#we changed our gender markers and (WITH UR HELP PLS HELP IN MY BIOOO) were going to change our names very soon

[isa-ah]

Do you know where you guys want to immigrate to? I kind of want to stay because I don’t want to abandon the people in this country that don’t have the means to leave but I’m aware that it might get more dangerous. And I don’t know where I would consider going.

god thats a long answer but im gunna try to make it short. spain is somewhere weve been discussing moving since the beginning of our relationship almost a decade ago. hes been working his ass off to get a good enough remote job to qualify for the digital nomad visa, which is our best shot short term.

long term, were likely going to apply for croatian citizenship. he has roots there and all we need is to dig up the last couple pieces of the paper trail to start the process. theyve waived reclamation requirements like knowing the language so we can learn that as we go. if he gets citizenship, i also do by extension (they dont recognize gay marriage but they do recognize domestic partnership, which has most of the same rights and would extend to me in this case too) and then we can live wherever in the eu we end up. but that process can take years, so its the slowburn. hes really excited to get in touch with that part of his family tree tho, its been a huge special interest for him since he was a kid<3

my mother in law has said that if we cant get together what we need to leave before trumps administration starts, shes going to drive us all down to mexico and well just stay on the 180 day visa and renew as needed. i dont like that idea much because it means having to not only dip into the southern us regularly, but dealing with the borders which are just going to keep getting worse, but im sure wed enjoy being there otherwise.

it really just comes down to the fact that were broke as fuck, always have been, come from long lines of poverty at that, and you need savings, income and equity to do these things. our hands are tied until something changes.