#unboundbabes

[klapollo]

not to sound like a total shill but unboundbabes dot com is a discreet shipping sex toy store with a good rewards point system and also you get free points on your birthday and for leaving a review. i have bought 2 toys from them and never had any problems and also got With My Points a funky glittery enamel pin of an alien with a ballgag in its mouth. they have sales p frequently esp for holidays tho so might be worth waiting for a sale

TAKING NOTES thank you

[bedazzlecunt]

wren!!!! i ordered new sex toys today and i'm so excited!!! i also got a new dildo bc the one i have is from very hard silicon and extremely uncomfy:(( and a bunch of vibes ahhh!!! i'm so excited to try them all out!! btw where do you like to buy toys (esp dildos- i find getting good ones is very difficult and often very expensive)

your truly

your subby bestie <33

OMG HIIII I'M SO HAPPY FOR YOU!!!! buying new sex toys is SUCH joy omg. getting to experiment on yourself a little....WOOHOO CONGRATS BESTIE

okay before i can rec sex toy places i gotta say. a lot of bigger retailers, like adam and eve, sell some stuff that isn't 100% body-safe for all folks (the sex toy industry is super unregulated). i'm not saying don't shop at large places, just be sure you know what everything is made of. i won't get into the nitty gritty of how to tell what's safe or not, it's not my area, but generally speaking a good rule of thumb is not to put anything inside of you that's jelly/rubber/any flavor of 'realistic' mystery meat stuff. if you gotta, a condom over top is good. silicone dildos are my personal favourite material for dildos and insertables, and generally speaking silicon, as well ABS hard plastic and borosilicate glass, are all body-safe and actually possible to sanitize. i'm not saying you can't ever buy from adam and eve or whatever (i have stuff from them i rly love!), just choose carefully.

now, specifically — i buy most of my toys from indie sex shops in my town, of which there are a lot but i don't think most of them have online presences. i encourage you to try to shop local if any shops like that exist near you! the ppl in em are always so nice

when i am shopping online, the only big retailer i usually opt for is lovehoney, just cos they've never failed me in terms of quality/customer service. but i try to shop at smaller indie places when i can, particularly ones run by women. i like unboundbabes and awakening boutique, and there are also lotsa good shops on etsy! there's this shop called cutecruelty i've not purchased from but which has the CUTEST stuff ever

[septemberequinox]

Take a look in the mirror and cry // Lord what you’re doing to me // I have spent all my years in believing you, but I just can’t get no relief, Lord! // Somebody, ooh somebody // Can anybody find me somebody to love?

ig: lesbiandaydream

[thejeezloueez]

Made it to BOSTON and had a nice nap on the plane due to this comfy soft sleep mask from @unboundbabes! Not a peek of light shone through and the strap is adjustable which is super dope. Use the code JEEZLOUEEZ for free shipping on your first order! . . . #unboundbabes #sleepmask #satin #naptime #playtime #sexytime #travelingshowgirl #jeezloueez #safesex #safeplay #vestgang #pins #buttons #vestlife (at Boston, Massachusetts)

[moderndating101]

If they only had any idea what fun goodies came out of those boxes 🤔🤔 😈😇 #unboundbabes #unbound #moderndating101 • • • #subscriptionbox #subscriptionboxes (at St. Catharines)

[gross-frog]

[swissnavy]

The Lube Diaries 

9 Women Get Real About Lube

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Many of us overlook lube as a factor in the sexual equation, whether it’s during a masturbating sesh or sex with a partner/s. There is still a sense of shame, particularly among women, when it comes to lube. Lots of us are afraid of being labeled as sexually deficient or simply “not into it” if we need or want to use lube during sex.

This fear is super fucking real, too, and it’s a result of lube-shaming. According to sex and relationship expert Dr. Jess O’Reilly, "lube-shaming erroneously suggests that if a woman is turned on, she'll get wet. But vaginal lubrication is controlled by the autonomic nervous system and is beyond our conscious control.” Basically, you can be super turned on, but totally dry, and vice-versa.

