#this isnt about getting rid of social media entirely

[muneomon]

Am I getting an old school flip phone to stop doom scrolling and to finally focus on my college work?

Yes. Yes I am.

[funandexploring]

- Ravina gave a wedding gift to Cassandra. "A Bridle of Frost, that she might command a team of fiery horses"

- Cassandra and Galicaea were traveling together (night and moon) side by side. Elven deities starting out with Cassandra having more Fey. Sol (sun) also traveled with them to the great mountains

- Written like it was a part of a saga. It's included but not the main point. The significance is that they were connected (low-key, Cassandra might not even be the connection. It could be her sister, and it just happened to be Cassandra's wedding)

- Murph thinks Cassandra marrying a giant? Siobhan thinking it was to one of the gods of the giants like Ravina?

- Cassandra, Goddess of Mystery and Doubt, can make other gods weak? Hit on her life because of this? Sister can't help her because of the rule about gods not helping other gods!

- Sidenote: In sophomore year, it was stated that mortals were convinced to no longer say Cassandra's name and took down her monuments and scriptures as if it would grant her more power as the Goddess of Mystery and Doubt. Someone on earth knew how to get rid of her. Mortal plot? Or a god possibly breaking the rules of influence? (If this, were/how were they penalized?)

- Sidenote: Was Cassandra technically a dead god as The Nightmare King? Or transformed into something else entirely? How did Kristen learn her name again? Cassandra introduced herself? Anyway, someone's pissed she's back!

- Obliviati Mori - The Law of Theothanitc Silience - when a god dies, you forget their name (Yes! is dead but everyone remembers Yes!) VERY SIGNIFICANT THAT THE GODS DO NOT FORGET THE DEAD GODS, only that they cannot remind mortals of a dead gods existence

- Sidenote: Lucy (possessed? A god herself?) had a way of knowing a true dead gods name and writing it down without breaking Obliviati Mori (or taking the penalty for it?) Did Lucy even write that document?? Or did someone do so in her name and she came back later like huh?? Change it back. Is this a prank lol Where is she??? Also, how did it not break the rule if someone at school had to read it to process her forms?? WHO was in that office that could possibly have read the name??

- You can break the above rule with penalties or find a way to work around it somehow

- Lydia and crew never even knew the gods name themselves

- Cassandra reacting to the red stars like "I thought you were dead?!"

- Emily thought that the Rat Grinders (or at least Ivy) are in on it because of how they reacted to Fig in disguise as Lucy

- some celestials and archfey are gods that decided to become something less faith-based (was Bakur once a god? Or strictly a creation of the dead god?)

- Shut the fuck up. Cassandra possibly marrying the embodiment of rage which combined with mystery and doubt could be too powerful so someone(s) started a campaign to kill them both!! Galicaea also being a goddess of the moon so in relation werewolves could have once had a connection?

- Riz saying Galicaea is growing at the same time as the dead god is somehow getting their powers back. Galicaea as the moon goddess where the moon is a reflection of the sun (isnt she married to Sol?) But the dead god has a 26 point red star symbol so could they not also have a connection to Galicaea? More worship for her through Tracker's movement means more power by proxy to the dead god? Also WHY is Tracker's girlfriend so keen on showing face on social media? One part because this is probably their first real relationship after the reveal of where we know her from. But also there's so much going on, so why would it not be suspicious that she literally put Tracker on a deadline??

- I don't get Kristen's theory that the dead god is in Lydia's chest because how did they do what they did at the mall without leaving Lydia? Fig's dad was stuck in a gem and he could only do things through influence as a warlock's patron

[nonegenderleftpain]

calling a trans woman a child and a whiner for rightfully condemning people for financially supporting a site that platforms both transphobia and racism isnt a good look tbh, just admit you care about preserving your fandom spaces more than people's very real problems with this site.

I use this site as a platform for disability advocacy, trans rights advocacy, and sex education. Fandom is secondary.

There is not a single platform out there that does not have bigots on it. It doesn't exist. I'm a trans Jew. The existence of transphobia and racism on this site affects me very deeply and very personally. The solution is not to cut off your nose to spite your face. I'll say what I said again - it is childish and naive to sit and bitch and whine about people financially supporting a space that they spend so much time using, in which they have community spaces that are criminalized or censored on other platforms. It is equally naive and childish to believe that this site - *on which you are complaining*, might I remind you - can just keep going with no changes to structure. I value a community space that allows me to be anonymous and do my work without risking losing my fucking HRT because the wrong people found out that I talk about still wearing dresses on testosterone online. It doesn't matter that she's a trans woman, it's a cold take.

What was the last thing you did to fight racism and transphobia in your community? Was it bitch and moan? Or did you actually spend the time dismantling racist ideals in your community? Maybe educate people on racist and transphobic rhetoric? Create a community space that is heavily moderated to protect members? If your attitude is to just scream about people buying entertainment to support a space that allows you to say lesbian without having to fucking censor it, then I don't want to hear you talk about bigotry on this platform. You know where else there's bigotry? Every single social media platform that exists. The difference between Tumblr and other platforms is that here, we're still allowed to talk openly about queer sex and relationships without fear of account termination. Without having to attach our real life names to our accounts. Without having to worry about advertisers changing the things we are and are not allowed to say. Apple's chokehold on half the fucking mobile market already caused irreparable damage to communities on this site that depended on it for their livelihoods. If the site changes hands again because it is a constant financial black hole, we can say goodbye to even more of our freedoms.

The freedom to talk openly about queer experiences without fear of repercussions depends entirely on the lack of advertisers sanitizing and colonizing this space. And keeping them out means supporting this site. ANY site that allows for open discussion is going to have a problem with bigots. That's just how the world works. This site is too big to eliminate every racist transphobe. Tumblr, unlike most social media platforms, actually has a functioning block and blacklist built in. Use it to protect yourself, and then work on dismantling those people's platform, or stop bitching. You HAVE to learn to take responsibility for your own online experience and curate it accordingly. Expecting websites to do it for you means begging big daddy capitalism to step in and censor everything til it's squeaky clean. And that includes pushing all mention of the dirty queers and greedy Jews into the back room and locking it, like they have over, and over, and OVER again.

It is your job as an adult to protect yourself online. Curate your own safe spaces, because you cannot get rid of every bigot that exists. It's not possible. And sitting and complaining about the rain instead of pulling out a damn umbrella and helping your friends put up a tarp is childish. It's also a very privileged position. For many of us, there is NOWHERE ELSE TO GO. And this place allows us the freedom to exist without fear of censorship, doxxing and catering to capitalism. It's not perfect, but if you sit and refuse to take steps to make the world better - like helping keep a platform that you depend on from caving to the bullshit gentrification happening everywhere else - because the result isn't perfect, then you're wasting everyone's time and energy. Someone is going to have to do the dishes after the revolution. If you wait for automation to prevent people from having to do that labor instead of rolling up your sleeves and getting your hands wet, it's never going to get better.

I'll say it again - block me. I used this ask as a teaching moment, and I will not be responding to any further anons on this subject. Stop being a coward and put your face to your words or stop wasting both our times.

[laufie]

here’s a fun story about a creepy dude/stalker i had. it was a strange situation at the time, and i realize in hindsight i should have been much more scared, but it’s been over 10 years so i can just laugh about it now. it doesn’t describe anything traumatic or graphic, but it’s quite eerie.

anyway, i was about 15 or 16 years old at the time, and it had been just over a year since i moved to canada from ukraine. i still used vk (russian equivalent of facebook) frequently to chat with friends, and had an inside joke in my bio about taking LSD. i wasn’t actually taking anything, as i said it was an inside joke.

out of nowhere, this russian dude sends me a pm about how if im really taking LSD i should be able to name some specific formula or dosage or something. i explained to him that it was an inside joke and i know next to nothing about the drug itself, and he laughed it off. we started talking because i noticed it said on his profile that he currently lived in new york, which was a place i’ve always dreamt of visiting. we ended up talking every day about random things, mostly his love of new york and the array of recreational drugs he does.

he didn’t seem dangerous. he never talked about heavy drugs like heroin or meth, and was heavily against them. he was russian of course, as he was in new york only temporarily, so i felt a sense of connection to him, since i was still overcoming the cultural shock of moving to canada. to my mind at that age he didn’t seem like he had any bad motive. he didn’t ask especially prying questions, he was always nice and well-spoken, and enjoyed philosophical discussion. he gave off a vibe of a trustworthy person, which is a note of positivity that would have persisted throughout this whole story...

had he not been 7 years older than me. an important detail that slipped through the cracks at the time - he was 22 when i was 15. i knew he was more mature than me, but as far as i remember, i never actually got to find out his age back then. in hindsight of course, aside from the glaring age difference, he did give off red flags. calling me much more mature than other girls my age was perhaps the most glaring one. at the time. and of course, the constant glorification of drugs.

mind you, this was more than 10 years ago. the internet was a different place at the time. there was no tumblr or twitter or adults that grew up using the internet to tell me to be careful as a minor. people did whatever they wanted to and got away with it. so naturally, i didn’t catch any of the red flags, neither was i even on the lookout for them in the first place.

skip forward nearly a year, my mom knows a lot about this guy, since i’m quite open with her about, well, everything. my mom has always been my best friend. that summer we were planning a 3 month long trip home, to ukraine. him and i thought it would be cool to met up, since by now he was back home in russia. for reference, ukraine is to the far left side of russia, whereas this guy lived on the polar opposite side, on a piece of russian land that is right above japan. he would have to fly across the entire russia to see me. russia. you know, that massive thing? he was perfectly fine with it. i convinced my mom to let me meet him, and she said only if he stays at our place. naturally.

he came for only a couple days. our apartment back home is quite small so with my mom and constant family guests, there was always a pair of eyes on him. it got a little bit strange eventually. he was touchy, but not in an inappropriate way at all. i’m sure it’s not due to his personal decency, and rather because he would most definitely get caught. he would try to hold my hand, or brush my hair off my face, pat my head. things like that. it didn’t go beyond that. but to me, at the time, it was a grown adult man doing it to me, which gave me an unsettling anxious feeling.

