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goddessnemain · 5 years ago

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The Guy From The Party- Part 4

Wouldn’t you know it, it’s 5 days after the Friday night he drove all the way down here just to see me and he came down again. It was Wednesday, my pool league night, which is fine. He picked me up. He took me for dinner. He went to pool league with me. I play pool on the same team as his buddy who’s bday we met at, so we were on a date/I was doing a scheduled activity/hanging out with his/my friend(s). We had fun! When pool was over more friends showed up. I have a woman I’ve known for 18 years. She spent almost 20 years in a very abusive relationship, and this woman can spot a red flag in a man before anyone else does. She’s pretty protective of me. She LIKES Party Guy. Likes him so much in fact, she hugged him before she left the pub. LIKES him so much in fact, she whispered in my ear as she hugged me goodbye “I like him, he’s a good one”. That’s pretty high praise.

I decided that since Party Guy had put so much effort into driving 90 minutes each way- twice- that the following day, the Thursday, I would drive into the city and make him dinner. He couldn’t believe that I would be willing to drive to the city to see him, and he was even more shocked that I’d be willing to cook him dinner. He was as shocked that I would come and cook him dinner as I was that he would drive down to see me twice. It was February 13. I walked into his cute little basement suite with a backpack of clothes, a cooler full of food, and there he was with a single red rose in his hand and a little box of chocolates. He looked at me with a big smile on his face “Happy early Valentine's Day”. I was stunned. Embarrassed. Blushed. He handed me the rose and gave me a sweet little kiss.

Melt!

It turned out he’d also gone to 3 different liquor stores looking for a hard to find bottle of Jack Daniels that I liked. He didn’t find it, bought a regular bottle in a nice box, but the fact that he went to 3 different stores to try and find this whisky for me!

Melt!

I made dinner, and we talked about our families, he told me about his sisters, his parents, his very normal childhood, a childhood of stability, loving parents, no moving around all the time. Just a very normal childhood. It made me feel insufficient because I couldn’t relate to the things he was saying.

Making dinner was an experience. He doesn’t have an actual stove, just an element (we thought he had two but it turned out one didn’t work), a convection oven and a microwave. I made it work. He just watched me cook and kept talking. We laughed when we tripped the breaker trying to run too many appliances in the kitchen. We laughed when he had to go find an extension cord so we could use the microwave. And he slowly ate that damn dinner like it was his last meal. Turned out, he doesn’t really cook, doesn’t really know how to cook- with a devoted mom and 3 older sisters, he didn’t really have a reason to learn and just never has, but apparently, he can operate a BBQ like a wizard- and it had been 7 months since he’d had a home-cooked meal. He was over the moon about this damn dinner.

We spent the rest of the night watching a movie on the couch. We watch a couple of stand up comedians. We just laughed and laughed and laughed. I wound up staying at his place for a total of 10 nights.

We went to the dog park every day- he’s got a huge black lab he takes to a dog park 20 minutes from his place every day. We’d walk through the park, he’d reach for my hand. If he had to let go for some reason, he reached for my hand as soon as he was back beside me. Even held my hand IN HIS POCKET one of the chillier days. We went grocery shopping- he’d been holding my hand as we walked through the parking lot, but I let go once we got in the doors, saying it felt too “relationshipy”, and he replied that he’s “not big on PDA”. Coulda fooled me. There were way more people at the dog park than the grocery store. He brought me breakfast and coffee every day from Timmy’s. On the days he would have to work that night we would cuddle and nap on the couch for a couple hours. I found myself feeling very comfortable and content in his space quite quickly, and I shocked myself when I realized it.

After 10 nights, he came home with me. The first Friday he’d come to see me, he’d gotten 3 minutes out of my town when his car broke down. So coming home with me that Sunday made sense, so he could pick up his now fixed car the following morning. I had to be home that Sunday because it was my kiddo’s 19th birthday and I wasn’t about to miss it. We brought his black lab with us to my place to see if he would get along with my female chocolate lab. And they did. Aside from trying to hump her a lot, they did better than I expected. We were lying in bed the Monday morning, I was half awake, half asleep, still groggy from my sleeping pills (I’d only packed enough meds for 2 nights when I went to see him the day before V-Day, so the first night back on my meds kicked my ass) when he says “Come back to the city with me today in my car, bring your dog, and I’ll bring you back tomorrow night”. I realized afterward what he had said, but at the moment, it was kind of a Charlie Brown “whah whah whah” situation in my head and I found myself agreeing just to make him stop talking. So, I packed a night's worth of meds, a change of clothes, everything I needed for my doggo, and away we went in his car back to the city. I was afraid. I didn’t have an escape plan. I didn’t have my own vehicle. If he refused to take me home, I didn’t know what I would do or where I would go. So when Tuesday evening rolled around and he was hesitant to take me home, I started to panic a little. As it got later into the night, he insisted we stay that night and he would take me home in the morning. What choice did I have?None. So we stayed, and he did take me home the next morning.