Personal lubricant exists for many reasons–the first being to reduce the dryness and irritation that is so often attributed to discomfort or pain during sex (particularly penetrative sex). It can be a game-changing aid for women who suffer from vaginal dryness (17% of women aged 18-50 experience problems with vaginal dryness).

But the best part about lube is that it’s not used solely for the purpose of combating discomfort. It can literally make sex better–physically and, as a result, mentally. In a 2011 study, 2,500 women used lubricant regularly over a 5-week period. Results show that the use of a water-based or silicone-based lubricant was associated with higher ratings of sexual pleasure and satisfaction for solo sex and penile-vaginal sex!

So it’s time to reshape the lube narrative. To begin, we asked nine women of sex-related and non sex-related professions the question: “What is your relationship like with lube?”

Rachel Gelman, DPT, PT:

Lube is always a great idea. Although, the type/quality of lube matters. Ideally you want a lube without parabens, glycols, microbicides, and preservatives. Ideally you want a lube that is similar to your body's pH. A healthy, happy vagina has a pH of 3.8-4.5 and the rectum is around 7.0, so you want a lube that matches or is a slightly higher pH than your natural environment. Lack of lubrication or vaginal dryness can contribute to or cause pain with sex. Adding lubrication may not address the underlying cause, such as a hormonal imbalance, but it can definitely help decrease the symptoms. Depending on what data you look at ~40% of women under 60 report sexual dysfunction and up to 60% of women will experience pelvic pain, I can't say what percentage is due to lack of lubrication, but if someone is having pain with sex adding in a lubricant may help and most likely won't make it worse, unless someone uses a poor quality lubricant.

I think lube should be used when engaging in any type of sexual activity, including masturbation and when using sex toys. Be mindful that if you are using condoms  (which most people should because safe sex is the best sex) to use a water-based lubricant as oil-based lubricant can degrade the latex.

I think there is a stigma around lubricant, and people think they shouldn't need it and if they do something is "wrong" with them. I always think of that scene in the movie Superbad where Jonah Hill makes fun of Michael Cera's character for having lube because the girls "are young" and won't need lube. Also, some people have had bad experiences with lube, it irritated them or they had a bad reaction to it, and again that may have been due to using a lubricant that wasn't good quality. I always recommend patients try different kinds, so I am always giving an array of samples or having patients go to Good Vibrations, where they have a large selection in sample sizes for people to try.

The World Health Organization, also has a nice chart that shows the different lubes and their pH/osmolarity.

Sloane Steel, writer:

When I was first having sex at the ripe ol' age of 15 (sorry, Mom!) I never used lube. Actually, I didn't end up using lube until well into my 20's. I thought lube was for anal sex or women who needed help producing lubrication on their own. It wasn't until I actually tried anal that I realized lube was FREAKING AMAZING.

Lube made EVERYTHING feel way better. Lube made everything feel more sensitive and I enjoyed sex SO much more once I brought my lube friends into the game. Now I consider myself a lube aficionado. I mean, I don't exactly need to buy a 55-gallon drum of it on Amazon (that exists...for what? I dunno but the reviews are incredible.) But I definitely use it almost every time I have sex because, why the hell not? I personally like sex to feel like a Slip n' Slide.

Scientwehst:

I don’t really remember a time when I thought, “if I use lube I’m sexually deficient.” In fact, I’m the lube queen [ha]. With guys, I would always suggest bringing out the coconut oil or some lotion to do a proper HJ. Lube just makes sex more enjoyable all around. No matter how wet you start off in the beginning, after a long session of intercourse, you’re bound to get dry and with dryness comes irritation. I actually dislike using spit for lube. I know, It sounds vanilla, but I just think its gross to have to hock spit every time for lubrication. Imagine a night out partying, with partying comes drinking, smoking, eating, etc. Then you head back to your house, you're ready to hook up and the guy just spits on you. Just feels bacteria ridden lol. Our mouths are dirty! Also, with clitoral stimulation, how many times do I need to spit on my fingers when I could just use a little scoop of coconut oil, one time. It smells good, it tastes good, the consistency is perfect, and it helps prevent yeast infections. What’s better than that?

