#this post is about trans women pls don’t derail

[donnieisaprettyboy]

“me looking at the beautiful strong goddess big titty mommy trans woman-“ okay but are you kind and respectful to trans women you don’t personally find attractive? do you respect the identity of all trans women or just the ones you want to sexualize?

[yelskamy]

Why is positivity on this site so one sided. Like women's positivity posts end with like "IF YOU DERAIL THIS POST I WILL BEAT YOU WITH A STICK" and then every time I find a men's positivity post it's like "also women and enbies" can men have one thing please

It's kind of frustrating to see something positive for dudes and go "hey that's for me! :)" And then everyone else says "ACTUALLY it's for everyone!"

Overall: Pls if you see a positivity post about men; whether it be about men's body positivity, attraction to men, trans men, men's feelings, or whatever else under the sun you can think of; leave it for men. Just please. You don't need to comment. You can just reblog it. Uplift men without making it a mission of equality once in a while.

[shippingisntactivism]

I said on my old blog that I wasn't going to talk about this anymore but I feel the need to make a post so I can put my thoughts into a more comprehensive form.

(I'll ask that other people, especially cis people, please NOT give me all their detailed reasons as to why they personally wouldn't fuck a trans person because I really, really don't want to hear it and I promise you I could not care less.)

I think what ultimately frustrates me most about the genitals preferences discourse is not so much the fact that individual people aren't attracted to x kind of genitals, because of course you're allowed to not be attracted to a certain trait of a person, it's just that this is always phrased as "well this is just my INHERENT sexuality. I am gay/straight and THEREFORE..." Like, no. Fuck off.

Okay, if you are, for example, a gay man who just really really likes d*ck, cool. Good for you. Go live your best life.

But you don't get to act that that is BECAUSE you are gay. Being gay just means that you are a man (or occasionally a nb person) who is attracted to other men (or occasionally certain nb people). It doesn't say anything about genitals or what kind of men you like or anything else at all. (substitute this passage for lesbians, straight women, and straight men accordingly)

If genitals are something important to you - cool, but they are important to you PERSONALLY and may not be that big of a deal to other gay men. Or sometimes, a person's attraction to the other person might outweigh their non attraction to certain traits they have.

So yeah, I just wish people who argue they are allowed to not like x kind of genitals, (which btw nobody has said individual people aren't allowed to not be attracted to penises/vaginas) would stop doing it in a way that erases people of their identity who are attracted to those genitals, or at the very least don't have that big of an issue with dating someone who has them, cause it's so annoying that we constantly have to reassert that yes, actually, we exist.

Ultimately, for me at least, genitals just don't play that big of a part of my attraction. I'm much more attracted to other things such as gender presentation, secondary sex chararistics, whether or not someone is more interested in taking a male or female social role (still haven't figured out how things with nbs stand cause I haven't even met an nb irl) etc.

So yeah that's it. Again, pls don't derail my post, also TERFs stay from my blog 2kInfinity

[nerdgasrnz]

tumblr/internet vocab

Cut the drama on your dashboard by understanding the words used! I feel like a lot of “discourse” on tumblr has come about because there are many young and/or impressionable new people who have joined the site, and may not know or understand what every one of these words means, or the purpose of certain words/acronyms and their context.

PLEASE NOTE: I am a cisgender woman, and still lacking a lot of understanding with many complex issues myself, so pls let me know if anything below is incorrect so that I can fix it, or if I need to add terms to this list!

Cis = Short for “cisgender,” meaning preferring the gender given at birth.

Het = short for “heterosexual” meaning that someone is attracted to genders other than their own.

Cishet = Mashup of “Cisgender�� & “heterosexual” which is usually meant to distinguish non-LGBT+ people. Not a slur.

LGBT+ = An acronym that means “Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender,” and additional terms. Most people leave off the +, or add more letters to represent others, like P, Q, I, or A for “Pansexual, Polysexual, Polyamory” “Questioning, Queer,” “Intersex” and “Asexual, Aromantic” The acronym denotes non-cisgender, and non-heterosexual/romantic people.

Queer = An umbrella term for “not cisgender” and/or “not heterosexual.” Some people prefer this term so that they don’t have to use or find labels that may not fit them, or may not be easy to explain. Formerly a homo/transphobic slur, but has since been reclaimed by LGBT+ people, and now used as an academic term. Some people still prefer for it to not be used when referencing them, so respect individual peoples’ boundaries as needed, or blacklist the term.