on his last day he wanted to go out because he wanted me to try a drug that he had been talking about the entire time i’ve known him. i would prefer not to go into what it is, but it has a heavy hallucinogenic effect that lasts for a very, very long time. naturally he told my mom he just wanted me to show him around, and i was in on the lie. i was curious. my mom was always very strict with coming back home right on time, so we promised her we will be home by 10 pm.

we went out at around 5. and it lasted longer than he promised. way longer. we came home at 3 am. despite the hallucinations being quite heavy and mind-boggling, the effect of the drug didn’t make me feel “out of it”. my perception of time and space was obviously very skewed, but i knew who i was and where i was, and what was happening around me. he didn’t try anything. there wasn’t even as much as an attempt. except, well, when i realized what time it was i rushed home so fast that i was not going to stop for anything. so i’m not sure. maybe the night wasn’t over in his mind yet, but it was in mine. i felt bad for my poor mother who had been worried sick since 10 pm. it was pitch black outside so i went home through a well-lit road that has a lot of cars. now that i think about it, i may have unintentionally saved myself from things getting worse.

i only stopped when we were outside my apartment, because i wanted to focus as much as i could before going in. he sat down on the bench and beckoned me to sit next to him. and he kissed me. i dont remember how exactly it happened but it just kind of did. i went along with it and didn’t say anything after, i went inside the apartment building like nothing happened. it was odd. i didn’t know what it meant, but i also didn’t care, because i wanted to see my mom as soon as i could, ad it was the only thing on my mind.

one look in my eyes and she knew everything. she told me to go to bed. i don’t know what she told him. i’m not sure she said anything. the next morning she asked me if anything happened. i assured her that i was safe. and then he was gone. she didn’t say anything to him. she just dropped him off to make sure he actually left.

after that we didn’t really talk nearly as much. we tried to keep in contact but honestly, i wasn’t as drawn to him anymore. eventually, out of nowhere, he posted some really mean and rude comments under a bunch of my pictures, and i ended up deleting him.

now for the creepiest part. nearly 4 years later we plan another trip to ukraine to visit family. i have some medical conditions with my spine that i needed to get very uncomfortable and painful massages for. my health is one of the main reasons why we took trips back home often. one day about a week or so into my trip i was leaving my apartment to get into a taxi to go to one of those massage appointments. i exit the building and there he was. sitting on the bench and just looking at me. 4 years later. not a word. across russia.

even though it was bright afternoon and a lot of people were out, i was overcome with dread. i awkwardly told him “sorry, i have to go somewhere” and rushed to get into the taxi. he didn’t say anything, just kept looking. on my way back from the massage i called one of my close old friends that worked in the UKR special forces. my mom wasn’t home and i did not feel safe returning. he picked me up and drove me home, and came in with me, all the way into the apartment, the guy wasn’t there anymore. i made my friend coffee and told him about this guy. he promised to drive by once in a while to make sure he isnt hanging out here at odd hours.

later that day at around 8 pm i got a text from an unknown number. “so, are you scared of me now?”.

i closed all my blinds and curtains, locked both entrance doors, and told my female friends not to come visit me, because he knew their faces. yes, i was scared. i was really scared. he didnt say a word to me in 4 years, somehow found out about my trip and just showed up. i wasn’t sure if i wanted to cry or scream. i knew i had to get rid of him somehow. so i responded, making up a story about being really sick and needing constant treatment, and that i made plans with all my friends to leave tonight to go to another city for 3 weeks.

he was angry with me and very upset. he expected a happy reunion i guess. i was very polite to him and apologized, saying i felt bad he traveled all this way only to be told this. he started writing really cryptic things. “i know a secret how to cure any illness of yours, you don’t need doctors, it’s like a code, you plug it in and you become anything”. “i came here to cure you because you’re the only person it will work on”. “i went to your page to ask your friends if your plans are true, but you have them hidden. why don’t you trust me anymore?”

among this he called me. over and over. between every message, a missed call i refused to pick up. eventually i broke down and asked him why is he acting like this. to which he said “because you are the only woman in the world i will ever be able to love this much”. i told him i was with someone and have been for 2 years, and to leave me alone. after a handful more cryptic messages, he stopped for a while. and ended it in a plea to forgive him. i didn’t respond to anything beyond the confession.

thankfully i had no contact with him since then, and as far as i know there have been no attempts from him. however, i don’t use russian social media anymore, and none of them are linked to any of my active “american” accounts, so to speak. so there is no way for him to find me. if you ever wondered why i never make my real name public and always go under aliases, this is largely why.

[teachers-are-nerds]

why does my brain keep saying very loudly and rapidly “i want to die i want to die i want to die i want to fucking die” even though i absolutely do not want to die right now i dont even have the motivation to scream but i wonder if a solid scream would be cathartic

theres just so many things i need to complain about my heart is pounding so hard im in pain and im shaking and everything feels bad and i cant change my meds bc i cant contact my psychiatrist from france or like... more importantly figure out the logistics

i dont wanna go back to the states though bc gburg is probably gonna be hella toxic for me again even though my schedule for next year is super good and im super looking forward to it

why did i send home all of my sheet music and why didnt i send home my jackets holy wow that’s gonna be a lot of weight i cant pay for with the luggage on my way home

what if im not mentally ill enough for meds i know i have to change them bc at this moment i am NOT feeling helped by them but what if another med will make me even worse and what if i am actually just shitty at managing symptoms and how come everyone else seems to be able to manage or hide or work through their shit and i have to go and make a big fucking deal out of it all and i literally even wrote my prof like “hi btw ive been suicidal thats why i havent been in class” and that’s just using mental health as a fucking excuse it’s not like an hour and a half of sitting through a class from which i glean approximately nothing would actually kill me, as it were lol

i have to get the key to christine but that means 20 min walk home and 20 min walk back and maybe the sunlight will be good for me but i also need to write the other two pages of my paper that im obviously not doing now since im complaining and making a bajillion zillion posts all over social media lol it is a cry for help how come i cant make myself do the things i need to do im literally in physical pain because i cant make myself do the paper that was due an entire week ago !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! how the actual fuck did i even graduate high school how did i fucking survive

well i mean i didnt drink in high school but i also got apx 3h of sleep a night so idk

im not drinking today though like i refuse to do that today bc money and also i need to just uhh not drink for a while because that’s what healthy people do. not day drink on weekdays.

i thought i was better abt that this year than last year but i guess not as much as i thought but at least im not sleeping in my friend’s bed every other night?? which is an improvement

god i fucking hate that i cut myself out of the queermmunity like that even though it’s better for me i just wish i did it in a more mature way im so fucking angry at myself im not even homesick at all i miss like 4 or 5 people from the states in total and i feel fucking awful that theres a bunch of people who will message me like “omg miss u” and i know i miss them too but like i feel like im lying when i respond “miss u 2″ and that isnt fair at all and i hate it i hate feeling like im lying to my friends i hate that i dont miss them i hate that this semester is supposedly the best semester of my life and i still have to convince myself not to step in front of a bus sometimes and i hate that The Brain Demons are clawing my stomach out from the inside but at least i havent purged in a while so there’s that and usually i can talk myself out of other self harm shit

and putting the content of my complaining post in the tags is to warn people if they read it but also it’s gonna make some people like OH NO UR IN DANGER LET ME READ THIS and i dont ?? i dont want that???????? but i also do???? good fucking lord i hate being such an attention whore

i hate that im a whore in general

like i dont regret any sexploits ive had whatever but i hate that i feel jealous of some people because i dont want to monopolize their lives and i dont want to prevent them from sharing love w other people i jsut want people to cuddle and kiss and be romantic with and it hurts but i also cant ocmplain abt it with my friends bc they also are like dammit i want a partner and me i have a few consistent sex partners but i want romantic partners but i need to change the people with whom i spend my time because they are not great for my mental health and i hate that bc i love them dearly but im destroying myself just in a different way from last year

the people i loved last year are driving me up a goddamn wall and i hate that i hate that i hate that so much bc i still care about them but im such an idiot i cant stand up for what feels right or against what feels wrong to me bc ill jsut get yelled at and i know that means i shouldnt be close to them im so hurting today

everything feels like too much and im shaking and still avoiding responsibilities and idk if writing this post is gonna get it out of my head enough bc on one hand i might tire myself out and not feel the need to write about it more to people and not have to bother them or like idk continue distracting conversations or maybe having people worry and try to talk to me will give me something to ignore so i can make myself write my paper idfk!!!!!!!!! but on the other hand uhh what if this is just going to make me fixate even more on my problems im screaming in sid e

oh ps im realizing that my family dynamic, while much much miuchn much much better than so fuckin many other people (feels conceited to say but im grateful for it and feel i cant or shouldnt talk abt it in case it triggers something in those with shitty home situations!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!) im recognizing that smth about the dynamic feels unstable as well!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! i want to cry!!!!!!!!!!!!!! what if i finish my paper, turn it in, sit for 20 minutes of class, go breathe, come back for the end

idfk othe rstudents need to talk to the prof too i cant monopolize him with the same content from my email to him and the same “i need help but idk what help i need” statement from last week or whatever

idk

idk idk idk will summer help me at all? will i live at home? will that be better or worse for me? can i remove all the materialism from my life? obv no but i feel i need to get rid of everything i own to cleanse myself of whatever and also i feel like cutting my own stomach and other organs out of myself but i obv cant and promise i wont try that lol

what work will i have or internships i dont have money i feel trapped will i hate myself forever will i be stuck in loops forever i will absolutely live long enough to find out and i will overcome things but like jesus chriiiiiiiiiiiiist im Not Good rn im sorry

yells

[breezmo]

i wish i had a sign, to pursue, to continue, to wait, to hold on, to let go, because i dont know what the fuck to do. this is going to be my last "breakup" post, so i might as well let everything out.

