#to anyone reading pls correct me if im wrong or feel free to add!

[lemedstudent2021]

do you know anything about the science of albinism?

a little! going to assume ur asking abt the science behind albinism lol in which case here ya go:

albinism refers to a group of genetic disorders, passed down within families, where little to no melanin is produced.

it is inherited autosomal recessive-ly, so both parents carry the gene on their non sex chromosomes

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melanin determines ones skin hair and eye colour; the less melanin there is, the (typically) lighter said colours are. race plays a role so theres not one universal appearance or anything. aging can change things too

a key feature of albinism however are eye problems, since melanin also participates in the function & development of le eyes. a few examples: photophobia, nystagmus, astigmatism, and blindness of varying levels

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there are several types as well, categorised based on the gene mutated and if u get one or two. the 2 main types are OCA & OA.

its usually diagnosed at birth, there are no cures but plenty of treatment options and support systems and preventative measures to help alleviate and improve the individuals life.

you can read more here :)

[kabukibun]

hii!! I was bored and doing some research since im still a little confused if mommy and her babys are considered polyamorous!

its a bit hard to give them a title since I dont really know if the boys are also romantic with each other or just mommy!

but their definitely polyamorous! (I just dont know like what type so if anyone want to help yes pls)

but polyamorous marriage is illegal in most places, so if the boys would ever want to get married they’d have to fight for who gets to legally marry mommy 😭

(I might be wrong about something since im not an expert so feel free to correct me! <3)

-💜

hihi! i looked around myself online too, but since i’m not polyamory myself + there’s a wide variety of polyamory types, my understanding may not be 100%. pls forgive me for any errors!!

honestly, i’m going to leave the relationship between the boys up to the readers to interpret. i won’t give a definitive answer to that, just that the boys love mommy and won’t be looking to add anyone into the relationship. if you want the boys to be romantic with one another, go for it! my responses for each mommy ask are not continuos, so although “mommy au” is the name, each ask should be treated as your own personal au to run with

as for the title, it’s just mommy and her boys for simplicity’s sake wwww

i think the types of polyamory that suit their relationship best are kitchen table or polyfidelity! when reading about it, i thought, this is so them www

wanderer gets big bro privileges and gets to marry mommy- regardless of who marries her, she’s still each one’s wife. they all chose the ring together and engraved it with their initials.

(i’m no expert myself, if anyone with more knowledge would like to add to the conversation, my inbox is always open!)

[mithliya]

it's a little bit difficult to tell it was about specific rape victims. i thought they were stating an observation, that these women's statements were so different from what they'd previously described before joining radblr, that one of them must be wrong. see, now, i'm confused, again, by you saying, “...argued that me being asleep while a guy did something to me is an indication of my sexuality”, falls under basic rape apologism, when you previously said, “i just dont refer to it as non consensual bc that doesnt feel honest”. i understand how consenting to a man is an indication of (your) sexuality, but i don't understand how you can give consent when asleep. even if consent was given before you fell asleep, the moment you fell asleep, i don't understand how it would be consensual from that moment onwards. from your response, i can infer that you see consensual and non-consensual as being on a continuum, rather than mutually exclusive categories.

i never said you did. i thought you implied it one of your statements, “they also argued if someone had sex with you while you were under the influence of drugs/alcohol then that’s also a reflection of your sexuality.” since we're all (those in the server, you, and i) in agreement the sex(es) of those you (want to) have sex with is an indication of sexulity and, sexual orientation is enduring and instinctive, therefore drugs don't alter your brain chemistry to let you have sex with a member of the sex, you're not sexually attracted to. i'm trying to understand why you view using, so you were more suggestible as consensual, but maybe it's something i'll never understand because of my ethics.

ugh tumblr crashed and my response is now gone so if i don’t address something pls feel free to ask again. they didn’t really make any observation, as an example they’d claim i changed my story ~after joining radblr~ too but i said from the second i left that relationship that im penis-repulsed and know that for a fact. i had said this before joining radblr and one of the reasons i even started reading into what “terfs” had to say is bc i was being called transphobic and terfy for saying im not interested in being w anyone with a penis upon coming out. this is not a secret bc i mention this being one of the things that turned me away from TRAs since i joined radblr. this was the case when i was still moreso on the TRA side and merely interacted with radblr to question & understand their beliefs. they argue i lied and that im the one that got the guy into bdsm, but there’s a post where i elaborate on that years before and i clearly say that he described certain things he liked & i was like “ohhh i think that’s a bdsm thing called ddlg”. i didn’t get him to like those things i simply told him the label for what he’s into. they tried to pick apart things i had mentioned years before the gs discourse, where i had talked about how traumatic it was, about how he’s a pedo, and how in many instances i was under the influence of something. they act like i try to be sly and mislead about his age but the reason they even know his age is bc i repeatedly corrected it on my own blog when someone assumes he was an adult man. i joined radblr not too long after that situation ended (i believe i was 19, what happened was before 18 and i slowly started to talk about it at around 17-ish) and it’s pretty normal for someone not to process their trauma when it’s ongoing. it’s also beyond normal to not talk about those things somewhere frequented by the person causing you trauma, and it’s also pretty normal to pretend to be OSA when ur closeted, people irl know ur blog, & u live in the Middle East. so all their arguments trying to make my situation seem like a lie for radblr don’t even add up anyways, but ik they like to ignore the bits that don’t support their beliefs and only look for what supports their biases.

