#unpopular opinion but some people do pretend to identify as something or to have certain preferences for clout. yes people like this exist

[forgotten-daydreamer]

the girl who molested came out as ace. girl, couldn't you think about that sooner? damn.

[birthdaysentiment]

The music in wtFOCK season 3 - Song #3

Vrijdag 20.54 // "Stars" - VIZE feat. Laniia

Maybe it's an unpopular opinion, but I love party scenes, where the characters just dance to some lame-ass party song with a catchy beat or to a remix with a little too heavy base. I love the parties, not just in season 3, but in all three seasons of wtFOCK and in my opinion they are way to underrated and usually forgotten.

Whenever I watch a clip, I don't just watch it, I feel it too - if that make sense. I can identify with the characters, almost feeling the same as they do in certain moments or situations. Like for example, if they're happy and smiling, then I can't help but do it to. I'm following the flow, the wibe of the scene and if there's a party going on, then count me in. I can't help but get all excited when a party is happening in wtFOCK, because the music, in these situations, is always on point.

Some people don't like the clips with the dancing, drinking and smoking. The argument is, that they're not important, just a way to kill off some time, but I do think a lot of interesting things happens at parties, that wouldn't happen otherwise. And don't tell me you wouldn't want to see a clip with Robbe and Sander dancing and kissing at a party, just like Zoë and Senne in Zaterdag 21.43, or like Robbe and Noor in this clip.

Everything in wtFOCK needs to feel authentic, because they want to keep the show as real as possible. Even though I've never been to a party quite like the ones in wtFOCK, they always make me want to go to one myself, just so I can get a chance to feel the same way, as the characters do. I don't just get that feeling from watching the scenes, but also from listening to the songs, because the ones, that wtFOCK uses, is so good at creating the right feelings.

At parties, people let go of themselves, they lose who they are in the moment, while they're dancing and having fun. Maybe it's due to the alcohol, or it's because everyone is showing a side of themselves, they don't normally do, because at parties people can hide who they are, or show who they really are. It's refreshing to see how all the characters in this clip, is having such a good time with each other at Robbe's housewarming party.

During the scene, we get a glimpse of everyone. Senne is feeling the moment, occasionally dancing with Zoë, Moyo is doing his thing, while Aaron is maybe feeling the moment a bit too much. Amber, Luca and Jana are dancing and jumping up and down, and then there's Robbe and Noor.

Robbe is trying to feel something, anything towards Noor. Even in some moments he has us all convinced, that he might actually be a bit interested in her. But when Noor leans in to tell Robbe how fucking hot he is, you can see how his whole body stops moving, how his facial expression is changing, and so does the song.

And again, I can't help but wonder, if wtFOCK chose this song on purpose. Because during the whole scene everyone is dancing and having fun, like they "… could be the stars out there tonight", but as soon as Noor tells Robbe how fucking hot he is, the music fades away. He's almost paralyzed in the moment, because her words do nothing to him, other than make him feel uncomfortable in the situation. Robbe is trying so hard to convince himself, that his feelings are different from what is heart tells him, but sometimes he's taken back to reality, and here the lyrics seems almost a bit ironic or commenting in a way. They keep singing over and over again "don't go back to reality", but Robbe can't help it, because sometimes nothing more than a little comment helps him get back to the real world.

I think the whole clip, is showing us a lot of the problems, that Robbe is facing. He's lying to himself, to everyone, and while doing that, he's hiding what he truly feels by pretending to be interested in Noor, because he does that all night. It starts when she arrives at the party, he greets her and afterwards kiss her several times in front of Moyo and Aaron. Again, during the dancing-scene, they're all over each other and let's not forget the scene where Robbe and Noor is getting intimate in his bedroom.

But even though Robbe is trying to hide his true self, there's always something, that takes him back. Sometimes he allows himself to feel what he's actually feeling, whether it's confused, uncomfortable, afraid, sad or frustrated. Just remember the scene, where Moyo says to Robbe "someone's getting laid tonight", how terrified Robbe looked by that comment, or how sad he was while Noor was kissing him down his neck. Even though he's pretending, and is going a good job at it sometimes, his true emotions are starting to show, because he knows that he can't keep the act up forever.

Well it wasn't my intention to get all sentimental and reflecting. My purpose was to point out, that the songs, which wtFOCK uses in the party clips, are often forgotten, because they're usually just there to provide a beat. But just try and listen to this song and trust me you will find your body moving along to it within the first few seconds, because that's that power of the song, if you ask me.