no one told me this would be so hard. i understood how heartbreak worked but putting logic to it doesnt help. no one told me how much everything changes, how i cant look at my body in the mirror and imagine the lovemarks he gave me, how i cant eat frosted flakes without remembering how i never even liked them until he gave me some at his house, how i can barely look at my cat without thinking about his. no one told me that when you lose a lover, you're not just losing that but also an entire family. im not grieving losing just him, but his cats and his mother and even his mothers significant other. no one told me how laughing throughout the day hurts more then just expressing that im not doing good. no one told me id be so damn weak, that i cant even look at him without taking in a sharp breath like ive been punched in the stomach, or how easily i get jealous and low when i hear him laugh wondering "whos making you laugh?". no one explained to me that i cant listen to any music without thinking of him, or how badly i want to hate him but i just cant. how even if ive gotten rid of pretty much everything of his or that he gave me, hes still everywhere. in my clothes, on my couch, in my kitchen, in my shower. no one told me how hard it would be to shower, realizing how much bigger my shower feels without him. no one explained any of this and i wish soneone did, but to be honest it probably wouldnt have prepared me.

my great grampa died of a broken heart, heart failure barely a little after his wife died. i thought that was dumb, but now i feel a crushing ache in my chest, and i cant breathe, and my heart really does ache.

i want to switch schools and i should have by now but im selfish, im so selfish, im trying so hard just to be able to see him even if it hurts so bad. i made this account to heal and figure myself out, on a playform where he wont see, to keep myself from checking his accounts on other social medias. now all i check is email, but even then, im trying to stop.

i realize how badly i hurt him, im not the victim here, and honestly i try and convince myself that hes fine but deep down i can feel that he isnt. i just hope every night he sleeps well, knowing i cant message him reassuring to do it, i hope that he hates me honestly, because i would too. i want him to hate me because at least hate isnt this, i could never ask for him to be in this sort of pain. i said so many things i want to take back, done so many things i could have included him in, i was just so scared that i would get too attached, but it looks like i did anyway.

and when, or if he switches schools, i know thatll break me even more then im broken now, but i hope that hes happy if he switches. i hope he gets an amazing friend group and an amazing significant other that can treat him how i didnt. part of me wants to be angry and get stuck up and say shit like "you cant find anyone better then me" but i know he can, and i hope he does, and i hope i find someone who will help heal and fill the void and help me grow instead of pour weed killer on me and blame it on me being mean.

I wish nothing bad to come of him, and thats how i can tell that i love him so very much. i hope that hes ok, or will be ok, and as much as i wish i could embrace him for the last time and tell him how much i love him, i dont want it to hurt him more. i planned so much with him beside me, and itll hurt doing it alone, but whos to say that there isnt another person out there for me?

im so greatful for what hes taught me, and im so greatful for my friends that i have. i lost so many because of him, his fears, or his dislikes for them. i changed how i viewed my closest friends because he didnt like my current views. im so greatful for my best friend, whom i love so much, because hes been nothing but supportive and respecting that i dont need a lover, i need a friend, and hes probably been my lifeline throughout this. A prince charming.

it hurts so much, and me saying all of this is to reassure myself its ok to feel like this. i know it wont take away the pain, or the hurt, or the insecurities he left me with, but i know at least i didnt have anything left to say at this point other then

i love you.

And i gotta move on, because it will never work out with him, no matter how badly i want it to. this is my last sad sappy post, thank you random people if you got this far, and stay safe!

[morganbelarus]

Topless bans are just laws that treat female bodies like sex objects | Arwa Mahdawi

A Utah woman is being taken to court for bearing her breasts in her home an explicit example of a double standard

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Welcome to America: where nipples are more regulated than guns

It started with DIY and ended with criminal charges.

A couple of years ago Tilli Buchanan and her husband were installing drywall in their Utah garage. The couple got covered in itchy insulation material, she later told reporters, so they both took their tops off. At that point her three stepchildren (a 13-year-old boy, a 10-year-old girl and a nine-year-old boy) walked in. The kids were mortified; Buchanan told them not to be. This isnt a sexual thing, she remembers saying. I should be able to wear exactly what my husband wears. You shouldnt be embarrassed about this.

The kids birth mother didnt take quite such a blas view of the incident and complained to authorities. Criminal charges were filed against Buchanan. Under Utah law a woman is guilty of lewdness involving a child if she exposes the part of her breast below the top of the areola in public or in a private place under circumstances the person should know will likely cause affront or alarm. If convicted she faces jail time and may have to register as a sex offender for 10 years, alongside rapists and pedophiles. The judge is expected to rule on the case in the next few months.

The idea that being topless in your own home might land you in jail is outrageous and the American Civil Liberties Union of Utah has intervened in Buchanans case. Earlier this week, they asked a judge not just to dismiss the case but to change the states lewdness law which, they argue, is unconstitutional and discriminates against women.

Theres part of [this law] that says this part of a woman is found inherently obscene and this part of a man isnt, an ACLU attorney told reporters outside court on Tuesday. That really sets up an unequal and unfair dichotomy.

It should be noted, by the way, some of the key facts of this case are in dispute. Buchanan says she was topless in the garage when the kids came in. The prosecution alleges she stripped in front of her stepchildren after stating that if it was OK for her husband to take his top off she should be able to do the same. Its perfectly possible that Buchanan may have exercised poor judgment; its perfectly possible she isnt entirely blameless in all this. But that doesnt detract from the wider point: womens chests are sexualized and policed while mens chests arent. This hasnt always been the case it wasnt legal for men to be topless in public in New York until the 1930s.

Theres been a growing global movement to Free the Nipple and get society, social media and the law to treat men and womens chests equally. The movement has clocked up several victories; six states (Colorado, Wyoming, Utah, New Mexico, Kansas or Oklahoma) recently got rid of their bans on women being topless in public. The movement is bigger than breasts: its about treating female bodies like human bodies, not sex objects. Its about bodily autonomy.

Buchanans case isnt just an explicit example of the double standards applied to male and female bodies it underscores just how out of whack Americas priorities are. The right to bear arms is considered sacred; the right to bare breasts is considered obscene. In Utah, which has some of the most permissive firearm laws in America, you can buy a handgun without a background check. You can openly carry a handgun without a permit. You can go grocery shopping with a pistol on your hip. But god forbid anyone see a womans nipples.

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The Arts Council of Pakistan thought it would be an awesome idea if they convened an all-male panel to give the other perspective on feminism. Outrage ensued and the all-male panel has now been transformed into a mostly male panel.

137 women killed by their partners in France this year

France has one of the highest femicide rates in Europe and there is a growing public outcry over the problem. I think French society is deeply sexist and its difficult to make it evolve, the countrys gender equality minister told CNN. With the government, Im trying to win a cultural battle against sexism and misogyny, but its true that its very hard.

Majority of murdered Irish women killed by male partners

Eight-seven per cent of Irish women killed between 1996 and 2019 know their killer, according to a new report by Womens Aid. Sixty-one per cent of those women died in their own homes and 56% were killed by a current or former male partner. Womens Aid notes that fits a global pattern and is in stark contrast to male homicide victims, the majority of whom are killed by strangers.

Ivanka Trump defends daddy with fake De Tocqueville quote

On Thursday the first daughter criticized the impeachment proceedings by tweeting an Alexis de Tocqueville quote about the decline of public morals. Two problems with this: 1) the quote was misattributed; 2) the Trumps are in no position to lecture people on public morals.

Joe Bidens foot keeps punching his mouth

During Wednesdays debate the presidential candidate was asked what hed do to address sexual violence. His response? [W]e have to just change the culture, period, and keep punching at it, and punching at it, and punching at it.

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Start the New Year Successfully with These Resume Writing Tips for 2016

