#tim's aita chronicles

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Please have Tim mention on reddit that he watched Santa die

AITA for not spending Christmas Eve with my family?

This is a short one, you guys know the drill; throwaway account because my family is really well-known and I'd rather avoid being ridiculed. We're not in the mafia, any organized crime, or sports.

So when I was fourteen-ish, my friends and I saw Santa die on Christmas Eve. Don't ask me how or why, it's classified, and yes it was the real Santa. I didn't think Santa was real either, until I met him and later watched him get exploded with my own two eyes.

Since then, I've spent every Christmas Eve with my friends processing that. None of our families know that we watched Santa die because we didn't tell them, so they complain when we want to spend the day with each other and not them. We probably could've solved the problem by telling them, but I guess it didn't occur to us? And some of them have strained family relations.

When I was thirteen, my mother died. She was buried on Christmas Eve. Since they found that out, my family (older brother, N, he's the only one that's always actively checked up on me) has assumed that's the reason why. I guess my friends' families assumed that too, so they stopped asking.

I'm 19 now. R, my little brother (he's 13, came to us when he was 10), just noticed that I don't usually spend Christmas Eve with the family. The first Christmas Eve, I was busy trying to find evidence my father was alive (re; my spleen post), so he didn't notice. Now he's demanding I explain myself, but I pointed out that he barely likes me, so why does he care? He doesn't have an answer for that, so he's been pouting at me all week.

N's trying to explain to him that I'm processing my grief, which is true, just not for my mom. It's really funny to watch him be so close yet so far off.

AITA for not just telling them the truth? It'll be easier, probably, but this arrangement already works well enough for me and they probably won't believe me (plus I'm pretty sure N told R that Santa is real and I don't want to be the one to tell him otherwise. I'd rather not even be in the same state when he learns the truth) and I don't want to argue with them about this :/ what do I do?

Edit; yeah, it's the same friendgroup from the making out with my best friend AITA and trying to clone two of them posts. We got up to some crazy traumatic shit when we were younger.

[graysonshmayson]

pairing - none

summary - basically dick has a secret reddit account where he vagues in the AITA forum about his family issues. inspired by tim's reddit chronicles by @batposts but they deleted their account :( RIP i'll love u forever, spleen guy

warnings - no warnings apply

wordcount - 6,826

a/n- very little editing but fun i promise. check out the whole thing on ao3! or read it on here. i guess.

AITA for resenting my little brother?

So first, a little background. I (M19) was taken in (not ever legally adopted, but that's another story) when I was 9 by my dad (M38) after my parents died. His parents also died when he was a kid, so he was able to help me a lot with my anger issues after it happened and find my place in the world. One of the main ways he did that was by letting me help with the family business. He initially didn’t want me involved because I was too young, but I was stubborn and made a whole position for myself that I worked really hard for. I’d like to think that eventually, he saw me not just as a son, but as a partner. But by the time I was 18, I felt like he was far too controlling and still saw me as a kid. I felt that I wasn’t respected as an equal, and it started to cause a bunch of fights until eventually I had enough and left. I moved in with some friends and we started our own business. I completely reinvented myself just to stop getting associated with him and make a name for my own. 

We didn’t talk for a long time, until I finally caved and started helping out with family stuff here and there, but it's still tense. Then, not even a YEAR after I left, I went back to the house and found a random child in the home. He adopted another kid (who literally looks like me too?) without asking or even telling me. I know it's not like I need to give him permission to adopt a child, but I wish he’d at least talked to me about it, you know? But by the time I met the kid, J (M10), the paperwork had already been finalized and I had a little brother. The real kicker is that he had taken my position in the family business. The one that I made myself to help mourn the loss of my murdered parents? Anyway, so my dad, who has the emotional intelligence of packing peanuts, barely said anything about my new brother. No apologies for replacing him in my position or anything. He just explained J’s background which is, admittedly, rough. And I really feel bad for not liking him because he’s a good kid and he really does look up to me and wants to spend time with me as brothers, but every time I see him I can’t help but be reminded by how my dad replaced me in business and in his life. I was even told that my dad almost gave him my old room (we’re very well off and have plenty of extra rooms). I’m not exactly mad at the kid, but so many of his little comments about what my dad does with him that he didn’t want to do with me hurts. Am I the asshole?