And as they're singing "don't go back to reality", well I couldn't agree more, for when we are dancing and having fun, we lose track of time. In that moment we don't pretend to be in the reality, we're in our own zone, in your own reality.

[miggydiaz]

for the salty ask: 3, 7, 10, 11, 15, 16, 19, 22, 23, 24, 25 and 27 for spn

I had to do this one today because I have a LOT of Supernatural feelings and so a lot of these are even longer than my CK one. But thanks for the ask @wonderwolfballoon!

UNPOPULAR SUPERNATURAL OPINIONS AHOY: INCLUDES ANTI-DESTIEL SENTIMENTS AND OTHER UNSAVORY ELEMENTS

3. Have you ever unfollowed someone over a fandom opinion? 100000000% I have unfollowed someone over a fandom opinion in the SPN fandom. SPN was the fandom that taught me to make JUDICIOUS use of the blocking feature tumblr offers in order to curate my experience. I would actually encourage anyone and everyone to use the blocking feature if they disagree with people. Honestly, we don’t owe anyone our time or energy, especially on the internet! It is much healthier than sending or responding to hate, IMO. 7. Is there anything you used to like but can’t stand now?* This is actually a hard one for me to answer, so let me start by saying -- I have not seen a SINGLE episode since 9x05? I think? Whichever episode was the Dr. Deanlittle one where he talks to animals. I just couldn’t do it anymore. I LOVE LOVE LOVE the first 5 seasons, and they are all I watch anymore and I pretend nothing else exists after that (except The French Mistake because that episode is hilarious). But uh... I guess the simple answer is when I was originally watching it, I really loved Dean. He was brash, snarky, rough around the edges... but kind of soft in a I’m too toxically masculine to deal with my softness sort of way that I love seeing characters grow out of as they mature. But when I go back and rewatch now, much older than I was in 2006 when I first started watching, I see how awful a lot of his older behavior truly was. I still love Dean, and I will be a Dean girl until I die probably, but sometimes you gotta remind yourself that your faves have been problematic in the past so you don’t put them up on fandom constructed pedestals.

10. Most disliked arc? Why? AND AS A BONUS, MY ANSWER to 11. Is there an unpopular character you like that the fandom doesn’t? Why? I could write a literal essay about all of the problems I have with the later seasons (the ones I watched, which encompasses 6, 7, 8, and a few episodes of 9). But by far and away, the thing I hated most, was the Men of Letters.

Okay, this is where I am going to recognize my love of certain characters is at FUNDAMENTAL ODDS with how that character develops later and what history and background we get later on them. I RECOGNIZE this character is problematic, and I would NEVER STAND for his shit IRL, but fiction is complicated and nuanced, and fantastic circumstances do not make for normal behaviors. That being said, with all warnings I could possibly give, and with the full understanding that what I am about to say is basically fandom blasphemy of the highest order...

I like John Winchester’s character.

I know, I know. If you wanna stop reading and block me now, you are free to do that. I will not hold it against you. I am not about to apologize for anything he has done. I just need to contextualize why I have such an issue with the MOL storyline and it starts with the simple fact that I liked John Winchester as he was originally presented.

To me, and with the full understanding that I am answering this from the perspective of someone who DOES NOT regard anything past season 5 as personal canon, John Winchester is the perfect example of a truly complicated character. Here’s a parent who, if we take the pilot and the original s2 Djinn episodes at face value, could have been a great parent, who then got shoved into a fantastically impossible situation and made terrible choices that he thought were necessary in order to keep himself and his sons safe. That does not EXCUSE the heaps of abuse that he piled onto Dean in any way. We know John and Mary didn’t have a great marriage. But we also know from the pilot that John was at least a caring and present father, mostly,  for the 4 years he got to parent in a normal world, and that if Mary had lived, John would’ve been a softball playing dad who raised his kids and had a loving marriage with his wife. (Again, I need to reiterate, I did not watch anything past the early episodes of s9. If there is later canon that negates this, I do not know about it, nor do I want to because I don’t think of anything past 5 as canon) This is all important to me because these things emphasize that John was “NORMAL”. He was a mechanic, from a family of mechanics, whose father didn’t bail on him (a man in the episode where Dean is transported back in time to Lawrence tells John to ‘say hi to your old man for me’ or something to that effect). He was just a midwestern dude. Giving John Winchester a fantastical background through this Men of Letters bullshit made me SO MAD. First of all, I hate when later canon negates previous canon. I cannon TELL you how much I hate it. And the later seasons of Supernatural are riddled with stuff that doesn’t make any damn sense in the context of original, Kripke written canon, which is exactly why I stopped watching. That’s not ~Evolution of the show.~ That’s conveniently forgetting stuff that made your show and its premise so successful to begin with in order to keep filming episodes so you can keep making money. It’s the sacrifice of art for capitalism and yes I know this is a stupid TV show but as a writer myself it PISSES ME OFF.