impertinently forms yet around the corner and this is usu whollyy the time when we bring a bunch of invigorated Years proclamations. We decide to throw up unhealthy foods, go to middle school, do things we handnt wanton in past form, and we alike decide this is the year when were fin completelyy red to do work a step in front in our occupational group. Obviously, ditching unhealthy foods and pass to the gym dont stand a chance. Somehow, we tidy sumt say good-by to delicious pizza and whos got enough time for gym any panache? In the end, we neverthe slight collapse one resolution left and thats c arer progress. In all honesty, thats purge much realizable than going to the gym on daily basis.\nQuality lift out stands mingled with you and desired product line\n\nTo finally do several(prenominal)thing nearly your career and fall upon a better (or any) rail line, its all important(predicate) to conduct a high-quality film in. I like to compare it to pass word-protected adit. unfortunate borrow results with Access Denied mental object on the tiny screen, dapple good summarise opens the door and leads you to your next destination your caper.\nWhat virtually people over run into is the particular that resume has to be adapted to the current trends. To let down the year 2016 with advantage over former(a) people who are going to apply for the homogeneous project as you volition, I listed all important things you should consider when compose your resume.\nFormat for 2016\nBefore you scour start writing your resume, prevail a few moments to guess about the fact that well-nigh people physical exertion the same strategy as you do. This as well as includes using a vast range of templates you can experience online.\nThe best way to hurt bringd is to hit a resume that stands out. This isnt besides complicated to accomplish. For example, you can start just by mentioning the grassroots info and other skills on a blan k peck of paper and later make some adjustments to make it olfactory modality professional. Additionally, you can always make someone to write your resume for you (theres nonhing handle with that). That way, your resume go out look highly professional and will stand out among all others.\nResume writing in 2016\nI always struggled whenever I had to write my resume. Its beca physical exercise I thought I have to mention as a good deal info as achievable in dictate to imprint the recruiter etc. However, thats not always such a great idea, particularly if we take into account that average recruiter pretermits between 5 and 7 seconds look at one resume.\nIts important to focus on emphasizing all strengths and skills you have to do a legitimate job successfully. Your resume should accept info about education, experience, or even some awards you have received that you think recruiter would find interesting.\nDos and donts for 2016\n\nDO tailor your resume harmonise to the j ob youre applying to. You have more chances to ingest engage if your resume conform toes all requirements listed by the recruiter.\n outwearT use a same resume for every job. Generic resumes arent that beneficial. Yes, you dont spend hours on creating a hone resume, but its highly unlikely it will match all requirements needed for authorized job.\nDO only info that is relevant for specific job devising sure the about important skills or achievements are listed on the top.\nDONT overdo it. Sometimes, less is more.\nDO list accomplishments, achievements or even experiences within a sure job purpose youve through before. This way, the recruiter will recognize your capabilities.\nDONT mention your job title only and r separately it at that. They are more interested in things youve through with(p) within the job role e.g. came up with certain fancy and program that improved students grades in school etc.\nDO specify your achievements. For example, increased sales or website traffic by 30% in 2 months.\nDONT be vague and say change magnitude sales only. That doesnt cater enough info.\nDO use a subtle, minimalist format that is easy to shew.\nDONT use flowery designs, sinful formats and templates that are confusing.\nDO read entire resume in one case again; look for grammar or spelling mistakes.\nDONT submit your resume without proofreading it first.\nDO polish your LinkedIn and other affable media profiles.\nDONT anaesthetise inappropriate content on your affable media profiles. Recruiters pay assistance to how your act on brotherly media as well. With the rise of internet, genial media became a powerful dick that is of high importance for your career.\nStats: resumes + loving media and their role in recruitment\n\n76% of resumes are jilted due to unprofessional e-mail address.\n88% of resumes are rejected due to photo.\nBack in 2000, 22% of resumes were submitted via email or post on some website. In 2014, more than 90% of resumes are sen t by email or posted on websites.\nApplicant trailing Softwares are able to rid of about 75% of applicants.\n427,000 resumes are posted on Monster.com each week.\n89% of recruiters have chartered someone via LinkedIn.\n68%of employers will find you on Facebook.\n93% of employers look at candidates social media accounts before they decide whether to hire someone.\nWorking on your resume to have higher chances of getting hired is the ideal way of starting a New Year successfully. 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10 Critical Skills To How To See Private Instagram Accounts Remarkably Well

If youve been trying to figure out a pretension to look a private profile, you might have found a couple of apps that allow you to reach fittingly along the way. You probably have your own reasons to attain for that reason that will justify your interests in this accomplish which goes adjacent to Instagrams privacy policy. Some apps guarantee youll be accomplished to see the content on private or then again locked profiles, however we have found the right app after breakdown on top of 20 vary such Instagram hacks.But lets see at the concept of these apps. Most of them either require you to download their app or to use their online service. You need to how to view private instagram pay for the targeted Instagram account obviously. bearing in mind you reach that, they will supposedly start full of life upon removing the restrictions, whether youve been blocked or denied admission to that account.After theyre finished as soon as meting out the data, they will come to you permission to that profiles content and keep in mind that they are not blamed subsequently what you will be deed gone the data you obtain; in most countries, reading the private messages of extra people is risky. I uphold that this online app actually works, after chemical analysis going on for 20 of them I realized that many outsource the initial code of 1 or 2, and the partner above is one of the main sources (usually updated often).Sooner or innovative the copy cats would be discovered and reported. see private instagram correspondingly if you complete happen to find one that works, have in mind that it wont be comprehensible online forever. Either this or its kept as a unnamed for in view of that long that no one knows it exists. But if no one knows just about it, whats the use of it.

Instagram Private Profile Viewer

The privacy settings become crucial later than a person creates an account. It could be for security issues or for a affable level of the person. However, Instagram has entirely simple privacy settings as compared to additional social websites, either you can view private instagram conceal your content from every your associates and buddies except some members to whom you want to allow, or you can enactment it to every your followers. The user has unadulterated control higher than the assistance he/she wants to portion gone public. There is no in-between settings as Facebook has, where you can adapt upon every read out which you want to perform to extra people. Thus, subsequently the put up to of private settings, deserted the followers upon the website can view your profile. For those who want to view private Instagram have further choices to choose from.You can hack the account of the person and viewing all his/her recommendation would be within your power. You can check all his/her videos, photos, and other personal information. Various tools, technologies, and solutions are clear upon the web to use for hacking Instagrams account. You are required URL of that persons Instagrams account and you would acquire right of entry to the account. Well, it is not the easiest mannerism of viewing private profile characterize of any person. You infatuation an Android application in which you will put the username or URL of the describe or video from that persons account. Just copy the profiles URL and paste it into the application. Press the consent marginal to pretend supplementary and you will be dexterous to view the private profile of the person.This website is utterly free, and the instagram private profile viewer fine situation roughly using it that you realize not have to download it. You can use it categorically easily to view private Instagram and look content shared on that account. The extra improvement of using it is that in imitation of you desire to view private Instagram profile, this website will let you view undetectably, which means no footprints are left behind. The owner will never know that his/her profile was visited. No one will ever know that you have used this in order to view private Instagram profiles.Instagram has a strong set of privacy protections to keep its users suggestion secure from their exes, difficult employers, or any further prying eyes they hope to hide from. In fact, more and more people are realizing the importance of keeping your social media profiles at least somewhat private rather than leaving behind them approach to the world at large. Your Instagram page is no exception to that. A private Instagram profile means your photos and stories wont be viewable by the public, and youll have to approve cronies one at a time. That lets you directly manage who can and cant view your content. Its authenticated that the platrform is set occurring to assist public sharing, but they plus retain the decision to preserve a degree of personal privacy. Unless youre a celebrityor perhaps an up-and-coming YouTuber theres no defense not to lock alongside your Instagram account if youre worried virtually safety or privacy.There may be times, though, that you want to view someone elses private Instagram account. Is it possible? Well, it is and it isnt, and well acquire to that. First lets evaluation how to create YOUR Instagram profile private, then well get into how to view private accounts secretly.Weve every been told higher than and over: make clear your social accounts are locked alongside and private, or at the extremely least, clean and secure of any compromising recommendation and images. Whether youre applying for a job or just dont desire your prospective spouse seeing those embarrassing photos from senior year, its important to ensure that your account is either private or safe. But if youre other to Instagramor its been awhile before you created your accountyou might be hesitant on how to alter the privacy settings upon your account to guard your information. Lets take a look. Well be using the iOS explanation of the app in our screenshots below, but the Android tab is approximately identical to the Apple bill of the app.Start by establishment the app, either from your house screen (iOS) or your app drawer (Android). The app will entry going on on the home page for Instagram, showing a addition of posts and shares from your followed friends. Along the bottom of the app, youll find five icons for accumulation photos, viewing posts, and more. Tap upon the profile icon on the bottom of the tab. on iOS, this shows your profile portray taken from Instagram. on Android, this shows a basic profile icon, a silhouette of a person. Tapping this will display your own profile, along following a few other options.Once youre inside of Instagrams settings menu, youll look a long list of options. You can add your Facebook friends and your contacts, invite Facebook links not nevertheless on Instagram, and view your account settings. Its here where youll locate options for two-factor authentication, the finishing to conceal your Instagram Story, and block users. But above all, the most important unusual here is Private Account, which youll find at the bottom of the account settings options on this page, back the acknowledged settings menu begins. Instagram warns below this switch that isolated people you approve can see your photos and videos, while mentioning that your existing associates wont be affected by the switch. If youre exasperating to acquire rid of a specific user that already follows you, youll have to block them.When youre ready to create your account private, all you have to realize is flip the switch upon this option. Instagram will counsel you virtually favorable cronies and your existing followers instinctive unaffected by the change. verify your selection, and thats ityour account is now private. If at any era you desire to make your account public again, understandably follow the steps above and flip the switch for private accounts to the off position. Youll receive another proclamation message, and thatll be that. You can pull off this as many get older as youd like, without any sort of repercussionsjust remember that any posts you shared even though your account was private will become public as soon as you flip that switch off.If you hope to view a private Instagram account, the real habit is as well as the easy habit send that person a follow request.

My View Introduction

Typically, even a person in imitation of a protected profile will agree to people they know, suitably if this is someone youre aware or acquainted with, you shouldnt have any problems getting that person to accept your request. as soon as your request has been approved, youll be clever to see that persons profile and view any photos theyve uploaded to Instagram.Obviously, this is the most approachable pretentiousness to entrance and view a persons private Instagram account, no situation who they are. Unfortunately, though, this does depend heavily on you as an Instagram user having a preexisting relationship considering the person youre trying to increase on Instagram.Therefore, if youre aggravating to grow someone you dont know, taking into account a celebrity or a pal of a friend, the easiest mannerism to accomplish out to them is through a private instaviewy revelation upon Instagram. Sending the user a private declaration (PM) will let them know a bit nearly whos requesting to follow the user. The best exaggeration to pull off this is to allow the requested addict know who you are, a bit not quite yourself, and why you want to follow them on Instagram. saying as much as Im a tall assistant professor friend of your boyfriend or We met at your cousins birthday party can be enough to make a retrieve amongst you and the party youre exasperating to reach out to, especially if they remember you.Again, a lot of this relies upon having an already-existing connection like the person. If you dont have that pre-existing relationship, then youll have to rely upon your own social skills to chat to the addict youre looking to follow. Many Instagram users will conventional other friends, especially past they can block or sever you if things instagram profile picture viewer get rough. Just remember to save an eye on what you read out and what that person posts. If you dont know them and you interact considering them too often after theyve approved your request, you might be risking a removal or blocking.Sometimes you dont actually habit permission to the persons account you just want to see some particular photo(s) they posted. Log into Instagram and locate the person wish to research online. as soon as you locate their account, no doubt locked at the back a privacy wall, youll be nimble to look the username of your target. play up that pronounce and copy it to your devices clipboard, because were going to be using that herald in a moment. Now, admission going on Google Images or the image-based search engine of your choice and glue the publish of your targeted person into the search box.