[ao3feed-brucewayne]

is dick grayson the asshole?

read it on the AO3 at https://ift.tt/jJQHS8P

by clapclapwatchyourback

basically dick has a secret reddit account where he vagues in the AITA forum about his family issues.

very much based on Tim's reddit chronicles by @/batposts on Tumblr! check them out they're so funny!!

Words: 2520, Chapters: 3/3, Language: English

Fandoms: Batman - All Media Types, DCU (Comics)

Rating: General Audiences

Warnings: No Archive Warnings Apply

Characters: Dick Grayson, Jason Todd, Tim Drake, Bruce Wayne, Damian Wayne

Relationships: Dick Grayson & Bruce Wayne, Dick Grayson & Jason Todd, Dick Grayson & Damian Wayne, Tim Drake & Dick Grayson, Bruce Wayne & Damian Wayne

Additional Tags: Battinson, ok well at least I picture battinson in this, Protective Dick Grayson, idk what to tag im so sorry, Batfamily, Ficlet, AITA - Freeform

read it on the AO3 at https://ift.tt/jJQHS8P

[ao3feed-brucewayne]

is dick grayson the asshole?

by clapclapwatchyourback

basically dick has a secret reddit account where he vagues in the AITA forum about his family issues.

very much based on Tim's reddit chronicles by @/batposts on Tumblr! check them out they're so funny!!

Words: 2520, Chapters: 3/3, Language: English

Fandoms: Batman - All Media Types, DCU (Comics)

Rating: General Audiences

Warnings: No Archive Warnings Apply

Characters: Dick Grayson, Jason Todd, Tim Drake, Bruce Wayne, Damian Wayne

Relationships: Dick Grayson & Bruce Wayne, Dick Grayson & Jason Todd, Dick Grayson & Damian Wayne, Tim Drake & Dick Grayson, Bruce Wayne & Damian Wayne

Additional Tags: Battinson, ok well at least I picture battinson in this, Protective Dick Grayson, idk what to tag im so sorry, Batfamily, Ficlet, AITA - Freeform

source https://archiveofourown.org/works/45246139

[fandom-hoard]

Torn between NAH and ESH. Sounds like everyone could have just been doing their bests in really shitty circumstances, but it also sounds BM really dropped the ball in looking after you. I’d be tempted to say “it sounds like he was overwhelmed with a lot and could have been doing the best he was capable of at the time” but he was able to do better for your siblings, so I’m leaning away from giving him a pass here.

And I said it before re: the Spleen Thing (and if you keep posting I’m sure I’ll say it again) but your family needs therapy

AITA for telling my dad that he's already messed up with me so he should focus on the kids he can fix?

(You guys know the drill; throwaway because my family is well-known and I don't want this getting out. No, I'm not in the mafia, nor is my family a sports family. The fact that you even have to ask what we do means you won't get it.)

I (m18) come from a very large family with a lot of problems. This issues concerns me, one of my little brothers, SL (m16), and my dad BM (m40s, I don't know his actual age).

BM wasn't always my dad. I was adopted last year and had him for maybe six months before he was presumed dead (re; my spleen post, I know you guys have read it) and I got emancipated. We met when I was 13 and he didn't really like me, but we worked together because he needed me. He was never openly hostile, but due to the circumstances of our meeting and me forcing my way into his life while he was grieving, it was expected.

(I had parents back when we met, though they weren't present, so I didn't need a dad. Besides, all my now best friends disliked me/thought I was insufferable when we first met, so it's not a him thing. Also, because BM was still grieving, I ended up being the one to take care of him a lot of the time, which was fine because i knew what I signed up for)

Eventually he grew fond of me. Fast forward a few years and he's acquired a lot more kids, and he looks after them much better than he looked after me. I'm happy for them. But recently I guess he remembered I was still a "kid" so he's been trying to parent me. He's not letting me do stuff he deems "too dangerous" and is trying to make sure I go to bed at a "reasonable time" and "don't work through the entire night".

I get that it's well-intentioned, and he's trying to be a better dad. And I appreciate it. But I don't need him anymore. The only person I allow mother-hen me is N (m25, my oldest brother), because he's just naturally a worrier. BM has no right to parent me only when it's suitable for him. R, my youngest brother (m12) has been rather irritable about it because he isn't used to me taking any of BM's attention and doesn't get why he keeps trying when I obviously work fine without it.