/rant

ALSO, the idea that this toxically masculine family was set on this path by Heaven, and inherited this curse that put them on this path from their mother was such a good plot twist in its heyday. We spent four seasons thinking of Mary Winchester as a victim of circumstance, whose fate could not have been avoided because she was the mother to Sam, who is effectively cursed. And then, we learn that its BECAUSE of Mary that this ball even got rolling in the first place. IDK if you were around for that time in the fandom but at least in my circle, this was a big fucking deal. There had been so much (rightful) discourse about John before this, and what kind of parent he was, that Mary became almost deified in the same way Dean deifies her. And then we find out that this whole story gets set in motion by a decision she made because this was the life she found herself in. This was great. It was interesting. And even though the MOL doesn’t negate any of this, it does give John this weirdly fantastical that isn’t necessary. Let this guy be just some Joe Schmoe who fell in love with a kick ass hunter and had no idea any of this even existed. Let Mary and her want to be ‘normal’ be a complicated moral choice that fundamentally altered the paths of her husband and sons. It’s good tv!

Also, I fucking hate the bunker. The best episodes are Dean and Sam having moments in the car, or while in motel rooms on their cases, or whatever. I don’t mind them having a home base. I’m fine with that. But if a building could ever be a Mary Sue character, the bunker is it. I hate all of the MOL storyline, starting with this place.

I may not even tag this as Supernatural, I don’t need angry later season stans in my inbox.

15. Unpopular opinion about the manga/show?

There’s nothing good about anything that happened after season 6. It’s all a bunch of retconning bullshit. Season 6 had its moments where it was interesting, so I cut it a little bit of slack, but as far as I’m concerned, the show ended in season 5. I’m not sure that’s necessarily unpopular, but it does feel that way on tumblr, so. 

16. If you could change anything in the show, what would you change?

Aside from ending it in season 5?

Oooh, I’m about to blaspheme again. I am definitely not tagging this as Supernatural.

I would never have introduced Castiel, and I would’ve given that entire storyline to Anna. Or, alternatively, I would’ve flipped their story lines.

Look, for whatever it’s worth... I agree with the idea that Dean Winchester is a repressed bisexual. His Dr. Sexy love, the entire storyline with Benny in season 8, etc. I just don’t think he feels romantically about Castiel. And like, that’s okay! Just because you’re not into someone who is into you doesn’t mean you owe them a relationship or anything, no matter what the fandom thinks.

But I also think Dean has a big problem when it comes to women. Again, obviously later on in the series, Dean shifts and Charlie happens and Claire Novak and I know all of these things from gifs okay, context is not applicable here because I have none. But early on, Dean struggles A LOT with thinking of women as A) capable and B) trustworthy. He exists in a perpetual state of identifying women along the Madonna/Whore binary. Even Jo, however you feel about her, and to be clear, I loved Jo, but he doesn’t stop thinking of her really as a kid until they’re about to shoot the devil. Up until then, he’s genuinely surprised Ellen lets her out of the damn house.

Giving him a strong, capable woman who rebels against Heaven for HIM would have fundamentally altered Dean’s perceptions of women much earlier on than we get and would have forced him to examine some of that misogyny head on.

Dean has no problems trusting men. This is why the entire Gordon fiasco happens, right? It was less work for him to trust Castiel because Castiel is the inverse of Ruby. Angel to her Demon. Angels and demons don’t really have genders, but for the sake of presentation of vessels, man to her woman. Not even getting me started on the problematic parts of having significant demons mostly symbolized by women (Meg, Ruby, Lilith) and having significant angels mostly represented by Men (Castiel, Michael, Lucifer, Zachariah, Gabriel, Raphael), and how that ties into the idea of Original Sin and yada yada, but just like it’s interesting to have Mary and her decisions be the catalyst for the story, it’s interesting to have this badass warrior angel in Anna who marches down to Hell to yank Dean out, and through her interactions with him, decide to rebel against the ultimate patriarchy, while Dean gets an equally strong female counterpart to Sam’s Ruby, a woman for all intents and purposes that he respects as a soldier and an ally and not just a potential piece of ass.

Also, Castiel fans being literally unbearable is why I left the fandom. Nothing against Misha or anything, and not even anything against Cas as a character (who I very much enjoyed in seasons 4 and 5), but his fans have always been the worst and they try to insert him into everything.