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What well be undertaking here is simple: somewhere upon the web, theres a fine unplanned that the person youre looking for has left an trail of photographs back activating their privacy auspices upon Instagram. Often, the photos posted on Instagram have actually been shared elsewhere, making it simple to find your targets photos by using their Instagram ID as a search keyword. If theyve since had swing photo accounts upon Flickr or new thesame photo sharing sites, you may gain access to some of that assistance in your search. The thesame is authentic if the persons Facebook is largely unprotected.The unaided legal pretentiousness to view a private Instagram account profile is by requesting to follow that person from your actual account. as soon as the private Instagram addict grants your request to follow them, youll have the exploit to view, like, and comment upon their Instagram posts. You could as well as private notice the account holder to explain why youd next to follow them. Or you can attain both, making certain the addict knows exactly who you are and why you want to view their profile.If youre looking for unethicaland possibly illegalways to view a private Instagram account, That said, heres the easiest artifice to get entrance to a private Instagram if youre distinct the requested addict wont want to embrace you in genuine life: make a new account for a fictional person and use that account to demand to follow the account you are curious in. be active accounts on Instagram are, technically speaking, next to the terms of minister to for the account, suitably youll want to limit your usage and access. We pull off not recognizeinstagram profile viewercomport yourself this; at best, its unethical, and at worse, could constitute stalking users online. you can always go the route of creating a pretense profile and maddening to fool the addict into past you. We dont recommend this, as its a major breach of trust behind the additional user, and bill accounts can often easily be spotted subsequently browsing content. Overall, reaching out to the addict you desire to follow is the best course of conduct. Theyll likely go to you if you decree a association or a prudence of friendlinessInstagram is, after all, a fairly-positive community of photographers and users sharing their social experiences online.

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74 Million Americans Have More Credit Card Debt Than Savings: What to Do If You're One of Them

Americas compulsion for credit card spending appears to be reaching entirely new heights. A recent report from Bankrate found that a staggering 74 million Americans now have more credit card debt than emergency savings, which is the highest that figure has been in nine years. Looked at another way, only 44% of American households have more emergency savings than credit card debt, according to the same report. Thats thelowest that savings-to-debt ratio has been in nine years. Also noteworthy: The deterioration of the American households emergency savings relative to credit card debt extends across both genders, all ages, all educational backgrounds, all income brackets, and political party affiliations. In other words, Americans are collectively moving in the wrong direction, says Bankrate chief financial analyst Greg McBride. Consumers should make hay while the sun shines. Now is the time, with unemployment low and wages rising, to right-size the equation by paying off high-cost credit card debt and adding to emergency savings, said McBride. If you happen to be among the 74 million Americans struggling to get out from under a mountain of credit card debt, while fretting about having zero savings in the bank, the dilemma is often which challenge to address first? Save money? Or pay off debt? Or try to do both? Heres what personal finance and credit experts had to say about finding a financially stable path forward. Aggressively Pay Down Debt When faced with more credit card debt than savings, theres rarely one best solution that applies to everyone, begins David Gafford of Shift Processing, a credit card processing company. However, in most cases its going to be a wiser move to pay off high-interest debt before building savings, he said. The reason this makes sense is because if youre paying more in interest on credit card debt than youre making on the interest you gain by saving, youre still losing money, Gafford explained. James Lambridis, founder and CEO of Debt MD, a startup that connects people with professional help to become debt-free, also urges paying off debt first before worrying about savings. We live in an age where people are constantly comparing their lives to those of their peers, especially through social media. Many people finance their extravagant lifestyles with credit cards in order to keep up with the Joneses. As a result, some people have zero savings, and loads of credit card debt. When faced with this situation, your number one priority should always be to pay the debt off first before trying to accumulate savings, said Lambridis. With the average interest rate on a credit card being around 16%, if the balance isnt paid off in a timely manner, youll end up paying double or sometimes even triple the principal balance, added Lambridis, who says paying such high interest on a mountain of credit card debt is the metaphorical equivalent of bleeding money. Speed Up the Process of Eliminating Debt To help rid yourself of debt even more quickly, start eliminating unnecessary household expenses and put that saved money toward your credit card bills. You need to be tracking your actual income and expenses down to the penny, says Michael Kern, a CPA and founder of Talent Financial, a personal finance and small business consulting company focused on helping people get their finances in order. Go line by line and cut any expenses that are not necessary, continued Kern. This will allow more income to flow into savings and paying off debt, which will ultimately get you to your financial goals faster. Shift Debt to a Lower Interest Rate Vehicle Yet another critical step when trying to rid yourself of credit card debt is shifting the balances to a lower interest rate financial vehicle. From zero-interest balance transfer cards to personal loans, there are several options for doing this, says Lambridis. A debt consolidation loan can wrap all of the payments into one lower monthly payment at a lower interest rate and give you a concrete finish line for when the debt will be paid off, he suggests. Another option is enrolling in a debt management plan offered through credit counseling agencies, which can also help lower interest rates while helping you to pay off the debt in three to five years, said Lambridis. When you enroll in a debt management plan, whichever cards you enroll are closed, so you will not be able to use them, Lambridis explained. You make one payment to the credit counseling agency, and they disperse the funds to each of your creditors at the newly agreed-upon payback terms. Often, theres a small fee to sign on for a debt management plan (around $50), said Lambridis. In addition, there will likely be an ongoing monthly maintenance fee, which is also around $50, depending on which agency you choose. When It Makes Sense to Save Before Eliminating All Credit Card Debt In some cases, it can be a good idea to work on establishing an emergency savings even while you still have significant credit card debt.For instance, Gafford suggests that if your debt already has a very low interest rate, go ahead and start putting money into savings for a rainy day. However, if you still have a high interest rate, it makes more sense to focus squarely on paying down those credit cards or transferring your debt to a lower interest rate solution. Once debt is at a lower interest rate, building an emergency fund becomes more feasible, Gafford explained. Ben Watson, CFO at DollarSprout.com, a personal finance and entrepreneurial website, suggest creating a mini-emergency fund while youre working to tackle debt. Dont aim to have the standard six to 12 months worth of expenses squirreled away that advisors often recommend. Instead set a target of having at least $500 to $1,000 set aside for legitimate emergencies, he says. If youre starting from zero cash, spend a weekend or two cleaning out the attic, garage, and spare room and sell things you dont need anymore, said Watson. Go full Marie Kondo on your place and list items on Facebook Marketplace, eBay, or have a garage sale. Anything you havent even thought about for more than 12 months should be considered as potential cash. There are tons of simple ideas to make a quick buck on the internet, find one that fits you and go for it. A Lifestyle Out of Control Mike Pearson, founder of CreditTakeoff.com, suggests the challenge so many Americans are now facing having more credit card debt than emergency savings has a great deal to do with how we frame the issues. [Its] not a matter of simply not having enough money, but rather having your spending totally out of control, explained Pearson. When you control your spending, everything else including debt payoff and savings falls into place. In other words, he says, the best way out of this situation is to create a reasonable budget, stick to it, and at the end of the day, know that you simply cannot spend more money than you earn. If you take home $2,500 after taxes each month, then your expenses cannot exceed $2,500. Simple concept to understand, but much more difficult to apply in real life, said Pearson. Only when youve mastered this concept, however, can you truly start to make progress paying down your credit card debt and building up your emergency savings because you will actually have money available to address both of those problems. Some will say its a good idea to have a $1,000 emergency fund first, just in case something bad happens. Others will say pay off credit card debt first because youre getting killed with interest charges, concluded Pearson. At the end of the day, it doesnt really matter Much more important than picking which one to tackle first is to understand both of these issues come back to spending. If you dont get your spending under control, you will never climb out of debt and you will never have savings. Mia Tayloris an award-winning journalist with more than two decades of experience. She has worked for some of the nations best-known news organizations, including the Atlanta Journal-Constitution and the San Diego Union-Tribune. Read more by Mia Taylor: https://www.thesimpledollar.com/74-million-americans-have-more-credit-card-debt-than-savings-what-to-do-if-youre-one-of-them/

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16 Situations All 30 -Somethings Should Stop Apologizing For This Year

If you were to ask me for an educated guess on the number of hours I said a mindless Im sorry in 2015, youd better have a technical calculator and some time to kill.

I failed way somewhere around 3 am on New Years Day.( Although odds are, the majority of members of those were justified .)

Apologies are like burps for me.

Unless you stymie my nostrils and cover my opening, they will operate out with foolhardy abandon.

Im sorry, I complain as I mine around for $0.86 in my purse, trying to avoid separating a $10 greenback for Reeses Peanut Butter Cups.

My palms are sweating, my hands are shaking and pennies are running everywhere.

I eventually succumb to handing over the $10, as to not inconvenience the convenience store clerk any longer.

Im sorry, this pitchers out of whole milk. Would you knowledge refilling it? I ask the Starbucks barista timidly, like Ive been hanging out at the self-service counter and guzzling it dry all day.

Excuse me, Im sorry, I squeak, trying to remove myself from the woman who is using the side of my figure to prop up her newspaper.

I’m sorry I wasnt able to morph into a better coffee table for her morning commute.

Apologies are the umm of our generation.

They are half-thought out space-fillers in gossips we dont feel like having.

Whether theyre genuine and justified in an attempt to avoid conflict or a simple way to wrap up a social interaction, Im sure weve all apologized a lot during the past year.

Well, its is high time to put your hoof down.

We shouldnt feel pressured to rush, settle or step aside for people who cant look up from their smartphones.

There will be no more cramming ourselves into the figurative or physicalspaces other parties have created for us.

Hell, if guzzling whole milk from a pitcher goes us going in the morning, makes not apologize for that either.