It all came to a head yesterday. I was trying to do something that I admit, I'd been working on for over thirty hours straight, but I was finally making headway. BM was trying to convince me to rest and come back to it later. SL, was also tired of his hovering, said he should just leave me be and I'll sleep when I feel I'm tired. BM kept pestering me and said something along the lines of him being my dad so he has to take care of me. I was tired and irritated so I snapped that I parented him more that he ever parented me, and since he already messed up with me, he should focus on the kids he can fix his relationships with. I said he shouldn't ruin his relationship with them for someone that doesn't even want him to parent him.

SL winced, and I knew I was too harsh. BM fell quiet and nodded, then left. SL muttered something about me being mean when I'm tired and said I needed to talk things out with our dad, and that what I said may have been true to me, but was still unnecessarily cruel.

I get that I lashed out. I get that I'll have to say sorry, and I will. But AITA for getting fed up? It's genuinely been driving me crazy.

[fearlesshades]

YTA but not wrong

Listen, being an asshole and being in the wrong are two different things. Some people on this sub tend to forget that. Snapping at someone is an asshole move but that doesn’t mean that it’s unwarranted.

It sounds like you and BM have some major friction in your relationship. He’s trying to over come some of it, which is fine. But relationships are two way streets. It doesn’t seem like he’s asked if that’s the kind of relationship you want with him.

I would recommend having an honest conversation, both with yourself and with BM. You said you told him you don’t want him to parent you. What kind of relationship /do/ you want with him? Once both of you are on the same page, you’ll be able to start taking steps to have that.

AITA for telling my dad that he's already messed up with me so he should focus on the kids he can fix?

(You guys know the drill; throwaway because my family is well-known and I don't want this getting out. No, I'm not in the mafia, nor is my family a sports family. The fact that you even have to ask what we do means you won't get it.)

I (m18) come from a very large family with a lot of problems. This issues concerns me, one of my little brothers, SL (m16), and my dad BM (m40s, I don't know his actual age).

BM wasn't always my dad. I was adopted last year and had him for maybe six months before he was presumed dead (re; my spleen post, I know you guys have read it) and I got emancipated. We met when I was 13 and he didn't really like me, but we worked together because he needed me. He was never openly hostile, but due to the circumstances of our meeting and me forcing my way into his life while he was grieving, it was expected.

(I had parents back when we met, though they weren't present, so I didn't need a dad. Besides, all my now best friends disliked me/thought I was insufferable when we first met, so it's not a him thing. Also, because BM was still grieving, I ended up being the one to take care of him a lot of the time, which was fine because i knew what I signed up for)

Eventually he grew fond of me. Fast forward a few years and he's acquired a lot more kids, and he looks after them much better than he looked after me. I'm happy for them. But recently I guess he remembered I was still a "kid" so he's been trying to parent me. He's not letting me do stuff he deems "too dangerous" and is trying to make sure I go to bed at a "reasonable time" and "don't work through the entire night".

I get that it's well-intentioned, and he's trying to be a better dad. And I appreciate it. But I don't need him anymore. The only person I allow mother-hen me is N (m25, my oldest brother), because he's just naturally a worrier. BM has no right to parent me only when it's suitable for him. R, my youngest brother (m12) has been rather irritable about it because he isn't used to me taking any of BM's attention and doesn't get why he keeps trying when I obviously work fine without it.

It all came to a head yesterday. I was trying to do something that I admit, I'd been working on for over thirty hours straight, but I was finally making headway. BM was trying to convince me to rest and come back to it later. SL, was also tired of his hovering, said he should just leave me be and I'll sleep when I feel I'm tired. BM kept pestering me and said something along the lines of him being my dad so he has to take care of me. I was tired and irritated so I snapped that I parented him more that he ever parented me, and since he already messed up with me, he should focus on the kids he can fix his relationships with. I said he shouldn't ruin his relationship with them for someone that doesn't even want him to parent him.

SL winced, and I knew I was too harsh. BM fell quiet and nodded, then left. SL muttered something about me being mean when I'm tired and said I needed to talk things out with our dad, and that what I said may have been true to me, but was still unnecessarily cruel.

I get that I lashed out. I get that I'll have to say sorry, and I will. But AITA for getting fed up? It's genuinely been driving me crazy.