#was asked if i would allow my partner access my phone - yeah sure? go thru my gallery emails tumblr etc etc but not ao3....

[jay-wasreblogging]

'If you don't allow your partner to have access to your phone that's strange and you're hiding something!'

Yes I am actually, it's Ao3. I dont want my partner (if i ever have any) to think anything I read is something I would ever want in real life... like babes no i dont want you as Alpha Hannibal comforting a tweaking Omega Will in heat, feeding him several people served up on a sashimi platter.

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surveys by seachaange

What do you do when someone is talking to you about something you don't care about? I listen and try to ask questions or add my own input so that they can see that even though I personally don’t care about the thing they’re talking about, I’m invested in them.

What is the best pizza place in your neighbourhood? Erm, we don’t really have a lot of independent pizza joints, actually. Most of the ones I see are chain restaurants like Pizza Hut and Domino’s. The best pizza I’ve had is from Vu’s at Marco Polo, but it’s been a whileeeee since I’ve had their food. Mama Lou’s pizza is also good.

Do you have Photoshop installed on your computer? I do but I only had it installed for school. I have no personal interest to learn it.

Are there any teachers you have that you are close with? I wouldn’t say that. I’m kinda chummy with one of my English teachers from high school - like he knew about me and Gab and supported us, I show my support for his art, we greet each other every now and then, etc - but we’re not ‘close.’

Do you have friends that play field hockey? No.

What about soccer? Not friends but I do know a number people who play football, yeah.

Do you think homosexuals are leading a bad lifestyle? This question aged like milk, didn’t it...

What do you think of the iPad? I remember when it blew up like crazy. It was such a revolutionary thing back when it was new, so much so that my dad even felt the need to buy one. It was fun when the hype lasted; but nowadays I don’t know people who would still seek out an iPad other than artists and law/med students, lmfao.

Do you put lotion on after you get out of the shower? I don’t.

Do you have any concerts on dvd? A lot, but they’re of concerts from a time when DVDs were still a thing. I haven’t had a new DVD in around 7-8 years.

Do you still have a VHS player? I think my parents have thrown theirs out already.

Has anyone ever given you a promise ring? No.

Do you send postcards to people when you go on vacation? I don’t. But aw, this made me remember when Jo did a summer exchange program in London and she sent postcards to Aya in the few months that she had been away. I thought that was sweet.

What do you think is the most comfortable shoe? Out of the pairs I have, my Onitsuka Tiger shoes for sure.

Have you seen Lady Gaga's music video for Telephone? That was suuuuuuch a big deal when it came out. Yes, I definitely have and I must’ve watched it a thousand times. Also rude, Beyoncé was in there too lol

If so, what do you think of it? It was so creative and a lot of fun to watch, especially for 2009 when artists weren’t exactly daring with music video concepts yet. I can’t believe they never collaborated again since.

What do you think of the septum piercing? It’s great.

Do you frequently skip class? Depends on my interest in the class/the professor, OR how tired I am that week. I skipped my psychology elective a lot because I didn’t think the instructor was all that great; and as much as I loved every single one of my history classes, there were a few sessions I voluntarily had to skip because I wasn’t doing mentally well. It really depends.

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When you're really thirsty, what do you enjoy drinking most? Water. Anything else wouldn’t be able to quench my thirst as well.

What do you find inspirational in the world? I think it differs based on what I need to see at a given time, I guess. At this point in my life, I like hearing from people who have risen from their trust and abandonment issues, because it’s what I’ve been going through as well. I probably never would’ve found something like that inspirational, say, 6 months ago, so it really depends.

When hanging out with your bf or gf, what do you like doing most? I’m a very ‘let’s spend time in silence’ type of person. I cherished it the most when my ex and I would go to a coffee shop and work for hours, in complete and comfortable silence; or when I would be driving and no words would be exchanged for nearly the entire ride. Even though I stay quiet, in those moments I’m actually very happy. Of course new experiences are great too, but I personally enjoy the conventional ‘boring’ stuff the most when with a partner.