Zoe, photographer:

for a long time i didn't understand why sex hurt so much for me. even when it felt "good" it didn't feel "great" and growing up i didn't have the safest experience with sex so subconsciously i think it has affected how my body works during arousal. it takes a lot for me to get wet and even when i do i'm not like a faucet dripping with cum as these rappers would say (lol.) when i first started using lube i was with my partner for awhile and it was something we both knew made everything more enjoyable not only for me but for her as well. in the beginning i did have some feelings of insecurity having to pull out a third party during sex and even now i battle stigmas within my own thoughts that come along with using lubricant, especially when sleeping with new people but for the most part i'm at a place where i don’t internalize any shame with using lube.

i think there's a lot of roadblocks when it comes to female pleasure and the ridicule of using lube is one of 'em. even if you are someone who gets really wet on your own there's no harm in exploring lubricants. some have cooling sensations, some warm it up down there, some even have thc in them (highly recommend). using lube has made me a more explorative person when it comes to my sex life because i'm always popping into local sex shops to cop some and i end up looking at other things along the way.

Elle Stanger, Podcast Host, Sex and Relationship writer:

I spent four years helping customers pick out and purchase lubricants while I worked in adult retail shops, and I recognized that many of our buyers exhibited shame or discomfort around their purchase. I've even heard women exclaim, "I don't NEED that", as if wanting if the purchase of lubricant was indicative of some kind of inadequacy. It's no surprise really, much of our society measures arousal by how "big or hard" erections are, and how "wet and tight" vaginas and vulvas are.

There are lots of reasons that people like to use lubricant: Did you know that prescription medication dries out some vulvas? So does stress, sickness, or just your own genetics can determine how much natural lubricant a person's body makes on it's own. Besides, it's fun! People with penises and vaginas can play with silicone lube, waterbased lube, flavored, all-natural, there are so many options and many of them are body safe and ethically sourced. I like to vary my activities and the addition or subtraction of different kinds of stimulation with toys or lubes makes for a diverse and creative sex life.

@Falkyou, web app developer, cybersecurity ms candidate, model:

There is a stigma that exists around lube that if you need it then you’re unfortunately just not a well-oiled car. In theory, this sounds legit because we lack proper sex education in our society. However, in reality, lube is the savior you’ve been waiting on to take your experience to the next level.

This is because not only does lube help cancel out friction but it is an enhancement to whatever activity in which you’re currently partaking. It has properties that have the potential to create sensations the body alone cannot - like an icy feeling. It’s like you can drive a Ford on the reg but if you had the chance to drive a Lambo for a few extra dollars you just wouldn’t pass that up.

@shesvague:

Whatever you need to use to have a wonderful and enjoyable sexual experience, use it. Don’t ever feel ashamed. Always do what’s best for your mind body and soul.

If lube is a staple in your sex life, amazing! If it’s not, amazing!

I love lube and I find it really enhances sex and gives me ultimate pleasure. But I don’t always need it, it’s if I choose to and want to. Isn’t that what we all truely want from sex? For our minds to be blown and our bodies to be sent into another dimension? I certainly do.

You can never go wrong with a bit of extra lubrication.

Halle:

I think lube and the proper use of it should be taught in sex education. When I was in high school, there was so much myth around the use of lube that no really knew how to use it and probably still don’t. Haha.

Millie (IG: @milliesykess):

In the earlier, more confused years of my sexual exploration the thought of mentioning lube was pretty mortifying. To me, the suggestion of lube screamed ‘Not good enough! You’re dryer than the Sahara desert down there! He needs use tube juice to fix all that is wrong with you and your malfunctioning parts..pathetic!’. Unfortunately, I hadn’t gaged that my parts were working just fine, he just didn’t quite know how to operate them.

Now, I keep a bottle handy in my top drawer at all times. If I feel the slightest chafe, or if i’m just in the mood to get slippery I’m opening that drawer. It’s an awesome bedside companion, an aid for me rather than a symbol of my sexual inadequacy.

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[unboundbabes]

As part of our September coverage, we asked our readers "what moment defined your sexual awakening?" The answers we received were amazing–from funny to heartbreaking, so random to so relatable and everything in between. We teamed up with Grace Miceli aka @artbabygirl to turn those stories into illustrations with her super playful and nostalgic style.