In any case, heres a register of 16 circumstances 30 -somethings should definitely stop rationalizing for in 2016 TAGEND

1. RSVPing No

You shouldnt have to justify not listening things.

We all have a lot on our plates.

If you find yourself panicked about driving two hours to a newborn rain on your only day off, stay home.

Send a check, going to go to bottom and take care of your own baby.

Ive spent times flowing myself ragged over happenings that suck time out of my weekend and coin out of my wallet.

Then, it ultimately dawned on me: Nothing who matters is deterring score.

It might sound harsh, but if we all stopped regarding each other to so many obligations, perhaps wed actually have time to connect.

2. Your Wardrobe

Your adolescence, teenage years and those scantily-clad eras of college are spent garmenting to impress everyone but yourself.

As you get older, wear what becomes you comfortable.

Dress for your figure. Dress for the occasion.

If you need bikini summaries that come up past your belly button to feel good on vacation, fasten those bloomers on and never look back.

I like to wear jeans, TOMS and solid-colored shirts every day of my life.

Guess what? Im a joyous little hipster.

3. Your Face

One of my favorite positions on this topic comes from Annette Bening in the movie The Women.

A department store salesman tries to sell her a “facelift in a bottle.”

She appears him squarely in the eye and acknowledgments, This is my face. Deal with it.

It seems everyone is peddling some make that promises to cringe your holes, get rid of your wrinkles, medicine your acne, prolong your lashes or vaporize your crow’s feet.

You shouldnt apologize for buying right into it( coughing) or slamming it down.

If you want to constitute your own vanishing cream out of avocados and egg whites, I think you’re squandering a perfectly good frittata.

But let me know if it works.

If youd rather expended $99 on 1 ounce of infomercial attention cream, write me.

I can provide you with the details.

4. Your Social Media Presence

Whether you post 20 times per day or have fallen entirely off the radar, theres no right or wrong way to do this stuff.

If youre paying that much attention to what others are doing on the Internet, youre clearly sitting on the Internet too much yourself.

5. Not Being In The Same Mental Space As Your Friends

Its tough, but we thrive apart.

If theres a shrinking roster of things you have in common with even the oldest of your best friend, its nothing to overcome yourself up over.

Some has the potential to are in conformity with very different places in their lives.

Your 30 s are a transitional age for everyone involved.

People are carving out the lives they picture for themselves, and were all walking around as different sculptors.

Some of us are a little more Donatello, while some are more Michelangelo.

The good substance ever bubbles back to the surface with a true sidekick, even if youre not currently jiving the route you used to.

6. Your Living Quarters

Owning property should no longer be the criteria by which we appraise our success.

You shouldn’t have to go into indebtednes to keep up.

If youre still living with a roommate, sibling, futon or even on a sofa, then who cares?

A living arrangement doesnt “ve got to be” permanent or pristine.

If you boomeranged back to your parents after a unpleasant breakup, so be it.

Its okay to declare youre unsure of your next stair, and youre not going to bank on circumstances until you are.

7. The Fact You Like To Move Dancing

This is more of a metaphor than anything.( Although, I do enjoy shaking my posterior plumage from time to day .)

You shouldnt apologize for wanting to dance out your demons.

Whether its in your living room, at a Zumba class, on a table or in a ballroom, rotate, baby.

8. Your Relationship Status

Theres something to be said for the latitude between RSVPing “no” and your relationship status.

But perhaps, youre simply over some crazy uncle asking why your boyfriend from six years ago isnt there.

Single, separated, divorced, rebuffed, cheating, happy, hopeful, lesbian or straight-shooting, you dont owe Uncle Frank an explanation.

9. Your Diet And Fitness Regimen( Or Lack Thereof)

While I ever prefer an unruly slew of nachos to a kale salad or protein shake, you gotta do what you gotta do.

This is another thing parties seem to like to peddle.

Whether youre training for triathlons, juicing the contents of your kitchen or house Cheeto strongholds in your living room, its your body.

Nobody has to occupy it but you.

Just try not to be too righteous about it.

Im not going to apologize for ingesting a cheeseburger any more than a staunch vegetarian might apologize for posting photographs of flax seeds all day.

10. How You Deduce Your Income

Money constitutes “the worlds” go round.

Whether you have a career youre passionate about, one youre lukewarm about or three part-time responsibilities strung together, its nobodys business how you compensate your bills.

11. The Fact You’re Turning Into Your Parents

This has been an interesting one to watch unfold.

Try as you might, its going to happen.

Theres no expend rationalizing for it because you never accepted a chance.

All those concepts you rolled your eyes at from the back seat of the Dodge station wagon?

Theyre winging right out of your mouth now.

I like to yell, Im not made of money! at my “cat-o-nine-tail” when we’re on our route home from the vet.

12. Being A Slug

If the pizza delivery guy would come instantly to my bedroom window, Id let my bathrobe belt down for him like Rapunzel let down her hair.

Bed pizza is a real and splendid thing.

Dont apologize for being a gross, lazy stinker sometimes.

The only way to reflect brightly in public is by wasting away in your own slothfulness behind closed doors.

13. Your Travel Style

Some beings operate first class and is necessary to stay in five-star hotels.

Others couch surf, hostel hop-skip or carry their adaptations on their backs.

Seeing the world is admirable , no matter how you make it happen.

You know Jay and Bey arent apologizing for yachting all over the French Riviera, so why should I apologize for getting bedbugs in Belize?

14. Your Voice

One of the most common concepts I apologize for is talking too loudly.

Others say sorry for not being heard.

Some people stutter and others have lisps.

There are the raspy express and the plainly high-pitched voices.

You can limit your articulation to a certain degree, but why bother?

Speak up, whisper, bellow, sigh, laugh, sing, squeal and clear your throat.

Just dont whistle. Nothing likes a whistler.

Definitely dont shush anyone; a shush is a personal attack.

15. Your Opinion

Granted, there is a period and a plaza, but how will anyone know how you feel if you dont speak up?

It’s worseif you apologize for doing so.

If done correctly and not for the sake of idle gossip, giving your opinion can become you into an opinion leader.

Thats a pretty good bench to be in.

If you opine in a systematically constructive way, parties will start to look to you for wisdom.

Thats a great route to positively influence the lives of others.

16. Your Truth

Whatever it is and however you find it, dont apologize for it once you do.

Dont apologize for how long it takes you, either.

If youve been hiding your truth in a lie youre finally free from, welcome back.

Step right in. The waters warm.

Its taken a lot of justifications, conformities and f* ckups to get us to this third decade of our existence.

So, lets take what weve learned and bask in that splendid wisdom of the ages.

We sort of earned it.

Grab your chisel( or your pepperoni pizza) and start carving out what works for you.

Stop apologizing for the pebbles that get left behind.

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74 Million Americans Have More Credit Card Debt Than Savings: What to Do If You're One of Them

Americas compulsion for credit card spending appears to be reaching entirely new heights. A recent report from Bankrate found that a staggering 74 million Americans now have more credit card debt than emergency savings, which is the highest that figure has been in nine years. Looked at another way, only 44% of American households have more emergency savings than credit card debt, according to the same report. Thats thelowest that savings-to-debt ratio has been in nine years. Also noteworthy: The deterioration of the American households emergency savings relative to credit card debt extends across both genders, all ages, all educational backgrounds, all income brackets, and political party affiliations. In other words, Americans are collectively moving in the wrong direction, says Bankrate chief financial analyst Greg McBride. Consumers should make hay while the sun shines. Now is the time, with unemployment low and wages rising, to right-size the equation by paying off high-cost credit card debt and adding to emergency savings, said McBride. If you happen to be among the 74 million Americans struggling to get out from under a mountain of credit card debt, while fretting about having zero savings in the bank, the dilemma is often which challenge to address first? Save money? Or pay off debt? Or try to do both? Heres what personal finance and credit experts had to say about finding a financially stable path forward. Aggressively Pay Down Debt When faced with more credit card debt than savings, theres rarely one best solution that applies to everyone, begins David Gafford of Shift Processing, a credit card processing company. However, in most cases its going to be a wiser move to pay off high-interest debt before building savings, he said. The reason this makes sense is because if youre paying more in interest on credit card debt than youre making on the interest you gain by saving, youre still losing money, Gafford explained. James Lambridis, founder and CEO of Debt MD, a startup that connects people with professional help to become debt-free, also urges paying off debt first before worrying about savings. We live in an age where people are constantly comparing their lives to those of their peers, especially through social media. Many people finance their extravagant lifestyles with credit cards in order to keep up with the Joneses. As a result, some people have zero savings, and loads of credit card debt. When faced with this situation, your number one priority should always be to pay the debt off first before trying to accumulate savings, said Lambridis. With the average interest rate on a credit card being around 16%, if the balance isnt paid off in a timely manner, youll end up paying double or sometimes even triple the principal balance, added Lambridis, who says paying such high interest on a mountain of credit card debt is the metaphorical equivalent of bleeding money. Speed Up the Process of Eliminating Debt To help rid yourself of debt even more quickly, start eliminating unnecessary household expenses and put that saved money toward your credit card bills. You need to be tracking your actual income and expenses down to the penny, says Michael Kern, a CPA and founder of Talent Financial, a personal finance and small business consulting company focused on helping people get their finances in order. Go line by line and cut any expenses that are not necessary, continued Kern. This will allow more income to flow into savings and paying off debt, which will ultimately get you to your financial goals faster. Shift Debt to a Lower Interest Rate Vehicle Yet another critical step when trying to rid yourself of credit card debt is shifting the balances to a lower interest rate financial vehicle. From zero-interest balance transfer cards to personal loans, there are several options for doing this, says Lambridis. A debt consolidation loan can wrap all of the payments into one lower monthly payment at a lower interest rate and give you a concrete finish line for when the debt will be paid off, he suggests. Another option is enrolling in a debt management plan offered through credit counseling agencies, which can also help lower interest rates while helping you to pay off the debt in three to five years, said Lambridis. When you enroll in a debt management plan, whichever cards you enroll are closed, so you will not be able to use them, Lambridis explained. You make one payment to the credit counseling agency, and they disperse the funds to each of your creditors at the newly agreed-upon payback terms. Often, theres a small fee to sign on for a debt management plan (around $50), said Lambridis. In addition, there will likely be an ongoing monthly maintenance fee, which is also around $50, depending on which agency you choose. When It Makes Sense to Save Before Eliminating All Credit Card Debt In some cases, it can be a good idea to work on establishing an emergency savings even while you still have significant credit card debt.For instance, Gafford suggests that if your debt already has a very low interest rate, go ahead and start putting money into savings for a rainy day. However, if you still have a high interest rate, it makes more sense to focus squarely on paying down those credit cards or transferring your debt to a lower interest rate solution. Once debt is at a lower interest rate, building an emergency fund becomes more feasible, Gafford explained. Ben Watson, CFO at DollarSprout.com, a personal finance and entrepreneurial website, suggest creating a mini-emergency fund while youre working to tackle debt. Dont aim to have the standard six to 12 months worth of expenses squirreled away that advisors often recommend. Instead set a target of having at least $500 to $1,000 set aside for legitimate emergencies, he says. If youre starting from zero cash, spend a weekend or two cleaning out the attic, garage, and spare room and sell things you dont need anymore, said Watson. Go full Marie Kondo on your place and list items on Facebook Marketplace, eBay, or have a garage sale. Anything you havent even thought about for more than 12 months should be considered as potential cash. There are tons of simple ideas to make a quick buck on the internet, find one that fits you and go for it. A Lifestyle Out of Control Mike Pearson, founder of CreditTakeoff.com, suggests the challenge so many Americans are now facing having more credit card debt than emergency savings has a great deal to do with how we frame the issues. [Its] not a matter of simply not having enough money, but rather having your spending totally out of control, explained Pearson. When you control your spending, everything else including debt payoff and savings falls into place. In other words, he says, the best way out of this situation is to create a reasonable budget, stick to it, and at the end of the day, know that you simply cannot spend more money than you earn. If you take home $2,500 after taxes each month, then your expenses cannot exceed $2,500. Simple concept to understand, but much more difficult to apply in real life, said Pearson. Only when youve mastered this concept, however, can you truly start to make progress paying down your credit card debt and building up your emergency savings because you will actually have money available to address both of those problems. Some will say its a good idea to have a $1,000 emergency fund first, just in case something bad happens. Others will say pay off credit card debt first because youre getting killed with interest charges, concluded Pearson. At the end of the day, it doesnt really matter Much more important than picking which one to tackle first is to understand both of these issues come back to spending. If you dont get your spending under control, you will never climb out of debt and you will never have savings. Mia Tayloris an award-winning journalist with more than two decades of experience. She has worked for some of the nations best-known news organizations, including the Atlanta Journal-Constitution and the San Diego Union-Tribune. Read more by Mia Taylor: https://www.thesimpledollar.com/74-million-americans-have-more-credit-card-debt-than-savings-what-to-do-if-youre-one-of-them/