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Gender Neutral = Something inclusive of all genders (ie: “sibling” is the gender neutral version of “brother” or “sister”, “parent” vs “mom” or “dad”, “spouse” vs “husband” or “wife”)

Cissexist: When a concept excludes/ignores the existence of trans/nonbinary genders, or intersex people. (ie: “every woman has a menstrual cycle” when not all people who menstruate are women, and not all women menstruate)

Heteronormative: When a concept excludes LGBT+ experiences. (ie: “Every girl has had a crush on a guy at least once” when such is not the case)

-Phobia/-phobic = A suffix meaning “repulsed” or “fear.” If you see this added to the end of a word, it means to hold prejudice towards that thing/group. (ie: transphobic/transphobia = repulsed by trans/nonbinary people)

Feminism = The opposite of sexism. A movement that emphasizes working towards gender equality, and allowing people of all genders the ability to express themselves, make decisions, and live without being torn down for their decisions based on the “expectations” of their gender.

White Feminism = Specifically refers to “superficial” feminism that ignores or contradicts the needs and rights of other/additional demographics, defeating the purpose of the movement. This is why it’s specifically called “white feminism” and is usually considered a joke by non-white women, because it only wants to bring white women equality with white men. (example: “women make 70 cents for every dollar that a man makes” but that statistic usually references white women, and they will only fight to close that gap in particular. However, people of color, LGBT+ people and disabled people, make far less compared to every dollar an able-bodied white man makes.)

TERF - transgender-exclusionary radical feminist: A person who believes that transgender people should not be considered their gender in discussions of feminism and gender equality (hence, defeating the purpose of the movement) and is the reason why they are repeatedly made fun of and have warning posts against them, because they are all transphobic, and threaten the safety and respect of trans people.

SWERF - Sex Worker-exclusionary radical feminist: A person who believes that people who perform sexual acts to make a living should not be included in discussions or activism for gender equality. (Again, defeating the purpose of the feminist movement)

Misogyny = “Mis” is a prefix that means “hatred.” Misogyny is the hatred of women. Other words are combined with this one to mean hate for different kinds of women. (examples: “Transmisogyny” means “hatred of transgender women” and “misogynoir” means “hatred of black women”) The person who hates women is called a “misogynist.”

Internalized Prejudice = When a person who belongs to a group/groups believes the prejudices that society created towards their group. You may see/hear terms like “internalized misogyny” (women who believe in the hatred of women) or “internalized racism” (when non-white person believes in racist prejudices towards their demographic(s)) as well as other combinations.

Trigger: An event that may cause someone to remember an intensely negative or traumatic experience.

TW/CW = Trigger Warning/Content Warning: Tags that are used to warn viewers in advance of distressing content that may cause a strong negative reaction.

SJW = “Social Justice Warrior”: a term created by people who consider others to be “trying too hard” for equality. If you see people using this term completely seriously, they’re probably bigoted, or just ignorant. Otherwise, the term is used as a joke.

anti-SJW = “Anti-Social Justice Warrior” = a bigot, or someone who’s just ignorant, you never know. Proceed with caution when interacting with someone who describes themselves as such.

Egalitarian = A word derived from the french word for “equality”- someone who (supposedly) believes in equality. Is used by some on the internet as a replacement for “feminism” but using the word is usually a result of prejudice towards/misunderstanding feminists, believing that they or the movement is too “extreme.” An “Egalitarian” is usually an “anti-sjw” (bigot), ignorant, and/or otherwise distances themselves from the feminist movement. Proceed with caution.

MRA = “Men’s rights activists” - while technically there is nothing wrong with men’s rights, the term is usually in reference to someone trying to derail feminism, or discussions of gender equality, misunderstanding the point of those things. MRAs usually are actually very shallow, and don’t actually care about the rights of actual disadvantaged men, using them only for the sake of “debates.” Again, proceed with caution.

Meninist = A (satirical?) word created in response to “feminism.” Synonymous with “MRA.”

[pastelsnakeyy]

Do you respect transfems who like to dress masc and don't like to pass? Do you respect transfems who can't medical transition? Do you respect fat transfems? Do you respect aroace transfems? Do you respect transfems who don't like forcefem kinks? Do you respect transfems who aren't picture perfect?

“me looking at the beautiful strong goddess big titty mommy trans woman-“ okay but are you kind and respectful to trans women you don’t personally find attractive? do you respect the identity of all trans women or just the ones you want to sexualize?