#this post isn't about bruce but he's certainly haunting it. like he haunts everything in dick grayson's life!!
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on dick grayson & roy harper & marriage
I mostly stand by what I said here on the dickroy marriage poll (in short: lmao, they’d barely even admit they’re in a relationship) BUT after more thought I believe there actually is a world where they’d get married ‘for love’?
now, imo roy would never be the one to propose. marriage just isn’t that meaningful to him; it’s not something he really cares about. (and even if it was, proposing would feel like an ultimatum he doesn’t want to set. when everyone always leaves you, you learn to be careful not to ask for too much.)
and while I DO believe marriage means something symbolically important to dick, it’s a pretty fraught topic for him, given past experiences! so I think dick would resist putting labels on his relationship with roy, because acknowledging that there’s a romantic element to the way they love each other opens their relationship up to failing the way dick's past romantic relationships have failed.
but if they’d been in a stable relationship for a while, and dick had worked through some of his issues? well. so much of their relationship has been defined by leaving and being left, by other things getting in the way. so if they finally worked it out, I could see dick proposing as a promise to roy that he’s committed to roy and the life they’re building together. that he’s sticking around. that their relationship (that roy) is worth prioritizing!
and marriage might not mean much to roy, but he knows that dick takes it seriously. he knows that if dick is offering ‘till death do us part’ now—after working through his shit enough to be honest with himself—then dick means it. and that would be VERY significant to roy. it wouldn’t change anything about their relationship on the surface! but it would soothe the part of him that’s always bracing for abandonment, and let him believe that this is something he might get to keep.
they still wouldn’t have a wedding tho. they’d get courthouse married on a random afternoon with just them and a witness, and then probably not actually bother to tell anyone* unless asked directly, besides casually referencing it when quipping at each other.
*except donna. she knows because dick talked it through with her before proposing.
#this post isn't about bruce but he's certainly haunting it. like he haunts everything in dick grayson's life!!#and yeah i’ll admit the odds of dick actually working through his issues enough to get to this point is perhaps slim.#but I am choosing to believe its possible because I love roy harper and I want him to get a happy ending#he deserves the world!!!!!! unfortunately he doesn’t want the world he wants dick grayson to be happy and psychologically healthy#which is a much more difficult ask 😔#also after writing this I’m less inclined to think they’d get married for practical/utility reasons if it wasn’t strictly necessary#i think dick at least would be reluctant to make those vows if he didn’t know they both meant it#dc#mine: dc#dick grayson#roy harper#dickroy#roydick#i spent so fucking long editing this to try to cut it down and yet here we are. not every post is meant 2 be punchy and concise#it's much less rambly than it was originally tho!
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