[greylilycalligraphy]

So deeply honored to have been featured in @artfullywed post today along with our other amazing #unboundbabes!!!!!! @unboundimages did a flat out AMAZING job of capturing these images, I am beyond moved by every single one she took. Please check out the article on this amazing styled shoot!! . . . . . . #unboundimages #styledshoot #artfullywed #collaboration #calligraphysuite #calligraphy #istilllovecalligraphy #greylilycalligraphy #greylilycalligraphydotcom #instagood #amazingphotography #amazingphotographer #chocolatecake #talented #yummy #foodporn

[jynzandtonic]

Z my friend. My dear. My love. Serious question here. Should I buy that toy from This Is The Way? (because I definitely don't have that plus like everything else from that site already in my cart) 😘

DEJ, MY LOVE. Way late on this response - obviously - but it deserves to be out there, don’t ya think? THE PEOPLE NEED TO KNOW!

When it comes to basically anything made by Unbound Babes, the answer is a resounding YES. Fuck yeah for womxn-owned, queer-friendly companies.

But the Stellar glass toy referenced in This Is The Way is particularly dope. 

Pop it in the freezer to chill it for a couple minutes, suck on it like a sexy iridescent space lollipop to get your mouth wet, rub your clit with it, use it for some wavy-delicious massaging penetration... WORTH EVERY PENNY.

They also make a really great bit if you’re into that *cough*

[sebsxphia]

another vibe/toy website suggestion for question anon would be unbound babes! their shipping and billing is also super discreet. i think they even have examples of what their packaging looks like in their instagram highlights. i’ve ordered from them before and you wouldn’t ever be able to tell what it is! their customer service was nice and helpful as well! hope this helps!

unboundbabes.com insta: @ unboundbabes

AAAAAH THANK YOU SO MUCH DEAR ANON!!! you’re an absolute gem 🥹 i’m so so grateful for these recommendations!!! 💖🫶🏼

question anon!!! this is for you!!! <33

[belphieslilcow]

unboundbabes doesnt ship to po boxes, this is an actual joker moment

[clownemojies]

i ordered something from unbound and the packaging is literally so pretty u_u

[kyovtani]

Theres this company that make a vibrator necklace and another company that make a vibrator ring they look fairly inconspicuous tbh and theyre cute as hell! I cant remember the name of the first company but the second one is called unboundbabes theyre on insta if you just wanna peak and not buy too

i feel like these are like ?? amazing but then 😀 i have so many what if scenarios in my head and idk if i'd have the balls to order it but it's deffo ok tje list- thanks babies <333

[sheabutterbitch]

do you have any recommendations for strap-ons? my love and i are on the look out for something new

You mean the harness or the toy? I don’t remember which harness I use Sportsheets harnesses since they fit well around my thighs and such but it’s really all about what’s comfortable on your body.

If you want to invest, you should go with a medical grade silicone. I recommend the brand VixSkin, which will run you a little over $100 but is a non porous and safe material.

You should also be sure to use a safe lubricant I recommend the one from unboundbabes.

[greylilycalligraphy]

Little copper accents on this suite for #unboundbabes ! So excited to see this go into the big wide world, but exciting too! I'll admit to a bit-o'-pride too!! I have to say thank-you to the lovely lady behind these beautiful images, @unboundimages. She gave me wings on this creatively, and in doing so, I found some more of my stride (and some much needed self-esteem in this calligraphy community to boot). I've been on this journey since 2013, studying Calligraphy and the history of writing for more than 20 years. Stepping out of the shadows and feeling like I'm "competing" with people I adore and respect feels odd and is difficult for me. But, doing something I love and keeping at it until I hit my full stride is something I'm committed to doing. Can anyone give any advice on how you overcome this feeling of competition or perceived cliquish competency? I really believe in the #communityovercompetition, but wonder... . . . . . . #greylilycalligraphy #collab #unboundbabes #unbounded #moderncalligraphy #contemporarycalligraphy #minimalist #solopreneur #risingtidesociety #calligraphy #copperplate #copper #modernwedding #weddingsuite #weddinginvitation #forhire #competition #blackandwhite