepts if I switch it up to female driven vocals and if it's something like Katy Perry he'll sing in a higher voice with me. We're both terrible. He constantly asks me to look through the snack bag, since I'm the queen on road trip snacks, and soon our trash bag is filled with left over orange peels and granola bar wrappers. "Hey babe, can we stop somewhere?" He goes through the snacks so fast we have to hit a drive through.

Bonus question: Were do you go on your road trip?

Disneyland! Resort and activities booked, the whole thing is planned for a few days!