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trash-goddess · 2 years ago

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Coming from the other side of it, rejecting a proposal for plans with no reason or alternative suggestion reads as a subtle rejection to hang out.

“I’m sorry, I’m feeling under the weather and I need that day for resting. Could we do a phone call instead or go out next week?” ==> “I want to see you but this won’t work for me”

“Im not available.” ==> “I don’t want to see you, but I don’t want to hurt your feelings, so I’m rejecting your suggestions.”

Also, giving an alternative option will make the person who suggested the plans feel like they don’t have to do all the work.

I don’t know who cares to hear this but if someone asks you to hang out and you can’t but you genuinely want to hang out with them, let them know that the time(s) they suggested don’t work for you and offer new times that do.

If you just say you “can’t/that time doesn’t work” with no follow up, it communicates a disinterest (to a lot of people) just a little tip on maintaining relationships

#trash-goddess’s Nurotypical Translation Service #I actually just had this fight with a friend #me: I always make plans and suggestions #me: you cancel on half of them with no warning #me: you never suggest alternatives and so I’m doing all the work #my (maybe ex)friend: I’m busy and I’m add so I forget #me: that’s a valid reason but doesn’t mean that it doesn’t hurt me #aggggggghhhh #but I hope this is helpful to at least someone #there’s a certain amount of work that goes into maintaining friendships.#and it’s important to ask yourself: am I doing my fair share?

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