in terms of whether it’s consensual or not, i do view it as a grey area. many people have said to me it’s rape and some think it’s not. i don’t feel comfortable arguing it’s either or bc i know i did agree to it. at the same time, i was visibly distressed, uninterested, and there are instances back then that make it clear to me he must’ve had some kind of clue. at the same time idk if he’s just that oblivious and dumb that he didn’t realise it even tho it was obvious. im not in touch with him and i find the whole thing disgusting and traumatic so ill never know. i also feel to blame bc in Bahrain the bar for what rape is is really high & i did go through a point where i felt similarly about my initial experience w rape as well, and maybe if i knew more about what consent is meant to look like, i would’ve not enabled what he was doing. but idk. with the sleep thing, i take a medication which makes me really sleepy & acts as a sort of sedative. on several occasions, he would ask me after i had taken the medication so when i was already half-asleep. id say ok & then id fall asleep and then it’d happen. it’s fucking weird to use this situation to argue that it’s an indication im into guys when i was Literally asleep. it’s also weird to argue women’s actions when under the influence is indication of desire and attraction when that is ultimately also arguing countless situations where drunk women or women on drugs being taken advantage of is somehow something they wanted. the fact that i don’t label my situation as rape and partially blame myself for them doesn’t mean it’s in any way acceptable to take those cases, and then argue someone being asleep is a sign they wanted to have sex with a man. or someone being drunk and letting a guy do sth to them is a sign of OSA.

i do not agree that who someone had sex with is an indication of their sexuality tho. it’s a case by case basis and it depends on their particular situation. in cases of women who had sex w guys bc they were bored or horny or whatever, i cannot relate to that whatsoever and i often question it. but there’s countless cases of lesbians that faced rape & CSA and in their teen years just went along with whatever, passively accepting whatever the other party wanted. that’s a sign of trauma rather than bisexuality to me. and it’s not the same as someone going out of their way to find dudes to get with. it’s not the same as being attracted to someone of a particular sex. and the argument that someone under the influence means “drugs alter your brain chemistry to let you have sex with a member of [the opposite sex]” is such a weird reframing of the situation to me. drugs put you in a state of altered consciousness. this means people under the influence are not fully conscious. it’s a pretty common occurrence for people to use drugs to be able to get through sex they don’t want to have. this is why you’ll find plenty women involved in prostitution or porn will take drugs to get through the situation, for example. the drugs don’t make someone want to have sex, it makes it so they’re not aware or conscious through it. it makes no sense to argue that someone putting themselves in a state where they’re not conscious of what is happening = an indication of some sort of desire.

[florencesmachine]

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Why tumblr user donottearmedown/luciequeenofelfame/luciehvrondaie is an embarrassment: a Masterpost

Hi if you’re here it’s because you’ve heard that tumblr user donottearmedown is an embarrassment and you’d like to know all the details! Let me break it down. It all started with this post by @minacarstairs (Tessa (yes @minacarstairs’s name is Tessa sorry if that makes this post confusing)), in which donottearmedown originally reached out to Tessa by sending her something along the lines of “Do you ship heronstairs/herongraystairs?” And Tessa replied with something along the lines of “Yeah lmao herongraystairs rights!”

(I wanna note that Tessa was being very polite, and continues to be very polite to people who disagree with her opinions on heronstairs/herongraystairs. She even began her original conversation with dont tear me down by saying it’s a matter of personal interpretation :) it’s donottearmedown who made the conversation mean-spirited)

(Also Tessa pls correct next if I’m wrong on any of this thnx)

And then sometime later, the conversation above ensues in which donottearmedown, seemingly perfectly reasonable at first, disagrees with the ship and offers a link to look at. (She throws this link around any chance she gets. She really fucking loves this link.) I got involved because in her answer, Tessa replies back with a link from a post I made from my own blog starting back in 2018, and then continued to add to it until my account got terminated (long story). You can read through both posts and check out all the replies! But basically we realized during this interaction that donottearmedown wasn’t looking to have a friendly conversation and was, in fact, batshit crazy. They were saying some absolute brain dead shit like that people shipping heronstairs is the same as people shipping Alec x Clary. Here’s the screenshot:

donottearmedown came back the next day to reply on several of Tessa and mine’s post which she wasn’t even tagged in, such as this one, and this one that had absolutely nothing to do with her because I make that same post every year. Here’s a screenshot from my old account last year via Instagram:

(there are more posts she replied to but I can’t be bothered to look for them, I’m sure you can find them on their blog if you can spare the braincells)

Racism by donottearmedown:

So, Tessa received this anon which tipped us off to some of the other tomfoolery on donottearmedown’s blog. We decided to look for ourselves and lo and behold, here’s the post of donottearmedown accusing Cassandra Clare of having a “Chinese kink” for writing Jessa:

Which, first of all, makes no sense because there’s like 2 Chinese characters in TSC total. If anything CC has a straight white boy kink lmao. But by saying this she was basically implying that the ONLY way Tessa (book!Tessa), or anybody who loves Jem, can love him is if they have a “Chinese kink”. Which donottearmedown can’t seem to be able to understand is an incredibly racist thing to say and think.

They also reblogged this BLM link and proceeded to tag it with absolute nonsense like “#smoke weed #lose weight #wessa”. I don’t know if her intentions were to mock the BLM movement but I still found this to be so incredibly disrespectful and tone deaf.

I also feel like I should mention this ask sent to Tessa in which donottearmedown implies she ~could be~ Asian, but it’s “none of her business anyways” (as if being Asian would absolve anyone of being racist akjsksjsj), but based on the fact that she has a track record of lying and pretending to be a person she’s not (as you will soon see :)) I call bullshit lmao:

I think that was the last of our interactions until today? Tessa and I were distracted because we have, you know, real lives.

But anyway, that brings us to today.

donottearmedown started replying to posts from mine and Tessa’s blogs which she wasn’t tagged in, again, and made several days ago. This one literally wasn’t even about her, it was about someone else that had engaged with one of Tessa’s posts. I made that post over a week ago and had already forgotten about it, but clearly donottearmedown never stops thinking about us 😳

NOW I WOULD LIKE TO POINT OUT THIS POST SPECIFICALLY.

Why? Because donottearmedown and luciequeenofelfame (now luciehervndaie) interacted on this post, as 2 seperate entities. luciequeenofelfame had also interacted with Tessa and I’s original posts at the beginning of June (you can check the replies on the posts!) coming to donottearmedown’s defense, and praising her for her opinions and other shit like that.

Here’s the screenshot. As you can see here, luciehervndaie reblogs from donottearmedown and adds on to their opinion:

Now here’s the kicker: donottearmedown and luciehervndaie are the same person.

As in, this bitch literally made up a second blog so that she can pretend to be someone else agreeing with her own opinions and cheering herself on.

Here’s the proof:

I made this post calling out donottearmedown on their racism. I didn’t bother tagging her in the original post because I knew she was stalking my blog and would see it eventually anyway. 😌 And they took the bait, as you can see.

AND THEN I got the notification that luciequeenofelfame had replied to my post. Here’s the reply:

Now here’s where donottearmedown/luciequeenofelfame made an oopsie! 😳

Notice where luciequeenofelfame says “1. I didn’t delete it lmao”. She’s responding to my tags on this post where I’m calling out donottearmedown on her racist post, and my tags read:

“#the fact you went and deleted this post because you KNEW you were about to get slammed #comedy”

(context: @wilhelminacarstairs looked on donottearmedown’s blog recently looking for the post I screenshotted in the link above, and he couldn’t find it so I assumed she deleted it so that I wouldn’t call her out on it. Although she claims she didn’t delete it, so! Maybe it’s still up! Feel free to look for it and let me know lmao)

Now, in the tags I am obviously talking to donottearmedown, correct? So then why is luciequeenofelfame replying that she didn’t delete anything? 🤔 AND JUST AS IM ABOUT TO REPLY-

Wow, looks like I can’t reblog the post. Why? Because luciequeenofelfame has deleted it, and then IMMEDITALY changed her url to luciehvrondaie, hoping it would cover her tracks. Little does she know, tumblr notifications are forever:

As you can see, donottearmedown/luciequeenofelfame/luciehervndaie realized they made an oopsie, so she deleted her first response and posted it again from the blog she actually MEANT to post it from. Damn if only she knew that @minacarstairs @wilhelminacarstairs and I keep screenshots of e v e r y t h i n g :/ Then she might have gotten away with it! 😩

But yeah lmao here are the posts I made about it immeditaly afterwards calling her out on it because I thought it was funny: X X X X

She defends herself on some of them saying shit like “wow so I’m just making up blogs for support wessa? The majority of the fandom supports Wessa so I’m all of those blogs according to you? I’m thousands of people?!” Or just trying to change the topic back to heronstairs and ignoring the allegations altogether. Like, no luv we’re not saying you’re every single Wessa blog ever. We’re just saying you’re these 2, and we’re right lmao. If you look through both their blogs they also post about the same fandoms, and more damning, make a lot of the same spelling errors. Seriously their speech pattern is exactly the same. Feel free to look through them if you want, and if they don’t start mass-deleting post trying to cover their tracks.

