#this might sound parasocial as hell (probably because it is) but these men mean so much to me

[youling-the-ghost]

Happy international men's day fellas! Make sure you let the fellow men in your lives know how loved they are, they deserve it :]

I love this video so much because I feel like men's mental health is almost always talked about in an "aha take that feminism!" way. It's so rare and refreshing to see men talk about mental health in such a raw and authentic manner.

To the young men and boys reading this: you are loved. I know it might be hard to believe at times, but I promise that there's someone out there who loves and cares about you.

And if any sfth members are reading this: (first of all I'm scared...why are you on tumblr?) from the bottom of my heart, thank you.

happy international men’s day!!

My comment on this sfth video:

(Insta link here via @letsbesharkfriends :))

I just wanted to share because yeah. This is how I feel :) they give me so much hope. And happiness. And help me to feel secure in being happy being a guy.

I love that they opened up too, it was clearly a bit of a difficult video to make, even though it’s still funny it’s also serious.

anyway :))

[its-a-swift-kloss]

It frustrates me that people pretend weren't Taylor and Karlie weren't also exploited and abused as children in their Entertainment Industry simply because there's no rumors that suggests that they went through the same level of severe trauma their peers like Selena and Justin did.

It's like people don't care that the environment they entered at 13 is inherently, heinously exploitative and abusive, they just hear that neither Taylor and Karlie were passed around to tons of adults in the Entertainment Industries to sexually abused the same way Selena and Justin were and they decide that being raised in an environment where people would be relatively open about sexually abusing children wasn't traumatic for a young Taylor and Karlie at all.

People pretend that Taylor and Karlie grew up to be normal people with working class values when they can't be anything like us, not with Taylor being raised in an environment where types of modern slavery like debt bondage are still practiced with record label contracts, and Karlie being raised in an environment where escaping sexual abuse and coercion into sex work under threat is nearly impossible even with connections.

It makes me mad, it makes me wish people who've never personally worked in the Entertainment Industries would shut the fuck up about Taylor and Karlie, permanently. People who don't understand that they've both went through hell and have been trying to do their best dealing with the effects of things they've done to prevent furture abuse from being inflicted on them for the last few years don't deserve to have an opinion on either Taylor or Karlie.

Fucking pricks, if Taylor bearded with a piece of shit like Jerk to prevent tons of men from sexually assaulting her, people would be sympathetic, but Karlie bearding with Jerk to prevent tons of men from sexually assault her has people screaming that she should choke because that bearding relationship was used as leverage against her and Taylor... No wonder Taylor quit Tumblr, she probably hates most of her "fans" because they're disgusting pieces of shit that pretend their creepy one-sided parasocial relationship with her means they have the right to badmouth Karlie, one of the few people on the planet that makes the world feel less violently loud and unbearable for Taylor.

This bullshit has to bother Taylor a lot, because this bullshit has nothing to do with me but I hate the people who refuse to see Taylor's truth because the fact that Taylor's a mentally ill child abuse victim trying to make the best of the fucked up situation her mentally ill child abuse victim lover makes them uncomfortable!

Fuck everyone who badmouths Karlie when Taylor's been begging people for years to understand that Karlie's the best person she knows in this fucked up world, fuck everyone that makes Taylor's bold declarations of love in the face of adversity futile simply because her and Karlie's bearding situation doesn't fit the creepy ideal fantasy life they created for Taylor in their heads! If Taylor's not going to say it plainly and only imply it in the lakes, then I'm going to say it for her, fuck everyone who has unwanted, wrong opinions on Taylor and Karlie's relationship, go to HELL you cynical fucking clones!

It's not that I disagree with you, okay? Bc I don't. But people who had a normal childhood and teenage years struggle deeply to see all the things you have written. The girls haven't admitted to any of this happening in their lives, so people think "oh, they were so lucky! Thank God" it doesn't go through their heads that, yes, they may have been through tough situations in the industry, bc even if they had strong families and a great support system, I don't think they had protection 24/7. It's impossible to be shielded all the time. I do think dating JK has protected Karlie immensely when she was younger, bc men tend to respect other men, no matter how disgusting it sounds. I truly believe the Karlie and Taylor are doing what's best for themselves. It might include some things I think I'd never do in my life? Yes, but I'm not in their shoes; I didn't grow up in the same environment they did. I don't know what's like to live the way they do or what leads them to make the decisions they make, so I don't judge. How could I? I just stay here, praying that they're safe and happy on the other side.