19. What is the one thing you hate most about your fandom?

Castiel/Destiel fans, which even though I also hated the direction the show was going, drove me out of the fandom. Not like, personally or directly, but just the sheer mental hoops they had to jump through in order to make their ship work and I just got tired of seeing all of the contrived meta on my dash. Oh, and the rampant misogyny that came out of those early Castiel fans. I didn’t appreciate it from the Wincest corner, and I definitely didn’t appreciate it from the fans of the new guy. Gross.

22. Popular character you hate?

Oof. I don’t know. I don’t really hate Castiel, because again, I liked him a lot in seasons 4 and 5. Even 6 was interesting, even if I don’t regard it as my own personal show canon. I don’t think there was a popular character in those first five seasons I ever really hated. I didn’t fundamentally hate a character at all until the MOL stuff came around. Um. Yeah, I don’t really have an answer for this.

23. Unpopular character you love?

Pretty much every female character ever. Jo, Ellen, Ruby, Meg... although Meg became more popular as the series went on, Anna. Um. OH, BELA. Bela ESPECIALLY, I recently rewatched season 3 and I cannot emphasize how MUCH I love Bela. She was the best purely human foil ever. Bela is hands down the character I love most that the fandom had frothing at the mouth hatred for. It doesn’t help that I legitimately think Lauren Cohan is one of the most beautiful women on the planet. But seriously, Bela. Hands down.

24. Would you recommend XXX to a friend? Why or why not? 

I have! Many of times, and ALWAYS WITH THE CAVEAT to stop at the end of season 5. Not a single one of them has listened to me and almost all of them came to me at the end of the finale and were like WHY DID I WASTE SO MUCH TIME, and I don’t want to say I told them so, but like, I explicitly in neon colored text once told them so, so like, idk what to tell them. But yes! I think if someone is interested in some classic mystery television that has an overarching theme of family and forgiveness and striking out against the boxes that life tries to put us all into, SPN is a great show. But only the first 5 seasons. Also, be prepared for some thematically problematic parts of the show because there’s a lot of cishet toxic masculinity in those early seasons, and we should examine our media critically. There’s also a lot of good though too, and IMO, the good outweighs the bad.

25. How would you end XXX/Would you change the ending of XXX?

I would’ve ended it at season 5. I would’ve had Sam escape the pit and seen him standing under the street lamp, but then I would’ve had him walking away to leave Dean with Lisa (btw, side note, I DIDN’T like Lisa because I don’t think Dean would ever be truly happy with someone completely outside the life). Not because Sam doesn’t love his brother, but because he *does* love his brother, and because he would want Dean to be happy, even though Dean and Sam’s ideas of what makes the other happy have always been a little bit screwed up.. but that’s a different story.

27. Least shippable character?

Probably Zachariah. God, could you imagine? And... maybe Alastair, but I’m sure there are fics out there that I do not want to think about.

[thecrimsonvalley]

001 | Send me a fandom: Kuon, 002 | Send me a ship: Joseph/Sebastian (The Evil Within), 003 | Give me a character: Brian Pasternak (Yuppie Psycho) 83

001| Send me a fandom and I will tell you my: Kuon

Favoritecharacter:Abe no Seimei. There is just something that resonates with me when itcomes to kick ass female characters that looks like they are 100 %done with all the bullshit happening in horror games. I’ve come torealize by answering this ask and the previous that this seems to bemy aesthetic when it comes to female horror game characters. xD

LeastFavorite character: Whilemy logical brain tells me Doman my goblin brain goes with Doryo. Idon’t know, there is just something that grinds my gear with acharacter that is a tag along but fills just about 0 function besidesa few plot clicks. I wish his role had been more active or that therehad been more emphasis or interaction with him because as he is inthe main game he really comes off as a douche that let’s someone elserun his errands and then bites the dust.

5Favorite ships (canon or non-canon):This is not the time or place for ships in my humble opinion.

CharacterI find most attractive: Abeno Seimei is definitely at the top though, to be honest,aesthetically  I find most of the ladies pretty in this game.

CharacterI would marry: Seeabove answer, I would marry her hands down!

CharacterI would be best friends with: ProbablySakuya or Utsuki. Both seem to be the sort of person I could imaginehaving a good friendship with.

Arandom thought: Fromsoft,I will sell my soul to whatever deity you wish if you remake thisgame or continue this franchises with the sameaesthetics/atmosphere/gameplay.

