#this whole blog is actually just a gratitude journal tbh

[whenlovebeckons]

gratitude for this cold tuesday evening: cafe lights on / thirty minutes of yoga done (for the third day in a row!) / a giant london fog latte with added lavender to celebrate / in a handmade mug from a local artist that I bought to celebrate a milestone this time last year / using up good skincare while excited to try something new / reading the art of living for the first time / an epsom salt bath / feeling more like myself every day ✨

[teawiththegods]

Mumodite! Check out my new theme! I'm working on making my blog a positive, safe place for people to visit, instead of just a strange half-witchcraft half-personal blog XD I feel like the color scheme finally represents me. In other news, I'm working on being a kinder, more patient person. (I'm often impatient/snippy because of my low-spoons :( I feel like this is a good way of honoring Aphrodite, and tbh, I'm sick of the negativity that comes with being an ass! That's why I have a new theme~

I forgot to put this in the last ask! I don't think I had space, anyway XD Maybe I've asked this before, but do you have any tips on being kinder and more patient, and on exuding a loving and positive vibe?

I mean OF COURSE I absolutely LOVE your new theme! How could i not!?!? lol!! 

I understand the whole being snippy and impatient bc of low spoons! When my anxiety and depression are active I can be an absolute terror!  How i combat that is first to make sure i’m taking care of myself. When you’re happy and positive you will exude that energy out. So you really should be making your needs and wellness a priority if not the top priority. This also includes basic wellness like sleep and eating habits. For me, sleep is the foundation to EVERYTHING. If i’m not sleeping properly then I’m a full on dragon person breathing fire on everyone around me. I’m also notorious for getting hangry so I make sure that I’m eating throughout the day so that I don’t accidentally tear someone apart simply because I skipped lunch lol! So make sure you’re taking care of you and doing any inner work that needs to be done!

I’ve found things like gratitude work, journaling, and shadow work to be very helpful with keeping me positive and kind when interacting with people!

The second thing is to allow myself quiet time when need be. When you are a spoonie there are going to be days that are better than others. On those not so better days, let yourself be. Don’t fight yourself, don’t berate yourself, just let yourself exist the way you are that day. Stay in and maybe limit the amount of interactions you have so that you don’t be snippy with others. I actually did this recently. I just woke up in the foulest of moods. I felt like a Disney Villain and no matter how hard I tried I couldn’t shake it. So i decided to just let myself be and I canceled my plans with my friends because I just knew I shouldn’t be around people or else I’d probably curse their first born child or throw someone off a cliff into a herd of stampeding wildebeest (ugh too soon Jessie! Too soon!) And I can tell you that once I stopped fighting my bad mood, I actually began to feel more at ease. So yeah some days you should give yourself a break and just let yourself exist however way you woke up that day. 

The last thing may be kind of strange but understanding the human experience as helped me to not have high expectations for others. And also I walk into conversations with a lot more compassion and understanding. Now what I mean about the human experience, is a few things actually 

None of us have any idea what we are doing but we’re still trying to do the best we can with it

Human beings are flawed by nature. We are going to fuck up and we are going to make mistakes. That doesn’t make us bad, just human. 

We are all struggling with something (or multiple things). None of us have been spared from pain or sadness. 

As i said before, keeping these things in my mind allows me to have more compassion for people and show them more kindness. Not to mention i am also a lot kinder to myself after realizing all that!