What do/did you think of your high school? Teeming with homophobia, bigotry, and just your typical Catholic gatekeepy judgmental environment. I look back at high school fondly because of the friends I made, not because of the toxic environment they nurtured in there.

What is the dirtiest rap song you have ever heard? I don’t listen to a lot of rap. But as an 11 year old listening to Nicki Minaj’s Itty Bitty Piggy, I was immediately traumatized lmao. I still can’t listen to that song.

What about a dirty song in any other genre? Uhhhhhhhhh probably Drunk in Love?? Lmaoooo I’d die for Beyoncé a million times but I always skip that song. My asexual ass just can’t deal.

What is a genre of music you simply can't stand? One of them is techno.

What is, in your opinion, the best way of dealing with a break up? Being kind to yourself.

What flavour of Doritos do you like best? I’ve only ever tried the nacho cheese flavor, but I love that one.

Where do you do your grocery shopping? I don’t do the grocery shopping in the family but my parents usually do it at SM or at this local store we have nearby.

Would you ever go to a comedy club? Yes, with a friend so I’d be more comfortable.

Do you think Victoria's Secret is overpriced? I haven’t been in one of their stores in a while, so I can’t really say.

Do you still have a VHS player? Again, I don’t think so.

Do you have a tumblr? :))))))

Why is it that photography is becoming a trend? So this survey was made in 2010 and I can definitely confirm it was a crazy huge trend lol. Even I got into it and asked my parents to get me a DSLR back then. Anyway, I think it was because during this time, DSLRs had been slowly becoming a thing? and they were kiiiiiiiinda cheap - at least cheap enough to be accessible to a large amount of people - so it allowed people to play with different styles that were very unfamiliar at the time, like light painting, fisheye, close-ups, etc. And then at one point everyone had DSLRs and it just wasn’t as enjoyable anymore because everyone was doing the same kinds of trendy shots lol.

What is the funniest movie you have ever seen? I’m gonna go with The Proposal - Sandra Bullock was gold in that movie.

Did you watch American Idol this past season? No. Do they still air new seasons of that?? I stopped watching when the same guitar-playing, country-singing white men kept winning.

If so, how did you feel about the winner? It’s been more than a decade since I last cared for the show.

Don't you hate it when one of your earbuds stops working? Sure.

Do you have a normal landline, or do you use MagicJack? Holy shit I have not heard of MagicJack in a goddamn WHILE lmao, what a throwback. We had one, I’m pretty sure...but I never knew what it was for.

Do you even use a house phone anymore? Landlines are still common in the Philippines. Are they not in other countries? Hahahaha.

Would you ever consider dating someone who lived across the country? If I loved, trusted, and was committed to them enough, yes.

What was the most expensive restaurant you've ever eaten at? I wasn’t able to track the name but I’m pretty sure it was the fine dining restaurant in our cruise trip that my parents treated me to for my birthday.

Do/did you take foods classes in high school? My school didn’t offer such a class, but we had home economics and we were occasionally taught how to cook and bake certain dishes.

Do you have a tattoo? No, not yet.

If you do, describe the pain you went thru when getting it done. Eugh this is what I’m scared of :((((

Do you enjoy making hemp necklaces and bracelets? I’ve never tried.

Have you ever watched the show Strangers With Candy? I’ve never even heard of it before, I’m sure.

What is your favourite bookstore? Fully Booked, because their collection is expansive, always complete, and they let you take a book of the shelves and read it if you’d like.

Have you ever used torrents? Mostly throughout high school. I did use a torrent to download Midsommar recently, though.

How can we tell if you are in a bad mood? I go quiet.

How are you when you're in a really good mood? Complete opposite - I will be bubbly and chatty, especially in instances when I’m not really expected to be.

Are you nice to everyone, even people you don't like? Yes.