Anunpopular opinion: Don’thave one for this game as far as I’m aware.

MyCanon OTP: Forall that I know, there are none.

MyNon-canon OTP:See above answer.

MostBadass Character: Thislist is just turning into an Abe no Seimei appreciation post is itnot? There is something so immensely satisfying to her coming intothis clusterfuck of a plot and being like “listen up sluts, I’mhere to fix this!”. It should be mentioned though that I find bothSakuya and Utsuki to be badass as well because of their determinationdespite all the creepy shissles going down.

MostEpic Villain: LordFujiwara. I feel a tad bad for calling him a villain, he would ratherfall into “boss” I suppose but I just think that the build up tohis fight is excellent. This is someone you’ve seen in theintro/trailer material, you don’t know what happened, you’re on edgeand then when he appears, that is some great freaking build up anddelivery :D

PairingI am not a fan of: Thisis not a shipping game for me.

CharacterI feel the writers screwed up (in one way or another): Wellto be honest, I feel like the minor cast, like Ayako, Doryo ect couldhave been fleshed out better. They are there but they feel likelittle more than set pieces that needs to move at a certain time tomake the plot work. I would have liked it more if they felt more likefleshed out characters I cared/were invested in.

FavouriteFriendship: Sakuyaand Dochin. They just seem to have a sort of close big sister/littlebrother type of friendship. That Dochin, the little bean, tries to beso brave is quite adorable!

CharacterI most identify with: Thatwould probably be Sakyua. It feels like most times I got no frickfrackle idea what’s going on either and it seems that everyone knowswhat’s up but won’t tell me :)

CharacterI wish I could be: IfI could have the same kind of ass kickery as Abe no Seimei I coulddie a happy man.

002| Send me a ship and I will tell you: Joseph/Sebastian (The EvilWithin)

WhenI started shipping them: Startedlow key shipping them as soon as I started playing the game. The shipgrew on me with time and I found that for myself it was one of thefew things about the game I came to enjoy in the end, sadly.

Mythoughts: Heywe had a perfect set up to have some sort of underlying romancebetween two men but we NEED to establish that our “scruffy whiteprotagonist with alcoholic tendencies” is HETRO TM. I knew thatshipping wasn’t possible of course because it’s, well, it’s generallyhow it goes with horror games.

Whatmakes me happy about them: Imaginingthem being huge dorks. This is something that makes me happy aboutmost ships, just imagining them being silly noodles while desperatelytrying to adult. These two are the sort that I see getting into a“who can eat the most marshmallows” contest in the office and assoon as someone opens the door they’ll try to pretend like nothing’sgoing on: “much adulting, very serious!”.

Whatmakes me sad about them: Thefact that Joseph is more or less forgotten in the second game. I’vealways had a thorn in my side with the writing of the games and itfeels like the creator just dumped out Joseph, who seemed to be avital part of Sebastian’s life, in favour of the “oooh mysteriousorganisation, oooh wife!” plot trope that I saw coming from a mileaway.  

Thingsdone in fanfic that annoys me: Abusivetendencies between them. Portrayals of Sebastian being an abusivedrunk who more or less only have Joseph around as a fuck toy, thatreally is not my cup of tea.

ThingsI look for in fanfic: Fluffand comfort. I just need a bit of happiness with these two. Give mesomething warm, gentle and dorky!

Mywishlist: Myinterest with this franchise has stagnated so I really do not haveany wishes for this ship.

WhoI’d be comfortable them ending up with, if not each other:Honestly,I would be most comfortable with them just ending up single. Couldhave been nice to have a game without any implied relationships atall.

Myhappily ever after for them: Thesetwo dorks moves into a house together while they try to figure outhow to care for Leslie and his needs. Adapting to a home life means alot of ups and downs, not to mention creative solutions to creativeproblems!

003| Give me a character & I will tell you: Brian Pasternak (YuppiePsycho)

HowI feel about this character: Ithink Brian is absolutely adorable and I want to protect this littlebean so much. He is really just trying his damn best and he deservesseveral pats on the back for that!

Any/allthe people I ship romantically with this character: Ihonestly have my own head canon of some sort of polyamorousrelationship between him, Kate and Doshi. It all builds around thedynamic of both Kate and Doshi feeling like Brian is a preciouslittle noodle that is too gullible for his own good. They all sharecoffee together whenever they can!

Myfavorite non-romantic relationship for this character: Brianand Mrs Sosa. These characters are just so wonderful in a friendshipmanner. The mental images of her inviting him to their video clubmeetings to watch strange indi horror flicks is just 10/10.  

