#this isn't the ONLY place i've been spammed but for the love of god why is it only women

[kittykat5090]

if these porn spam bots were smart, they wouldn't be flooding my inbox with ONLY bots pretending to be women. where's the men. where's the nonbinary people. i literally say that i'm bisexual in my blog description, give me some fucking variety for once.

[llinstarr]

"Inhumane," what even. All that Jily shippers (and Bartylus shippers and other smaller shippers) ask is for je**lus shippers to stay out of their tags and tag their posts properly without spamming - which would be the right think to do and the correct and only way to use Tumblr in the first place, that's what tags are for. Everyone has a right to not want to see spam ships in their tag, that place is for their comfort, not for triggering content! And yet when you ask for such a given, normal thing as correct tagging, you're "inhumane" and several bloggers who spoke up about tags have been severely harassed to the point of having to turn off their asks. We need to get a grip. It's perfectly fine that others don't like your ship, it's not personal or doesn't make it an offense or mistreatment. It's also perfectly fine if people use anti tags to vent their hate towards a ship, that's what the tags are there for and that's why fans block anti tags and don't go there. What's not fine is spamming hundreds of unrelated tags on posts and harassing others and forcing your ships into other shippers tags and forcing them to see that all the time, when a lot of it is also triggering content for them. If people literally simply learned how to use tags and stayed in their corners there would be no conflict.

Hi love!, I'm right there with you. Being a Jily shipper myself, I've felt the frustration when one ship dominates the scene, making it difficult for others to have their space. I intentionally steered clear of specifics because this isn't about pointing fingers; both sides have their valid concerns.

Our choice of words is crucial. Things like “Je**lus” can come across as immature and hurtful, completely altering the tone of the conversation. While it's perfectly fine to express opposing views and critique other ships or individuals, it's essential to do so respectfully.

The conflict extends beyond just the use of tags (the tag thing is just a fact: don’t use ones that doesn’t related to your posts) ; it's about the lack of mutual respect in how people communicate, especially over something as seemingly trivial as shipping preferences. There's a myriad of issues within both sides of the fandom that warrant attention.

Btw I think anti tags are 100% ok, it’s again about the way you express it. You can say James is in love with Remus, that Sirius is a swiftie or that hitler is god ,honestly idc about any opinion as long people aren’t rude for no reason. I've just came across people saying downright awful things about shippers or fans who simply like particular characters/ship (ones that aren't controversial at all), and honestly, it's just completely unnecessary like “don’t follow/talk to me if you like x” like wth???

My sole focus is on promoting respectful and kind dialogue. Now, I'm not here to play the the "rainbows and unicorns police," nor can I dictate anyone's actions. However, fostering an environment of niceness and respect makes it much easier for us to empathize and understand each other.❤️