When you're bored in class, what do you do? I seldom found myself bored in class because I’m constantly furiously taking notes. But if the prof themselves are very boring and there’s nothing to take notes about, I go ahead and check my social media either from my phone or laptop.

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Would you rather go to Lollapalooza, Warped Tour, or Bonnaroo? As a teenager, I had always wanted to go to Warped Tour. As I’ve gotten older, though, the lineups for Lollapalooza have appealed to me more. Plus it’s in Chicago, soooooo a million more brownie points for that.

Do you have anything that is autographed? By who? Yeah, I have an autographed poster of AJ Lee. It was my most prized possession and I even placed it on a big picture frame and had it up on my wall for yearsssssssss, and then my mom had to take it down because of course it’s my mom and of course she had to do it.

Can you sleep when it's really hot? Welcome to summer months in the Philippines.

Do you know anyone who works at McDonald's? I think Carley does, but idk if that’s changed in the last few months. I don’t stay updated about her life, haven’t been for years.

Do you have a debit card? Yes.

What bank do you (or your family) use? I am not sharing that lol.

Would you ever hitchhike? I think I’m mostly open to it, though I will say I’ve read enough stories about murders that involve hitchhiking that make me a little scared of the idea, hahah.

Have you ever been kayaking? We did a boat thing in Palawan a few years ago but I’m not sure if that was kayaking or canoeing. Anywho, the experience was breathtaking.

Do you have a problem with swimming in a pond or lake? In the context of my country, yeah, because our natural bodies of water aren’t exactly...the cleanest, lmao. I’d feel much more comfortable swimming in a private beach.

Does anyone in your family go hunting or fishing? Nope. But maybe some of my relatives living in the US do?? Idk for sure.

What do/did you do when someone you barely knew asks you to sign their yearbook? We don’t really practice that. Only the really expensive, bougie, international schools here that have foreign students to begin with do that, I think.

In high school are you/were you in the plays and musicals? No.

Do you have a birdbath in your yard? No, we don’t.

Is the house you live in old or new? It’s fairly new; we had it first built in 2005 and we officially moved in 2008.

Where do you go when you need a new pair of sneakers? Depends on what brand I’m in the mood to buy.

Do you make New Year's Resolutions, or do you not even bother? I typically don’t.

Most annoying commercial? Haven’t been paying attention to them lately.

What does your favourite bathing suit look like? It’s just a simple black bikini but its overall shape and design is super cute and chic.

Do you like Silly Bandz? No.

If you do, how many do you have and what are your favourite shapes?

What do you think of My Super Sweet 16? I never watched it because I feel like I’d only get stressed if I did.

Do you have mini-blinds in your house? I have pull-down window shades in my room, not blinds.

Do you rent your home or do you own it? My parents own it.

What is your favourite song right now? Trigger by Hayley Williams.

Do you use Firefox? Nope.

Do you have a pool in your backyard? We don’t.

Do you have a gym membership? No.

Favourite field trip you've ever been on? Freshman year of high school when we went to two museums :)

[theartofbeingasidedude-blog]

THE 10 SIDE-DUDE’S COMMANDMENTS!

Some of us do it because it’s not time consuming, some of us do it out of pure love for another person, and for others, some of us just do it for the rachets. Whether it’s just sex or an actual secret relationship, having a man on the side (AKA side dude) can be the greatest feeling in the world, but it can be your worst fatal attraction nightmare if the rules aren’t followed accordingly.

Men and Women sexual tension have gone hand and hand since the beginning of time. side dudes have had their low moments in life such as The Scarlet Letter, Fatal Attraction, and VH1’s For The Love of Ray J, but recently they have had some very high points with the likes of 50 Shades of Grey and Kim Kardashian. Having a side dude on your relationship roster can be a man’s greatest assets. They may even be your greatest crowning achievement, if you’re trying to become a legendary chapter in the book of playas. Now before you become next “Iceberg Slim”, there are some rules you must enforce. In beginning, a side dude will be as loyal as Rin Tin Tin or Lassie, but sooner or later; a side dude dreams will turn into main-dude’s ambitions and that is when your life will take a horrible turn for the worse.