Myunpopular opinion about this character: Idon’t think I have one.

Onething I wish would happen / had happened with this character incanon: Personalopinion but I wish there hadn’t been too much pushing and shovingtowards Kate in the game. I do like that it seems to be implied to bemore in a friendship rather than a romantic kind of sense but still,I wish there had actually been an alternative to tone it down alittle, does that make sense?

Favoritefriendship for this character: Ihonestly like the idea of imagining some calmer friendships with hosco-workers once the entire game plot is done and over with. Justallowing these people to have some chill and semi normal officefriendships.

Mycrossover ship: Ido not have any of these.

[transgenderteensurvivalguide]

I'm transmed but I love a lot of blogs and people who aren't and I know it's not my place to try and change their opinion so I don't but the thing is I can't even openly support certain people or say I'm trans med in fear of being blocked or hated on and that makes me really sad why can't we all just accept each other's views for what they are and stop all this fighting were all a part of the trans community and should all support each other regardless or views or opinions

Kii says:

You sent this as an ask so I’m assuming you wanted an answer, as we do not accept vents in our ask box-

If you are a transmedicalist and want to accept all people even if you don’t agree with them, that’s great, but a lot of trans people choose to distance themselves from transmedicalists because they don’t want to be invalidated and told that they’re not “really trans” and that’s a fine reason to stay away from them. 

People have the right to choose their friends based on having similar views and wanting to feel accepted and included by the people they talk to regularly.

Lee says:

I 100% agree with what mod Kii wrote.

If your “views or opinions” are invalidating and exclusionary, then that reflects something about you as a person, and if your “views or opinions” are that my identity doesn’t exist, then I have the right to not interact with you.

Truscum are notoriously nb-phobic, and that’s undeniable. If the truscum culture as a whole is so anti-nb that many say all non-binary people are invalid, making some individual truscum feel the need to clarify that they’re pro-nb, that says something. And even those “pro-nb” truscum don’t usually support non-normative labels and say “mogai genders” and neopronouns are invalid, and I support all of my non-binary comrades. 

Making a less accepted group (non-binary people) a scapegoat to uplift binary trans people isn’t good- it’s like how in school some people are mean to the unpopular kids but friendly to the popular ones. That type of person may be perfectly friendly to you, but then bully someone else. 

When Kii wrote “a lot of trans people choose to distance themselves from transmedicalists because they don’t want to be invalidated and told that they’re not “really trans” and that’s a fine reason to stay away from them”- that’s totally true. 

But even people not directly targeted by truscum may want to stay away from them: as a dysphoric non-binary person myself, some trucum may be nice to me, but I know that they don’t accept all of my group and therefore I can’t just ignore their toxic speech and welcome them to my blog.

As for the “I can’t even openly support certain people or say I’m trans med in fear of being blocked or hated on”- well maybe if your whole ideology wasn’t about invalidating certain members of the trans community, you’d find people were more open to allowing you to interact with them. Imagine what the non-binary or non-dysphoric people who truscum harass must feel- they’re probably also afraid of being hated on for who they are.

I have been harassed by transmeds on my personal blog- every time I post a selfie where I mention I’m non-binary and medically transitioning, I have to watch the notes so I can block them when they start leaving hateful replies saying I don’t deserve to transition and I’m taking resources from the “real” trans people, or try to tell me that I’m making a mistake when I know that I’m not. And once I went through the truscum tag and blocked ‘em? I don’t get any more hate.

Truscum/transmedicalists are invalidating gatekeepers who pass judgement on who counts as trans enough based on a narrow definition of who is valid. Some truscum claim to be more accepting, but they still act as gatekeepers and ignore the diversity of trans experiences especially when it comes to non-binary identity and dysphoria and euphoria. They think that there’s a certain criteria needed to identify as trans, but the reality is there are many different ways to experience and label gender identity and they’re all valid.  

So yeah, the whole point of calling yourself a truscum is you saying you don’t believe or accept that certain trans people are really trans, then you’re invalidating those people who have a legitimate claim to the trans label. The only person who can decide if someone is trans is the trans person themself.

Transmeds/truscum create a toxic atmosphere where trans people feel that they aren’t “trans enough” when they are, and this can impact binary trans people with dysphoria as well. And if someone has hateful/toxic/gatekeeping/harmful views, you shouldn’t expect that the people being impacted by that culture are going to welcome you open armed. 

If you really want to “stop all this fighting” then maybe you should consider being more accepting of people whose identities you don’t understand instead of saying they don’t exist– saying someone is just faking, is pretending to be trans for attention, or is mistaken about being trans and they’re invalid and really cis– all that is fighting words.