He’s teaching me some pretty serious lessons in trusting people. Let’s face it, if you’ve gone ahead and read any of my other posts, you’ll know that I often find myself in situations where I get screwed over. And those are just the situations I write about. That’s not including the $200 I lent ‘You’re Safe In My Arms Now’ guy when he was broke and needed to buy firewood to heat his house when it was -40 outside, on the promise he would pay me back, and then refused to pay me back because he’s convinced I lost a $30 tool he’d left at my house (he never left a tool at my house). Or the $200 I lost on my birthday after the person that was supposed to be throwing me a bday party brought a new girl he was seeing, didn’t say 2 words to me all night because he didn’t want to make her jealous, didn’t pay me for what I picked up for him, and still won’t pay me. All the times I’ve had friends promise to show up and they don’t. The examples are countless. But Party Guy is teaching me that it’s okay to trust people, I just have to be more selective about it.

I give him a hard time about his “other girlfriends” (that don’t actually exist) and say things like “your other girlfriends will be happy I’m finally going home” or “better warn your other girlfriends I’m coming to the city Friday night” or “I won’t just show up at your place out of the blue, I don’t want to catch you with your pants down and a naked chick on top of you”. He gets frustrated and says he’s “not a cheater” and that he’d “never ever do something like that”. Sure, all humans say that, but I actually believe him that he wouldn’t cheat. I understand why he gets frustrated, he’s a good guy, he’s a genuinely good person. He interrupts me all the time when I talk and I often can’t finish a story because he’s interrupted and talking about something else and it drives me kinda crazy, but he really is a genuinely good, kind, honest, respectful person.

So here I am, right this minute, sitting at his place, chilling with his doggo while Party Guy is at work. I did have plans to go out with a friend tonight but plans changed last minute and I don’t care to make new ones at this point. However, tomorrow we’re doing all his running around and then we’re crawling in his car and going to my town where I just came from today, to spend tomorrow night drinking and hanging out with my friends/our mutual friends at the pub. We’ll spend Saturday night at my place and then back to his place early Sunday morning. It worked better for me to come into the city today, 1 so I could see my friend, 2 we get to spend more time together and 3 we can drive his car back and forth, it’s way cheaper to fill than my truck, and I won’t be trapped here, I can leave on Wednesday afternoon without an issue.

I found out the other day that he and I are dating. So I suppose I’m in a relationship now. And I haven’t been in a functional relationship in over 5 years, let alone had a boyfriend. A normal, kind, caring, sweet, honest, will bend over backward to see me, boyfriend. The weight of those words are hitting me like a Kenworth truck and I am realizing I’m scared. He’s trying so hard to wiggle his way in and I’m trying so hard to keep him at arm's length. I’m going to have to give him some of the room he wants, and that’s scary too.

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Option # 4: Do Nothing. This really shouldn’t be an option at all, but I have to add it here because that’s exactly what a lot of people are literally going to do. Nothing. I think I’ve made the point several times that not conquering your bad procrastination habit can literally ruin your life, but I’m afraid I can’t show up to your door and give you the swift kick in the butt that you may need.

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NJ Devils are totally firing John Hynes, right?

The New Jersey Devils lost their fifth game in a row on Thursday night, and we might have reached the nadir of their season: Defeated by the Colorado Avalanche, which earned their 19th win in 66 games.

Granted, the Devils aren’t that much better, with 25 wins in 67 games. They haven’t won a game since Feb. 18, a time when, rather miraculously, they were only four points out of the last wild card spot in the East. Since then, they’ve gone 0-7-2, and are only one point away from the conference basement.

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And boy, was coach John Hynes not happy after that loss to the Avalanche!

“I’ll make this one easy for you. We weren’t ready to play in the first period,” he said, via NorthJersey.com

“It’s preparation to play and that was part of it. Cory played really well. He was ready to go in the first. We know what happened there. We played well in the second and third. As I said, the difference between winning and losing, we got a good goaltending performance in the first period, we weren’t ready to play, we worked to tie up and then, the most crucial point of the game, we have a real lackadaisical play and it cost us the game.”

Now, mental preparation for a game would seem to be rather high on a coach’s to-do list, but even a motivator like Hynes can’t take the paddles to the heart of a team out of the playoffs and facing an opponent against whom they felt they could sleepwalk to a victory.

Still, in Hynes’s second season, it’s been another horror show.

The Devils are second-to-last in the NHL in goals scored with 146. They’re third-to-last in points percentage at .463; the last time the Devils were this bad was in 1988-89, when they finished with a .413 points percentage, one year after making the playoffs for the first time. Jim Schoenfeld, the guy that got them there, lasted the full season before being fired in Nov. 1989.

