#this was my own celebratory post fam

[laurenxconrad]

Lauren Conrad Talks All Things Pregnancy.

As long as we’ve known Lauren Conrad—first from MTV’s reality hit Laguna Beach: The Real Orange County and then on The Hills—she’s had a posse. The designer, 31, is relying on her inner circle now more than ever as she operates a fashion/lifestyle brand that includes running and designing for Kohl’s (where she just launched her maternity line) as well as creating looks for her boutique label, Paper Crown. In her corner: Conrad’s musician-turned-lawyer hubby, William Tell, her parents, his parents, her coworkers, and her closest girl friends. They all have her back while she preps for the next stage of her life: parenthood.

Fun before fam

“I always thought, ‘Someday, I’ll have a family.’ But it wasn’t until I was married that it was a real conversation. I think your 20s are about figuring out who you are and finding a career. Then once I got married, William and I wanted a couple years to ourselves. When you’re a mother, you’re no longer your own top priority, and that idea was a little scary to me. But we’re ready for a baby now.”

Eager grandparents

“Our parents did pressure us for grandkids, in an emotionally playful but persistent way. They would team up on us, which could get intense. My parents were young when they had babies—they had me at 25—and they loved it, so they encouraged us to do it sooner rather than later.”

Her big OMG moment

“Aside from William, the first person I told about my pregnancy was my best friend, because my initial reaction was to freak out—in a good way. I wanted to be able to tell our parents later in a calmer, celebratory fashion. But my girlfriend has known me since we were in elementary school, so she was my choice for a freakout.”

Bye, wine

“I must have been eating more cheese and wine than I realized, because I’ve really been missing them. I haven’t had crazy cravings, but I’ve had some food aversions. For a while I couldn’t eat meat.”

Sono share

“I started showing fast, and it was tricky to hide. I wanted to share the news with everybody, and posting my sonogram felt like the simplest way to do it. I was aiming to be a lot more clever—I feel like a lot of people are adorable in the way they announce—but I honestly didn’t have any bright ideas.”

Sweetest advice from her doc

“Early in my pregnancy I was nauseous all day and having difficulty putting on weight, which was funny because I’ve never had that issue in my entire life! My mom told me to start drinking milkshakes and my doctor said to go for it—to have a daily milkshake.”

Her sweat sessions

“In my second trimester I returned to my exercise routine. Now I hike with girlfriends and I do classes using weights, tailoring moves to my body so that I’m not lying on my back or doing stomach exercises. I still do the treadmill, but I push the power walking instead of running.”

Labor? Shrug!

“Last night I ordered a book on putting together a birth plan. My main concern is doing whatever’s right in the moment. My friends have said, ‘Have a plan, but don’t be so committed that you’re unwilling to change if you need to.’ I’m not worried about the pain that comes with giving birth. Maybe I’m just naive, but it’s pretty low on my list of concerns. I feel like women have been doing this forever.”

Coworkers on the bump watch

“A maternity line has always been a possibility at Kohl’s. In meetings with the team there, I would make fun of them for listing it on memos, ‘pending LC status.’ I was like, ‘Guys, you have to stop!’ Of course now I’m grateful that Kohl’s is excited. After I had tried shopping for maternity clothes myself and then was ready to design my own, they said, ‘Great!’ ”

Creative spark

“I felt that if I was having difficulty finding maternity pieces I wanted to wear, then my customer probably was as well. I want pregnant women to still feel like themselves. I tried to create looks that are appropriate for work, for going out to dinner, or for a girls’ night out. The line is very personal to me.”

Boss moves

“I’m running my own businesses, so it’s difficult to give myself maternity leave. But I’ve put things into place so I’ll be able to spend time recuperating and adjusting after I give birth. I made a big effort over the last two years to build a team that I trust, knowing my end goal was to be a mother. I’ve gotten to the place where I feel confident that I can step away for a minute and everyone will be able to carry on.”

The sharenting question

“I’m going to have to figure out how much of motherhood to share on social media. Obviously you want to protect your child in every way you can. At the same time, my brand is based on being accessible and sharing the milestones of my life, and I’m so excited about it all. I’ll find a middle ground.”

Love for her little

“I’m thrilled to be having a boy. I really wanted a boy. My husband kept saying, ‘We just want a healthy baby.’ And I’d say, ‘But a boy would be nice!’ I was a wild little tomboy, so I think I understand boys. My mom always told me that nobody loves you like a son does, especially when he’s young.”

Inner circle welcome!

“Once he’s here, all my friends and family are invited over—the more the merrier. Especially since it’s our first, I want to make sure we have lots of people around for support and to be sure that we’re doing everything correctly. Both of our families live only 15 minutes away, so that’s nice for babysitting!”