Non-binary people can experience dysphoria

Does experiencing dysphoria automatically make you trans?

Being trans without dysphoria/Non-dysphoric trans people

Is transitioning the only cure for gender dysphoria?

Followers say:

sheprd said: people aren’t going to agree to “accept eachother’s views” if one of the parties views are literally “i dont believe your identity exists or is valid and i dont take you seriously as a trans person” theres a huge difference between differing opinions vs one person just straight up disrespecting another’s identity

mcfkn said: “We’re all a part of the community” Your views literally are that these people you don’t like aren’t.  You don’t get to be sad about a divide you create.

theorangedead said: “why can’t we all accept each other’s views” idk why transmeds can’t respect people’s personal views about their own gender identities and insist on misgendering some trans people by insisting they aren’t really trans and they are their agab. You tell me. It’s the intolerance paradox: you can’t be truly tolerant while accepting in tolerant people. Transmeds are intolerant of nondysphoric (and often nb and gnc) trans people. Being tolerant of you means excluding others.

[bumblebee-moreno]

It’s 2019, for #@!&’s sake

It’s 2019 and we’re still on the discrimination thing? Really?

I get it, we’re getting closer to equality, but we’re still farther away than we could be.

           Why is it that Race still matters to people? Why do we still have different ways of treating “black people” and “Asian people” and “white people”? Why can’t we just treat everyone like people? We say we’re not racist, but we are. Why do people still think it’s okay to even joke about how one race is better than the other? Why do we have the racial stereotypes of all Asians being geniuses? Why do we have the stereotypes of white people all being racists with no rhythm? Why do we stereotype that African Americans are all good at basketball? Stereotyping, no matter how discriminated against the race is, is harmful.

           Why is it that people still think they can bully people over their religion? Why do people think it’s okay to bully people who have religion different from ours? Why would it ever be okay to tell someone they are wrong for living some way that doesn’t agree with our beliefs?

           Why is it acceptable to tell someone they’re less than someone else because they were born one gender rather than the other? Why is it okay to dehumanize people who are intersex? Why would anyone ever think it’s okay to tell someone that they were born one way so they have to stay that way?

           I don’t understand at all why anyone would think it’s okay to disrespect people because they love differently than the normal? Why does it matter if a man is into men or a woman is into women or either is into both? How does that affect you? That’s right, it doesn’t.

            How do people think it’s okay to treat someone like shit because you don’t find them attractive? How do people think it’s acceptable to tell someone they’re “too attractive” to do something they enjoy? Why would someone have to look a certain way in order to do what they love?

           Why is it okay to treat people who are mentally disabled like they’re dumb? Why can’t we accommodate for people without babying them?

           What makes it okay to treat someone badly just because they have more or less money than you? Since when are people with less money any less human than those with more? Since when do stereotypically “rich” people have to bully the “poor”?

           Why do people base their opinions on people from who they hang out with? Why do people think we are all the same as our friends?

           Why do people assume people always follow the stereotypes of the country they were born in?

           What makes people who don’t speak the native language of wherever they are dumb?

           Can’t we treat everyone equally, no matter how educated they are? How do people think that people with less education deserve to be bullied?

           Why does age matter? Who cares if someone is ten years, twenty years, or even two years younger than you? Does a younger age make us invalid as humans?

           Why does a person’s disability make it okay for you to harass them? Why can’t you accommodate them without being mean? Is it too hard to give them space without making a snide remark or a nasty face?  

           Why do we tell people they are wrong for disagreeing? Why are different opinions so frowned upon? Can’t we have unpopular opinions without being bullied and called dumb?

           I’m so sick of all of this. We think we’re so progressive, and yet many of us still bully people who are different. Yes, there’s some of us out there who don’t believe in treating others like total shit for being different, but those who do treat them that way speak much louder.

           Why are the kind people so quiet?

           Speak up.

           Race shouldn’t matter. People need to stop pretending it does. People need to recognize that you can be racist towards any race, not just those that are minorities.

Religion needs to stop mattering so much to people. Other people have just as much a right as you do to choose their own set of beliefs, so you need to respect that.

Sex should never affect how someone is treated. People need to stop arguing over which gender is superior. We need to stop fighting about who is “actually” the gender they say they are. News flash for some of you: if someone tells you they are one gender, then they probably are. It doesn’t matter what parts they have. And even if you don’t agree with that, why the hell would you treat them like they aren’t even human? Some people are born with the opposite parts they should, and you don’t get to tell them that they can’t be their proper gender. Some people are born with both or neither parts of one specific gender, and you have no right to tell them they are less human than you or don’t get to be the gender they feel like.

