#this post is mostly about me adn my expierences but also a shoutout to aromantic allosexuals you guys are epic too!!

[cables-and-wires]

it's the amatonormativity.

it's the way that friendships are seen by most people as inferior to romance.

it's the way that loveless aros are seen as heartless and the way that lovequeer aros are seen as being confused.

it's the way that i find it hard to relate to allo people sometimes because of the fundamentally different ways i view relationships.

it's the way that platonic love is seen as a gateway to romantic love rather than being it's own distinct thing.

it's the way that people think of queerplatonic as just platonic but being *special* rather than as a genuine feeling and attraction.

it's the way that aros are expected to change their mind later and realize 'the importance of love' or something.

it's the way that queerplatonic love has to be compared so heavily to platonic or romantic or both rather than existing as it's own, unique, but just as valid feeling.

it's the way that close platonic bonds seemingly can't exist without people viewing it with romantic connotations.

it's the way that explaining what queerplatonic is to someone who can't feel it is so difficult because it's not one of the 'generic' love types that apparently everyone already understands.

it's the way that people think that emotional and physical intimacy cannot exist without romance.

it's the way that aromantics in romantic relationships are either seen as not true aros or as lesser partners.

it's the way that aromantics are also told that 'you can still be in a romantic relationship and that's ok' which while true also implies that it's something that is so fundamental to being human that it's absence is bad.

it's the way that fictional aromantic characters are always non-humans who can't 'understand' romance, or are humans but 'broken' in some way rather than being normal people.

it's the way that there's an unspoken 'hierarchy' of acceptable forms of love or relationships and that i'm insane for loving my friends as much as i do.

it's the way that people don't take platonic love seriously at all and how friendships are seemingly replaceable or not seen as valid relationships.

it's the way that i, as a lovequeer aroace, simply cannot exist without feeling invalidated for being different. love is important to me, and i deeply love my friends, my partner, and my bestie - but not every aro feels the same way and that's okay.

i just want to be taken seriously in all honesty.

fighting off internalized arophobia sooo hard im being sooo brave (i'm not)