The general manager then was Lou Lamoriello, and I thought of him as the Devils skated to a loss against the worst team on the planet last night: Would he have fired Hynes already? Would the GM who had 21 coaching changes with the Devils have turfed him before this lost season?

The Old Lou would have, because his goal was always to be one of the nine or so teams that contend for a championship each season. The New Lou, the one that has the Toronto Maple Leafs near the playoffs, clearly has an appreciation for how tanking a season can hasten your improvement as a franchise.

So maybe he would have kept Hynes, for the diminishing returns.

And after two years, it’s safe to say that Hynes isn’t getting anything out of this group. He’s someone’s good coach, but not for this team.

Granted, GM Ray Shero hasn’t given him a hell of a lot to work with, Taylor Hall trade aside; and Hynes has had to deal with a rookie-laden lineup that hasn’t played to expectations. (Miles Wood excepted, Pavel Zacha as the example). But what Hynes wanted this team to do vs. its execution is pretty stark.

Here’s what he told me in Summer 2015, on the Devils and his coaching philosophy:

We want to be an attacking team offensively, but the word “attacking” doesn’t just mean scoring goals. It means defensively, you’re quick. You’re eliminating time and space. When you have an attack mentality, it is about going to the other team’s net and pressuring them. But we don’t want to be passive defensively.

As coaches, it’s not whether an offensive coach or a defensive coach. The game is transitional. We want to be a team that takes pride in how we play on both sides of the puck. When we don’t have the puck, we want to have some responsibility and structure.

So, like, best laid plans and all of that.

The “attack mentality” has produced a shots-for percentage of 46.97, meaning the Devils take 46.97 percent of the shots at 5-on-5. That’s only above the Avalanche and the Coyotes. Last season, that percentage was 46.35 percent. So … improvement? But still third-worst.

From a possession standpoint … yikes. The Devils went from a 47.19 percent in the year before Hynes to a 46.17 percent last season to 46.86 this season. So a little bump, but still the second-worst possession percentage in the League, ahead of only Arizona. If nothing else, it’s indicative for three years of a bad roster.

They’re also second-worst in the NHL to Arizona in offensive zone starts at 5-on-5, starting just 28.8 percent of their shifts in the attacking zone. For comparison’s sake, the Los Angeles Kings are first at 36.9 percent).

Now, defensively, the Devils had to deal with an uncharacteristic horrible start for Cory Schneider this season, which was a contributor to their middling GAA (2.84, No. 22 in the NHL) this season. They’re No. 20 in shots against per 60 minutes (30.73).

But the quality of those shots against is the concern: Only Cam Talbot (who has played seven more games) and Freddie Andersen (who has two more games) have faced more mid-danger shot attempts than Schneider in his 52 games. (They’re better on high-danger chances, as Schneider has seen about as many as Carey Price at 233, while Talbot has seen an absurd 322.)

So the Devils are a putrid offensive team and a below average defensive team, saved by their standout goalie when he’s on.

Is this Hynes’s fault, and does any of it improve if he’s gone, given the roster and the state of the rebuild?

Overall, I’d go with “yes.” Two seasons with the same sorts of results are troubling, even if it’s part of a three-year downward trend. The Devils shouldn’t be nearly this bad. And Hynes is on track to have coached them to two of their four worst offensive seasons in franchise history.

But let’s be honest about two factors here.

First, it benefits the Devils to suck this season, given the state of the roster. And it’s not as if their ownership isn’t practiced in the dark arts of tanking. So Hynes presiding over a team in a multi-year mire is sorta the plan, sad as it is to say.

Second, he’s Ray Shero’s guy. Literally. Shero said he was the only candidate for the Devils’ job two years ago. They worked together with the Pittsburgh Penguins. There’s a loyalty and a friendship there. To fire Hynes after two seasons — he’s currently 63-66-20 — would be Shero admitting he failed his first test as general manager, even if the grade was assigned two years later. Because he’s obviously not going to throw himself under that bus.

What do they do? Probably fire him, in order to add a little new energy to a moribund team for next season. To add a little direction to a franchise whose plan, as it stands, seems to be a combination of … what? Flipping veterans for thirds at the deadline, trying to get a high first-rounder in a draft that doesn’t have a McDavid or a Matthews, and maybe throwing a Brinks truck at Kevin Shattenkirk to play 24 minutes a night for seven seasons?

In Ray We Trust?

Stats via Corsica.

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Greg Wyshynski is a writer for Yahoo Sports. Contact him at [email protected] or find him on Twitter. His book, TAKE YOUR EYE OFF THE PUCK, is available on Amazon and wherever books are sold.