Sexuality is irrelevant. So what if someone loves the same or opposite gender as themselves? It’s never acceptable to harm someone in any way for who or how they love. That doesn’t define them. That’s just a small part of them. What defines them is their behavior, their personality, their presentation of themselves. You don’t get to tell someone they are a piece of shit just because they love differently than you.

Appearance isn’t something that affects in any way who someone is. Someone who is less attractive than someone else isn’t dumber or in any way lesser than the other. You have no right to tell someone they can’t do something they enjoy doing just because they are “too ugly” to be good enough or “too pretty” and you wouldn’t want their face messed up (as long as it’s not actually harming you or others, obviously).

Mental disabilities don’t make people dumb. They are just as human as you, and you should never treat them like shit just because they have a disability. They didn’t choose have the disability, so why would you treat them like they did?

Social status is bullshit. But since we’re never going to be able to get rid of it, why not make it easier for those who are lower on the scale? Don’t tell someone they don’t deserve something just because they have less money than you. Don’t tell them they are less than you, because they’re not. We’re all just people, so why can’t we treat each other so?

We are not the people we are friends with. Just because one of our friends does drugs doesn’t mean we do too. Telling someone they are a bad person because their friends are bad people is like telling someone they are disabled because their best friend is in a wheelchair. Yeah, doesn’t make sense, does it? That’s because it’s bullshit.

People don’t always follow the stereotypes of the country they were born in. Not all Americans are overweight, gun loving racists, just as not every person living in England drinks a ton of tea and speak overly posh.

So many people are bullied for being in a country where they don’t speak the native language. Language barriers exist, and we don’t need to treat them like the person on the smaller or other side is dumb. Not speaking a certain language doesn’t make someone dumb. That seems kind of obvious to me, but apparently it’s not that obvious.

People without as much education still have feelings. You can’t just go around bullying them for being “dumb”. They are doing their best and don’t need those who were given more education making it harder. Be a decent person, for heaven’s sake.

Age is just a number. I know you’ve heard that a billion times, probably more. But that’s because it’s true. Not all “old people” are sexist, racist, and bad with computers. Not all minors are dumb kids who know nothing about life. We need to appreciate people of all ages. We all hold value.

Physical disabilities aren’t something we can bully people over. It doesn’t make people less than us. Nobody chooses to be disabled. Stop telling them they can’t do things you know very well that they are fully capable of doing.

Opinions are just that—opinions. Yet, somehow we all get angry when people disagree with ours. You can’t go around saying your opinions and get mad when someone shares theirs. You especially can’t use the common argument of “I’m allowed my own opinions so you can’t tell me yours.” Seriously, I’ve been called many things (some of them so vile they can’t be repeated) just for having opinions different than someone. You can’t tell people their opinion is wrong. It’s not a matter of fact. You’re entitled to your own opinions, yes. But so are other people. If you can’t deal with people disagreeing, then don’t voice your opinion. You can have opinions without having to share them. You can share opinions and not be offended when someone disagrees with you.

Now, a lot of people might say that I’m probably some rich white boy who’s been privileged my whole life and therefore none of this is valid and I can’t preach about it because I’ve never encountered any of it. And you know what, go ahead and say it. Because technically, you’re partially right. I am white, I am a boy, and I’ve never had money troubles. But that doesn’t mean I haven’t encountered any of it.

Just because I’ve never been bullied for being white, I’ve had to comfort close friends after being bullied for it. (though I have been told that I’m not allowed to complain because I’m white and privileged and therefore none of my problems are valid… tell that to gender dysphoria, lol)

I’m an Agnostic in a highly Christian area. I’ve been harassed many times about switching over to Christianity. I’ve been called ‘dumb’ and ‘wrong’ for not believing in god. I know it’s not one of the religions that’s more prejudiced against, but that doesn’t mean I haven’t encountered prejudice.

Yeah, I’m currently a boy, but it wasn’t always that way. I was born a girl. I’m not open to much more than family, but I’m starting my transition at school and I present as male. So if anyone knows about sex prejudices, it’s me.

I identify as pansexual. (for those of you who don’t know, it’s similar to bisexual, except I like more than just boys and girls. I’m also into people who aren’t necessarily binary gendered.

I could go on, but you get the point.

Go ahead and argue with me. I’m open to it. Tell me the world is already progressive enough and I shouldn’t be complaining.

Go ahead, I fucking dare you