#today I may be tradfem but tomorrow I could be something totally different
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prettygirlseat · 3 years ago
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https://prettygirlseat.tumblr.com/post/660451653176213504 this post-- tradfem is the like? Movement? Idk of being Traditionally Feminine, I believe it's largely Christian, about dressing modestly, believing women should Be In The Home, all that goes along w Traditional (Christian) Femininity (check the tags on OP's post)
Okay yes, so basically (without going deep into my own trauma for no reason): my mother was a single parent who raised 2 girls almost exclusively on her own. There’s certain characteristics that a lot of single mothers have to adopt in order to compensate for a lack of a father figure. That, among other things, has made me incredibly bitter towards men in general and has essentially closed me off from wanting relationships (platonic or romantic) with men. This is something I’m actively trying to work through in therapy. I am queer, so I don’t exclusively interact with cishet men, but healing my internal bias towards men can only benefit me long term.
So, you may see posts that I rb, like the one you’re referencing, that discuss femininity, gender roles, gender as a whole, sexuality — all things I’m actively healing and exploring in real time. I’ve found that as I’ve grown and evolved and explored, this blog has followed me through those journeys. I have some mutuals on this account that I had back when this was a pro-ED/Th*nspo account. If you find that the content I rb isn’t your jam or isn’t what you’re into, please feel free to unfollow! I think we get so caught up in thinking it’s rude or hostile to block or unfollow, but the beauty of this platform (one of the only good things about this hellsite), is that we can accurately curate the content we see on our TL just by who we follow!
This goes for anyone! If you find that my content no longer resonates, I encourage you to unfollow or mute as you see fit! No harm, no foul! It really is just the internet
Addition: I think it’s worth noting that I am VERY much against the Catholic Church and it’s bigotry. I inherently believe women should be whoever they want, regardless of society’s view. Some women genuinely want to be stay-at-home moms, while other women want to travel the world and write novels. Some women want ambitious careers and to make loads of money. Also, it may be beneficial for us to explore what femininity is outside of the cisgender, heterosexual, white, colonization - lenses that we assume to be “femininity”. While I rb posts that resonate with me at any given time, that does not subjugate me to agreeing with every single thing every person I follow posts. I do not blindly accept everything from the blogs I follow, I simply reblog the content that does resonate. Hope this helps! 🤍
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