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16 Situations All 30 -Somethings Should Stop Apologizing For This Year

If you were to ask me for an educated guess on the number of hours I said a mindless Im sorry in 2015, youd better have a technical calculator and some time to kill.

I failed way somewhere around 3 am on New Years Day.( Although odds are, the majority of members of those were justified .)

Apologies are like burps for me.

Unless you stymie my nostrils and cover my opening, they will operate out with foolhardy abandon.

Im sorry, I complain as I mine around for $0.86 in my purse, trying to avoid separating a $10 greenback for Reeses Peanut Butter Cups.

My palms are sweating, my hands are shaking and pennies are running everywhere.

I eventually succumb to handing over the $10, as to not inconvenience the convenience store clerk any longer.

Im sorry, this pitchers out of whole milk. Would you knowledge refilling it? I ask the Starbucks barista timidly, like Ive been hanging out at the self-service counter and guzzling it dry all day.

Excuse me, Im sorry, I squeak, trying to remove myself from the woman who is using the side of my figure to prop up her newspaper.

I’m sorry I wasnt able to morph into a better coffee table for her morning commute.

Apologies are the umm of our generation.

They are half-thought out space-fillers in gossips we dont feel like having.

Whether theyre genuine and justified in an attempt to avoid conflict or a simple way to wrap up a social interaction, Im sure weve all apologized a lot during the past year.

Well, its is high time to put your hoof down.

We shouldnt feel pressured to rush, settle or step aside for people who cant look up from their smartphones.

There will be no more cramming ourselves into the figurative or physicalspaces other parties have created for us.

Hell, if guzzling whole milk from a pitcher goes us going in the morning, makes not apologize for that either.

In any case, heres a register of 16 circumstances 30 -somethings should definitely stop rationalizing for in 2016 TAGEND

1. RSVPing No

You shouldnt have to justify not listening things.

We all have a lot on our plates.

If you find yourself panicked about driving two hours to a newborn rain on your only day off, stay home.

Send a check, going to go to bottom and take care of your own baby.

Ive spent times flowing myself ragged over happenings that suck time out of my weekend and coin out of my wallet.

Then, it ultimately dawned on me: Nothing who matters is deterring score.

It might sound harsh, but if we all stopped regarding each other to so many obligations, perhaps wed actually have time to connect.

2. Your Wardrobe

Your adolescence, teenage years and those scantily-clad eras of college are spent garmenting to impress everyone but yourself.

As you get older, wear what becomes you comfortable.

Dress for your figure. Dress for the occasion.

If you need bikini summaries that come up past your belly button to feel good on vacation, fasten those bloomers on and never look back.

I like to wear jeans, TOMS and solid-colored shirts every day of my life.

Guess what? Im a joyous little hipster.

3. Your Face

One of my favorite positions on this topic comes from Annette Bening in the movie The Women.

A department store salesman tries to sell her a “facelift in a bottle.”

She appears him squarely in the eye and acknowledgments, This is my face. Deal with it.

It seems everyone is peddling some make that promises to cringe your holes, get rid of your wrinkles, medicine your acne, prolong your lashes or vaporize your crow’s feet.

You shouldnt apologize for buying right into it( coughing) or slamming it down.

If you want to constitute your own vanishing cream out of avocados and egg whites, I think you’re squandering a perfectly good frittata.

But let me know if it works.

If youd rather expended $99 on 1 ounce of infomercial attention cream, write me.

I can provide you with the details.

4. Your Social Media Presence

Whether you post 20 times per day or have fallen entirely off the radar, theres no right or wrong way to do this stuff.

If youre paying that much attention to what others are doing on the Internet, youre clearly sitting on the Internet too much yourself.

5. Not Being In The Same Mental Space As Your Friends

Its tough, but we thrive apart.

If theres a shrinking roster of things you have in common with even the oldest of your best friend, its nothing to overcome yourself up over.

Some has the potential to are in conformity with very different places in their lives.

Your 30 s are a transitional age for everyone involved.

People are carving out the lives they picture for themselves, and were all walking around as different sculptors.

Some of us are a little more Donatello, while some are more Michelangelo.

The good substance ever bubbles back to the surface with a true sidekick, even if youre not currently jiving the route you used to.

6. Your Living Quarters

Owning property should no longer be the criteria by which we appraise our success.

You shouldn’t have to go into indebtednes to keep up.

If youre still living with a roommate, sibling, futon or even on a sofa, then who cares?

A living arrangement doesnt “ve got to be” permanent or pristine.

If you boomeranged back to your parents after a unpleasant breakup, so be it.

Its okay to declare youre unsure of your next stair, and youre not going to bank on circumstances until you are.

7. The Fact You Like To Move Dancing

This is more of a metaphor than anything.( Although, I do enjoy shaking my posterior plumage from time to day .)

You shouldnt apologize for wanting to dance out your demons.

Whether its in your living room, at a Zumba class, on a table or in a ballroom, rotate, baby.

8. Your Relationship Status

Theres something to be said for the latitude between RSVPing “no” and your relationship status.

But perhaps, youre simply over some crazy uncle asking why your boyfriend from six years ago isnt there.

Single, separated, divorced, rebuffed, cheating, happy, hopeful, lesbian or straight-shooting, you dont owe Uncle Frank an explanation.

9. Your Diet And Fitness Regimen( Or Lack Thereof)

While I ever prefer an unruly slew of nachos to a kale salad or protein shake, you gotta do what you gotta do.

This is another thing parties seem to like to peddle.

Whether youre training for triathlons, juicing the contents of your kitchen or house Cheeto strongholds in your living room, its your body.

Nobody has to occupy it but you.

Just try not to be too righteous about it.

Im not going to apologize for ingesting a cheeseburger any more than a staunch vegetarian might apologize for posting photographs of flax seeds all day.

10. How You Deduce Your Income

Money constitutes “the worlds” go round.

Whether you have a career youre passionate about, one youre lukewarm about or three part-time responsibilities strung together, its nobodys business how you compensate your bills.

11. The Fact You’re Turning Into Your Parents

This has been an interesting one to watch unfold.

Try as you might, its going to happen.

Theres no expend rationalizing for it because you never accepted a chance.

All those concepts you rolled your eyes at from the back seat of the Dodge station wagon?

Theyre winging right out of your mouth now.

I like to yell, Im not made of money! at my “cat-o-nine-tail” when we’re on our route home from the vet.

12. Being A Slug

If the pizza delivery guy would come instantly to my bedroom window, Id let my bathrobe belt down for him like Rapunzel let down her hair.

Bed pizza is a real and splendid thing.

Dont apologize for being a gross, lazy stinker sometimes.

The only way to reflect brightly in public is by wasting away in your own slothfulness behind closed doors.

13. Your Travel Style

Some beings operate first class and is necessary to stay in five-star hotels.

Others couch surf, hostel hop-skip or carry their adaptations on their backs.