Do you want him to go from Gizmo to a Gremlin at the stroke of midnight?…. I think not. Follow these  10 basic “Playa Commandments” and I promise you Hollywood will not be asking you if they can remake a relationship horror film on your behalf. 1,2,3,4,5,6,7,8,9…….It’s the 10 “side dude” Commandments.

Now let’s start with the easiest commandment in the book……

Commandment #1:

Thou Shall Not Fall in Love: Every man in the world right now has a crazy Christian Grey (50 Shades of Grey) fetish. Every man would love to have a man like him in their lives, but Christian best line from the book is “I don’t make love, I fuck.” If you’re dealing with a side dude, then this line should be your side dude motto.  he may like the same sports team as you, he may be easy to talk to, and he may be even dirtier in the bedroom than your boyfriend, but always remember this, if he was that great why is he coming off the bench and not starting for your team? Rule No. 1 of the “Pimp Game” is “You don’t pay him to stay, you pay him to leave.” Never take a side dude seriously and do what it takes to keep him that way. Now were not saying go all Lawrence Taylor or Chris Brown on him (Never put your hands on a man) but 95% of  the time a playa gets caught up is because he has allowed the other man to think that he has just as much pull as the boyfriend. This is the easiest rule to remember, but the hardest rule to follow. It’s totally understandable that you start to develop strong feelings for your plan B, I mean you’re a nice guy and you don’t want to see anyone get hurt. Don’t ever let those feelings consume you. In order to be a successful playa, you must not show him any love outside of the bedroom. You show him love, you show him weakness.

Commandment #2:

Thou Shall Not Be Connected on Any Form of Social Media: Having his phone number is bad enough but if you guys are friends on Facebook or following each other on Twitter, SnapChat or Instagram….you’re just asking to get caught up. The reason why social media is so popular is because you can connect with people from all over the world anytime you want, but it also easy access to cause any and every argument between you and your loved ones at anytime. Without a doubt, a side dude is one of the most loyal people of all-time, but even the most loyal guy in the room can defiantly get jealous very fast. Menn hate when they see another man getting all the attention that they feel they should be getting. So don’t think that your side dude is thinking your an honorable guy because you’re telling everyone on social media how great your real boyfriend is. My advice to anyone with a side dude is to “Block Him” from anyone of your social media pages. Not blocking them is leaving open too much of a risk for him to try and ruin your life when he fed up being Scottie Pippen to your Michael Jordan.

Commandment #3:

Thou Shall Not Ever Go Out In Public Together…..EVER!: I don’t care if you at the library, grabbing a Starbucks in the morning, or even in separate cars right be side each other in a McDonald Drive-Thru never be seen in public with the side dude. Anything that doesn’t have closed doors with a bed in it is considered public and should be avoided at all cost. Going out with someone who you have a strictly sexual relationship with leaves the door open for emotional attachment. Emotional attachment will then lead to feelings. Feelings will then lead to your side dudes dreams turning into  main dude’s ambitions.  The worse thing you can do to a man is give him false hope.

Commandment #4:

Thou Shall Not Introduce You To The Crew: It’s bad enough if you take this dude out in public, but for god’s sake please DO NOT involve him with your friends and family. This is absolutely unacceptable, because now you’re officially bringing other people into your lovely mess. The side dude has a very likable personality especially around other people. So having him around will only cause your family and friends to want to be him new B.F.F., then you will never get him out of your life. Be careful around your guy friends because there is only two types of guy friends when dealing with a side dude. The ones that wanna get at him other male friends causing your side dude to be around for parties and other social gatherings when y’all go out as a group. The others are the guy friends that try to have sex with your side dude and those dudes are so blinded by love that they are willing to give up anything and everything they know about you like they’re on the “First 48″.  So, save yourself the headache and keep the secret relationship between you and your partner.

