#usually i don’t talk about the whole commmunity but like. idk this is why aromanticism and asexuality is a bit inherently queer to me. even

[our-alterous-experience]

i love being explicitly alterous. I love keeping convential attraction I don’t feel textually out of the conversation. I love seeing loveless aros explicitly reject love. I love seeing asexuals deliberately represent their separations from their feelings and what they wish to do with themselves. I love writing out what everyone has assumed of us for so long. There is soooo many ways allonormativity gets pressed on in culture but there are so many ways it has exceeded that as well. I love people talking about this non sexual attraction driven sex life. I love aros talking about their non romantic love life. I love the fucking spectrum of different ways we find being most comfortable for ourselves that is different than what many people have assumed or judged for even passively. Friends, family, strangers, they go out of their way to say weird stuff about these experiences or labels or life choices sometimes and they don’t even know people are living full lives. I love seeing even a fraction of a look into those full lives. Because honestly, not everyone needs to know or hear the labels that fit me in order for me to explain my experience and have it be something that works for me. And I love every single person in the queer community that is able to find themselves through these things in queer subcultures. It’s existed within many trans, lesbian, and gay spaces as well, and it’s one of my favorite things about the larger lgbtqia+ model. lesbians talking about specifically lesbian love. trans people talking about t4t love. same with many others. there are big umbrella terms that fit within have many of these labels. It’s beautiful, it’s individual, and it’s what so much of our modern history has been built on. Going outside the norm, conforming to our hearts instead of with being told it isn’t natural. It is. It really is.