BONUS:

I don’t know how true this is, but according to @fair-but-wilde-child on this ask, donottearmedown is ALSO the infamous twitter stan that complained to CC about TLH having too many gay characters.

EXTRA BONUS:

luciequeenofelfame/luciehvrondaie (donottearmedown’s second account 😌) is the account responsible for that wessa vs jessa comparison chart that went around a while ago LMAOOOOOOOO embarrassing

tl;dr: donottearmedown/luciequeenofelfame/luciehvrondaie is a biphobic racist who’s opinions are so bad she has to make a second account to agree with herself

🥺 tragic

Also I wanna say for the record, as @minacarstairs ans @wilhelminacarstairs will testify, I guessed a while ago these accounts were the same person when I noticed their speech patterns were eerily similar, and how luciequeenofelfame always seemed to reply to donottearmedown’s posts IMMEDITATELY after they were posted. 

So the lesson for today? Cinthia is always right. 😤

[sukunas-play-thing]

Thank you @demonbanger for the tag!!! I've always wanted to do these ones ily girl boss 💚 As for me I ship myself with all my favs but my current fixation is Gyutaro! ~ sorry these are long also... I just love my self ship sm 😭😭

1] He without a doubt will have no qualms saying my order is wrong I have a severe onion allergy and gyutaro is very protective when it comes to me and my health so he will be extremely stern almost scary when it comes to making sure my foods correct and safe for me.

2] funny you assume we're morning people. WE ARE NOOOOT lol whoever gets up first will head to the drug store/gas station to pick up wither coffees or any other beverage I'm a Dr. Pepper and Monster person and so is he so he'll pick those up or I.

3] I will try to put on a brave face And try to get rid of it myself. But the thought of a spider getting near me freaks me out and I almost pass out from fear (I'm trying to work through my fear of arachnids and sharks he knows) but he'll always step in and take care of the problem himself. He loves being depended on and he gets a huge ego boost when he saves me from anything causing me distress. Seriously he puffs his chest out with a smirk while I hug and thank him.

4] Im reading list and grabbing things as I go. We live with his sister and maybe a couple other roommate's and there is a large list to go through of different items and foods to get everyone and ourselves. so after a short while the shopping cart gets full fast. So he'll push the cart and follow me around always. He acts annoyed and tells me to hurry up. But in actuality he likes doing mundane things such as shopping with me. Adds more domesticity in the relationship and quality time spent together means everything to him. He's so sweet. He'll even grab items from the highest shelf for me also! (I'm 4'11").

5] I plan and he goes with the flow. He'll chip in ideas or a favorite activity he always wanted to do or see but other then that he goes with the flow. Again quality time is very important to him so anything we do together is a win in his book. It's his best qualities. Dependable, protecting, understanding and a provider. But don't worry it goes both ways. It has to be all or nothing between the two of us and that's what should count in a relationship he's the man of the house and relationship and will always provide for his lady and family.

Omg these were fun pls I hope they weren't too long or weird!!! >< I get carried away hope you enjoyed ily all!! 💚💚💚💚💚💚

My tag list: @queen-of-my-goofball-army @rouge-heichou @pa-panda-heroes @venranae @hisgoodpuppy @mari-the-bimbo @satosuguslut @muzanswaifu and anyone else who'd like to join in feel free too!!

random self ship questions ☆*:.｡. o(≧▽≦)o .｡.:*☆

i love self ships and wanna get to know yours better :>

1. who in your self ship tells the waiter your order was wrong?

2. who makes the coffee in the morning?

3. there’s a giant spider in the room, who gets rid of it?

4. who pushes the cart and who grabs the items at the grocery store?

5. who plans the vacation and who goes with the flow?

me and shoyo’s answers under the cut

no pressure tags: @sweetsbysatori @sabyss @lunaevangeline @ohtobiors @horror-ho3 and anyone else who’d like to join!!

1. i definitely am the one telling the waiter our orders are wrong, shoyo is way toooo nice to say anything to someone.

2. shoyo doesn’t drink coffee but early on in our relationship he learned how i like it and will make it for me every morning :,) or just bring me a monster lol

3. oh my gosh shoyo gets rid of the spiders fs! i can’t handle bugs at all. he doesn’t like to kill them though so he tries his best to get them out in a humane way.

4. most often sho pushes the cart i grab the items but we often switch off depending on the section. he’s better at telling which fruit and veggies are ripe to pick!!

5. shoyo plans vacations way better than i can! i’m very much so go with the flow and allow him to choose what he thinks would be most exciting—he knows what i would like better than i do most of the time!