Commandment #5:

Thou Shall Not Allow HimTo Think This Could Be Something More: The reason side dudes rarely work out is because we don’t treat them as such, leaving them with the idea that this could be more than just sex. Remember men, what ever you say during lust, he will take it as love. So be careful what you say to them in the bedroom because everything you say can and will be used against you. A side dude is the same as an NFL player on the practice squad and should be treated as practice. he might be helping the team get ready for Sunday’s but should never be mislead into thinking that he will ever be playing on Sunday’s…..EVER! Practice makes perfect, not into the actual game.

Commandment #6:

Thou Shall Not Have You Nor Her Get Jealous:

Now this Commandment might be the hardest one of all to follow as this one usually never works. The sex is great and the communication may be  limited, but at some point jealousy will rear it ugly head. If you’ve met someone new you like or you and your boyfriend are actually on good terms, have the courtesy to tell your side dude what’s going on, he will appreciate the honesty and will not stand in the way. On the other hand, if they have met someone they like, under no circumstances can you get jealous. Do not be that guy who thinks that your side dude only wants to be with you and nobody else…this is not the 80′s or 90210. Don’t make this bigger than it really is…..sex and nothing more. De Niro said it best on “Heat” never love anything you can walk away from in two mins or less when you see the heat coming. So if you know that you can’t control your emotions, then may be the pimp game is not for you.

Commandment #7:

Thou Shall Know His Role and Shut His Mouth!: What he thinks this is the corporate ladder? There are no promotions in this line of work, now get in the bedroom and do what you’re told. A side dude is at the bottom of the man sexual ladder, sometimes he may even be confused with a hooker, but that only because you ordered room service for the both of you. They never asked you if they can attend family functions, birthdays, office parties, etc because that’s a straight up “Hell No!”. Your text messages to each other are always short and very sexual (I.E. What time should you or I cum by?, Can we do what we did last time?, My d*ck big isn’t it?, etc.) If he ever gets out of line or forgets his place, cancel him and go find another one. Trust me you can always find you another one.

Commandment #8:

Thou Shall Not Go Down on The side dude: Don’t be that much of an asshole where you don’t save anything special for your boyfriend. The great thing about side dudes is you make and can break all the rules.  In the movie “Pretty Woman” hookers were not allowed to kiss their customers in the mouth as that showed a sign of them falling in love. You may not know this but most men that go down on a man are either A. Really Really Drunk or B. Falling in love. Now you might be asking yourself “If I don’t go down on him, does that he doesn’t go down on me?” and that answer is HELL YEAH he DOES…ALWAYS! Like I said before you make all the rules and make all the circumstances. If anyone going down it’s you not me, so get yours and make sure you’re always getting it good and on your own terms.

Commandment #9:

Thou Shall Not Turn A Friend Into A side dude: Side dudes work best when it’s with a person you’ve recently met or only have sexual tension with. Now you might have a drunk college night with your best male friend Patty, but that shouldn’t lead to secret undercover sexual relationship because if you do, emotions will defiantly get involved (Remember Commandment #5). Friends who become more than actual friends 85% of the time do not work. Friends don’t f*ck friends in any fashion.

Commandment #10:

Thou Shall Realize That You’re On Borrowed Time: You have to realize that no cheater (And yes that what exactly what you’re doing…Cheating) has never successfully got away with cheating. My best advice to you is follow these commandments to the T and just enjoy the winning streak as long as you can because eventually you will get caught up. Now even though you have gotten caught, you don’t have to come out of this situation empty handed. Whether you play this in a good way or a bad way, you could come out of this situation with a boyfriend you love (Good Call), a side dude that you will eventually hate (Bad Call), or alone without either a boyfriend or side dude (That means you really f*cked up when that happens). Not to get all religious on you, but god never gave a cheater an success story.