Seeing the world is admirable , no matter how you make it happen.

You know Jay and Bey arent apologizing for yachting all over the French Riviera, so why should I apologize for getting bedbugs in Belize?

14. Your Voice

One of the most common concepts I apologize for is talking too loudly.

Others say sorry for not being heard.

Some people stutter and others have lisps.

There are the raspy express and the plainly high-pitched voices.

You can limit your articulation to a certain degree, but why bother?

Speak up, whisper, bellow, sigh, laugh, sing, squeal and clear your throat.

Just dont whistle. Nothing likes a whistler.

Definitely dont shush anyone; a shush is a personal attack.

15. Your Opinion

Granted, there is a period and a plaza, but how will anyone know how you feel if you dont speak up?

It’s worseif you apologize for doing so.

If done correctly and not for the sake of idle gossip, giving your opinion can become you into an opinion leader.

Thats a pretty good bench to be in.

If you opine in a systematically constructive way, parties will start to look to you for wisdom.

Thats a great route to positively influence the lives of others.

16. Your Truth

Whatever it is and however you find it, dont apologize for it once you do.

Dont apologize for how long it takes you, either.

If youve been hiding your truth in a lie youre finally free from, welcome back.

Step right in. The waters warm.

Its taken a lot of justifications, conformities and f* ckups to get us to this third decade of our existence.

So, lets take what weve learned and bask in that splendid wisdom of the ages.

We sort of earned it.

Grab your chisel( or your pepperoni pizza) and start carving out what works for you.

Stop apologizing for the pebbles that get left behind.

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16 Situations All 30 -Somethings Should Stop Apologizing For This Year

If you were to ask me for an educated guess on the number of hours I said a mindless Im sorry in 2015, youd better have a technical calculator and some time to kill.

I failed way somewhere around 3 am on New Years Day.( Although odds are, the majority of members of those were justified .)

Apologies are like burps for me.

Unless you stymie my nostrils and cover my opening, they will operate out with foolhardy abandon.

Im sorry, I complain as I mine around for $0.86 in my purse, trying to avoid separating a $10 greenback for Reeses Peanut Butter Cups.

My palms are sweating, my hands are shaking and pennies are running everywhere.

I eventually succumb to handing over the $10, as to not inconvenience the convenience store clerk any longer.

Im sorry, this pitchers out of whole milk. Would you knowledge refilling it? I ask the Starbucks barista timidly, like Ive been hanging out at the self-service counter and guzzling it dry all day.

Excuse me, Im sorry, I squeak, trying to remove myself from the woman who is using the side of my figure to prop up her newspaper.

I’m sorry I wasnt able to morph into a better coffee table for her morning commute.

Apologies are the umm of our generation.

They are half-thought out space-fillers in gossips we dont feel like having.

Whether theyre genuine and justified in an attempt to avoid conflict or a simple way to wrap up a social interaction, Im sure weve all apologized a lot during the past year.

Well, its is high time to put your hoof down.

We shouldnt feel pressured to rush, settle or step aside for people who cant look up from their smartphones.

There will be no more cramming ourselves into the figurative or physicalspaces other parties have created for us.

Hell, if guzzling whole milk from a pitcher goes us going in the morning, makes not apologize for that either.

In any case, heres a register of 16 circumstances 30 -somethings should definitely stop rationalizing for in 2016 TAGEND

1. RSVPing No

You shouldnt have to justify not listening things.

We all have a lot on our plates.

If you find yourself panicked about driving two hours to a newborn rain on your only day off, stay home.

Send a check, going to go to bottom and take care of your own baby.

Ive spent times flowing myself ragged over happenings that suck time out of my weekend and coin out of my wallet.

Then, it ultimately dawned on me: Nothing who matters is deterring score.

It might sound harsh, but if we all stopped regarding each other to so many obligations, perhaps wed actually have time to connect.

2. Your Wardrobe

Your adolescence, teenage years and those scantily-clad eras of college are spent garmenting to impress everyone but yourself.

As you get older, wear what becomes you comfortable.

Dress for your figure. Dress for the occasion.

If you need bikini summaries that come up past your belly button to feel good on vacation, fasten those bloomers on and never look back.

I like to wear jeans, TOMS and solid-colored shirts every day of my life.

Guess what? Im a joyous little hipster.

3. Your Face

One of my favorite positions on this topic comes from Annette Bening in the movie The Women.

A department store salesman tries to sell her a “facelift in a bottle.”

She appears him squarely in the eye and acknowledgments, This is my face. Deal with it.

It seems everyone is peddling some make that promises to cringe your holes, get rid of your wrinkles, medicine your acne, prolong your lashes or vaporize your crow’s feet.

You shouldnt apologize for buying right into it( coughing) or slamming it down.

If you want to constitute your own vanishing cream out of avocados and egg whites, I think you’re squandering a perfectly good frittata.

But let me know if it works.

If youd rather expended $99 on 1 ounce of infomercial attention cream, write me.

I can provide you with the details.

4. Your Social Media Presence

Whether you post 20 times per day or have fallen entirely off the radar, theres no right or wrong way to do this stuff.

If youre paying that much attention to what others are doing on the Internet, youre clearly sitting on the Internet too much yourself.

5. Not Being In The Same Mental Space As Your Friends

Its tough, but we thrive apart.

If theres a shrinking roster of things you have in common with even the oldest of your best friend, its nothing to overcome yourself up over.

Some has the potential to are in conformity with very different places in their lives.

Your 30 s are a transitional age for everyone involved.

People are carving out the lives they picture for themselves, and were all walking around as different sculptors.

Some of us are a little more Donatello, while some are more Michelangelo.

The good substance ever bubbles back to the surface with a true sidekick, even if youre not currently jiving the route you used to.

6. Your Living Quarters

Owning property should no longer be the criteria by which we appraise our success.

You shouldn’t have to go into indebtednes to keep up.

If youre still living with a roommate, sibling, futon or even on a sofa, then who cares?

A living arrangement doesnt “ve got to be” permanent or pristine.

If you boomeranged back to your parents after a unpleasant breakup, so be it.

Its okay to declare youre unsure of your next stair, and youre not going to bank on circumstances until you are.

7. The Fact You Like To Move Dancing

This is more of a metaphor than anything.( Although, I do enjoy shaking my posterior plumage from time to day .)

You shouldnt apologize for wanting to dance out your demons.

Whether its in your living room, at a Zumba class, on a table or in a ballroom, rotate, baby.

8. Your Relationship Status

Theres something to be said for the latitude between RSVPing “no” and your relationship status.

But perhaps, youre simply over some crazy uncle asking why your boyfriend from six years ago isnt there.

Single, separated, divorced, rebuffed, cheating, happy, hopeful, lesbian or straight-shooting, you dont owe Uncle Frank an explanation.

9. Your Diet And Fitness Regimen( Or Lack Thereof)

While I ever prefer an unruly slew of nachos to a kale salad or protein shake, you gotta do what you gotta do.

This is another thing parties seem to like to peddle.

Whether youre training for triathlons, juicing the contents of your kitchen or house Cheeto strongholds in your living room, its your body.

Nobody has to occupy it but you.

Just try not to be too righteous about it.

Im not going to apologize for ingesting a cheeseburger any more than a staunch vegetarian might apologize for posting photographs of flax seeds all day.

10. How You Deduce Your Income

Money constitutes “the worlds” go round.

Whether you have a career youre passionate about, one youre lukewarm about or three part-time responsibilities strung together, its nobodys business how you compensate your bills.

11. The Fact You’re Turning Into Your Parents

This has been an interesting one to watch unfold.

Try as you might, its going to happen.

Theres no expend rationalizing for it because you never accepted a chance.

All those concepts you rolled your eyes at from the back seat of the Dodge station wagon?

Theyre winging right out of your mouth now.

I like to yell, Im not made of money! at my “cat-o-nine-tail” when we’re on our route home from the vet.

12. Being A Slug

If the pizza delivery guy would come instantly to my bedroom window, Id let my bathrobe belt down for him like Rapunzel let down her hair.

Bed pizza is a real and splendid thing.

Dont apologize for being a gross, lazy stinker sometimes.

The only way to reflect brightly in public is by wasting away in your own slothfulness behind closed doors.

13. Your Travel Style

Some beings operate first class and is necessary to stay in five-star hotels.

Others couch surf, hostel hop-skip or carry their adaptations on their backs.

Seeing the world is admirable , no matter how you make it happen.

You know Jay and Bey arent apologizing for yachting all over the French Riviera, so why should I apologize for getting bedbugs in Belize?

14. Your Voice

One of the most common concepts I apologize for is talking too loudly.

Others say sorry for not being heard.

Some people stutter and others have lisps.

There are the raspy express and the plainly high-pitched voices.

You can limit your articulation to a certain degree, but why bother?

Speak up, whisper, bellow, sigh, laugh, sing, squeal and clear your throat.

Just dont whistle. Nothing likes a whistler.

Definitely dont shush anyone; a shush is a personal attack.

15. Your Opinion

Granted, there is a period and a plaza, but how will anyone know how you feel if you dont speak up?

It’s worseif you apologize for doing so.

If done correctly and not for the sake of idle gossip, giving your opinion can become you into an opinion leader.

Thats a pretty good bench to be in.

If you opine in a systematically constructive way, parties will start to look to you for wisdom.

Thats a great route to positively influence the lives of others.

16. Your Truth

Whatever it is and however you find it, dont apologize for it once you do.

Dont apologize for how long it takes you, either.

If youve been hiding your truth in a lie youre finally free from, welcome back.

Step right in. The waters warm.

Its taken a lot of justifications, conformities and f* ckups to get us to this third decade of our existence.

So, lets take what weve learned and bask in that splendid wisdom of the ages.

We sort of earned it.

Grab your chisel( or your pepperoni pizza) and start carving out what works for you.

Stop apologizing for the pebbles that get left behind.

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