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[takami-takami]

On the topic of whether the coping is "healthy":

Gently I say this. It's not your place to intrude on another person's personal situation like that. Please do not do that.

You are fundamentally approaching this conversation on the presumption that trauma responses are voluntary. And don't say "but what you do with it is voluntary—" again, not your place to pop into a stranger's room and give them philosophical advice.

"Go to therapy instead then maybe you'll be a Good abuse survivor like me and fix that stupid icky brain of yours!" You are being an asshole right now. Don't do that. Also therapists would disagree with you.