[akria23]

St*dias make out that they're the most popular ship. Um. Do they have 50k fic on ao3? Nope. 3k and half of those would be sterek fics with past Lydia/Stiles LOL. I even checked out their fan art and well.. not that great.....

Okay I know this is kinda late fam...but, I typed out a long ass reply only for tumblr to fuck me over and the post disappeared, and then I tried again and my shit froze...so I’m make this one to the point lol.

As we all know fanart is in part majorly created from disappointment cracks in the original work. It is both celebratory of being a part of a fandom and a way to place your own desires that aren’t being met into that world. So lets be honest, even when Stydias were tossed to the side like a used rag...they still had more of a place in the ‘real’ (canon) world than we (sterek fans) did. The moment the show jumped back on the Stydia bandwagon...their fandom shut up. Because their only goal is being canon...so they aren’t dissatisfied. They look towards the show to give them what they want, so that works in them not having a high number of fanworks...cause they never felt like they HAD to have fanworks. Of course this causes me to side eye them cause I can’t believe how many of them seem to accept what they got...like the storyline is horrid, but they aint busy busting out fics showing how it could be better. 

Sterek fans on the other hand are very different...fan works for us are a way of rebelling, they’re our proof of life/existence, they’re our survival plan and our route to showing we’re better. I think people don’t get it when speak like that but its simple really. This show literally disrespected us, tried everything they could think of to eliminate us. Therefore, our work, our celebratory is done to go against that grain. And at the end of the day we aren’t gonna let any of them - Stydias, Sciles, Stalia, or whoever else, claim they have the number one spot. Everyone knows whats popping...lets not pretend. For years shit has been taken and we ain’t-let me repeat- we ain’t doing that no more, def not with this. I get they think this is a ship war...but it ain’t (I don’t know why they would want it to be...them levels ain’t the same). 

I think it makes sense that the numbers are so high. A lot of people were okay with what went down with Sterek fans, and theyre still okay with it today...but Sterek fans weren’t and still aren’t. There was a lot of anger and disappointment and those emotions were used as a motivation in the fan work. So no matter if people were creating fics, metas, art, videos, or just being the cheerleader...everyone had a role, had a part. Some people don’t understand how important that cheerleader is, because thats one of the greatest thing about the Sterek fandom, there was always people gearing for more, there were always praises in the air. Even if a fic isn’t liked...we don’t say its terrible and refuse to recommend it. There was a vibe of...you put in the work and that deserves a correct treatment. These people spend hours, days, and sometimes so much more to create these works for a fandom, a relationship we were repeatedly told didn’t exist...and I think thats why we have so much love/respect for our fancreators. They def put in more thought process than the writers of Teen Wolf.

I don’t recall seeing any Stydia fanart...thats not shade, I’m being 100. I don’t read stydia fanfics although I’ve read some with past stydia. And I don’t go into the Stydia tag...I can barely deal when someone reblogs it and it ends up on my dash. I’m telling you fam...I had to take a whole day break from tumblr to get away from it one day. I’ve had to unfollow people...I couldn’t do it. But I can’t unfollow mutual I talk to cause...we tight and shizz..and I would never tell them what to blog/not blog cause I’d come at them if they tried that with me. But Stydia is def NOTP for me. I have been to the anti-stydia tag once. It was wild...mad wild...I enjoyed it. Laughs aside, I don’t think we should imply their shit sucks...even if its not to our liking. They did the work and put it out there and thats what counts. I personally get anxiety with my own stuff, its a constant battle that is sometimes so powerful it stops me from even creating. They might still be in the learning stages. They aren’t getting paid/rewarded. 

I may dislike Stydias, I may side-eye them to hell and back, I also have no respect for their take on this show/ that relationship and deep down I wonder at the quality of creativity of someone who thinks Teen Wolf is the bomb dot com...but I would never want to say anything that creates a complex in their creativity. In truth my biggest wish...is for everyone to understand that even in things like writing...its not an opinion...things can be poorly (horridly) written. Theres rules even in the creative field. And productions like Teen Wolf are an example of what not to do - in and outside. Honestly my biggest fear is 20 years from now I’ll look up and there will be 1000′s of Teen Wolfs in the medium. Now that may mean a different thing for me and for them. But I feel like fandom is a place to practice your craft and I want that for them, just like I want it for us. Sterek fans converse a lot about writing, and def writing on this show, and my favorite times are when I hear one say they hope they can do better, be better, create better quality and treatment than this show. 

Everyone deserves the knowledge that they can be better, can do better than Teen Wolf.

Dammit this shit aint short...oops again!